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Congrats JP! She is precious.

No romance once he got here. It was non existant. It did cause me suspect more, but I guess it is all pat of the courting process.

Ditto to what Jen said! I told my husband that it is not easy here and that it would be hard. Even now, as I have no job and children to support on my own ( he wont help) he still thinks I have money. I would have much rather lived with him in Morocco.

My husband says he had no problems adjusting, but I would not agree. However, once we seperated, it was amazing how well he was able to support himself, buy a car, furnish a room and now is getting ready for his own apartment. He lied and manipulated me. He was, is, an excellent con man!

I know there are many people here with wnoderful stories so lets here them...

pink toolbelt bash? I'm sooo there!!!

I think I've sneezed about 23 times so far today so I guess I have a cold. It all makes sense now why I've been so tired the past two days. Guess I was trying to fight it off.

Flew into work today! Gotta love workin' on a holiday!!! We get the day after thanksgiving off instead of Veteran's day and I like it better. Wish I could go to Black Friday with hubby but I have the kids this Thanksgiving so I'll have to wait till next year since I always like to get in line at around 2am to beat the crowds. I dropped my youngest off at my sister's this morning and OMG they're making a turkey dinner and the whole house smells like Thanksgiving!!!

I have been looking at the Black Friday ads and so far, I not so impressed. At least there is nothing to get me up and in line for. Sears has a big ad. I am still waiting to see Target, Toys R Us and Walmart. Walgreens had barely anything. More should be out soon since we are getting so close.

Because I am receiving benefits and my SO is not, all is well. We do not live together and he in no way benefits from the gov't assistance. However, if your SO benefits, then the gov't will ask for reimbursement bc the affidavit is a legally binding contract. At the time I signed the affidavit I was able to support him, however, I am no longer able to do that bc of loss of job.

The best thing you can do is be prepared and have a lot of patience. Casa can be unpredictable, however, from what you have said, you have known each other for some time. I agree that unless there are some "red flags" you should be ok. The interviews are always nerve racking and put you on edge. It is never easy to be seperated when all you want to do is to be together. The time line does help because it lets us answer your questions with better answers because we can see what parts of the process you have completed and what stage you are at. The people in this forum are a great resource to have. And those of us that have gone through Casa can certainly understand your anxiety.

Good morning! It is odd to read how cold you all are as I sit here in shorts and a tank top.

Amal - I hope you are feeling better today.

Happy Veterans today! Anyone have anything planned for the day? A parade maybe?

Hello all! Hope everyone had a great day.

As I read duped's story, I felt as though I was reading my own. My husband threatened me and finally, after the third time the police came out, he was arrested for threatening me. Sadly enough, I was so convinced that I couldn't be without him since I was pregnant and felt as though my world was falling apart right before me. He convinced me that I was the one who was wrong and had all the problems that created the problems in our marriage. It got so bad that I felt as though I was being stalked in my own house. I had phones hidden to call 911 just in case. I had even gone to the womens shelter seeking safety. He walked out on our family during my second trimester and I lost everything. All he does now is blame me and doesn't accept any responsibilty for himself or his family. He has told so many lies that he has other people believing him and hating me. Even people on this site. Those who do know me, know that I am far the person he describes. There is so much I could tell you, but, it will just show he really was in my head playing his game with me.

I submitted a letter to withdraw my affidavit of support before he was approved and he was still approved. Now, I don't know what his plan is. He is a very immature, angry and manipulative guy.

Now that my head is clear and on straight, I see all these things. I was totally conned by this man. People asked me all the time if he was using me, and I always said no. HA! Joke is on me.

Now we are headed into a nasty divorce with children involved. We have been seperated longer than we were living together as husband and wife. I have stayed away from VJ for the well being of my family and am back as a new member.

This man has put me through hell, cost me everything I had in my life and left me with nothing.

Now I am struggling with children, trying to rebuild and having no luck. I am completely frustrated and so angry with myself for allowing him to do this to me. I can't beleive how much he changed once he got here. I thought I had found the love of my life.

At least I have VJ where people understand.

I salute those who are sincere with their hearts aren't using people to get here.