EasyRider

Of course we're all different, obviously. Even within the same culture or ethnic group, hell, even in the same family we're all different. But you said that Americans were "self reliant" and like to be "strong and make our own choices" somehow implying that other were not like Americans. That's kind of a dangerous assumption to make since not all Americans are like that and there are people outside of our borders that may possess these same virtues. That's all I was saying.

As stated above, of course people are different. That was my whole point. I was saying that in the context of America, it is difficult to define what that "culture" actually means. And the example you gave is a good one. It is not ABNORMAL for Latinos to live with their parents well into their 30's. Some even have families living with their parents. But it's not because their mooches, as somebody suggested and certainly not because they're not "self reliant." Just like it is not only acceptable but expected that when your parents get old, THEY live with YOU. In American culture, to use your term, it is ok to put your elderly parents or disabled relatives in a home. For most Latinos, whether they are Chilean, Mexican, etc., that is completely UNACCEPTABLE. In fact, sometimes when an old relative does not have children of their own, they go live with their cousins and uncles. There is no such thing as "extended family" with most Latinos, there's just FAMILY. So your Chilean family might consider you cold and uncaring and you might think that living with your parents is being a mooch, but to some "Americans" it is perfectly ok because they are Latino Americans, to use a very broad word. So my point is that when somebody says that Americans are this or that, I simply ask them to define the term because we're not all like that, no matter the "cultural norms." And just to clarify, I never said that "we were all the same." Obviously you didn't read my post in its entirety or maybe I was not clear. But what I said was that "self reliant" and "strong" are not characteristics unique to "American" people. That is all.

Perhaps you missed the part where I wrote that "to me, American means American citizen." So when I say "I am American" I mean I am a citizen. Is it really that hard to understand?
But since you're missing the entire point of my post I'll spell it out to you as best I can. I do not presume to know everything, especially something that is as infinitely complicated as defining "American." And I certainly would not presume to impose my definition of American on others. Any other clarifications that you may need?

I wrote something really elaborate in response to your post but I don't think I should post it. If you're really unhappy and don't think you can make it work then leave him. I think it's unfair to just leave any relationship without giving the other person a chance to redeem themselves, if he needs redemption. I mean who knows, maybe the problem is you. But, you know your situation better than anybody and if you really can't stick it out at least a year then leave. However, keep in mind the consequences. If I were your husband, there is no way that I would let my "ex wife" leave the country with my child. ABSOLUTELY NOT!!! But that's me. You're entering into a situation that could get really ugly very fast and you need to sit down and think about it and talk to your husband, if he's willing.
As far as staying in the U.S., well, I doubt they would deport the mother of a U.S. citizen because she doesn't have a green card. But you have to wait a whole 7 months for your child to be born and from what you say you can't wait 7 seconds. But I'm not an expert in these matters so I don't really know.
However, if your husband is truly abusing you, like the other poster suggested, then you have to report him. BUT if he's not, then don't use it as an excuse to stay in this country. An accusation like that can ruin a man's life very easily and no matter how horrible a husband he may be, if he's not abusing you then he doesn't deserve to be accused of that.

I don't know what you mean by this. First what do you mean by "Americans?" I've never really known what that means. Americans to me means American "citizen." It's difficult to label a citizen of a country that is made up of 300+ million people that come in every color, creed, religion, race and ethnicity. And if by Americans you mean "white" or "Caucasian" then what do you mean exactly? You mean Irish, German, Italian, English, Dutch, Swedish, Norwegian, etc.? I mean, "white" could also mean Jewish or Hispanic in some cases. And there are "white" Muslims from Eastern Europe that are also "American." So I'm not sure what you mean with this statement. Plus these virtues exist in pretty much every other culture that I know of firsthand. "Self-reliance" and "inner strength" and "like to be strong and make our own decisions," you could be talking about anybody.
But anyway, I am American and if my wife was sick I would be concerned, especially if she was pregnant. As a matter of fact, when my fiancee was sick last month I suggested she go to the doctor but she refused. I was ready to thrown her over my shoulder and carry her to the hospital. She would have been angry but I would have done it. But maybe that's just me.