asianbeauty

ggeezz, can't stand not getting the last snippy-smart a$$ word in? why can't people just leave her alone. go pick on your dog or something.

and you just cant stand not to let ppl speak if they want to? did i appoint you as my mommy? i dont think so.. therefore if you dont like what im saying, dont read it. easy as that

no, i'm not your mommy or daddy. i just don't understand why you fell the need to be judgemental & crappy to everyone. do you feel you're lacking in some way? were you not given enough attention when you were a child? or is it just a personality flaw?........notice i didn't single you or anyone else out in any of my comments?

I was answeing you as you seem to feel you are the ONLY one allowed to continue to comment.

maybe your thriving for attention, not getting enough at home? and you singled me out in THIS last comment you just made. so who is the judemental one now?

and i wasnt being judgemental or crappy to her, i was stating exactly what she wrote in her OP. nothing i said was fabricated.

again if you dont like what i write, ignore it, no one is making you read it.

I say, If you dont like what I ask, dont answer it, ignore it, nobody is making you read it. LOL

Oh ok, I was just confused for a moment about what you quoted and then mentioned joemama...

ahem coz I think this thread got so long coz of his thinking: A chance at "free" money? Sure why the hell not. I see she posted another thread in the K1 forum asking about qualifying income. Does 1+1 actually equal 2?. What a nice response, huh?

Sure. That is probably when I had become "pangit" and started having a set of coconut nuts. Correct? And then you went on to tell me how I am ashamed of being Filipino and I hated pinay's. Correct? My, how we forget so conveniently

you responded nicely so I got to response nicely too. Youre a real man!

I agree, but I think you are talking to a wall here.

Then...if you chose to go to a superexpensive restaurant vs one of the famous chain-restaurants or you prefer designer purses to ordinary purses, that's a personal reference and if she or they will be able to afford it, we can't and shouldn't judge anyone for that.

Is it materialistic thinking? I think so, money isn't everything, but it is up to everyone themselves to decide where and how they spend their money.

The fact that they haven't met yet is a totally different story and again, that is for them to see how things will be once they meet.

I agree with you partially, I don't think people here are judging her for liking expensive things, she sounds materialistic for the fact that she hasn't even met her fiance yet.. and her concern is how she'll go shopping to "rich" stores and go to "rich" restaurants. Also if you've read that first post, you'll see how upset she got when some of us suggested to meet him first before starting making wedding plans.. she practically told people to shut up! Meeting the person you'll marry first, it's a matter of common sense to me but she was so offended when people said that.

So the lesson to learn here for the OP, is that people wont be rude to her in the States nor anywhere in the world.. UNLESS she is rude to them first, which has already been proven here in this long thread!

I agree 100%...that's basically what I have said (or tried to) in previous posts.

I am adult already I dont need parental guidance, why dont go straight answer?, I got upset because it is like she/he made fun of my question. I just really wanted to talk about visa processing that is why I am here. Why do you have to parent me, dont you see that I am adult? Really just wanted to talk about the process. And, seems like you want to pick on me and remind the other post made several days ago, LOL. And I say how is it your business? you just want to argue?

I have zero interest on giving your 'parental guidence'. It is a fact that many online relationships go down the drain after meeting in person, so planing a marriage with someone you have never seen nor talk to in person, only by phone.. isn't very smart! But since you already know it all.. there's no use on telling you that. AGAIN, all I'm saying if you're RUDE and arrogant like you were in that first post you made, people will be rude to you too. You don't have to be a genius to figure that out.

Another unsolicited advice I'll give you is, if you don't want to pass as ignorant asking about obvious things, I suggest you do some more reading before asking. You write good english, I bet you can read and understand the guides, the forms and all the material available here in VJ. People have pointed out that question you made about your fiance's income because it was extremely easy for you to read the guides, the forms or whatever to find your response, and when you asked you made it seem like you wanted them to do the math for you, when it was something so simple you could do yourself.

