gal2sail

Our visa is pending and pending after it was refused (long long story there) I tried to reverse it. The montreal embassy said they would put him (my husband) through one more test. Well, so far nothing... it has been since March of this year 2008 he was approved then they stamped rejected on his visa.

I tried to get it reversed. Worked w/the montreal officer there in Monttreal Embassy..the officer I worked with said at monreal embassy keeps saying that my husband's visa is still "pending".

This is gruelling to have to be apart with no answer in sight. Nothing. We have been married 2 yrs with no living together as yet.

I try faxing, calling and emailing same thing. We are married and haven't lived togetther yet and it has been 2 yrs.

I do not want to get a divorce but the embassay won't respond with some kind of answer. What to do?

Any suggestions out there would be helpful. Again all I get is they tell me it is pending. Each and every time.

Thank you for any suggestions like I said it was approved in March. He is in Canada, me in USA and it was approved

March of this year 2008 and then reversed (long story) and I reversed it in March and still pending. They gave him a test

and that was in April and now no word yet and here it is Octber almost.

Please any directions would be helpful.

Lost Without Husband in USA.

Debbie

debby4wav@aol.com

Hi everyone,

I've read several threads about abused spouses, Vawa filings and responses from some of you guys. I felt so sorry for the citizens trying to get their once-loved spouses deported, which isn't different than what my husband is trying to do. Love shouldn't be this cheap. Love is kind, not hurtful. Putting someone in an illegal status or deportation process is hitting below the belt, not protecting yourself. Neither do you get any benefit from having someone deported, no matter how hurt or angry you are. Doing something just because you can is not power, it's so immature. This is not good.

I'm writing here simply because I am stuck, and I really need help and insight. Please do not respond to this message speaking poorly of illegal immigrants or why they should be sent back home before you understand my story. I don't need anybody to tell me why I should go back or stay here.

I'm from Istanbul Turkey from a well respected liberal family. I met my husband two years ago when I was a student in New Jersey. When my studies ended, I simply went back to my home country. I wouldn't have gone back if I had wanted to obtain an immigrant status no matter what, he begged me to stay and marry him but I didn't. My husband came to Turkey almost once a month after I left. We were talking on the phone at least two three hours a day. He even came to Istanbul only for 16 hours to propose to me and he took a flight back to New York. He did everything he could to bring me back to the US, except for filing for a spouse or a fiancee visa.

We got married in August, 2008 and I entered the country on a visitor's visa. I didn't know that the US would recognize a marriage abroad. We were planning on a US wedding which his family cancelled after a loss in family. The original plan was that I would help him with the US wedding preparations and go back to Turkey, file for spouse visa but after my husband lost his uncle he was devastated and he needed my support. And I stayed. And we filed for green card papers.

My I-94 was valid until November, only 3 months after I entered. Since I got approved for EAD and advanced parole, I didn't worry about the I-94 expiration at all.

My husband is from a radically fundementalist christian family. Women wear headscarves and skirts only, they only wear dark colors. I didn't know any of this until we married but he knew I was Muslim and married me anyway probably hoping he could salvage me by converting me. After we started living tohether, him and his family poured out their real intentions and expectations from me. They started the brain-washing cycle pushing me to get baptised. So, our marriage didn't work out and it fell apart only in 6 months. During this time, my husband has been very abusive, especially after I rejected baptism. He started seeing other women, calling me names, not supporting me financially, being sexually verbally mentally and emotionally abusive. He gave me bruises once. He would hide my passport or threaten to get me deported. He is a porn addict, which affects his way of viewing women tremendously, like women are always ready to be men's slave or something. He tells people that I sleep with other guys (which God knows that I didn't) and speaks of me in a very humiliating way. He left home only a few days before the first immigration interview (March 20th). He didn't show up at the hearing and wrote a letter to the imm. services and he cancelled his sponsorship. The case immediately got closed. I was out of status, meaning illegal the day I received a letter from imm. services explaning their decision (March 30th)

My husband filed for a divorce immediately. I found papers in an envelope on the doormat. I don't know if I am considered as being served. In his claims, he says I entered the marriage as fraud, not in good faith. He wants me to pay for everything from apartment rent to legal expanses. He is making $160K a year and I am unemployed.

I am now facing deportation. I can't go back to my hometown simply because it is viewed as a very embarrasing situation to have your daughter back only after a few months she gets married. I also can't go back because I fear the consequences of his divorce claims. If I go now, he may say anything and get a court order against me. I simply can't stay because I am illegal. I am totally cornered.

He broke the lease and I have to be out of the apartment in just a few weeks. I have no money, neither do I have a place to stay.

I know it shouldn't be this easy to mess with someone's life. He's the one who dragged me here. Now he changed his mind and he's doing anything he can to send me back home. I am not a disposible toy for God's sake, there has to be something I can do?!? I don't have police or doctor's reports. He threatened me that if I filed something against him, the consequences would be much worse.

I've spoken with several immigration attorneys and specialists. They all say something different. Some say I can't get a legal status. Some say that I can if I file for I-360 but I can't file for I-360 or I-485 concurrently and I'd have to wait until I-360 is approved to apply for an EAD or AOS. Others say that it's really very simple to put together an application and get approved. I just want to resolve the divorce and go back to my home country. I am utterly confused. I live in New York-New Jersey area and I would very much appreciate the contact information of a reliable and knowlegable immigration and divorce attorneys here.

Please advise. Please help. I don't know what to do.

Try to get to a womens shelter they are out there.. ask local police or google it... they will help women in crisis in usa.

Don't u worry ok?

There are safe houses all around.

You will get your life back in order soon.

Trust me

If you need help finding a place i will help you online to find a place.

Debbie

Hi

Did you ever get your interview date? We are in the same boat as you. We are still awaiting our interview letter via mail for Montreal for usa embassy.

Write me back if you get a chance. Our case was closed on Dec. 18th.

Thank you so much,

Debbie

debby4wav@aol.com

debby4wav@aol.com

Have you gotten your interview yet? We haven't recieved the packet where he is supposed to get a medical exam yet. Our case was closed and forwarded to the Montreal embassy on Dec 18th.

Let me know as we are still waiting for the medical packet and the interview still.

- Debbie

Our case was closed at NVC on Dec. 18, 2007. We check usually around the 20th after the NVC is through scheduling thier interviews for Montreal, Canadian/USA embassy, and they said no interview was scheduled for my husband as of yet for Feb. So will call again on the 20th of Feb. as that is when they say to call after they have gotten all interviews set they have, and see if he is granted an interview for Feb. Can only hope. If Feb. interview is not granted for Feb. when I call on the 20th that will make it a total so far of 2 months wait. Then if it goes to March and an interview is not scheduled that will = 3 months wait so far. We are doing the I-30. So far no packet for medical or interview date in the mail. I will call on Feb. 20th to see if my husaband is scheduled for a March interview. Can only hope and pray.

Take care,

Debbie - USA TN Southeast

I just wanted to see if there are any others scheduled for their Visa interview at the Montreal Consulate on February 20th?

Stay with your husband. Good things are worth waiting for. He sounds like he does love you from his posting.

Just be patient.

It is worth all the wait.

Ok?

Take care and may God Bless your marriage.