rick's baby

I came here last year thru K1 visa, we got married October then up to this writing we had not filed my adjustment of status because of "financial reasons" as he said.

During our stay together, i found out that he drinks and smoked a lot, that he can spend $500 a month for his vices. But i did not mind it because it's his money anyway and he is the one who is working for it. But as the days go by, I noticed that everytime i need to buy personal stuff for myself, he's telling me that i am getting expensive. He did not give me any money for myself to buy my own stuff, so i let it pass then, thinking that he is kidding me.

When i was still back home, he said to me it's time for u now to have someone to take care of you, as you worked very hard for yourself and your family, and i told him if am there already can we help my family because they have no one to help them, he said yes of course we will. So in short, we have an agreement. So i was here.

One time, when the kids asked for some help because my son is taking up his review examinations for his professional licensure board exam and he needed the money badly to pay for his upcoming test. I asked him if we can send even a $100 just to help him some, i left some money for them before i left but it is not enough for other expenses, he was upset and mad at me and my kids for asking him some money, i explained to him that this is an important need and not just a luxurious thing. After some arguments and explanations we sent the $100 back home.

I am planning to look a job even though i don't have the proper documents just to have money of my own that i can use without asking him any. Then i have a part time job for 3 hours everyday, earning $400 a month. After i worked for a month he start telling me in part of a joke that he needs 1/2 of my money for my food and lodging, but i did not mind him again. On and on he is telling me about it, am thinking to myself i am his wife, he should support me and my needs but now he is asking me my lil money that i earned. We had an arguments the money i earned always. But i can't give him my money as i have to send it back home and some for my personal needs as he's not giving me any money, he said to my friends that i made him broke when he gets me here with all the money that he spent in my visa and all and it hurts me. But i keep it all to myself.

May 31, my friends wants to celebrate my birthday and a late reception for my wedding last year as we don't have any when i got married. It was a potluck so i don't have to spend much money as my friends said, but for my contribution i have to spend too so, i spend $120 for the foods and stuff, i did not use his money again.

Last thursday was a very bad day, i told him that i bought a comforter set that cost $84, but because the store is offering 1/2 of the price i bought one (because we don't have any). I have cash money left in my pocket of $30 so, i get the other $20 in the debit card that he gave me. After i told him, he's starting to count how much i owed him, $35 for my gas because i used his truck in going to work, the $20 for the comforter and the $80 for the first bill of my cellphone which is under his name. And he asked me when i will pay him the money i owed, i told him in joke that maybe in 2020, because i don't think that he is serious about it. We had our dinner and i thought everything was just fine. I was in the computer room as usual playing, and he was in his usual chair too, drinking and smoking as always. he came to me and pointed his finger on my face saying, "if you will not put the money in the account this monday, you cannot get any money from the account, you're not helping me, you're sending all your money back home". This is always our arguments, finally i told him, "why should him give you my money? i worked hard for it so i can send money to my family in which you promised to help, i did not ask you any money to send back home and i did not even spent your money for my clothes, for my personal stuff because i know you can't give any, but i do understand it.

I told him enough is enough, i felt like a beggar here with you, waiting for something that you will give me but i did not. I told him, am not that so hard in my country dying to be here in your country, i have own job, own my car, own my house and i have my children finished their college education, have a little business but i give it all up just for you, because i believe in you and in love. He said he's tired of not me helping him and am not putting any into this marriage. I told him, i cooked your food, clean your house, washed your clothes, wake every 4 in the morning to prepare your lunch and all for your work, and how can you say that i am not putting any into this marriage. I told him all the stuff that i am doing for you, i did not do it back home and you know that, i have a house helper to do all household chores for me. Also said to him, am tired of your drinking and smoking. I can't stand all that. So i packed my clothes and stuff.

My question is HOW WILL IT AFFECT MY STAY HERE, I DON'T HAVE A PROPER DOCUMENTATION AS A LEGAL RESIDENT. WHAT WILL I DO? I AM OUT OF HIS HOUSE NOW....

