richlyn

to you justashooter

i appreaciated your advice, i just want you to let you know, firts i always respect my husband specially appreciated all the things his done to me,second im not a bad temper or fighting person,he is but im just quiet im not fighting back,second all im saying here is true not false like he put my 4 years old daugther on the rain and cold outside for 20 munites or so because she didnt listen to clean her bedroon or what,he didnt tell me leave him alone,he told me many times GET OUT OF MY HOUSE THIS IS MY HOUSE ok,about HELP i help him thats why i work because i dont wanna hear anymore that we burden here,you are right im not american born thats why my english so bad... again all im saying here is true and all real things happen ok...

thats why i here to ask advice what im gonna do becuase i dont know where to go..but i give him a chance...

TO wexford65

IM NOT A QUIET HERE IM JUST BUSY AT MY WORK.AND ALL IM SAYING HERE IS TRUE AND REAL THINGS HAPPEN,IM SAYING NO PHISICAL ABUSE,im just immotionally specially for my children, HE JUST ALWAYS SAY SOMETHING BAD TO ME AND COMPLAIN OR BLAMING ME FOR EVERYTHING...Example:get out of my house and he put all my stuff in other bedroom, evrytime when we argue, you know what you feel if your husband or wife tell you like that...

Did you perhaps just get custody of your 2 children?

the kids have been here for 8 months. they are good kids. they have no manners or skills. but i am working with them. there mother sits in front of this pc 6 to 10 hours a day while the kids watch cartoons. the tv is a baby sitter. and no, there has been no abuse. maybe u should ask the richlyn to tell all these folks the truth. then u gus can call her a MF, this is the husband. i don't like people who bash others without all the facts. thanks and have a great day.

You should call police and report abusse of you and your children, I wish you everything the best

get the facts before u give out this kind of advice. thanks

You're the husband on the wife's account?

Talk about invasion of privacy.

joint account. would u like people lying about u?

THIS IS RICHLYN ,ALL IM SAYING HERE IS TRUE NO LIE... SINCE HE READ THIS MESSAGE HE TALK TO ME RIGHT AWAY AFTER HE READ, HE KNOWS THAT THE ADVICE I GOT HERE IS TRUE..

I JUST WANNA SAY "THANKS A LOT" TO ALL YOUR ADVICE AND I VERY VERY APRECIATED AND YOU MADE ME STRONG...

LYN

As others have said here, it is clear that there are issues in the relationship that desperately need addressing. As none of us can actually determine either side of the story -- especially without being personal witnesses to what's going on -- I would strongly suggest that they either discuss it between themselves, or that they see a marriage counsellor -- again, as others have said.

We should refrain from accusing either side of dishonesty, and let them sort it out between themselves. While we can offer helpful advice, we don't really have all the facts in front of us. I wouldn't want to make any suggestions that could cause further damage to the relationship than there already is. This is especially important because of the kids involved.

Best of luck to you both, and I hope that this gets sorted out.

Magpie.

ALL IM SAYING HERE IS TRUE...THATS WHY WHEN MY HUSBAND READ THIS HE TRYING TO TALK TO ME AND MAYBE HE DONT WANT TO GET TROUBLE BECAUSE HE KNOWS ALL ADVICE I GOT HERE IS RIGHT

HELLO TO ALL VJ

HI THIS IS RICHLYN MY HUSBAND AND I ARE TALK AND EVERYTHING IS WELL NOW, SINCE HE READ THIS MESSAGE AND HE REALIZE WHAT HIS DOING TO ME I AND I HOPE THIS IS START OF OUR NEW LIFE.

I JUST WANNA SAY" THANKS A LOT" TO ALL YOUR ADVISE I VERY VERY APPRECIATED, YOU MADE ME VERY STRONG....

LYN

here goes,

My Fiancee fessed up to me on the phone just earlier, she comes from a poor family for Hilongos Leyte, she left and went to Manila to find a job, when I met her she was working at a waterstation. Now here is the kicker, she said its been on her mind for a very long time and wanted to tell me this so she can clear her conscience. During our conversation out of the blue she told me that she needed to tell me something, she said she used to work at a BEER HOUSE and would have sex with men for money, she claims she only went out 3 times till she no longer can take it as she was starting to lose respect for herself. Should I be affected by this ? should I lose sleep over this ? right now I am in a world of confusion and so much thoughts are racing thru my mind.

WHAT DO I DO ?

WHAT would you guys do ?

ADVISE ME PLEASE ?

hey man, take time and breathe. all of us who married phis know life there is not the same as here. ask yourself this question, how many women have u have sex with in your life? if u love her, think somemore. don't have regrets. best of luck.

richard

Very twisting!!! there is always two side to a story! but u can't help the fact when someone is putting a thread in distress your going to do everything in your will to help them, and u can't help not bieng judgemental if u only here one side of the story. Man! Im confused Hope everthing works out for U and your wife.

yes, very cofusing. i think we all could use a good support group. sometimes its hard to make the right choices. i am sure of my choice in my wife. my heart says its happy. so i go with it.