And then we wonder why do Americans have all these misconceptions about girls that come from third world countries (I, myself, coming from one of those countries) and I guess this thread shows exactly why!

I was new here, I didnt see any guidelines yet, thats why I asked. About income I got the right answer already, this guy just wanted to make fun of me.

it says GUIDES real big on the site at the top, cant miss them. as a matter of fact when you start an acct you are ADVICED TO READ THE GUIDES. and no matter where you go on this site, the guides tab follows you.

I see that guide tab here yes, but I dont mean that kind of guide. I was talking about the k1 guidelines that was pasted here when I asked the question.

I agree, but I think you are talking to a wall here.

Then...if you chose to go to a superexpensive restaurant vs one of the famous chain-restaurants or you prefer designer purses to ordinary purses, that's a personal reference and if she or they will be able to afford it, we can't and shouldn't judge anyone for that.

Is it materialistic thinking? I think so, money isn't everything, but it is up to everyone themselves to decide where and how they spend their money.

The fact that they haven't met yet is a totally different story and again, that is for them to see how things will be once they meet.

I agree with you partially, I don't think people here are judging her for liking expensive things, she sounds materialistic for the fact that she hasn't even met her fiance yet.. and her concern is how she'll go shopping to "rich" stores and go to "rich" restaurants. Also if you've read that first post, you'll see how upset she got when some of us suggested to meet him first before starting making wedding plans.. she practically told people to shut up! Meeting the person you'll marry first, it's a matter of common sense to me but she was so offended when people said that.

So the lesson to learn here for the OP, is that people wont be rude to her in the States nor anywhere in the world.. UNLESS she is rude to them first, which has already been proven here in this long thread!

I agree 100%...that's basically what I have said (or tried to) in previous posts.

I am adult already I dont need parental guidance, why dont go straight answer?, I got upset because it is like she/he made fun of my question. I just really wanted to talk about visa processing that is why I am here. Why do you have to parent me, dont you see that I am adult? Really just wanted to talk about the process. And, seems like you want to pick on me and remind the other post made several days ago, LOL. And I say how is it your business? you just want to argue?

I have zero interest on giving your 'parental guidence'. It is a fact that many online relationships go down the drain after meeting in person, so planing a marriage with someone you have never seen nor talk to in person, only by phone.. isn't very smart! But since you already know it all.. there's no use on telling you that. AGAIN, all I'm saying if you're RUDE and arrogant like you were in that first post you made, people will be rude to you too. You don't have to be a genius to figure that out.

Another unsolicited advice I'll give you is, if you don't want to pass as ignorant asking about obvious things, I suggest you do some more reading before asking. You write good english, I bet you can read and understand the guides, the forms and all the material available here in VJ. People have pointed out that question you made about your fiance's income because it was extremely easy for you to read the guides, the forms or whatever to find your response, and when you asked you made it seem like you wanted them to do the math for you, when it was something so simple you could do yourself.

And then we wonder why do Americans have all these misconceptions about girls that come from third world countries (I, myself, coming from one of those countries) and I guess this thread shows exactly why!

I was new here, I didnt see any guidelines yet, thats why I asked. About income I got the right answer already, this guy just wanted to make fun of me.

it says GUIDES real big on the site at the top, cant miss them. as a matter of fact when you start an acct you are ADVICED TO READ THE GUIDES. and no matter where you go on this site, the guides tab follows you.

I see that guide, yes, but I dont mean that kind of guideline, I was talking about the k1 guidelines.

I agree, but I think you are talking to a wall here.

Then...if you chose to go to a superexpensive restaurant vs one of the famous chain-restaurants or you prefer designer purses to ordinary purses, that's a personal reference and if she or they will be able to afford it, we can't and shouldn't judge anyone for that.

Is it materialistic thinking? I think so, money isn't everything, but it is up to everyone themselves to decide where and how they spend their money.

The fact that they haven't met yet is a totally different story and again, that is for them to see how things will be once they meet.

