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I enjoy getting my hair done but no longer trust my stylist. He has given me two AWFUL (and I mean mullet-like) haircuts and one bad cut for the bf on his first visit to Vancouver.

I am desperately anxious when I walk in the salon now because the bf still gets his hair cut there (by another stylist that he loves) and I have to make small talk with my stylist who I haven't seen in a while but is probably wondering why I haven't made an appointment to see him. In fact, we're going there tomorrow night and I'm nervous.

MissStacey -- how do I deal with this awkwardness? How would you feel?

January will be here before you know it!

Awesome news for you and your family.

I think I am going to get this book. I need something to occupy my time (other than VJ) since I am sleeping later than I should be at night.

It would probably give me the boost I need before starting the new gig.

Thanks Spirit -- I will let you know how this goes for me! I'm excited and I hope that it can help me and my wonderful man. He certainly deserves a break from his current situation with work. Poor guy is also having a harder time than we both thought adjusting to the new city. I don't know what I can do to help him. Hopefully some encouraging words from me will make a bit o' difference.

What a great feeling it must have been to get through that interview with no hiccups -- you couldn't have asked for a better ending to your journey!

lil mama - I cross the border frequently and wonder when it will be my turn to produce my ties to Canada. I keep a thick file in my car just in case. Glad it didn't get too complicated for you other than the I-94.

I do believe that your only options are Montreal or Vancouver for the K1. Good luck with the filing!

You have a wonderful family -- thank you for sharing your story about your baby boy. You are an amazingly strong woman!

I had to read it a few times but I think I get it now.

Sort of.

Aww, Spirit... I wish we lived closer, too. I have nothing but time on my hands for the next 3 whole weeks (before starting the new job) and need something interesting to fill my time with. Maybe I should read a good book.

I love the way they get so up close and personal with the screen.

Did any of you guys ever watch a hockey game on TV and watch your kitty chase the puck?

Those are so CUTE! I luv kittehs.

Tuxedo kitties are great... we had one back when I was still living at home.

Back when I used to sit at my desk I always had some company...

Yay this thread has been revived!

Spirit -- you speak the truth. "Conscious" men do exist. I have known some in my day... heh, maybe they all live in Vancouver?

And can you tell me more about 'power in language?' What exactly do you mean?

Good luck to you both!

Have a great time while you are up here! The sun is supposed to be shining for the next few days so I hope you and Dennis have some time to enjoy the city.

My gf yakking at me on the phone. Boy do we have some catching up to do!

I think she just got a little carried away with the make up.

That's what I was thinking, too... as ridonkulous as this is I'm curious to see how much she really does rake in.

Okay, I'm going to ask a dumb question here.

With these big mortgages that people are taking on what is the length of amortization that is being offered? I thought it used to be that people had 20, 25, 30 year ams? Now you can get 50 year periods (here in Canada anyway) so I'm wondering if that is how people got suckered into it? Please correct me if I'm way off target.

Some excellent stories here...

Both my partner and I have discussed money related issues and we feel the more we talk now the better off we'll be after we're married. We've both just heard way too many horror stories about couples and financial distress. He does pay for just about everything but I do my best to show him the appreciation I have for what he contributes to our relationship. When it comes time to file for the Visa I have no doubt that we'll work it out and I'm sure he'll offer to pay for it all, but I am more than happy to split the cost or however it works out.

If it ever were a situation where we were living in Canada I know I'd be the breadwinner and I'd have no issues with that. I own my own home and am just a few years away from being mortgage free so that would be an even lesser burden on us. How I see it is that I have been working my butt off all these years to be able to share my riches with the man I love -- and now that I have met him I can finally make that happen!

To the OP, I think you just need to reconnect emotionally to your husband. Put aside your man/woman roles for a while and know that you can't hold on those too tightly due to your circumstances of being apart on opposite ends of the earth. If it's appreciation and validation you seek then talk to him and see how he's feeling about things. You may find that you can overcome this huge emotional hurdle and become even closer as a result.

The sites most used for most jobs in corporate America are Monster.com, Hotjobs.com & Careerbuilder.com. I've been able to find most jobs in those sites and they are published by either the employer itself or recruiting companies. You will also be able to find permanent positions, temporary, seasonal or tem to hire.

Diana

Yes - it is the same in Canada. Definitely do a good search on the internet for staffing agencies that specialize in your field. The above sites can be useful as you can post your resume and see who finds you.

I just found myself taking a job offer today but the entire time I was searching I had many recruiters contact me. Sometimes they can work for you and other times they can't. It was a recruiter that found this job for me but I am finding the same thing as you. It is getting tougher and tougher to apply directly to a lot of companies. Good luck!

I know that feeling of panic when something like this happens. Years ago I was attacked and mugged and he didn't harm me but got away (but not without a fight!) We were playing tug of war with my purse and as a result certain things like my keys and cell phone fell out so I was able to make it home. He basically got my purse with my wallet and some cash and ID.

Seems like it was just a bunch of kids looking for money in your case... most important thing is that you and your hubby are safe and sound.

Hello everyone. Just popping in for a minute to say hi. The party on the weekend was fabulous.... my uncle is deteriorating rapidly.... I am exhausted from working and the stress of everything, but always remain in good spirits. I miss you guys. Hope everyone is well. Stay safe.

Sorry to hear about your uncle. Sounds like you're doing your best to keep your chin up. My thoughts are with you, Krikit.

Yay! What a great story!

^autumnchik is that the only staffing agency that can help your husband find a job? Is it a temp position or permanent? I think recruiters are probably used to people changing their minds -- they have the advantage of working from a large pool of prospective candidates so I don't think he'd be in too awful of a position if he was honest with them. After all, you need to have a job worth your while so you two can live.

Right now I have a staffing agency pretty much on my case daily about me making a decision about a job that I am not 100% sure about. I know I could take the job but I want to be sure about another offer I am waiting for. Anyhow, my point is that you really have to look out for yourself first -- even if you are working with a recruiter. I hope that makes sense.

Thanks for all of this really great info... I never thought to get any credit before living across the border but I'm going to take your advice and do it!

Terrific! Very exciting news.

My vent is that a company I applied to sends me through three interviews, then the VP tells me he wants me to speak with the guy who's leaving the position and then I find out today that someone else also applying for the same position (there were 2 roles to be filled) is now also competing for MY position!

Sorry if that makes not much sense. I find out their decision Thursday. I just am irked because the sales manager was really wanting to hire me but the VP is the guy that I'd be working under and it's now turned into a coin flip between me and some other person.

Kelland34, that's going to look incredible! I'm excited for you... make sure to post pics once it's done!

Your wedding looked like a blast... congratulations!