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I don't know if anybody here still remember me but I used to be an active member. Anyways, I have finally moved on to my life. Got my own place, got my driver's license and not so best car. My ex-husband finally filed a divorce after finding another Filipina online.

I just got laid off on my last employment about two weeks ago but I also got a job offer yesterday from a mortgage/banking company here in my new area. I've been through a lot but with God's help and guidance, I am proud of what I've done so far. I'm planning to go back to school next year and hopefully somewhere down the road, I will meet the right guy for me. Just wanted to let everyone know that I'm still alive and breathing and will kick someone else a$s if I have to. LOL! I am just feeling happy today.

Thanks and I wish everyone to have a great day ahead!

baby_a

Hi everyone! I have posted here before about leaving my abusive husband and am back again to seek advice. It's been almost a month since I left and I started my new job two weeks ago. I started making a little money and will save up to buy a cheap vehicle. I am staying temporarily with a friend right now. It's hard but I'm just trying to be strong. I've been crying almost every night and asked God why do these things happened to me. I tried my hardest part to be a good wife to him. I am hating myself sometimes why I still think of him despite of what he has done to me. Is it normal? I still love him but I know time will come that it will go away. The sad thing is he never tried to find me ever. He doesn't even tried to write me a single word although he knows my email address. Maybe if only he would ask me to forgive him and start all over again, I would consider coming back but he never did find me up to this point. I'm thankful that I've got a job right now that keeps me busy or else I'll go crazy. And me being financially crippled, don't know how to drive yet doesn't help the situation.

Can you guys advice me what to do so I can completely move on? I want to forget the past and get on with my life but why is it so hard? I can't wait for the time that I will just think of the past and laugh about it. I'm still married to him and maybe I will wait a little while before divorcing him.

Thank you and will appreciate any response.

baby_a

Hello all! I finally left my abusive husband last week and am now staying temporarily with a friend. I have nothing right now and I don't drive yet either. I've got a 10-year greencard already with me. What should I do next? I don't want my husband to locate me because I'm scared that he's gonna do something to me. What are my options? Can I get alimony from him if I file a divorce? He was verbally abusive to me in the early stage of our marriage and it comes to the point that he gets physical also. I called police after that happened. I already left him before but I came back. Now that I have no plan of coming back no matter what, Can I file a divorce and tell the judge that he was abusive to me physically and verbally eventhough I don't have evidence of the physical violence? The police made report for it when I called them. They even asked me if I want to send him to jail and I didn't let him. I even stayed in the shelter for about two weeks but ended up coming back to him before.

He didn't know where I'm at right now. What do you think I should now? I started looking for a job here in my new location and my friend will help me get my license too. I know it's going to be hard but I will do everything to get my life back.

baby_a

Thank you for all who responded. Sorry it's been a while since I get back. I've finally found a courage to leave my husband and this time I won't come back. I'm worried that he's going to hurt me again that's why I finally left. I strongly believe I can make it this time... I have done my best and still things weren't changed so I put an end to it. It's time for me to move on and get on with my life....

I only stayed in the shelter for about two weeks. We did group meetings and have gone through counseling. They didn't want me to leave they promised they would do everything to help me but I still went back. My husband hit me once and the last time I left, He didn't hurt me. He just wanted me leave as he always do when we had argument. I had no bruises when he hurts me but I called cops and they made report for it. I could get him arrested but I didn't do it. My husband and I used to be bestfriend but I don't know what happened to our marriage. He have done lot of good things to me and I think that's one reason why I keep coming back. He's not that really bad person, He showed me so many times that he loves me. But I know that whatever the reason is there is now way that a man can hit a woman. I used to be a strong person, very independent woman, got a job of my own, can do anything I want when I was still in my country don't have much but I live happily with my friends and family. I am happy with my husband but sometimes I get confused of my situation especially when we start fighting again. One of my closest friend stop communicating with me. She's the one who who has been helping me to get out or go some place when my husband and I got problems.

I'm just confused of my situation... I don't know what to do. I just can't think clearly.

Hello everyone! I'm a new member here but I've been browsing this site for quite a while now. I've been here in the US for more than a year now and been married for almost three years. Hubby and I got married in my country. To make my long story short, I have a marital problem. I have left my husband three times but only to return. I was a victim of domestic violence. I even stayed in a shelter without him knowing. I was hit, pushed, pulled, called names... etc. I just couldn't understand myself why I keep coming back. When I'm gone, I missed him and longing for him. I do love him with all my heart and I want to work our marriage out although I could leave and move on with my life without him. But now I'm here with him sometimes I felt unhappy and wanted to leave again. Is there something wrong with me? Pls advice. He's sleeping right now and have to post this before he finds out. Thank you.