I agree with you partially, I don't think people here are judging her for liking expensive things, she sounds materialistic for the fact that she hasn't even met her fiance yet.. and her concern is how she'll go shopping to "rich" stores and go to "rich" restaurants. Also if you've read that first post, you'll see how upset she got when some of us suggested to meet him first before starting making wedding plans.. she practically told people to shut up! Meeting the person you'll marry first, it's a matter of common sense to me but she was so offended when people said that.

So the lesson to learn here for the OP, is that people wont be rude to her in the States nor anywhere in the world.. UNLESS she is rude to them first, which has already been proven here in this long thread!

I agree 100%...that's basically what I have said (or tried to) in previous posts.

I am adult already I dont need parental guidance, why dont go straight answer?, I got upset because it is like she/he made fun of my question. I just really wanted to talk about visa processing that is why I am here. Why do you have to parent me, dont you see that I am adult? Really just wanted to talk about the process. And, seems like you want to pick on me and remind the other post made several days ago, LOL. And I say how is it your business? you just want to argue?

I have zero interest on giving your 'parental guidence'. It is a fact that many online relationships go down the drain after meeting in person, so planing a marriage with someone you have never seen nor talk to in person, only by phone.. isn't very smart! But since you already know it all.. there's no use on telling you that. AGAIN, all I'm saying if you're RUDE and arrogant like you were in that first post you made, people will be rude to you too. You don't have to be a genius to figure that out.

Another unsolicited advice I'll give you is, if you don't want to pass as ignorant asking about obvious things, I suggest you do some more reading before asking. You write good english, I bet you can read and understand the guides, the forms and all the material available here in VJ. People have pointed out that question you made about your fiance's income because it was extremely easy for you to read the guides, the forms or whatever to find your response, and when you asked you made it seem like you wanted them to do the math for you, when it was something so simple you could do yourself.

And then we wonder why do Americans have all these misconceptions about girls that come from third world countries (I, myself, coming from one of those countries) and I guess this thread shows exactly why!

I was new here, I didnt see any guidelines yet, thats why I asked. About income I got the right answer already, this guy just wanted to make fun of me. It is like for me he pointed about my question again because I wanted free money and that because I asked for income too so that's involves money again, and he thinks from my question is that I am a gold digger? That's what I thought.

Why did some people have to repeat my old post anyways? If I was rude to that person in the other room, that was several days ago already, and this forum is about visa processing and not parental guidance. It's like you kept wanting to start this thread by talking about my previous posts that was answered already. What was wrong with my question here on this thread anyway?, did I ever offend anyone with my question?

I agree, but I think you are talking to a wall here.

Then...if you chose to go to a superexpensive restaurant vs one of the famous chain-restaurants or you prefer designer purses to ordinary purses, that's a personal reference and if she or they will be able to afford it, we can't and shouldn't judge anyone for that.

Is it materialistic thinking? I think so, money isn't everything, but it is up to everyone themselves to decide where and how they spend their money.

The fact that they haven't met yet is a totally different story and again, that is for them to see how things will be once they meet.

I agree with you partially, I don't think people here are judging her for liking expensive things, she sounds materialistic for the fact that she hasn't even met her fiance yet.. and her concern is how she'll go shopping to "rich" stores and go to "rich" restaurants. Also if you've read that first post, you'll see how upset she got when some of us suggested to meet him first before starting making wedding plans.. she practically told people to shut up! Meeting the person you'll marry first, it's a matter of common sense to me but she was so offended when people said that.

So the lesson to learn here for the OP, is that people wont be rude to her in the States nor anywhere in the world.. UNLESS she is rude to them first, which has already been proven here in this long thread!

I agree 100%...that's basically what I have said (or tried to) in previous posts.

I am adult already I dont need parental guidance, why dont go straight answer?, I got upset because it is like she/he made fun of my question. I just really wanted to talk about visa processing that is why I am here. Why do you have to parent me, dont you see that I am adult? Really just wanted to talk about the process. And, seems like you want to pick on me and remind the other post made several days ago, LOL. And I say how is it your business? you just want to argue?

