MsMariah

I got a cheap little bidet thingy attachment, it was painless to install but whoa on the water pressure and shockingingly cold on the sphincter!!! whoaaaaa moya! I think I might invest in a model with heat...

Anyway my family loves it too and I hate doin' the 2 anywhere without some water and soap access.

I'm just really sorry that you are going through all this, I pray that you find peace and healing...

I had to leave an abusive husband before and I know it's so so so hard emotionally. At least you are the breadwinner and can keep your house and things. I just hope you take care of, and forgive yourself.

((hugs))

Shocked that texas has a bayou, I think other than this area and the shores, texas pretty much sucks... I never saw a more flat, dry, ugly and overly overrun with oversized land barges disguised as 'family vehicles' state, and I've visited most of them.

Hiya! to all the couch people and those who recently jumped off. I came to offer some of my birthday cake and let everyone know that my husband did indeed arrive safely and had a relatively easy time with the IO at JFK POE. We still haven't received his SS# or actual greencard in the mail yet. He's still exp culture and landscape shock. He told everyone "there's so much green and water! everywhere!" and he asks about everything "what does it mean?". Anyway, we are making the most of the limbo time by visiting all my favorite scenic spots and hiking trails. I found a place to buy halal meat too. Something I should have thought about before he arrived for sure...

Anyway best wishes for everyone, and congrats to all who recently got approved.

I'd ask him exactly what it means to 'raise your children islamically". I wish I could get some functional answer to this from my husband but honestly he only knows about islam from his father and what guys from the cafe answer... not exactly nice to not know at this point. It's a big BIG issue, as raising children islamically here in america seems next to impossible. Has anyone noticed all the sex and kissing spread all over the tv and popular cultural activities and advertisement. No subtlety at all anymore... even I'm not comfortable, even I'm scared. Once a real muslim man thinks about it he'll consider it scary, and if he hasn't even lived he yet his comprehension is like a murky shadowy old mans tale of horror....

mmm Lovely!

Hi all, congrats to childress and thank goodness for Moh to get the quick AP. And Emily... wow that would have been pretty shocking to get a call from the consul.. wow.

And yay! Lisa! Did you cry when you got to hold him again?

And wow Amanda, really amazing pictures, you definitely look like a star quality couple.

Did you guys get it figured out yet Jackie?

Flowers, sounds sweet, I loved hurghada even though it's extremely small. Anywhere on the red sea is amazing though.

Sorry to anyone whose post I overlooked.

And finally, if anyone noticed that I fell off the radar... my darling, cherished, precious, but wretchedly punctually deficient husband missed the deadline for predeparture arrival at the airport by about 15 minutes and wasn't allowed to board his first booked flight. They said they already sent the DOS information and boarding was closed 1 hour and half before the departure...I was rather traumatized. So anyway he paid a 200$ fee and rescheduled and happily he's in the air now. But I'm not relieved until he's navigated JFK and I see him in Pittsburgh

Peace out to all, I'm almost off the couch.

Zarqa I feel depressed and I'm not even really waiting anymore... I just get nervous a lot thinking about everything that can go wrong, maybe I should give up and just get some prescription chill pills.

Throw him in a vat of boiling water. I'd even let him drink first...

Oh Jackie, that sucks really bad, but I knew of a guy who had a gov't contract in Jordan which he had to abandon to accept his visa. He later had his friend in the ministry get him released from the contract and there were no penalties for him.

I really think that it would be far easier for him to escape from his contract than for him to be able to change his visa but for some reason I thought they were good for two years from issuance. Also, I think he would have to get advanced parole to leave for an extended period however I do think it is possible after he applies for adjustment of status to not be seen as abandoning. Other than that I don't even know who you should be asking if he can extend his visa, honestly I never saw or heard of it but you could try Dept of State. I found their email......

usvisa@state.gov

Moh, I'm so sorry to hear that you are in AP, however I've been seeing some people get approved within two weeks, maybe it's something simple like that, inshallah.