Did you perhaps just get custody of your 2 children?

the kids have been here for 8 months. they are good kids. they have no manners or skills. but i am working with them. there mother sits in front of this pc 6 to 10 hours a day while the kids watch cartoons. the tv is a baby sitter. and no, there has been no abuse. maybe u should ask the richlyn to tell all these folks the truth. then u gus can call her a MF, this is the husband. i don't like people who bash others without all the facts. thanks and have a great day.

You should call police and report abusse of you and your children, I wish you everything the best

get the facts before u give out this kind of advice. thanks

Sounds like you "may" have taken on more than you can handle. Get your wife a job or doing something to keep her off the PC. Maybe you are to nice and not strict enough.

I had a similiar problem until my wife went to work and my stepdaughter learned English better and got involved in school .

To much TV or PC isn't good for anyone.

Did you buy them a ticket to leave?

yes. at her request. the day and time she wanted. she wabted dec. 11, 2009. the kids don't want to go eithere. they will be the biggest losers. they will be much better off if all stay here. i am sure of that. the auguing is all ways about money. she cannot budget. so many nsf's , the bank called me. i am trying to teach. she just doesn't get it. but i will not give up.

Did you perhaps just get custody of your 2 children?

the kids have been here for 8 months. they are good kids. they have no manners or skills. but i am working with them. there mother sits in front of this pc 6 to 10 hours a day while the kids watch cartoons. the tv is a baby sitter. and no, there has been no abuse. maybe u should ask the richlyn to tell all these folks the truth. then u gus can call her a MF, this is the husband. i don't like people who bash others without all the facts. thanks and have a great day.

You should call police and report abusse of you and your children, I wish you everything the best

get the facts before u give out this kind of advice. thanks

Sounds like you "may" have taken on more than you can handle. Get your wife a job or doing something to keep her off the PC. Maybe you are to nice and not strict enough.

I had a similiar problem until my wife went to work and my stepdaughter learned English better and got involved in school .

To much TV or PC isn't good for anyone.

i agree. i am trying. i love her very much .

I hope everybody is safe, maybe go for Counseling if both side agree to it. marriage is not easy, it's the Biggest Roller Coaster in the world, in life. What's important at the end of it you look back and ask yourself worth is worth it.

Now that you are reading this, you can see how your wife feel, at time communication can be a major factor, maybe she hasn't been able to express her thought to you clearly, so at least take it on a positive note not as a bashing.

God Bless!!

thank u for good advice. it is difficult when languages are different. life here has been a large adjustment for her. i relize this. i try to help , but she has friends here that live very different. i work 70 hours per week . i have no regrets in our marriage. i love her then, i love her now. but some here are giving very bad advice. that hurts when i read it.

Did you perhaps just get custody of your 2 children?

the kids have been here for 8 months. they are good kids. they have no manners or skills. but i am working with them. there mother sits in front of this pc 6 to 10 hours a day while the kids watch cartoons. the tv is a baby sitter. and no, there has been no abuse. maybe u should ask the richlyn to tell all these folks the truth. then u gus can call her a MF, this is the husband. i don't like people who bash others without all the facts. thanks and have a great day.

You should call police and report abusse of you and your children, I wish you everything the best

get the facts before u give out this kind of advice. thanks

You're the husband on the wife's account?

Talk about invasion of privacy.

joint account. would u like people lying about u?

Did you perhaps just get custody of your 2 children?

the kids have been here for 8 months. they are good kids. they have no manners or skills. but i am working with them. there mother sits in front of this pc 6 to 10 hours a day while the kids watch cartoons. the tv is a baby sitter. and no, there has been no abuse. maybe u should ask the richlyn to tell all these folks the truth. then u gus can call her a MF, this is the husband. i don't like people who bash others without all the facts. thanks and have a great day.

You should call police and report abusse of you and your children, I wish you everything the best

get the facts before u give out this kind of advice. thanks

hell to everyone

i have to go back in the philippines even i dont want it, because my husband USC want me to get out of his house he told me that he dont love me anymore so he just want me to send back in the philippines,i have two children and his not own children we argue too much almost everyday 1 week we not talk, me and my children has 2 years gc. i dont really like the way he treat me, he always complain evrything like expences even i help to buy grocery and give my salaryi know is not e enough but atleast i help, he always slapping on my face what hes done to me that make me feel so bad i felt like i trash and nothing he say bad something to me and my children my daugther 4 years old he put my daugther on the rain outside for 20 munites my son told me about it because i was in work that was happen she got wet because she doesnt listen like clean her bedroom and pick the mess and he always ask my son to help him like clean the house clean the 18 wheeler truck it was very cold outside with no jacket or hut sometimes mow grass he treat my 9 years old son like adult whitch is not really bad but i felt sad to my son that it was hard for him...my husband bought ticket for us for next week and i dont want to leave because i have work here. i just want to know if i can able to comeback here with my children after visit or stay in philippines because he said he going to call to uscis to deport me if i dont leave this country and ban here in america.and how long to process the devoce here?

Is that possible for him to deport me before or after the divorce is final?

