Hi all, I want to keep it as short as possible. I have a question on possible scenarios and best options before I involve lawyers or the police, which I was about to do today. My husband is waiting for his GC, the interview was back in early May. The approval letter came soon after, but then nothing. He says the system says the green card has been delivered and that I stole his documents.
He does not drive, has no job, no income or savings, relies on me for everything from getting the groceries to paying our bills. It was not my intention to have it that way - I offered to have a joint account but he says he wants his own, but first has to secure a job, and he will be learning to drive as soon as he has secured an income. All he's doing is applying and interview prepping for remote IT work, he has solid resume but no local US work experience of course, and the market is weird now. I am willing to move wherever, as I am working remotely as well, and drive him to the office, if needed. It's been six months since he got his work permit but he says he applied around and no bank would open him an account without the green card.
Lately he started to get abusive both verbally and physically. The day before yesterday he accused me of refusing to take him to the hospital, as he is in great pain from me supposedly breaking his rib. He got violent the other day and broke down the bedroom door screaming he is going to hit me, and when the door gave up I ran out to the car and pushed him off my way so that is what he might be referring to when he says I injured him. I did not involve the police that time out of shock, and I have no evidence expect for the photos of the door, which he since fixed somewhat. He now also claims I broke it myself. So when I offered to take him to ER he just shut down and kept repeating that I am refusing to help him. It was so wild! I started recording every conversation since then, although we don't speak English there...would that be a problem using it as evidence? He slammed doors again, which just made me instantly panic, so I packed up and drove to my mom's place which is less that two hours away, seeing that he said I am abandoning him and he's going to die there in need of urgent care with no means to call for or get help. As he has no one in this country except for me and is very close with his parents, I have expressed my desire to contact them to either get them to get through to him, or to help him move on his own, to which he always reacts violently. So this morning I got audio recordings of him screaming he will kill and bury me and my parents if I even think about contacting his family. That he will make it his life's mission to destroy me if I hurt his parents. So, I want to report him to the police as I got very scared and it is very serious threats. I left that instant. I stopped by the police station but they were closed for the day and gave me deputy's number. So I'm thinking all these audio recordings I have are not in English though. How do I go about it? I also have a video of him blocking the doorway with his body and rolling on the floor repeating "please stop hitting me" where it is clearly seen I am not touching him at all. He does not speak English there as well. He accused me of cheating and lying and marrying him for money. This all is absolutely not true and I suspect he is not of sound mind considering it all. I have packed my things and left to a safe place for now, the fridge is fully stocked, the rent is paid through end of August. He has no money to pay for anything, he claims his phone line is off so he can't call for help and I abandoned him there in the desert all alone with no means to get help. I have offered to drive him to the airport and buy a ticket back home before, if that is what he wants, it never came out to anything though. So my question is, if I go to the police, and present them with what I have, what is likely happen? He has expressed that he basically hates me and my entire bloodline, and he knows my parents' address, in fact, it's his official mailing address. I am his one and only sponsor as well. I would like to stop financing this horror asap but I also I don't want him to get arrested and endanger my family by angering him even more...who knows what he might do? He might hurt himself and accuse me of it? Please advise! Thank you
