Doctor J

well I'm not into the 21 century independent feminist women era.....no thanks.......I'm not a doctor....its just a screename. God has everything to do with ALL things because he created all things and If it wasn't for him you would not even be able to run your fingers across that keyboard and write what you just wrote. If you don't believe that then that's fine. Everyone is allowed their opinions and comments. If you don't agree that is something that you will have to deal with.

PS: You also need to read the article.....and perhaps you will understand men a little better as well as yourself.

You obviously are not.--- though newsflash: this IS the 21st Century.

I can type across the keyboard thanks to this nifty little thing called evolution. Same thing that allowed for my brain to work and actually know what Feminist Theory is about; which you obviously do not. I hold advanced degrees in Gender Studies and Higher Education; so your online non-reviewed "article" from a religious radio host is something I would not recommend to anyone.

kthxbai.

all the degrees in the world wont help when you not on this earth anymore. Not here to have religious debates......just answering the question. believe what you want...you have that right.

I suggest you read this article by Dennis Prager. He tells it from a man's point of view.

http://townhall.com/columnists/DennisPrage...the_mood_part_i

I think part 1 and Part 2 of that article has some really good perspectives on the males point of view of things. I see a lot of modern women on here talking about "you don't have to do what you don't want to and all that." But just remember a marriage is about compromise...BOTH parties have to be willing to make changes. Trust me a lot of women would love to have an affectionate man like yours...enjoy it while it last.....because once the "honeymoon" phase wears off you'll probably be posting...my husband is not affectionate anymore posts. I would just say if you continue rejecting him and he continues to feel rejected then that will just create more problems. Just be wise about it....I know you not going to be in the mood all the time..just consider what message continuously rejecting your husband sends to him. That is why he is asking if you love him, are you cheating, etc. Every man would wonder the same thing if his wife refuses sex to him on a constant basis. Now when you REALLY have to worry is when you deny him and he is like "ok" and it does not bother him anymore. That is what you will create if he continues to feel rejected. Because that is when he is going to have the wondering eye....men's hormones are WAYYY different than woman....our hormones have NOTHING to do with feelings, love or emotions (although they can be when we are in love as your husband is with you). That is why a man can have sex with a woman and have no feelings whatsoever about it at all.....these are natural GOD given desires that men have and if we were not given these desires the world would be under-populated.

So you have 2 choices:

1. Listen to all the other modern women on here and "Don't do nothing you don't want because its YOUR body."

or

2. Really sit down and have some serious conversations with your husband about how this situation makes him feel....how it makes YOU feel....and come up with some kind of compromise like 2 married adults.

What kind of a "Dr." are you????? your comments are so sexist they are not funny.

Also, what the heck does "god" have to do with the inscriptions for reproduction? And how so, according to you, are such desires given to "men" but not "women".

Welcome to the 21st century: women have sexual desires; and they have not a darn thing to do with procreation.

well I'm not into the 21 century independent feminist women era.....no thanks.......I'm not a doctor....its just a screename. God has everything to do with ALL things because he created all things and If it wasn't for him you would not even be able to run your fingers across that keyboard and write what you just wrote. If you don't believe that then that's fine. Everyone is allowed their opinions and comments. If you don't agree that is something that you will have to deal with.

PS: You also need to read the article.....and perhaps you will understand men a little better as well as yourself.

I agree with Doctor J's point of you (except for the 'hormones have nothing to do with feelings' part; men are not animals for god's sake!).

Like I said,.......women don't understand...nothing to do with animals or being an animal.

I suggest you read this article by Dennis Prager. He tells it from a man's point of view.

http://townhall.com/columnists/DennisPrage...the_mood_part_i

I think part 1 and Part 2 of that article has some really good perspectives on the males point of view of things. I see a lot of modern women on here talking about "you don't have to do what you don't want to and all that." But just remember a marriage is about compromise...BOTH parties have to be willing to make changes. Trust me a lot of women would love to have an affectionate man like yours...enjoy it while it last.....because once the "honeymoon" phase wears off you'll probably be posting...my husband is not affectionate anymore posts. I would just say if you continue rejecting him and he continues to feel rejected then that will just create more problems. Just be wise about it....I know you not going to be in the mood all the time..just consider what message continuously rejecting your husband sends to him. That is why he is asking if you love him, are you cheating, etc. Every man would wonder the same thing if his wife refuses sex to him on a constant basis. Now when you REALLY have to worry is when you deny him and he is like "ok" and it does not bother him anymore. That is what you will create if he continues to feel rejected. Because that is when he is going to have the wondering eye....men's hormones are WAYYY different than woman....our hormones have NOTHING to do with feelings, love or emotions (although they can be when we are in love as your husband is with you). That is why a man can have sex with a woman and have no feelings whatsoever about it at all.....these are natural GOD given desires that men have and if we were not given these desires the world would be under-populated.

So you have 2 choices:

1. Listen to all the other modern women on here and "Don't do nothing you don't want because its YOUR body."

or

2. Really sit down and have some serious conversations with your husband about how this situation makes him feel....how it makes YOU feel....and come up with some kind of compromise like 2 married adults.

I really think they simply mean "proof of relationship." All you need are photos with the two of your together and with family members, flight trip recepits, boarding pass stubs, date stamps from your passport, phone bill records, etc.

man.....just do it the legal way.....K1....mine only took 7 months from the 1st NOA to the interview.......dont want to rick being banned forever. Follow the process.

I'm just looking into all this visa stuff. I've met my (soon to be) fiancee, who lives in mexico. She was denied a visitor visa, but otherwise nothing else should be an issue, no arrests or visa problems before.

My question is this...is there a benefit to using a laywer? I see their fees range from $300 to $3000. Do they make things go any faster?

I am not using a lawyer...you CAN do it yourself. However, I'm using a service NOT a lawyer a man in Washington that prepares all my paperwork for me. He is not a lawyer but simply a person that has much experience helping people with VISAS. I would recommend a SERVICE not a lawyer, simply because a lawyer will charge thousands of dollars for NOTHING....they cannot make the process go any faster. It is ALOT of paperwork.....that is why I recommend the service...they usually around $450, which, in my opinion, is worth it.

PS: If you want the name of the person that is helping me feel free to send me a private message and I will give you his number. He has done MANY MANY VISAS around the entire world.

I have been reading a few people saying how its a bad idea for the USC spouse to go to the interview?

I thought that would make it look better?

He is really hoping to come to mine and be here for it

Well I NEVER think its a bad idea to show up.....Some embassys, however, REQUIRE the fiance to attend or they will NOT give the VISA. I have heard things about the embassy in the Dominican Republic and from what I heard....you MUST ATTEND the interview with your fiance/spouse or they WILL NOT give the VISA. So, first, I would say if you can go then GO!!....if you cannot go then find out if you HAVE to be there.