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most fines & fees impossed by the court can be made in payments. they know most don't have $5,000 all at once & they want the $$$.(they want the $$ more than wanting him in an orange jumpsuit costing them a bed & food)

thank you guys for the reply, we can't for sure afford $5,000 all at once, we truly just hoping to pay it monthly on an installment basis, because my husband probation for sure is another expenses.

i just wanna ask, because my husband got a 1 yr probation in court and $5,000 fines, is that 5 grand need to be paid all at once? or we can pay it on an installment basis? i will appreciate your reply.

What are the requirements in removing condtion under cruelty? me and hubby had a dispute 4 mos. ago but i didn't had bruces nor filed a charges, will it be consider cruelty? he kicked me out in the house and detained my passport and immigration documents so i called the cops. they brought me to ywca and i stayed there for 1 night only because my employer gave me a free place to stay. now im back at my hubby's house because he apologize so i also gave him a chance, but his moods are totally unstable. i have all the evidence that the marriage is genuine, like lease of our car, joint accounts/credit cards, bills and etc.

is there a police report even if i did not push charges? do the cops make a report everytime they are called?

my husband will never file a divorce he said, he said i may file it but he won't.

There should be a police report whether charges are pressed or not. And don't hesitate to call the police the next time you're threatened by him in any way.

But in my opinion, the last thing you should be concerned about right now is your immigration status. Obviously you're in an abusive relationship. And your physical and mental wellbeing is under a serious threat since you said your hubby's "moods are totally unstable." It's not enough for him to apologize. If you truly love your husband, you should be helping in getting him to the psychiatrist and perhaps into some counseling too. It sounds like he has a mood disorder which comes as a result of chemical imbalance in the brain. If left untreated, it will get worse over time. And I hate to tell you but most women don't realize the seriousness of an abusive relationship until they end up injured, maimed or even killed. I'm hoping you won't let this happen to you. Get some more information from www.padv.org

You are right Scapel, you exactly got it right, my husband have been diagnosed with PTSD 10 yrs ago, i noticed when he gets mad or upset he can't sleep for maybe 3-7 nights and i think its the reason that gives him a chemical imbalance, he acts weird before but it wasn't as worst as our dispute last january, its actually one night i was from work and then when i arrived home after our dinner i was watching tv, i thought he was kidding, he throw me a very cold water saying get out in here, get out in here, i was even smiling coz i really thought it was a joke, he made me did some more weird stuff, when he tried to like hurting himself, yelling and screaming at me, thats when i run out the door and knocked in my neighbors house, i run barefoot in the snow with my wet clothes that i put back in, so i borrowed my neighbors phone to call the cops, they came, and when the cops went with me to get some documents they saw some drugs on him so thats when they brought him to jail, i thought he would be out the next day and i was scared with him so i told the cops i have no where to go, so the cops brought me to the shelter, my boss picked me up from the shelter and gave me a free place, i felt sorry for him his never been in jail so i thought i would pay the bail for him, i did, he was out, but when he got out in jail, he gets like talking out of this world things, seems he got insane, so i called 911 and paramedic came, they brought him in the hospital and later on forwarded him in the psychiatric hospital, after 3 days he got out.

he gets really really nice most of the time, but when his moods swings he acts totally opposite and unusual.

i know i need to send him in a psychiatrist but he wont go nor on counseling coz he said he dont want to pay. his case is still ongoing in court and he will have another hearing this april 28, 2008. i dont know what will happen after.

i appreciate your reply guys, i was just wondering if i can get that police report, i am here for just around a year and i dont know how to drive, but i work though and i can feed myself, my boss is willing to help me too, she said she will do any documents that immigration needs from her, if theres any.

as of now im here in his house but honestly i already packed my things secretly, just in case, then i will be ready to go, i also already put my documents in a safety deposit in the bank.

thanks, i truly appreciate all your reply.

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What are the requirements in removing condtion under cruelty? me and hubby had a dispute 4 mos. ago but i didn't had bruces nor filed a charges, will it be consider cruelty? he kicked me out in the house and detained my passport and immigration documents so i called the cops. they brought me to ywca and i stayed there for 1 night only because my employer gave me a free place to stay. now im back at my hubby's house because he apologize so i also gave him a chance, but his moods are totally unstable. i have all the evidence that the marriage is genuine, like lease of our car, joint accounts/credit cards, bills and etc.

is there a police report even if i did not push charges? do the cops make a report everytime they are called?

my husband will never file a divorce he said, he said i may file it but he won't.

thanks guys now i can breath, yup i'll stay good.

my hubby is a US Citizen, but he mess up, oh well, if my hubby will be convicted with felony like 1-2 yrs but he never been in prison instead he is on community service or in the drug rehabilitition, will he still be allowed to help me removed my condition?