mahboula

Happy new year! I hope all goes smoothly for you too.

She lied about me she put those reasons that they'd was not true I know my wife's son name

You keep saying how upset you are about this, but have you taken the time to figure out why this might have happened?

I'm sure you know her son's name. Maybe there was some confusion. For example, did she ask you for his full name, and you only answered with his first name instead of first, middle and last? Maybe he is called by a different name than the given name on his birth certificate, or he has a nickname. For example my father's given name is Robert, but everyone calls him Chippy. If they had asked my husband at his interview "who is Robert?", he would have had no idea. Or if they had asked him my father's name he would have answered Chippy, because I never explained the nickname to him. Maybe there was some confusion like that at your interview. That's why you need to prepare this time, like someone already suggested. Sit down with your wife and practice. Do your best to remember everything they asked you last time. See if you can figure out what went wrong.

so how can she said to uscis tht my English wa poor !

Ok, look. I don't speak another language. I have respect for anyone who learns a second language(or more), so I am not trying to insult you in any way. Your English is good, but it's far from perfect. It does seem like you speak it well enough to communicate with your wife though. Who knows why she thought it wasn't good enough. But calling her stupid and a liar and stomping your feet will not get you your visa. If they say your English isn't good enough, then what you do is prove them wrong. You've had plenty of time since your denial, so hopefully you've been studying, and your English has improved since your last interview. You still have time now, so keep working on it.

Also, it's not your native language. Misunderstanding just a few little words can result in a whole lot of confusion. Don't be afraid to ask the interviewer to repeat questions, or to clarify when you're not sure about something. I have read stories about others being interviewed who conducted most of the interview in English, however when they found something too difficult to explain in English, they explained in their native language. Sometimes you just can't find the right words, or you want to make sure you are perfectly understood.

Jut for U guys my wife vist me 6 times nd each time she stay from 4 to 6 mouth but last time she stays with me for year

That's a lot of time spent together. That's great. The more time together the better. Just calm down and prepare for your interview. Gather all the evidence that the others suggested and were kind enough to list for you. Unless there are other major issues you haven't told us about, then chances are good that you'll have a better outcome this time around.

m Moroccan man tht he get married with an American citizen since 2011

I assuming you mean you were married to an American citizen in 2011? Or did you mean your wife has been a citizen since 2011?

I applied for CR1 nd get denied for stupid reasons ....so I appeal and they reaffirmed the approval

Your wife is the one doing most of the paperwork, correct? You said " I applied" and "I appeal" so I'm wondering what level of involvement your wife has in this whole process. Are you actually doing it yourself, and just telling your wife where to sign and what documents to get?

I said stuped reason cuz the interviewer lies to me
First she said tht I didn't know my wife's son name nd I swear I talke to him more than 100 time so how I can't know his name
Sec she said tht the time tht I know my wife my English was week !!!!
So is it stuped reason or no??????

Did the interviewer lie to you or lie about you? Did she say at the interview "you don't know her son's name" ? Did she tell you your English was weak? Were those the written reasons for refusal listed on the notice your wife received?

Do you and your wife communicate in a language other than English? Was your interview entirely in English?

Did you ask your wife yet to log on to VJ?

m Moroccan man tht he get married with an American citizen since 2011 ...I applied for CR1 nd get denied for stupid reasons ....so I appeal and they reaffirmed the approval so I get an other appointment ...next month they ask me to bring my passport nd some evidence tht m married lololo <emails messages photos.....>

my question is ... did any one had passed from this process ????? anyone know anything about second interview??anyone know anything ???m so nervous

thank u guys

Like the other poster said, please fill in your time line.

Sarah is right, "stupid reasons" is not enough information. You may get denied again for those same "stupid reasons" if you haven't done anything about them, or aren't prepared to address them.

There are plenty of members who were successful at a second interview.

Is your wife a member of this site? If not, why not ask her to join? People are happy to help you, but there are just some things that are easier to explain to the US citizen/petitioner.

