LostinTranslation

I was going to bite my tongue but.....

I don't understand why such articles still exist today This whole caveman, archaic, primitive mentality, sexually repressed/oppressed/stressed is soooooo last century.

Anyone who claims to have been to any of the 50+ countries in Africa would know that this article is a bunch of #######.

And the fact that it is written by their fellow countrymen/women is disgusting.

Do they have such a low view of their own people that they would go out and publish such drivel as this? Sounds like they all need a good man/woman to show them a few things Maybe I should pass out my number to them

I guess for those of us in successful relationships we snagged the only good men/women on the whole African continent. After all, there is no way that they can all be reasonable, modern, educated, romantic people

Who comes up with this garbage anyway ?

check out other countries on that website, don't see much different in other countries.

If you would click on different countries you will see that the statistics for other countries percentage is no different than Nigeria. There is more on that site for the eye to see. I checked out the statistics for the United States and was amazed at the information.

Don't take my word, check it out for yourself.

Thanks

Forever Love by Reba McEntire reminds me of my SO. Check out R Kelly, "The Greatest Show on Earth"/ Ol'Skool - Am I Dreaming.

The first time I laid my eyes on you I knew.

We'd spend this life side by side.

I still feel the same though you're so far away.

I swear that you'll always be mine...

Forever Love. I promise you.

Someday we'll be together.

Forever love. I won't give up. No matter what.

I'll be waiting for you. Forever love.

Minutes and hours and years may go by.

But my heart knows nothing of time.

So don't cry, just keep me right there.

In your dreams. And hold on to these words of mine.

Love is the road to our destiny.

Nothing can change what is meant to be.

Forever Love.

Forever Love.

Oh, I wont give up. No matter what.

I'll be waiting for you. Forever love.

I'll be waiting for you. Forever love.

Forever Love.

Ekaaro

Se dandaa ni o?

http://news.bbc.co.uk/2/hi/africa/7462973.stm

Adupe, Bawa ni nkan ?

Adupe, oko re nko ?

O daa ro, ore mi.

Ekaale

Ese Adupe

Bawo ni n nkan? Bawo nise? Awon ebi n ko?

Adupe, oko re nko ? O daa ro, ore mi !

Not married. Goodnight to u too my friend

I shouldn't have eaten all of that chicken teriyaki & rice. *yawn* now I need a nice fat pillow.

what were you gonna say?

I click the wrong reply. Sorry. How are you today?

Hello to everyone,

First let me start off by saying, Godspeed to all of us newbies, and to those of you whose journey is near completion, best of luck with your new spouses.

Now i just finished reading threads related to IDOCARE and her "relentlessness", according to others. all I can say is I was very disturbed with the bashing name -calling and so forth. my father taught me one valuable lesson in life, and that was, " if i tell you something once, it is up to you to decide whether or not you will follow my advice. You see, he feels that the only way to teach a child is to let that child "hit the brick wall". Now, i know most will understand what I mean.

On the other hand he also feels that his advice is the only "right advice". When I informed them(parents) of my decision to pursue this relationship, of course they voiced their concerns, but i think they realized that they have reared a strong, independent, focused woman, one who never does things without much thought and prayer.

I say all of this to say, none of us know what God has in store for us, we just have to be prayer-filled vessels, receptive to His word. Ola tells me all the time, "God, sees my heart", and i in turn reply, "Yes, he does, so if you intend on screwing me around, he will exact due justice". Yes, we have disagreements, all the time, because i am the type that asks questions, over and over again, until i am satisfied. He is learning to appreciate that in me.

We are not a perfect race. In the words of one my favorites, "That which does not kill me, can only make me stronger".

I dont pray for failure, I pray for God's blessings to be abundant in my life, and it is my belief that Ola is one of them.

i wont go into details to validate our relationship, because that is between God, Ola, and Dana.

Instead of trying to analyze others and their experience, maybe we should just listen to each other, there is nothing wrong with venting. we all have a choice, no one forces us to read threads, if you dont like it, skip it!

Peace to all, and have a blessed evening!

P.S. Dont forget to say your prayers!

"Mrs. Famodun"

:thumbs: Thank you, very well said. :thumbs:

Zainab is one of the kindest people here in this forum and would never insinuate that you are not his only woman. This assumption

is just plain wrong.

She simply made an observation about Amy's husband having the same name and wondered where she is.

You come to this forum as a new comer with guns blazing, tone it down a bit and get to know who you are talking about first before you get your feathers ruffled.

Your post also reflects that you have no background knowledge of a 'recent ' issue' discussed here. Do some research to enlighten yourself with who has a bashing history and who doesn't and calm down a bit.

Peace and welcome to the forum.

Calm I am, yes I am a newcomer, but in reading the threads most of the derogatory comments made, came from "You". instead of being an adult and just leaving well enough alone, you chose to continue with your remarks, which makes you an instigator, one who feeds into disaccord. I dont wish to battle with you, it is not in my character, but dont make assuptions about the newcomer, who started a post with positive thoughts, dont make this a negative experience.

And I will say again, i was not amused with the comment, does that mean that i now have a vendetta against "Zasinab", no, because i feel I can possibly learn things from everyone on the site.

One more thing, negativity does not enlighten me, not at all.

Have a great day, I know I will , once I will once I get these unruly feathers under control!