I have zero interest on giving your 'parental guidence'. It is a fact that many online relationships go down the drain after meeting in person, so planing a marriage with someone you have never seen nor talk to in person, only by phone.. isn't very smart! But since you already know it all.. there's no use on telling you that. AGAIN, all I'm saying if you're RUDE and arrogant like you were in that first post you made, people will be rude to you too. You don't have to be a genius to figure that out.

Another unsolicited advice I'll give you is, if you don't want to pass as ignorant asking about obvious things, I suggest you do some more reading before asking. You write good english, I bet you can read and understand the guides, the forms and all the material available here in VJ. People have pointed out that question you made about your fiance's income because it was extremely easy for you to read the guides, the forms or whatever to find your response, and when you asked you made it seem like you wanted them to do the math for you, when it was something so simple you could do yourself.

And then we wonder why do Americans have all these misconceptions about girls that come from third world countries (I, myself, coming from one of those countries) and I guess this thread shows exactly why!

I was new here, I didnt see any guidelines yet, thats why I asked. About income I got the right answer already, this guy just wanted to make fun of me.

1st excuse my English. Thank you.

I would like to know my rights as a legal resident there when I am married to an American Citizen.

What can I do if I will be discriminated in going inside a rich restaurant or shopping at rich stores, and they don't want me inside because of my ethnicity? One of my friends from the Philippines went inside a store, she could afford to buy the store's products but she wasn't treated well because she is Asian. I don't want that to happen to me. Can I sue them? what about if others are too harsh on me; nasty words, disrespecting me, insulting where I came from, etc.. I can excuse 1-3times I think but if I couldn't take it anymore?

Please advice. Thank you very much!

In order to sue you have to establish and prove there were damages to sue, in USA stores reserve the right to refuse service. I suggest if you know of a plac elike that just don't honor them with your business and go elsewhere. You can not sue someone simply because they disrespected , insulted you or said "harsh words". Now if they published or broadcast things about you that caused damages to your career or life such as libel or slander then that is a different story.

Thanks a lot! That's very nice to read!

ggeezz, can't stand not getting the last snippy-smart a$$ word in? why can't people just leave her alone. go pick on your dog or something.

and you just cant stand not to let ppl speak if they want to? did i appoint you as my mommy? i dont think so.. therefore if you dont like what im saying, dont read it. easy as that

no, i'm not your mommy or daddy. i just don't understand why you fell the need to be judgemental & crappy to everyone. do you feel you're lacking in some way? were you not given enough attention when you were a child? or is it just a personality flaw?........notice i didn't single you or anyone else out in any of my comments?

I was answeing you as you seem to feel you are the ONLY one allowed to continue to comment.

maybe your thriving for attention, not getting enough at home? and you singled me out in THIS last comment you just made. so who is the judemental one now?

and i wasnt being judgemental or crappy to her, i was stating exactly what she wrote in her OP. nothing i said was fabricated.

again if you dont like what i write, ignore it, no one is making you read it.

I say, If you dont like what I ask, dont answer it, ignore it, nobody is making you read it. LOL

Oh ok, I was just confused for a moment about what you quoted and then mentioned joemama...

ahem coz I think this thread got so long coz of his thinking: A chance at "free" money? Sure why the hell not. I see she posted another thread in the K1 forum asking about qualifying income. Does 1+1 actually equal 2?. What a nice response, huh?

ggeezz, can't stand not getting the last snippy-smart a$$ word in? why can't people just leave her alone. go pick on your dog or something.

and you just cant stand not to let ppl speak if they want to? did i appoint you as my mommy? i dont think so.. therefore if you dont like what im saying, dont read it. easy as that

no, i'm not your mommy or daddy. i just don't understand why you fell the need to be judgemental & crappy to everyone. do you feel you're lacking in some way? were you not given enough attention when you were a child? or is it just a personality flaw?........notice i didn't single you or anyone else out in any of my comments?