Welcome Emily, thanks for sharing your feelings, I hope you get resoluction soon too.

I use nobel enjoy prepaid international calling card with my verizon family share nationwide plan, just have to call an access number and you can set it to automatically enter your pin on the enjoy prepaid website. Direct dialed international calls from verizon run in the 1.50-2$ range for MENA so I'm definitely not doing that, I had that option disabled so I wouldn't do it accidentally. My text messages to jordan cost 25cents ea. to send and receive so I don't know if you were talking about a verizon prepaid plan or what...

nobel enjoy prepaid diamond plan calls are costing 11cents a minute to jordan mobile, they are very clear and fairly stable. Plus I get billed per second and have no access or weekly charges incurred. Also, only charged when the call is answered.

I don't really know what you are asking or telling. You have to have at least 6 months of validity on the beneficiary's passport at the time of getting the visa. So if you don't have that then you should definitely update your passport through the proper methods.

What you are telling about 'default' I have no idea where nvc 'gave' you this status, if that's what it is... I don't even know if you are the petitioner or the beneficiary. Please could you explain with a few more descriptive details?

About his birth certificate you will have to get him to get more orginial copies preferably at least 3, you should also have him go to the courthouse and get at least three original copies of your marriage certificate as well, those are the two big ones which requirements are for originals.

I only say get more original copies of birth certificate because you will have to send one to NVC. I never sent an original or copy of his birth certificate with the i130, I just sent a copy of his passport....

Good luck

tomorrow hehee

AVR isn't always updated, but the operator should be able to tell you that it was received... strange. Also, our interview was scheduled at the end of the month so I wouldn't necessarily think you would have to wait longer if it isn't finished in time, besides... it's not may yet. Maybe they couldn't tell you because someone was reviewing it as you called.....?

I just used a paper clip and put the photos in a plastic baggy. I hadn't been on VJ before I sent my i130 so I didn't think to include a cover letter with mine, however it seems like a very good idea for the ease of the USCIS reviewer.

I think generally you just list all the documents and proof you have included in whichever logical order you feel like putting them.

Like:

Date

To whom it may concern at USCIS,

For your consideration, I have included the following documents in this I130 package for petition of my alien spouse/relative:

• I130 and copy

Original marriage certificate and copy

Marriage certificate translation and copy

Copies of Passports for petitioner and beneficiary

so on and so forth

Thank you for your time and consideration,

your name

contact info

I wanted to add that NVC told us that he could send a copy of his PCC and bring the original to the interview. So he scanned it once he recieved it and sure enough they requested his original when handing over his medical package and the passport. Maybe you want to call NVC if this applies for your embassy as well, but it did save us the time of mailing from Jordan where even express takes 7 days!

The are usually completing the case within 1 week of submitting the final papers. However, I've read of some Mumbai embassy people having difficulty adjusting their scheduled K3's to CR1 interviews, I believe they generally just have to wait for the CR1 to be scheduled. Of course let the embassy know that you intend to follow CR1.

Also verifying that you pay and file taxes brings you up to useful responsible citizen status. If you are going to let a new person into your highly taxed country you would like to know that they are responsible upstanding citizens and nothing speaks louder to the government here than the almighty tax dollar.

Also wanted to add that YES you do include your non-filing letters, as I've seen quite a few people get asked to bring those for verification after their interview. Yes it holds up the process to not have all the necessary papers already sent in.

Also wanted to add that they ask for your adjusted gross income right below in line 19 on the 184EZ and that is not to determine your eligibility, that is to verify your tax information. It really doesn't change your real income when you get deductions for tax purposes.... that adjusted gross income is for taxes.

Really when filling in the annual income I put my gross income. It isn't net income and it sure isn't based off your net income after you claim your tax exemptions... that's pretty odd. Your income after tax exemptions is just for tax purposes and I've never seen anyone use that info in regards to their income claim. Not for loans, needs benefits assessments, or anything..... just trying to understand if that's what you meant, that you want to put what you are putting for line 22 on your 1040 as your annual income for line 18 in the I 864EZ??

