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Very well said,,, but if u have read my post carefully my intention of getting the card is to build my credit when i first got here. We never ever used credit to buy stuff , and if we did we always make sure it's paid on time. we always save and pay cash for larger amounts. And u are right we'llnever know what the future holds? so when hubby had the accident and lost his job then that was the time we had issues paying it on time. If all i want to do is buy things on credit and spend more than what we can afford then i should not have only 1 credit card.
And even if we had delayed payments when hubby lost his job( we only used it for impt. stuff not shopping) we still managed to pay it on time after the agreed settlement/
And yes if i get a car loan that is thru salary deduction. My husband has been out of work for 4 yrs now and we live thru my income alone. And if i do get a car loan that is for sure affordable for us to pay.
btw, credit here is important too coz if u don't have credit hstory then u don't exist. You will know what am talking about once u live here.

Looking at your time line, hes been here almost 3 months. It was a bit like that for me too. I left behind a house, a 50K a year job that I had had for almost 20 years, family, I gave everything up. I came to the USA for him, and found as the summer rolled around he was working a lot. Here I was, with no one really to talk to, no job, in a house I still wasnt really comfortable in, bored out of my mind and feeling like I couldnt contribute. It was pretty much the complete opposite of my life back home.
The first month, oh it was bliss, I hadnt seen him in so long, now here he was and it was amazing. After the first couple months, we hit a few bumps just trying to figure out how to live together - you know, his socks on the floor, my tampons in his medicine cabinet - silly things, but still not what one is used to. After the bliss its reality, and its harder on the person coming in, because they are changing everything all at once, it can be overwhelming. For me, alot of it was that I couldnt contribute finacialy, I hated that, I felt like I put so much pressure on him ( I had money, but I wasnt earning ).
Is he miserable, probably, is it you, probably not. Its culture shock, its missing family, its feeling useless, its to much. But it does get better. Dont give up on him after a couple of months, give him time.
One thing my husband did for me, was take me out all the time. Because we were long distance, we spend our days at home so we could be on the internet so we could be together. Niether of us ever went out, so when I got here, he took me out all the time. And that was nice, a real change for my life style of the past 3 years with him. All I can really say is just give him time to adjust, do things he loves to do, get out of the house alot, visit family ... keep busy.
For me, after that first few great months, it was probably 2 more months before we really settled. We had to learn how to live together, and that can be hard. Now, our marriage is strong and Im glad I did what I did. ( move here )
I still have a problem with the health care, so much insurance needed here and there, and such low wages, but Ill adapt eventually.

No worries.... on your I94 fill in the new address. No need for AR 11 or report of new address coz u have no papers on process (as someone mentioned here earlier). Had the same case and everything went well. Happy trip!

i understand ur sentiments .... but reality check is a must nowadays (wedding cost vs after the wedding life )
... for us, we really cant come up with what we want ...so on the last 2 wks of the 90 days we just ran to the county with 1 witness. nothing fancy.
today, i didnt have a grand wedding but definitely a grand marriage. (a sorta wedding-family dinner is in order when we visit home)
stay in love

Hi,
Just wanted to give a perspective on employment verification. I actually participated in my company's internal I-9 process a few years ago, and here's what I've learnt from the process:
1. The employer is obligated to verify employment, however, they cannot demand to see specific documents, only that the employee must provide sufficient documents as described in the I-9 instructions
2. The employer is obligated to make good faith efforts to ensure all employees are eligible to work in the US - good faith effort includes correctly documenting the expiration dates of immigration documents for re-verification purposes e.g. work visas, GC - otherwise the employer may be subject to penalty, the penalty may increase if the employer was found to be negligent in putting measures in place My link to the I-9 handbook
3. My company chose to use a reminder system that automatically generates a letter to be sent to the employee 90 days prior to the expiration of their documents so there is adequate time for the employee to provide additional documentation to show their continued eligibility to work.
It appears in OP's wife's case, the employer maybe doing a re-verification if her 2 year conditional GC, and since the GC was used to establish her eligibility initially, the employer is asking for the same document. However, I suspect all of this was not clearly communicated to OP's wife, what the employer should have done was to have in writing their re-verification policies and procedures so that there is transparency and expectations are clearly set out.
Cheers