I was answeing you as you seem to feel you are the ONLY one allowed to continue to comment.

maybe your thriving for attention, not getting enough at home? and you singled me out in THIS last comment you just made. so who is the judemental one now?

and i wasnt being judgemental or crappy to her, i was stating exactly what she wrote in her OP. nothing i said was fabricated.

again if you dont like what i write, ignore it, no one is making you read it.

I highlighted my favorite part:

This is never ending. Some of you like to bash, LOL, ok, have fun! How helpful they are, LOL

I didn’t mean to say to sue everyone who are rude, or sue every rude ppl that I will encounter, rude people are everywhere, the smart ones will just have to ignore them, stay away. I meant to say this person will be rude all the time when he sees me, for example calling names, saying things that are bad,’’filipinas are gold diggers’, that hurts, I said I can excuse few times what if he/she does that so often???. Yes, I am well-off in the Philippines, but I wont be rich in America, hiring housekeepers is not possible for me there. I heard from some other people who are rich, some of the sales clerks give them that look, I am not stupid to sue them because they are not nice, that’s a waste of time. I meant to say, I wont be accepted eating at a restaurant because I am asian and that because I am from the poor country even though I can afford to eat there. I don’t mean to say I will sue them when they are not being nice, so I can have free money; just that they will discriminate me because I am asian and when they discriminate me for being asian, can I sue them?, (racial discrimination). Thank you to those who told me that.

Without being judgemental in any way, but I think this explaines a lot, where she is coming from....

Bravo to Joemama! whataman!, such a real man.

i almost forgot that ppls opinions on VJ was concidered being rude. how dare me *slaps hands*

If the OP didnt want opinions about what she was asking, she should have asked off the forum to someone else.

The fact is if you air yourself out then your opening yourself to critisim, a difference of opinion, agreements and ppl who will just think your crazy. Its the chance you take on a public forum. If the OP only wanted answers that she could agree with, again ask someone who you know will agree with you.

If the OP dont like some of the answers or comments given to her on here, she can ignore then or just not respond to them.

In my opinion half of what she was telling us was irrelavent to her question, which made her look to some ppl as superficial and self centered and materialistic. I think a simple " if im descriminated against can i sue?" would have been a better choice of question other than announcing she KNOWS she will not be allowed in a rich resturant and rich stores and so on.

Great thanks a lot for your time!

I agree, but I think you are talking to a wall here.

Then...if you chose to go to a superexpensive restaurant vs one of the famous chain-restaurants or you prefer designer purses to ordinary purses, that's a personal reference and if she or they will be able to afford it, we can't and shouldn't judge anyone for that.

Is it materialistic thinking? I think so, money isn't everything, but it is up to everyone themselves to decide where and how they spend their money.

The fact that they haven't met yet is a totally different story and again, that is for them to see how things will be once they meet.

I agree with you partially, I don't think people here are judging her for liking expensive things, she sounds materialistic for the fact that she hasn't even met her fiance yet.. and her concern is how she'll go shopping to "rich" stores and go to "rich" restaurants. Also if you've read that first post, you'll see how upset she got when some of us suggested to meet him first before starting making wedding plans.. she practically told people to shut up! Meeting the person you'll marry first, it's a matter of common sense to me but she was so offended when people said that.

So the lesson to learn here for the OP, is that people wont be rude to her in the States nor anywhere in the world.. UNLESS she is rude to them first, which has already been proven here in this long thread!

I agree 100%...that's basically what I have said (or tried to) in previous posts.

I am adult already I dont need parental guidance, why dont go straight answer?, I got upset because it is like she/he made fun of my question. I just really wanted to talk about visa processing that is why I am here. Why do you have to parent me, dont you see that I am adult? Really just wanted to talk about the process. And, seems like you want to pick on me and remind the other post made several days ago, LOL. And I say how is it your business? you just want to argue?

damn, there was some long post on this today. again i think many people are reading too much into her words. let's be honest:we're all a little materialistic. noone is going to tell me, they haven't seen a really nice car or house & thought "i wish i had that". and noone is immune to getting a little aggressive if they think they're being picked on.

asianbeauty: i wish you & your fiance well. don't let peoples desire to question your motives or character bother you or keep you from posting questions here. if you have a question you think may be taken the wrong way by some, feel free to pm me & i'll answer it as best i can. BTW: i kinda like the fire in your attitude.