No, I see no point whatsoever in discussing what 20 years from now would be like. Neither one of us know who we will be or what we will feel or want or like or love 20 years from now. Our 20 year older selves have not yet been created - so it would be a discussion about purely fictional characters.

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I totally agree with you. Who knows who or where we will be in 20 years. So I understand why it's not that important for you to talk about it. However, if things work out on your visit, the two of you will eventually have an interview to prepare for. They might ask him a question like that. You have a few "red flags", and while it seems you're doing an excellent job of preparing yourself, you've got to try to see things from the CO's point of view. They have been known to ask about future plans, and have even asked very bluntly "Why do you want to marry a woman so old?", or "why don't you want to marry a younger/more beautiful/Algerian woman?" Your man should be ready to answer questions about your future together as a couple.

I always say to my friends at home, 'This is either going to be the best decision of my life, or the worst. Either way, I am prepared.'

How to prepare for the worst? Like I said in an earlier post, double check every single word that comes out of their mouth, and do your homework. So far, he's passing with flying colors. Secondly, Beauty to Ashes is right - everyone should have a pre-nup. And that goes for EVERYONE - no matter if you're marrying another American or not. We ALL should have that in place. Thirdly, ask yourself, honestly, if you will be ok in the worst case scenario. If yes, proceed. If not, stop and about face.

Never gamble with what you're not prepared to lose.

Again, you're doing what you can to protect and prepare yourself, but remember, the CO doesn't have years to get to know him. They won't ask him hundreds of questions at the interview. If a VJ member, or a friend points out something to you that is unusual, or culturally incongruent, chances are that the CO will notice it too. They may ask him about it. You won't be there. They won't ask you. While your explanations on VJ are reasonable, and informed, and you seem very intelligent, the CO won't know this. They don't care if you're prepared to be wrong about him.

You're taking your time, proceding with caution, and attempting build a strong relationship. Don't forget you will need to build a strong case. Many people "front-load" their petitions with extra photos, chat logs, etc. One suggestion, is to include some of these "deeper" conversations with your petition. Talk about the things you don't necessarily want to talk about. If they actually read the logs, then at least they'll have a chance to get to know a little bit about who you are as a person and as a couple.

As for children, we have discussed this more than once. He is Muslim, and so believes that if Allah wants him to have a child, he will give it. If he does not, then it will not come. He said even if he married someone his own age, if it was not 'written' for him to have one, it will not come. Maybe not because of the woman's age, but for some other reason. But, of course, he wants to try, and told me that there is a neighbor of his who had her first child at 50 years old. And here, I know several women who have had perfectly healthy babies in their mid to late 40s - first child. And if it doesn't happen, he said, he cannot be angry about it, or feel sad, because the decision comes from Allah, so he can only say 'thank you' - and that's fine by me

You posted in an older thread that you are an atheist. At that time, I just assumed your man was not Muslim, or perhaps not practicing...whatever. Now that you've said he is, I'm having a "things that make you go hmmm???" moment. It seems very strange to me that he doesn't have a problem with your beliefs or lack thereof. I'm no expert, so someone correct me if I'm wrong, but I was under the impression that a Muslim could/would not marry an atheist. Even if he is ok with it, I have to wonder how his family feels about it. While the two of you may be ok with it, you can be sure that it's another red flag that will make the CO do a doubletake. He should be prepared to answer questions regarding that as well.

There are, however, varying degrees of quality to those assessments. And those assessments have been analyzed for many years on VJ, and will probably continue to be, because there are no hard and fast answers that are always correct, in every situation, all of the time. Some people's ideas of what putting their SO through a scrutinizing ringer consists of can be really off. Some people's perceptions of "this action TOTALLY means he loves me forever and ever" are just, no. Some of that is just difference of opinion/values/personalities/priorities. And some of it is just #######. All kinds of opinions on this exist on the board.