I am holding a 2-yr GC and it will expire on June 2011. Can I still file for removing of conditions after all that happened or he can ban me for getting one?

sorry my english so bad hope you understand...thanks and i would appreaciate

lyn

Hello VJERS,

My aos was received by USCIS Sept 30, 2008. It was last touched on October 24, 2008 and it's been more than 3 months now and yet, it hasnt been touched and I havent received an interview letter yet. It was past 3 months already in the National Benefits Center (meaning it's past their timeframe) and I'm starting to worry.

Do you think I must have a service request for it? Or should I go for an info pass?

If anybody have the same situation, please contact me.

Thanks and God SPEED!

hi we had same delimma i file last week of june 2008 and my case is in ther national benifit center too,and still i havent receive my green card or interview schedule i got my working permit but still no green card yet...we just pray and patient....thanks

god bless to all of us....

Did they go to window 37 after the consul`s interview? Window 37 will be the one to tell them the instructions to pay at Air 21 counter for the delivery. Maybe your mother didn`t notice her number being flashed again for window 37.

I was interviewed also yesterday jan. 28 and you really have to be attentive to the numbers flashing for your turn.

The air 21 slip was given to us at the beginning to be filled up but had to pay after the interview.

hello,

yes my mom go to the other window 18 after consular interview and said they just go back to home and wait for visa delivery, they give air 21 slip and she fill up the form but they not ask pay for visa delivery is why i worry,

to all vj

hello to all vj member my children had interview today as k2 visa with my mom and the consular said approved,and wait the visa to deliver.thanks god. but i just wonder becoz embassy not ask my mom to pay for visa delivery,how they deliver the visa since they not ask??? my mom said she fill up form air 21 but they not ask to pay.

thanks i will appreciate your reply guys...god bless to all of us!!!

lyn

hello

i just want to know if i need to file I-824 form in uscis for k2 visa or "follow to join" they say i have 1 year to apply for my kids to come here in united state. thanks

you do not need to file the I-824. it's not one year to apply for a K-2 visa. the K-2 Visa will have to be issued within one year from the date your K-1 visa was issued. you contact the Embassy when you are ready to schedule an interview. make sure to allow enough time to schedule an interview.

hi roy and yazi

thank you so much for the quick responce!!!god bless

hello

i just want to know if i need to file I-824 form in uscis for k2 visa or "follow to join" they say i have 1 year to apply for my kids to come here in united state. thanks

HELLO TO ALL VJ

hi guys pls help can you give me advise step by step to apply for k2 visa or "follow to join" whats the procedures? thanks and god bless to all of us.

USCIS asks for all W-2's and 1099's. Everybody who works should get a W-2 from their company, but not everybody gets 1099's. You receive a form 1099 if you have any kind of interest/dividend income. For example, if you have a savings account, your bank will send you a 1099 at the end of the year showing how much interest you earned.

If you don't have a 1099, then make sure you don't have any interest/dividend income listed on your 1040.

You'll also get 1099's if you do freelance work. My wife and I get tons of those as musicians...

I believe you can order copies of all W2s and 1099's directly from the IRS, as well as tax transcripts if you don't have your 1040.

hello thank you very much,i will send only w-2 to DHS,i hope no more RFE i wont....

USCIS asks for all W-2's and 1099's. Everybody who works should get a W-2 from their company, but not everybody gets 1099's. You receive a form 1099 if you have any kind of interest/dividend income. For example, if you have a savings account, your bank will send you a 1099 at the end of the year showing how much interest you earned.

If you don't have a 1099, then make sure you don't have any interest/dividend income listed on your 1040.

hello thank you so much for responce i very appreciated...good luck

I also got RFE and they asked me for the same documents -even though I KNOW I sent them everything with my AOS. Anyway, I sent them again: FEDERAL INCOME TAX RETURN and W-2s. That`s all my husband has and that`s all I could sent. Hopefully it will be enough for them. I really don`t mind receiving mail, but I hope I won`t get another RFE!

hello thank you for reply,hope we not receive another RFE,good luck and god bless to all of us...

I'm not a tax expert, but I got a 1099 from my bank at the end of the year that reported the interest earned for the year, which is taxable income...a W2 you would recieve from your employer stating your total wages earned for the year and a listing of all taxes withheld...good luck

hello thank you for your fast responce.good luck and god bless....

hello to all vj member

i just want to know what`s the diffirent of w-2 and 1099?because i receive RFE pink paper notice and say IN ORDER TO PROCESS YOUR APPLICATION FURTHER,THE PETITIONER/SPONSOR ON FORM I-864,AFFIDAVIT OF SUPPORT,MUST SUBMIT ALL SUPPORTING DOCUMENTATION (W-2s,1099s,ETC) SUBMITTED TO THE INTERNAL REVENUE SERVICE (IRS) FOR THE MOST RECENT TAX YEAR....I WILL SEND ALREADY OF MY FEDERAL INCOME TAX RETURN WITH MY AOS CHICKLIST.

MY HUSBAND HAVE ONLY W-2 BUT NO 1099,ITS OK IF ONLY W-2 I SEND TO DHS?

THANKS.......