LAX is very busy indeed, long lines but the officers that handled there is very fast and quick. When it's my turn, i was not even 20 mins. did not even asked me questions. Just handed my passport, the I-94 form that the airplane gave us and the brown packet from the embassy. He just recorded it and stamped my passport and stapled the I-94 form. Though, u should be aware where ur next flight will be and what airlines u will be transferring as the airport is so big. I rode a shuttle bus to my next airport, just asked the employees there, they are a big help to me that time.

Hope it helps.

Hi fellow VJ'rs,

We're about to file my AOS, am confused how to file....

1. Will i use my married name or my maiden name in the form I-485?

2. Do we include the G-325 and the passport copy of my USC husband?

3. I've read in some forums that you have to your AOS before your I-94 expires? What if we cannot file it yet, as waiting for some funds to pay for the AOS? What is the consequences we have to face.

Thanks.....

when is ur flight next week? my flight will be august 15, NWA, my POE is LAX, hope we can meet together....

Cora

My flight will be on August 15 too, if u want we can go together...my POE is LAX...hope we can meet

QUOTE(DanielParul @ Jul 25 2008, 12:00 PM) *

Nobody is questionning the Philipinas here about there jobs. Nobody wants to know your occupations either. This thread is about one specific BARGIRL who may/maynot have engaged in prostitution and what her chances are of securing a visa....

we don't want to talk about what our position in life here too, and who else does? what we are trying to imply here that not all K1 beneficiary are former bar girls as what the poster says. What reached us is that all K1 from the PHilippines are former bar girls.

AM A K1 BENEFICIARY TOO...BUT AM NOT A BAR GIRL, EDUCATED AND A BUSINESS OWNER....

Just an update for anyone tracking things.

I had my fiance fly from Davao to Manila on July 7th -9th. Her Medical was on the 8th with shots on the 9th.

I booked her another flight for July 14 to 15th. Her interview was the 15th. She got the pink slip.

I booked the wedding date for 08-08-08. I got the last opening.

I booked my flight for July 28th to come to Davao and fly back with her on August 6th.

I called Grace at the embassy on July 17th to get an update on the visa. She said it is being processed now.

I called the next day and Grace informed me it was being released to Delbros at the end of the day.

Delbros sent a text that night stating it is in the process of shipping.

Wednesday July 23rd she got the Visa from Delbros. I never was worried. Ok..maybe a little. Hehe.

Everything is now set in place and ready to go.

Now for the fun part...adjusting to life in the USA. Especially where I live. We have all four seasons here. She is coming at the last part of Summer and will soon transition into Fall.

We have some of her native foods here in the area. Some we dont. And no Jolibee. I have no clue how she will survive without the bee. Thank God I havent seen any Durian here. I will so miss that fruit.

Well good luck to all. I will keep posting on the next step. The Adjustment of Status.

~J~

HI, am from DAvao also, and i will be flying to LAX in august 15.....

WHAT DOES THIS MEAN HELP?

I TRIED TO CHECK THIS AFTERNOON AROUND 300PM USING DELBROS TEXT

HOTLINE AND IT SAYS "MNL20078******01 HAS BEEN RELEASED FROM THE EMBASSY

AND WILL BE DELIVERED IN THE NEXT FEW DAYS..THANK YOU FOR USING DELBROS..."

IM WORRIED..ARE THEY RELEASING PASSPORT WITHOUT VISA

AND PACKETS? I SENT MY 2ND BATCH OF DOCS LAST JUL15

IM CLUELESS...=( ( MY INTERVIEW WAS JUNE10, GOT PINK AND WHITE

SLIP, JUNE18- SENT 1ST BATCH OF DOCS, JUNE24- PENDING REVIEW

OF OFFICER, JUNE 20- NSO SENT RESULTS TO USEM, JULY 1- USEM CALL

TO SENT ANOTHER BATCH OF DOCS JUL 15- SENT DOCS (2ND BATCH)

CONGRATS...VISA NA YAN...PAG MAG TEXT ANG DELBROS NA FOR DELIVERY, IT IS UR VISA ALREADY.....

