anyone4tea

HELP! WHAT DO I DO?

I'm due to go to the UK on May 17th, but have forgotten (duh) where I've put my I-551 extension letter, extending my conditional GC until September. I have just responded to an RFE, although it's unlikely I'll get my GC in time before I go.

WHAT CAN I DO??? HEEEEEEEELP!!!

Lucy

Thanks!

Question: is the Biometrics appointment different from the interview, to which I will need to take my hubby?

Thanks!

Lucy

Birth certificate for our son (now 14 months)

Bank statement showing our address

Credit card statement showing joint names

My School invoices showing our address

My pay stubs showing our address

My investment stuff showing our address

Copies of contracts for the house we've just purchased together.

I didn't include photos apart from the passport photographs - would that be an issue?

Thanks!

Lucy

Really, dont' worry. I sent mine in on 9/13 (prior to the 9/14 expiry date) and forgot teh check! Oh duh!

I called the helpline and they said not to worry - I should just return it with the RFE.

Todd,

Either file before you start divorce proceedings, or after you have received the decree absolute. If you wish to stay here (and I realize you are in a position to return to the UK if you so wish), filing to remove conditions during a divorce can put you in jeopardy of going into deportation proceedings. That can occur if an immigration judge does NOT grant you an extension.

I looked into this, the USCIS confirmed it.

I hope you won't mind my adding a quick note about your marriage: you married a) for love and B) for life. Good times and bad. This is a bad time, but it's not going to last forever. The promise you made was to stick with her, no matter what.

In order to save your marriage you have to work together with your wife to make it better and acceptable for both of you. Both sides need to concede at varying times to make it work; whether she makes some kind of concession in this situation, or you do.

Don't cheapen your marriage by bailing out. A marriage is a promise, a devotion, a dedication and a commitment. The vows aren't empty, and they don't have conditions attached to them.

Go and find this guy a replacement nurse to change his bandages, then spend some time with your wife away from the situation. If she was a fruitcake my advice would be to take her to a shrink to get her stabilized. If you were a fruitcake I'd advise the same. If all else failed and the situation was untenable, then think about separating.

Your marriage was entered into in good faith... it ought to e continued in good faith. To fail over a situation that you don't understand or don't agree on, which isn't necessarily constituting abuse to you, is bad for both of you. You cannot leave a marriage over something this trivial.

She doesn't understand your position on this. Trust me when I say this, but try marital counseling. You may be surprised by the results. It has worked wonders for myself and my husband... who were on the verge of splitting, but for far greater reasons than yours.

Good luck, Scott,

A Fellow Brit - Lucy

Christina - something you need to know...

You can waiver and file on your own ONLY under the following two circumstances:

- Divorce has not started

- Divorce has completed.

If you are in the throes of divorce, you are not entitled to file on your own. An immigration judge "may" grant you an extension until your divorce is complete... but realize that they also may not. In the case of them not granting an extension until your divorce is complete, removal proceedings will ensue.

I just wanted to make you aware, as I have looked into this myself - and confirmed with the USCIS themselves.

Lucy