Am I the only person who believes that getting pregnant during either the fiance visa process or spouse visa process is ridiculous??
So many people write 'we accidently got pregnant' no you didn't, you were having unprotected sex and you got the obvious result of that - I fully understand that accidents can happen occasionally, but I would bet that, that didn't happen for the majority of people - it's the 21st century, so for the majority of people there really is no excuse. If you truly want a child very early on in the relationship then that really is your decision but my advise from the bottom of my heart would be to wait till the process is over - for the sake of the innocent child.
What happened to spending time together - why introduce a poor child in the mix of an already complicated situation?? My husband and I don't want to even consider children for at least 5 years because we absolutely love being with each other, we love being selfish and spending money on expensive shoes or bags, we love eating at adult restaurant, we love just being able to take off somewhere at the drop of a hat and we love waking up gone 12 in the afternoon on weekends - surely this is what new couples need? to spend each and every possible second devoted to each other and enjoying each other, and then when they're ready to share their love, decide to have a child.
How many time have I read stories of people wanting to expedite their case because of pregnancy; so many times people have written that they've been married 6 months and have a one year old child and things have gone wrong, I wonder why - you knew each other for a few weeks fell deeply in love, got pregnant, married then actually lived together and things have gone wrong because you didn't know each other - all I can say is poor child.
This is just my opinion and I'm sure I'll get met with lots of abuse, but like you I'm entitled to my opinion and I think more marriages, in and out side of the visa process would last a hell of a lot longer if people waited till they were ready as a couple to have a child.

from my observation, not only on this topic... why is it that this financial support for family always comes up?, does marrying an American entails having to mandatory or support the family that the person is leaving? let alone house or business that needs to be agreed upon? isn't it more logical if the family expects and even come into discussion of this financial issue/s if/and or when the member of the family is going to US to acquire work? for goodness sake, s/he is marrying, and who happens to be marrying a foreigner. I don't mean to be mean but i really shun on families who expects and/or demands financial support to a would be (yet) husband or wife of their children. Allow your child to move on with his/her new found life and at some point get a job so that s/he can resume his/her financial obligations. Its a shame to parents who put their children in the middle... i understand the self-guilt s/he will suffer.
its a different story if the family has really no one to rely upon but their child...now that's something they can amicably discuss.. however, imposing, asking and expecting too much too soon is absurd.
helping our family is inherent to us and i do help my family (parents only, no relatives ) myself but its something i have been doing since i started to work (at 20yo)...so moving here in the US isn't new... i started to help them financially ONLY when i got a job.
MY thoughts Only.

Sometimes it's not really about not knowing the language. Sometimes it's simply the culture.
I wish I could say something to make you feel better but I can't. I know some people from an English speaking country (like Australia) who are really struggling with the change. For me it's that everything is so similar, but so different. It's weird that people don't celebrate holidays in the US like Aussies do. It's weird that we have a white christmas in the US and not in Australia. it's weird that my husbands family isn't as "close knit" as mine is in Australia.
It might be only when she goes home, or visits home that she starts to miss the US, or she might 100% decide that the US is not for her. It does happen. i'm sorry to say the US is not the promise land for everyone and it appears your GF might be someone who doesn't feel that way about it.

I think this is really good advice. Just because I'm British doesn't mean I don't get homesick. I had a hard time adjusting because I couldn't get my own life in the US for a long, long time. So it felt like I was in limbo. Is your wife working or studying? Does she have any friends yet? Does she drive? If not, these are all things that will make the adjustment harder, and I've learned that from myself and others on the forum.
When I feel homesick, I do feel frustrated at the US differences and need to have a moan about them to my husband, but it wears off pretty quickly. Sometimes it helps to put a British DVD on, have some English tea and food, and talk on the phone to a friend back home. Maybe this will help he feel more relaxed?