jeanie

For the record, I'm in my 30's, in case that's anyone else's business...several people have myspace pages on here, careful who you insult. Thank you everyone for all your support, those of you who have been supportive. Those of you who haven't, thanks so much for confirming my view of the human race as a whole...

I have made my decision. No one will be bothered by me anymore.

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Wow, good job bringing up that I've been grappling with the same issue for a while. Geez, you must be some sort of computer whiz or something. Osiris and I are breaking up...sheesh, have a freaking heart.

I think I'm in trouble. I think I am still in love with my ex-husband I left him because I met Osiris online. But my husband is here, and Osiris is there and so completely untouchable. I don't know what to do. Christopher is married now to another woman, maybe I've lost him too. I was his high school sweetheart, and we were married for a long time...and my feelings for him are still there. Osiris was new, exciting, exotic and romantic, and I think maybe that's what I fell for. Osiris seems a little too exotic for me right now. What I need is comfort and familiarity. The visa process is too grueling, I don't think I can do the expense or the emotional turmoil of the process. I may need to get away for awhile. And to think I started my Myspace page to feel closer to him...and he can't even get online to add me as a friend

(Typing quietly) Not trying to jinx anyone...of course...I was just wondering because we've had so many (good thing of course!!) approved at interview as of late...But the child together, way you met, etc. might be playing into it some. Maybe I'm just looking for a way to speed up my process though I'm no where CLOSE to interview yet...still waiting for NOA2

I think this question might have been posed on another post, but I can't find it. Does anyone know why the wait time between interview to visa is moving so much fast as of late than it had in the past? It seemed when I first logged on here people were talking about minimums of 3 mos of AP, and now it seems that everyone who has an interview is immediately approved...and then there are the poor souls who have been waiting months, or even years...did they forget about those people? I was just wondering if anyone knew why it's this way (I'm not complaining mind you!)?

I love reading all your answers so far! I should have put a "We're already non-smokers" option on there...sorry. My downstairs neighbors smoke...it's against the lease, and we have been assured by the landlord that it's not happening...funny, it doesn't smell like it's not happening!!!

This is my first poll, I hope it works. I thought of this poll when I was reading some people's posts about where you can and can't smoke in the states. I don't care what Osiris has to do...but he's not smoking in my house!

For those of you who are getting married soon, or have been married recently...how are you financing your weddings? Are they going to be big or small? Casual or formal? This is my second, I've got children and sort of a cash shortage...and weddings, even small ones, are EXPENSIVE! Looking for some good tips!

Thanks

I plan on changing my name when I marry Osiris. I did not change my last name for my first marriage...it was a point of contention...sometimes I wonder why I'm willing to do it now, but not then. I think it really irks my ex! And even to me it does sort of make him seem less important I guess. What do you think that says?

Thank you everyone for your opinions...some helpful...some less so. I was sort of shocked that on a "support" website that the first response I got was SO harsh, but ok, everyone has stong feelings on the subject, I get that. Yes, I met Osiris while I was married, yes, it contributed to the break up (though it was not the cause of the break up) of my marriage...as I told my ex, he filled a need that was not being filled before. My ex's parents hate me for the reason stated, in their eyes, I did something very bad and hurt thier son and my children in the process. Osiris and I have a wonderful time together, and great conversations and when I'm there with him, it's amazing...but there's this in between time when phone calls and e-mails don't really cut it, you know? If I had been successful with the friends with benefits arrangement I don't know if I would have told O or not...I can't imagine he'd be in love with the idea...and I wouldn't if it were reversed...I put that in there originally to illustrate some of the trouble I was having...it's hard to go from married to one guy that you live with to in a relationship with another that's an ocean away...there are certain benfits of having the guy right next to you that I miss...can you honestly say you don't? Anyway, your opinions are appreciated, I will continue to read them while I am doing this soul searching.

Thank you,

Jeanie

So you're jealous that your ex can have sex whenever he wants with his new wife, but you can't?

i'm not sure the ex's new wife swings that way.......

Thank you She's nice and all...but....

Hi everyone. I've been a member of this site for a while now, but had yet to post (honestly I just figured out how to today! And I thought I was computer saavy...guess not!). I've very much enjoyed reading everyone's posts over the last couple of months (since THAT I could figure out!). I haven't added a whole lot of information on my profile as of yet, since I guess I'm not so sure how I want to go about this process. Let me give you a run down of where I am (forgive me for sharing my first time out of the gate):

I met my SO a few years ago...on the internet of course. I wasn't actively looking, but it just happened. I was married at the time, though we were having some issues, we have 2 small children. We have subsequently divorced, and my SO and I talk when we can, try to everyday, and I love him...he's understanding, he tells me what I need to hear, makes me feel wanted and needed. Meanwhile, my ex is in a relationship, and I just discovered that he is getting married...now he's a good guy...never did anything really WRONG to me...we have 2 children together...and he seems really happy, which is good, for him and the kids...but I guess I'm jealous...he is able to get married, and he lives with his fiancee, and I have only seen mine in person for the total of about 3 weeks...even though we've been "together" for a few years. I have to admit that I even did attempt to do the "friends with benefits" approach with the ex (though he refused) right after we split up for good...I guess that was something I didn't quite want to give up...so I'm wondering what everyone thinks about this? My family has been somewhat supportive of me, though sometimes I think they'd rather keep my ex His family, on the other hand, hates me! We were married for quite a while, so that's an adjustment...I don't know...am I alone in feeling this way? Everyone on here seems so sure! My SO is wonderful...but my ex doesn't look so bad from a distance either, and he doesn't require all this paperwork!....maybe I'm jealous of his happiness...or maybe you don't know what you've got til it's gone.