LOL, thanks, smoke20.

Goodness, that post was a long time ago, why does it have to be repeated here when it was answered??? ok, you want to pick on me!

I didnt have other motives except to know my rights, learning tips, ideas, suggestions. Some of you think so differently, and spying on my other post too?, have you got nothing to do? LOL, go ahead enjoy yourself! So, do you mean to say that I cant join here without a timeline yet? IS this exclusive only for people with timeline? some of you judge right away really as in I'm materialistic because I mentioned rich things, income,??? Goodness, LOL

So what if I havent met my fiancee yet and I wanted to know these things in advance how is that your business?, if you didnt want to argue why not talk straight to the question that it's not possible that we have to meet first...

Some of your thinking is not nice really. I'm not talking about everybody, of course there are some who just answer straightly and not being judgmental.

Can my fiance sponsor me even before meeting in person?,,, no u cant, u must meet 1st, read the guideline here..., O, thank you. Goodness, that was all I need! and some of you judge right away as to what my motive is, About income again, goodness, you judge right away.

Such a long thread, and I am tired of it. Thanks for judging! I hope you're happy.

Correct me if I am wrong but is this room exclusive only to those with timeline already?

I think we're done bashing her at this point, nane1104.

But.......but.......I still want to bash her!

Actually, that made me LOL.

This is never ending. Some of you like to bash, LOL, ok, have fun! How helpful they are, LOL

I didn’t mean to say to sue everyone who are rude, or sue every rude ppl that I will encounter, rude people are everywhere, the smart ones will just have to ignore them, stay away. I meant to say this person will be rude all the time when he sees me, for example calling names, saying things that are bad,’’filipinas are gold diggers’, that hurts, I said I can excuse few times what if he/she does that so often???. Yes, I am well-off in the Philippines, but I wont be rich in America, hiring housekeepers is not possible for me there. I heard from some other people who are rich, some of the sales clerks give them that look, I am not stupid to sue them because they are not nice, that’s a waste of time. I meant to say, I wont be accepted eating at a restaurant because I am asian and that because I am from the poor country even though I can afford to eat there. I don’t mean to say I will sue them when they are not being nice, so I can have free money; just that they will discriminate me because I am asian and when they discriminate me for being asian, can I sue them?, (racial discrimination). Thank you to those who told me that.

As for my question in the other room, I wanted straight answer. It is my life, I am old enough to know what to do except of course the visa processing that’s why I am here.

“Can my fiancée sponsor me even before meeting in person”? the answer is no, why some people has to say so many words. And I really appreciate those who gave me straight answer, “No, you can’t you have to meet in person first….”, THAT’S IT’, but giving me parental advice?, or other than answering straight, I don’t need that. Although you can comment, I couldn’t stop you. That’s waste of your time. And, I just wanted to talk about the visa process really. None of your business!!!

And another question I asked which was repeated here again was about income I wanted to know how much my fiancée has to earn in order for him to qualify to sponsor me. I got straight answer, thank you very much, but then from the tone of a Fil-am guy it’s just like because I talked about suing and income he thinks differently like I am suing for free money. I appreciate those who answered politely, something like, “ AsianBeauty, if ppl are rude to you, saying nasty words, just stay away, or report to the manager, there is a law on discrimination, read immigrants rights here.... Some said there are laws on racial discrimination and pasted a good link here… which was helpful, thanks to those who pasted the link to immigrants rights, not a lot of blahs, ‘why is that your concern, blah blah, never helpful…

I cant just sue anybody there because they the waitress/waiters don’t smile at me while eating at a restaurant, there must be good reason. “why do I have to think of that knowing my rights in advance when I am not even there yet??? because I have heard lots from other fellow country men who has experienced racial discrimination. It could happen to me. And, thanks to those who answered politely. And, why some of you have to repeat my other questions if it has been answered already?, like meeting in person, and qualifying income, it’s like you wanna pick a fight, LOL, ok, you can have fun, enjoy it.