Welcome to VJ. :whistle:

Ekaaro

Se dandaa ni o?

http://news.bbc.co.uk/2/hi/africa/7462973.stm

Ekaaro oooooo

Adupe, Bawa ni nkan ?

Ekaale

Ese Adupe

Bawo ni n nkan? Bawo nise? Awon ebi n ko?

I shouldn't have eaten all of that chicken teriyaki & rice. *yawn* now I need a nice fat pillow.

Ekaaro

Se dandaa ni o?

http://news.bbc.co.uk/2/hi/africa/7462973.stm

Hi Idocare,

I am sorry to hear of your misfortune with your Nigerian lover/husband/scammer. I too feel as if I was a victim but in a different way. There was a post similar to my story can’t remember who the poster was. He didn’t need a green card; he was a fortunate winner of the DV Lottery. Here is my story regarding my first and last encounter with a Nigerian man. I met this young man through a mutual friend. I found him to be intriguing, intelligent and first and foremost his fear of God and love for God. Well, he became my main focus and I became his (I thought). After many flights back and forth between the two of us, we decided to cohabitate. Because we were in love, this is when I got LOST IN TRANSLATION. I started assisting him with applications for jobs, passing his resume to girlfriends that are recruiters’ , taking time off to take him to interviews, open house, paying for his medicals expenses, medication and by the Grace of God he became employed. I started going to work late, leaving early so that he would have a way to and from work. Then he became very distance, too tired for sex (not such a big issue, he was lousy in bed), always on the cell phone. I noticed that he was using an 800 number immediately after I left for work (before he became employed). I have Comcast digital voice which records all incoming and outgoing calls. I called the number and it was for VIP Communication. Asked around and it is used to call international. I became suspicious and I installed the software that another poster used. WOW! Found he too is married. All along he was assuring that he wanted to marry me. So you can imagine my hurt when I found out he was already married. He was using me to get a job and to save to get his wife and three children here. I could not believe what I read. I was so into this man, I was trying so hard to make this work. I started learning Yoruba and cooking African dishes to please this man. I started snooping, found birth certificate with the woman name as the mother with his last name. I emailed her and told her the entire story; she simply clicked forward and sent the email to him. I simply deleted the email out of his account (I have access to his email account). That didn’t make a difference because on his daily calls to her, she told him. That’s when I knew it was time to let him know what I knew. He said, that they were not married it’s considered a traditional marriage; don’t know what that mean but I wasn’t falling for it. No more “lost in translation”. I began collecting information I needed to sue him for money invested, receipts, credit card bills, etc. I have his alien number, driver’s license, social security and immigration number. Before I put my Timberlands on and kicked him to the curb, I gave him an invoice of all expenses incurred. He laughed and told me that I was careless, I turned that laugh upside down when I starting calling off all those numbers from memory. To let him know he is more careless than I will ever be. You see, it was a joke and all for own personal gain or should I say selfish gain. I drew up a promissory note for him to sign stating what he owed, when payments should be made each month. The promissory note was in conjunction with the invoice. He stated, that not a court in the US would make him re-pay me for expenses incurred, well for one week he was homeless, he and his luggage were placed on the stairway. Do I regret it, never? He been gone now for one month today and told me yesterday that his time with me was wasted. I laughed because I have something he need and he’s not getting it. Someone on the other post said that the wife may not care as long as she can come to America. Well she didn’t.

My story is different from Idocare but similar. I cared deeply for this man but his motive was to get my friends and myself to help him get a “good” job, so that he could bring his family over. Could never figure out why her name was not on his application or the children for the DV lottery. I’ve heard a lot of horror stories about people doing anything to get a green card but this man has his green card. Yet he is a lying, cheating scoundrel. My daily calls from him are so amusing now. He tells me that I tried to destroy him, what? Guess he said that because I emailed the “misses”. Shouldn’t be cheating. He called me one day, 15 times on my job. The last voicemail was a threat, had to get the police involved although he’s more than 1500 miles from me now, you never know. . The next day after the threat, he called begging me to forgive him that he was annoyed. Now that I don’t answer his call, he leaves a voicemail asking why I won’t talk to him, what’s wrong with me (why something has to be wrong with me)? Not once has the man recognized the pain I am feeling or felt it was all about him. He even stated that I shouldn’t ask him for reimbursement of the expenses because we are friends. No, we were friends is what I told him. Is this man crazy or am I missing something. He also wrote in one of his email to his brother, that “Americans are good if you can handle them”. Guess he couldn’t handle me. Think about that statements lady, “We are good if they can handle us”. You know I am beet red, from even repeating what he wrote. The poster that recommended that software was on the money, I didn’t invoice him for the software that one was on me. I am open for questions, I am sure there will be some from reading all the other information posted on the website. I never went through the process of petitioning for anyone and for what I’ve read and experienced first hand I won’t. I am basically a positive person and I am not trying to discourage you ladies from your journey. Just be careful please. I’ve met a wonderful man from Paris (has dual citizenship) and I don’t have to petition for him. But I will have both eyes open. Limit yourself on what you say regarding your personal life, all personal information place under lock and key. Not to say don’t trust, just be cautious. My so-called friend could quote the Bible and kneel to pray at the drop of a dime but would get on the internet and email his wife, get in the bed with me and try to “sex me up”. I am weary when a man can kneel to pray and then get up and pecker is hard as Japanese arithmetic. Gotta close ladies, I do pray that the men you have chosen are also the men that God has chosen for you. Keep God closer. Please excuse any errors, I am human.