Niblet & J

Wow that's great advice thanks!!

We aren't even DQed yet - submitted papers in Feb to NVC. 

Looking at the current DQ dates (Jun 21/ Jul 21) that have received interview letters this month, I think it is more than likely we will get the interview around our 2nd anniversary. 

Ohhh that makes sense. I didnt think of it that way. 

On the monthly visa issuance statistics I notice CR1s are issued a lot less than IR1s and IR5s.  Is it just because there are  fewer applicants in this category or are they not considered as important as IR1 and IR5?

I dont know much about the immigration process but here's my own personal experience -

Our lawyer asked my husband to write a letter too with a relationship timeline - in our case we got married with only two witnesses in a different city cause my family didnt approve of our relationship. When they finally accepted, we had a big wedding a few months later. We didnt submit it with i-130 but we sent it to the NVC as an additional document. 

The lawyer said it is better to include this cause my husband had to contact the US embassy here at one point for advice cause things had been pretty bad between us and my family and he felt unsafe. 

Thank you! That's exactly what I wanted to know. 

We submitted ZERO evidence of relationship other than marriage papers - no photos, nothing.

 That's what worries me.

2 hours ago, annesmom said:

We have pending 1-130 CR1 at USCIS. I am tempted to file I-129 coz some are saying it. But why I have to do it? We were at K1 process last year, almost to the interview but got married and do the process all over again. The reason we gave it up coz we didn't want my husband to come to the US without work for many months. What if they approve K3 first this time (there is no knowing what USCIS will do) it will be the same boat on the process we gave up? 

I dont think it did us any good. We only filed it cause the lawyer insisted.

I have collected whatever I could get my hands on- rental agreement, boarding passes, hotel docs etc. And ofcourse photos of us with my family. But I dont know how to add them to the application at this stage.

Our lawyer didnt even include his passport stamp scans during the filing. I have no clue why.

Hi everyone!

My i130 was approved today but we submitted very little evidence of relationship- just marriage papers.

I wanted to know the best way to submit additional evidence to the NVC. I understand from different discussions that they can be mailed? 

I couldn't access the case status website for hours today and then finally saw the 'actively reviewing' status.

Just relieved to see at least something is happening.  Been waiting about 5 months. 

Thank you all for the wonderful suggestions!

I will let my husband know about all the things discussed in the thread so far.

And yes I dont know why the lawyer suggested K3, I wasnt too keen on it to be honest. As for the evidence with the i130 and 129f, I wanted to wait till we had more evidence in terms of time spent together but she wanted those filed right away. She said the evidence can be submitted later but we needed our case in the queue because of the time it was taking to process them. I dont know whether this was the right move. I guess only time will tell. 

Hi everyone! 

I recently read a thread about an age-gap case and it has got me really worried. My husband is 30 years older than me and I don't think the Dhaka embassy gets many couples with such a large age-gap if at all.

Let me briefly outline our relationship and some of the areas I think may be red flags for a visa officer:

1. We met in Dhaka on August 2019. He was consulting on my family's business and we met twice on that trip. We were stuck in the car for 6 hours on the second day and we realised we shared a love of books,  same morals, beliefs etc. We started communicating via email and then Whatsapp after that.

2. Dec 2019 - My brother accidentally discovered our emails while using my laptop. Now we both knew that due to our age difference my family would have a hard time accepting our relationship. My brother didnt tell any one else but discouraged me to take it any further. I deleted my emails and Whatsapp history (lost evidence of our chats from then) and started using Signal (better security). We also decided that we needed to meet in-person. I was planning on doing PhD so I applied to universities close to him. 

- potential gap in communication evidence

3. He was supposed to visit for a consultation on March 2020 but by then COVID was pretty serious and we never got to meet that year.

4. In April 2020, I received a full scholarship from the university nearest to him. Unfortunately embassies were closed worldwide and my deadline to enter the US expired in Oct 2020. I had filled up the application for student visa online but never got to book an interview. I had contacted the university several times. My parents were unaware of my relationship with John and they tried to contact the embassy too through the Foreign Ministry. We even got a letter from the embassy telling us to try Thailand or India (even though the borders were closed -_-). I lost the scholarship and in my desperation I told my family in the hope they might agree to sponsor my studies so I could defer entry to Jan 2021. I was wrong.

- I dont know whether I should submit papers related to this? 

5. I knew they would be angry but I didnt expect them to take away my passport, my phone and my laptop. Threatened my husband, threatened me. Safe to say it was a mess. After 2 months of this, I pretended to cool things off with John so that I could get my passport back. We decided then that we would marry in secret. (and yes even at 30, I was living with my parents - we only leave the house once we are married)

6. March 2021 - we got married in secret. He was here for 5 days. (We have only a few photos from the trip). 

7. April 2021 - We filed our i130 AND K3. The lawyer my husband hired only submitted our marriage papers but didnt submit any photos, chat records, his travel history etc. She said it is only needed at the NVC stage.

-Is she correct? I found it odd.

8. June 2021 - I left home without telling anyone and turned off my phone. My husband came over to Bangladesh for 3 weeks. We stayed at an Air BNB and travelled around the coast (Have lots of photos - but it's only the two of us) By the end of the second week I turned my phone back on and after a lot of phone calls, my family agreed to accept him. During one of the phone calls things got pretty heated and they threatened to have him arrested with false charges. My husband notified the embassy in case they were serious (the embassy told him to go to the local police -_-). 

9. After things cooled down a bit we agreed to meet up with them and they arranged a formal wedding with family and friends )have lots of photos with different people). Soon after, my husband went back to the US. He was planning on coming to stay with me again but he tested positive for COVID and he cannot travel yet. He is okay, he only has mild symptoms. He is planning on staying here as much as possible till my visa gets approved.

Based on our crazy timeline do you have any suggestions on how we could provide proper evidence of our relationship that can help explain the mess? He changed his personal bank account so now it's jointly in our name after our lawyer suggested 'shared financial assets'. And most of the bills on this recent trip were paid from that account using the card under my name. Before the account, he sent me money through a send money app. It was just for gifts. He doesnt need to support me as I have a job. (Sorry this post is so long)

Hi everyone!

I just wanted to know what would be considered as 'good evidence' in case of relationships.

My husband is 30years older than me. We met in person back in Aug 2019 as he was a consultant for my family's business. Our relationship was mostly online since the pandemic started and we couldnt travel.

Due to our age difference, we were certain that our relationship would never be approved by my family so I applied and received a full scholarship for a PhD for Fall 2020 to the US. Unfortunately the embassy (Bangladesh) never opened on time and I lost the scholarship. Around the same time my family found out and took away my passport (and made several threats to hurt him and me) so I couldnt apply for the January 2021 session either. I never got the chance to book an interview at the embassy.

We decided to get married and on March 2021 we married in secret (my husband was only here for 5 days). We submitted our I-130 through a lawyer in California but she only submitted papers of our marriage but did not submit any relationship evidence. She said it was not necessary at that stage. (????)

Anyway, back in June my husband came over for 3 weeks and I left home which led to my parents first threatening and then finally accepting and then arranging a 'proper wedding' that included many family and friends. The embassy had to be informed of the threats as my family was threatening to have him arrested on false charges. My husband is planning on coming for another 3 weeks this month. 

I know our case has many red flags so I kinda wanted to know whether we should explain this complicated issue in a letter? Also, what is considered as 'good evidence'? We do have a few photos from his first trip when we met and then a few from when we got married and now a lot of photos from his trip last month. He does send me money but not to support me as I have a stable job and my family is pretty well off. He changed his savings account to a joint account cause the lawyer told him 'shared finances' is good evidence?