Some of you just judge right away, and your answers are not helpful, just to make fun really. I don’t mean all of you! Why couldn’t some of you regulars here answer politely and straight to the question??? I was like huh? What kind of forum is this?, a bashing room? Can’t you just answer questions without being sarcastic, straight answer?, hello, none of your business! if I asked if my fiancé can sponsor me even without meeting in person, can he, or cant?, your blah blah blahs, is not helpful and see that I am adult? Parental guidance is not needed, what I need is visa processing ideas/tips/suggestions.

Mind your own business, and talk about the process, will you?, to those who likes bashing, ok, have fun!, to those who answered straight and talked to me about the process, thank you very much! Or maybe bashing is part of this forum?, ok, maybe you’re very proud now of your bashing responses. Never helpful!

And, to the Korean guy, who feels superior, flat nose me? LOL, ugly me?, hey, we wouldn’t have won 2 miss universe title if all are ugly here, Chinese/Spanish/Filipino is very common here, there are lots of us here. I myself is one of them. I have been to your country with banks that don’t allow Filipinos. I speak fluent mandarin I could pretend I am Chinese but no, I am still flipino and I am proud of it. Poor country so what but not all are poor here. Gold diggers?, not all! There are gold diggers every where! Say that while you’re here, you’ll be back in Korea inside a coffin, ooops…(joking)

Enough.

Now, I think I can sue him, LOL. Nah, just screw him.

Ok, keep bashing and enjoy it! your answers would be very very helpful, LOL, be proud of your bashing, thanks!

“AsianBeauty” if you think some people replying to your post isn’t being nice to you you don’t have to be like them.

i agree with girlfromphils.

we shouldn't expect everyone to be nice to us. hope you wont get me wrong when i tell you that you have to learn to tone down a bit. you will learn more when you get along with your bf. americans are very straigthforward. when they say it, they mean it. a NO is a NO and a YES is a YES. that's what i like about them. sometimes you will find them rude for being blunt, but most of the time, they have no intention of getting you hurt.

when my fiance and i decided to do the K1, he oriented me first...the life in the US...etc. in order not to have culture shock. im telling you life there is so different (based on what my fiance, cousins and relatives told me) so is the people. but if you know how to deal with them, surely you will do fine.

yes, you are right. thanks! there was nothing wrong with my questions i think, something is wrong with the tone of their comments. they misinterpreted me.

Your grasp of the English language is what is going to get you in trouble. You come off as being combative/makulit.

LOL. ALL i wanted was answer related to my question, why some blah blah blahs, and give comments as in why am i asking coz i want free money... blah blah.

i see... ok that's good. so when is he coming to see you? any plan yet?

Sept.5 I am here to learn, and not expecting some rude comments.

ppl give answer/ideas/suggestions and not making fun of what I am asking, just about my question, parental guidance, thank you very much but see im an adult, lol. it's like some ppl think i am asking my rights in advance, knwoing what to do when im being discriminated at stores misinterpreted as gonna have free money,planning to go shopping to expensive stores, buying loius viouton bag makes me a gold digger?,wow.

It seems I missed all the fun last night! So I got called "ugly" in Filipino? Big deal. I know I'm about as beautiful as a person can be. I don't hide the real person I am behind a fake photo of a magazine model. At least, you could have chosen a 1/2 decent model of real "beauty". I know who I am, what I am, and there's nothing you can do to make me feel otherwise. I will not give you approval to make me feel inferior. As I have obviously, done to you.

If I were allow you to do that to me, I would be upset too. But I'm not.

Your quote had me laughing so hard!

