Joni

It is really sad and almost brought tears to my eyes,when I read what thia lady went thru.I doubt if there's anything as heart-rending as that.However,I am happy that your is a success story,and that you do know of others whose marriages are not scams.I've had a torrid time at the Consulate here,they've kept me and my woman apart for almost 3 years,but I don't hate them,and I don't blame them.It's rather unfortunate that a huge proportion of the men from here that get married,abandon the woman in less than 3 years.Maybe Immigration should introduce a clause that'll check that,or give the aggrieved woman right to seek justice.It is evil to use a woman in such a way.I'm happy that yours is a success story.Stay blessed!

I am sorry for what you have gone through, but I don't see what you will achieve by posting this warning. Most everyone here is aware of the risk. It's not like your post is going to make us say "Oh my God, I never even thought about that!". It has been discussed here before, and it will be discussed again. There are women that have been used, there will be more. By the time a woman is on Visa Journey they have already made up their mind about it, and I doubt that yet another warning is going to change their mind that easily.

Oh and for the record you can say that you know of 2 real marriages now. My husband and I have an age difference. He has an IR1 GC, and doesn't need to prove anything to anybody to keep it. He could walk away scott free and keep his GC. But yet he is right now sitting next to me watching a movie. I love him dearly, and I know he loves me. I know of at least 3 others that are also in valid marriages, but I would choose not to speak for them. I do encourage everyone to tell their own personal stories. And I am speaking about the ones that are like me, done with the visa process, nothing more to prove, and they are still together, as well as the ones that have been used.

Is there visa fraud? Yes. Does this apply to everyone that marries a foreigner? No. Ultimately we are responsible to find out long before we have reached this stage in the relationship. If he was a very good actor, and fooled us, then it is in God's hands to ensure that he pays the price for this horrible deed.

I do wish you the best of luck for your future. We all deserve to find happiness.

Thanks Ann.I appreciate your words of advice.GOD bless

Try to stay calm and organized. They shouldn't notice that you are worried, because your body language talks a lot....

I hope this time you will get lucky

thanks.GOD bless you

I don't know, but I wish you the best of luck.

thanks for your kind word jeseph.i wish you and your wife the very best.stay blessed

Awwwwww It will be all rite this must Be the Last time they just want to see you to see if your stoys are the seem 4real I think you got it

thanks a bunch.i really appreciate your kind & encouraging words.GOD bless.however,i am the one who's the beneficiary,not her.lol!

Look at it in a positive light, her visa has not been denied.

There are a lot of reasons for this, although I have not heard of 3 interviews before.

Like I say, there a lot of reasons why, so hang in there and pray for the best.

Please has any one on the house had to go for a visa interview three times?i just received a call from the US Consulate in Lagos, inviting me for an interview, the 3rd time.I'd love you to share your experiences with me and remember my wife & I in your prayers.We've been kept apart for so long and van't wait for this 'nightmare' to end

Please has any one on the house had to go for a visa interview three times?i just received a call from the US Consulate in Lagos, inviting me for an interview, the 3rd time.I'd love you to share your experiences with me and remember my wife & I in your prayers.We've been kept apart for so long and van't wait for this 'nightmare' to end

you know what I think man?both sisters are playing you/have played you and you fell.you are probably thwe family's bridge to america.do they have another sister or close relative,cos my take in this is that this sister will 'dump' you when the time is ripe and pass the ladder on to another sister.GET REAL & WAKE UP MAN! no sane sister marries her sister's ex for any reason.even love has certain limits.

Has anyone of you paused for a moment to think about where we'd all be now,if none of this occurred?I see a lot of you folks raising money for the victim of the war in Gaza,but no one has blamed Hamas for instigating it.Lt us assume for a moment that the tables were turned and that the Palestinians had superior military might than Israel.What would they do if the Israelis begin to shoot rockets at their civilian populations?Today,it is a rocket,but what will happen if HAMAS lays it's hands on a nuclear weapon tomorrow?The Jews are afraid and they are acting out of fright,so in as much as it pains me to see Palestinian women and children suffer,but we shouldn't forget that it is the stupidity of Hamas that has brought this upon them.If HAMAS wants to fight Israel, they should wait till they have greater or equal military capabilities,and not do something stupid that will endanger the lives of innocent Palestinians.WAR DOESN'T DETERMINE WHO'S RIGHT, ONLY WHO'S LEFT. When HAMAS was shooting rockets, none of you protested or commented about the stupidity of the act,but Israel reacts and you all are protesting.With less than the money you are raising now,you could have started a campaign warning about the futility and stupidity of Hamas actions, instead of turning a blind eye and waiting until the innocent Palestinians are suffering.Have you forgotten that when two elephants fight,it is the grass that suffers?