According to your timeline, he hasn't entered the US yet. Is that right? Did he enter without notifying you, and with no intent to get married? Is he still in Morocco with a valid visa, planning to enter the US? I don't have phone numbers/contact info, but I know they've been posted on this site before. If you haven't taken any steps to either prevent him from coming or alert the right authority that he's here illegally, then you need to do so ASAP.

I have tried to explain to my husband about how stressful life is here and how different it is. My husband is a very laid-back person. Nothing rattles him. And he says he understands it is stressful here. But does he really get it? I have to wonder how he will handle it.

My husband appeared to be a very "laid back" person as well. What I didn't realize before he came was that he simply didn't have much to stress out about. He lived with his mother and father = no family to support, no rent/mortgage to pay. He had his own little store and went to work when he felt like it--"I'll be in around nine or ten" doesn't really fly here when you're expected to be at work. He had no children, no car payment, the HOA wasn't up his azz because the grass was two inches too long. When he said "I'll be there in ten minutes", it really meant sometime within the next hour or so. So he was laid back because he could be.

I did try to explain to him what to expect when he got here, but either he didn't believe it, or he didn't understand.

My husband is also laid back but that didn't prevent life from being rough for the first few years. Yes, years. Nothing could've prepared him for how life is here. He still fully believes that life here is better and there are better opportunities here but he did learn the hard way that things do not come easy. That realization was probably the hardest part. When I look back at the past 6 years since he's come here, I'm still surprised we made it. There were so many times I wanted to throw in the towel and I'm sure he probably feels the same.

^^^ ditto to everything she said.

I'm sorry to hear you didn't have the best outcome. I think it's actually a good thing that he got AP, considering what they said to him about using you. In not all, but most of the cases I have read on VJ, when the CO says something like that, they just refuse to issue the visa and the case gets sent back to the states. Did your fiance get a form at the end of the interview? If so, make sure he scans it and sends it to you. I'm sure the members with experience will be along soon to offer some advice and suggestions as to what you can do at this point.

For now, while it's fresh in his mind, go over the interview with him in as much detail as possible. Write it all down. See if you can figure out what might have gone wrong, or if there were any issues in particular the CO focused on. Hopefully AP will be quick, and they'll issue a visa. But, if for some reason they don't, you need to be prepared to address whatever caused the CO to doubt the relationship. Hope for the best, but prepare for the worst. Good luck!

Congrats! I hope things keep moving quickly and smoothly for you.

Hi. You can do a timeline search on this site and get a basic idea of what the wait has been like for others. It looks like the average time from NOA2 to interview in Algeria is 98 days.

My husband scheduled his interview date himself, but that was years ago, I'm not sure how it's done now. As far as the questions they ask...it all depends on your case. They ask case specific questions, along with the basics : How/where did you meet? How long have you known eachother? etc...You could try reading the reviews other members have posted, there might be some more info there. Good luck!

ok, hopefully someone can help on this question. We were put on AP (visa fiance). I have not heard anything at all and all USCIS is saying is that it is still being reviewed (doubtful). It has been 10 months and nothing. If i need to cancel this petition, how do I go about it. I am in |Morocco as I write this and considering narruage because I think they will let it expire and marriage I hope is the better solution. This is my 4th trip to MOrocco and again, as many of you out there, times you visit obviously does not make it any better. I will have been here 1.5 months already and on my last trip I spend 3 weeks on each trip. NOnetheless I am not doubting it will expire but again, my question is, how do I cancel this petition...

Hey Rose! How's it going in Morocco?

I just wanted to clarify something so you can get better answers from the members here with experience. You are not in AP. Your fiance was given a 221g and the case was sent back. AP is a different situation. I can't answer your questions about what happens next, but I'm sure someone here with experience will chime in and help you out. Good luck.

I know of an approval back in Feb for a CR-1 out of Casa. It wasn't their first try though. The case had been sent back for review once or twice. I don't remember all the details. I don't think she posts on this site.