Have a safe trip...

Thanks, ur turn will come next...hope sooner....

Hi ladies that are bound to US, anyone here have the same flight with me? hope we can meet and fly together, it will be a long flight then, need someone to be with....

pasabay ako ...

August 15, NWA, 7:45AM - LAX - LAS VEGAS THEN TO DEWEY, OKLAHOMA

To all,

Please PM me the following to give you a quote and your agent's info where applicable:

1. Your Zip Code

2. The size of the box you want or the box that you already have (L x W x H in inches)

3. The destination in the Philippines

4. Estimated date of shipping

5. Estimated total weight (box with the items in it) ***Usually there is no limit in the weight, but this is applicable for some locations where we do not have an agent.

Rates vary per location. The one I gave you earlier is for Houston, TX area.

Thanks,

cd

Do you have a branch in Tulsa Oklahoma....

My mahal will meet me in las vegas on August 15, will stay for a couple of days before flying to Oklahoma....

CONGRATULATIONS!!!!!!!

HI,

Don't worry about it, as long as ur given the pink slip to pay the visa delivery then you're ok. Just submit what they required of you, it will not take long as you will have ur visa. The same experience as mine, though what they asked me is to submit the divorce papers of my fiance, they also returned my passport. I submitted the documents along with my passport a month and a half after my interview, i got my visa after a month too. You're already approved, only you have to pass the documents they needed to complete your case.

Good luck.

hello fellow vj's,

I am AP for almost 3 months after my interview ...This morning when my fiance call the usembassy in manila, they told him that my visa is released and due for delivery...yohoooooooooooo . There's still a rainbow after the rain. After waiting too long i will be with my love forever. Thank vj's, this forum helped me and my fiance a lot.

To those who are waiting, just hold and hang on there, there is still a light at the end of the tunnel....

AM SOOOOOOO HAPPY.......THANKS GOD.....

YAY, Congratulations.. Hope you get your visa soon.. when do you fly? where is your POE? sabay kana saken? hihihihi

Yes, got my visa last june 27, am still having difficulty in getting a flight for aug. 15. my POE is las vegas, as we have to stay there for 3-4 days before going to oklahoma.....i wish sabay tau...

Count me in....

Dewey, Oklahoma

DAVAO CITY

COngratulations!

Thanks, wish u good luck too....

CONGRATULATIONS......

thanks, Vancouver is listed therein as one of the port of entry, i will have my papers ready then, so if ever they will ask for it, i can hand them the papers..

Thanks for the link....

Hello vj's,

Am confused with the port of entry, as i inquired with some travel agencies here, they asked me where's my port of entry.

Am bound for Oklahoma, but my fiance will meet me at Las Vegas to meet her daughters who lived there.

Want to ask if there is anyone here from Las Vegas.

Yes, my fiance want me to have PAL in going there, the route will be manila-vancouver, canada, las vegas....so u mean my port of entry will be vancouver?

Thanks...

Cora

Are you stopping in Vancouver B.C. Canada before Las Vegas on PAL flight. Someone can correct me if it has changed but the U.S. has a POE in Vancouver. It would help to know which flight you're on.

Hello vj's,

Am confused with the port of entry, as i inquired with some travel agencies here, they asked me where's my port of entry.

Am bound for Oklahoma, but my fiance will meet me at Las Vegas to meet her daughters who lived there.

Want to ask if there is anyone here from Las Vegas.

Thanks...

Cora

Hello Vjers,

My POE was Washington and I wasn't ask for my Xray film but I hand carry it coz that is what I heard to those who had gone through with it. The I-94 is important and we were told to signed it while we were at the plane. Just don't forget to bring the brown envelop coz that is really important.

Have a safe Trip! bring something to read it will help the boredom. Good luck to her!

Vida

Where we do get the I=94 form? i have my visa already but i don't have any blank form to fill-out. Thanks....