I am neither on the side of Israel or the side of Hamas,but on the side of common sense.How come when Russia invaded Georgia, none of you made a comment?This should not be an issue of religion but an issue of acting right.Some say that the Israelis are using disproprotionate use of force.what should they have done?Drop one bomb or fire back one rocket for every Hamas rocket?PLEASE!

I do hope that your money goes a long way to help the victims of the war,but next time,I think a campaign against such foolish acts of provocation carried out by Hamas should be campaigned against,to prevent the kind of situation that we see now.

GOD BLESS YOU ALL!

That's strange,because they always collect the fee, they ask you before you can go to the next stage. Maybe they were being generous to you gys, maybe you were just blessed you know, maybe they will ask for it on the day he goes to pick his visa, who knows....

Peace and Blessings.

When do you pay your fee? I thought it was at the time of the interview. My husband 1st interview was July 7th, 2008. They never collected a fee from him. I thought it was because he was put on AP and wasn't going to get his Visa.

His 2nd interview was on Wednesday 10th, they still have nto collected the money for the Visa.

Now I am curiouse if he should have paid this at the first iterview???

Thank in advance for any help.

Missy J

This 'AP' thing is one of the biggest frustrations that I have faced in my whole life.I wouldn't pray for my enemy to go through it.I was interviewed January 30, given a slip which says that the Administrative Process will average about 6 months.It's going to 11 months and nothing.It's so frustrating cos we don't know what step to take next.We can't even make concrete future plans because we still don't know where we are going to start our home, whether she'll just leave everything behind and come join me or if I will get to go join her.

Bottom line: Prepare and pray hard before your interview.

PEACE AND BLESSINGS!

I've been interviewed twice.The first time, I was given a white slip stating that I didn't produce enough documentation/ evidence, and so the case has to go through 'Administrative Process'. 8 months later,I went for another interview.'The Second time, I wasn't even asked a question, the lady just read the case file, and the gave me a 'green slip' which contained the same info as the first one,about the case going to 'Administrative Process' again.She wouldn't even look at the additional evidences that I brought along.

Please I would like to know what the 'green slip' means, if there's any meaning to the slips.It's been over 10 months since that second interview and I still haven't heard from the Consulate.My wife and I are so frustrated by this and are at our wits' end.Can anybody help?

Thank You

your husband's action just makes his feelings for you questionable.you've not even gone one-tenth of what my wife & i have gone thru & he's already throwing in the towel. my wife & i got married in 2006, i was denied the K-3 in may 2007, the k-1 in january 2008, and the embassy said they'll get back to my in roughly six months time.it's 10 months and we haven't heard from them.when we e-mail to ask for update, they either give the same one line vague replies or don't reply at all.my parents weren't at our wedding, and that was what caused the problem.the lady that interviewed me called my marriage a sham because of that, and i got refused the second time for the same reason.what has kept me going, is the fact that my wife has stuck to me all thru it all.we've not seen each other for over 2 years, but have to make do with web cams, chats, e-mails, text messages and phone calls, and she has decided that she'll move down to Nigeria to live with me, is they don't call me anytime soon or decide to refuse me again. for that, i don't really care about their visa anymore.though i know that she'll be happier in her own home and if i come to join her, i really wouldn't mind if the reverse is the case. I'm determined to go the extra mile to ensure that she is very very very happy in Nigeria,if it comes to that. I count myself a very blessed man, despite the difficulties that we are facing, cos I got myself a wife that is a rare gem, one in a billion. anyway, I do wish you well with your husband, i just think that the fact that he is ready to chicken out at the first hurdle you face, questions how deep his feelings for you are. marriage is not a bed of roses, and he should know that. it does have ups and downs, which may come in different ways. peace and blessings!

Welcome to VJ. I wish you and your spouse the very best. I'm also new here; my wife and I are waiting for me to be called for the K1 visa interview.

Regards,

Josh

I was denied the K-3 visa after the CO learnt that my parents were not at our wedding.Why is this so? I didn't want them to come because they expressed so much fear and doubt in our union and I decided not to invite them to something they don't believe in. Also,NVC informed me that they are thru with processing our K-1 application over two months ago, and we were told that I'd be contacted by the Embassy for interview,but I haven't heard from them since then. Is there anything wrong?