That's most definitely NOT right.

Oh Henna Rose, I didn't know the 'eye' symbol had something to do with the 'evil eye' which is the common expression for jealous passive agressive or overt hating behavior over there. I watched bits and parts of this series called "the arrival(s)" which you can find on youtube which go into some of that 'eye' symbol that we have over the pyramid on our money. It is a sort of documentary which ties in a bunch of truths and evidences which.... added together come to rather startling 'doomsday' sort of conspiracy. There are like 40, 10 minute episodes so of course I haven't watched them all, but what I did see was definitely interesting and ... worrysome.

Some people say that the 'eye' symbol is for the Bilderburg group which some people believe are behind the federal reserve and actually are controlling the country and possibly the world. If you like to go down those paths then there is plenty of info all over the web about it. Better look it up sooner than later, before we go the way of China...

LOL @ Rob and Mel's thread fail kitteh.

Hmm by OP threadstarter... I'm starting to think I'm a 'filipina' woman... woops nope because I would definitely get b!tchy if I only got wednesday night sex

Anyway, maybe a filipina woman would make a good man out of my ex since he just hated me and I had to run. Except it seems his live in is a Brazilian (apparently out of status) who after only 4 months is complaining to my 8 yo daughter about him in between their drunken arguments... nice.

And to those who are willing to make intro's to their wives sisters and co workers and such.... how do you know the OP isn't a alcoholic, abusive, messed with adolescent time bomb? I mean it isn't like one who had a wife who runs away doesn't beg for another to do the same thing. Notice he didn't say how nice of a guy he is, he just bashed and bashed his runaway wife... I mean if he's so good AND cleans the house, ####### would she run for..... unless maybe he just has ED and a licking aversion.

Women all over the world can only take so much ####### before we either die or split! Anyway, I'm sorry that I was bashing upon you OP dude, I'm sure you have your issues which make you want to hole up and give up. Dating in america definitely sucks!! And dating in redneck timbuktu is effing impossible. Internet dating is fun, because if they get abusive, lewd/crude or as you might think... mouthy and expectant, then you can just boom, delete and close the pc. That was my favorite part, defintely harder to be fodder for a psycho stalker who lives on the other side of the earth.

Best wishes on your future digging...

Sandrila, I'm thinking yes, his dad is jealous but not OF him. He is jealous that his son wasn't happy with the life he made for him and wanted to leave at all. Also, jealous that he wasn't spending all the time there at his home.

Also, not sure about a better life. I think they are a bit worried about his religion when he leaves, as his dad used to always push him to pray, and while I too hope my husband submits faithfully to his religion, I think that it has to be his own heart or Allah that brings him to pray all five times. My husband says his father just doesn't understand him, but I can see how they are more alike than either would admit. But really, his father is SUPER strict and SUPER old school muslim guy. I say SUPER because it's definitely to a surprising degree even to other more 'liberal' family members who are still conservative practicing muslims. His father wanted to pick my husband a wife just like he did for his other 5 children. My hubby just never wanted that and it was being pressed for 5 years after the 5th was married and sent back to Gaza. His father has even stated that my husband is useless and told him he's not a man compared to his eldest brother. Ugh, I just wish they would come to peace with each other.

Ohh sorry if I was oversharing there.....

Funny about the 'evil eye' thing, I think my husband is oblivious to the evil eye same as me. I just go about my days feeling happy or sad about what I've got and I'm happy if someone else gets something good for themselves so I never consider someone else would get all twisted up about wanting what I have. Why does it seem that this MENA culture lauds jealousy/envy so much!?!

Oh ya Raab... that's horrible! I really hope that you get satisfaction somehow. I haven't read much about the WoM so I can't advise you on that. And what is a LUD?

I just wanted to say that I'm sorry your family is going through this and I hope resolution to your case comes soon