It sounds like you are saying your wife passed away during the visa process. You would like to see her grave so you are applying for a tourist visa? I am very sorry for your loss. I don't have any answers for you, but you may want to ask a moderator to move your question to the tourist visa forum or to the MENA forum. For what it's worth, I do know a man from Morocco whose wife passed away during the process. He was denied a visa to visit the US shortly after her death. Everyone's situation is different though. I hope you get some more informed answers soon.

Hi all. We're not on the spreadsheet but you can see our dates in my timeline. We are July 2011 VSC filers and got our approval letter with a decision date of 3/20/2012. We didn't have an interview. I hope we see lots more approvals for July filers soon! Good luck everyone

I see you like the second-hand stores. There are so many of those around! Oh and here's a tip for you. Too many drivers down here don't understand the meaning of a red light. So when you're at an intersection, and your light turns green, LOOK before you go. I've had more than a few close calls.

Hi, thanks for the reply! Yes Ahmed is a Muslim, and I am a Christian. Tell me do you and your husband love the area? From everything I have heard and seen I am betting we are going to LOVE it there! Thanks for the welcome! We are both excited and almost done packing LOL!

I'm happy here. It really depends on what you're used to. For example I'm from a smaller town up north, and I was overwhelmed by how busy it is in Tampa. I do love the weather though. Some people say it's too hot or too humid, but for me it's just perfect. I've talked about moving back north because up there the pay is much better in my field, but my husband has no interest in leaving. So I guess you could say he's happy too. Make sure to check out the place you're moving to, because like anywhere, there are good and bad areas. There's plenty to do here...beaches, theme parks, museums, shopping etc. My husband also joined an adult soccer league, which helped him meet people and get out of the house. I think you'll be happy. When will you get here?

We live in the Tampa area. Is your husband a Muslim? There is a large Muslim community here.

Here is a link to the Islamic society ISTABA if he has any interest in that.

Most of my husband's friends are from either Morocco or Algeria, but I'll ask him about Egyptians. I'm really not sure.

Welcome to Florida!

You did say security concerns and/or irregular activity right? Maybe USCIS reported securtiy issues to your card companies because you sent them your card numbers? Could it be possible that whoever inspected the package for completeness and payment saw the copies of your credit cards? Maybe there is some sort of protocol for this. I mean, they may not want credit card numbers sitting around in files because who knows who has seen them or has access to them.

Congrats

Sorry about your situation. Maybe you'd have better luck getting answers if you posted in a different area of VJ. I can think of a few experienced members that may have answers for you, but they don't drop by MENA much, so may not see your post. Maybe wait a bit, and if nobody can help, talk to a moderator about moving your post to the appropriate area.

I don't doubt mahboula, like many others, finds the entire thread ridiculous. But yr comment there still managed to stand out, in a thread full of some real doozies. It stands out because you think it sounds all progressive and forward thinking, when that comment was anything but. It was just weird and condescending, and all around icky.

Ok I misunderstood. I did not see that you were agreeing with Sofiyya.

I still do not understand this comment that you made: "I would rather be marked as black and with an IQ than be identified with trailer trash and the Jerry Springer show."

The race of a nationality is determined by international agreements. Many who are in no way White are classified as White by the U.S. government because that's what their government has requested. I've started learning to teach immigration and citizenship courses and it's ridiculous how often an applicant who is obviously not White is told that's what they should check That's says more about the racism of world governments than it does about reality.

Whats wrong with being part black? I would rather be marked as black and with an IQ than be identified with trailer trash and the Jerry Springer show.

I think that if you have to jump up and down to identify yourself as not being part of a particular race, than racism is coursing through your veins at a pace stronger than you would admit

As a side note, I always tell people my daughter is African. Its what makes Moroccans particularly beautiful, that mix of arab, jewish, berber and black that many are. There is no pure Moroccan race.. thats a bunch of bunk. They are a mix of everything...and to say that there are not black moroccans is a total joke.

HIT I think you must be misreading Sofiyya's post. Where did she say there was something wrong with being part black?

I would rather be marked as black and with an IQ than be identified with trailer trash and the Jerry Springer show.

This comment is just ridiculous.