"My purpose to go there is to marry my fiance, we'll of course go shopping as well, once in awhile we'll go to an expensive restaurants/ shopping at stores selling signatured stuff... yes, be nice and I will be nice, someone not being nice so i told him pangit, lol, which is true. i am always nice in posting questions here, but some people really like to say things that are not nice so.

I am proud to be pinay! not a closet pinay, unlike others.

There is a word for this type of person....hmmmm....GOLD DIGGER!!!!!!!! BLAYAD!!!!

I have a whole family of pinays that are in their old age now. Your so-called "physical beauty" is not going to last forever.

Yes, I am Filipino and proud of it. I'm American first and foremost. I was born here. I don't need to dig for gold. Whenever I choose to go to another country, acting ignorant while being arrogant, is something I don't see that will help you. Most Americans aren't going to tolerate you and you're not going to find yourself being happy here. If this is the way you're going to respond to people here in the USA, I don't think your soon-to-be husband will be getting very much attention. You're going to be spending most of your time filing complaints against everyone who you think is not being nice and believing they have discriminated against you. On this last note, WELCOME TO THE USA!!!!!

Ok, filipino Joe, LOL you sound like you don't like pinays, so you got yourself a white lady, LOL. Buying signatured stuff doesn't mean a person is a gold digger I love Louis Viouton bags, so when I am there I plan to go shopping at their stores and not to worry about it's authenticity, ya know. So if that store wont let me in because I look asian discriminate me to shop and probably will think I cant afford to buy any of their stuff, they will let me out, so I asked what can I do, just in case? No, I didn't mean to say filing complaints all the time when ppl like you are rude, knowing my rights when I am there, is what I meant. Stores wont let me in for being asian which is open to public but wont let me in, can I sue them. Ignorant, yeah when I didn't know the the rights of immigrants but now I do, because I asked question, and I got answers. knowing your rights in advance wont mean being arrogant, that's being wise.

I could not believe a Filipino man my country man could be so rude to a filipina. You were born and raised there, but still you are Filipino in blood.

do u speak tagalog?

I think it was the "tone" of your response....................

have you read the start of this thread? who was not being nice at first???

I think it was the "tone" of your response....................

i think so...

by the way asianbeauty, were you the one who asked in the other thread if your bf can file a K1 visa even if you two didn't meet yet in person? im just curious that's why i asked. hope you dont mind me asking.

yes

I think it was the "tone" of your response....................

i think so...

by the way asianbeauty, were you the one who asked in the other thread if your bf can file a K1 visa even if you two didn't meet yet in person? im just curious that's why i asked. hope you dont mind me asking.

yes

I got answers to all my questions. Thank you very much. End of topic.

I dont mind you asking. I got the answer, I got the answer to my questions here knowing my rights. Satisfied!

I think it was the "tone" of your response....................

i think so...

by the way asianbeauty, were you the one who asked in the other thread if your bf can file a K1 visa even if you two didn't meet yet in person? im just curious that's why i asked. hope you dont mind me asking.

yes

I think it was the "tone" of your response....................

i think so...

by the way asianbeauty, were you the one who asked in the other thread if your bf can file a K1 visa even if you two didn't meet yet in person? im just curious that's why i asked. hope you dont mind me asking.

yes

I got answers to all my questions. Thank you very much. End of topic.

HELP! I'M GOING TO CRY! I'VE BEEN CALLED A "COCONUT"! OH PLEASE!

You're gonna have to call me more than a damn coconut for you birds to offend me!

With so many of you rallying together to call me whatever you wanted, it just reminded me of this photo:

The funny thing I am asking myself, being Filipino also, how many of you Filipinas might be related to me?

Not me for sure! shame on your attitude, probably if you can deny being pinoy probably you will.

LOL, COCONUT NUTS.

Funny how the word "NUTS" must roll right off of your lips!

Since you decided to point with your comment that you are better than my fiancee' because she is "white", it's not my attitude that needs changing. It's not me who needs to adapt to a new environment and culture. It's you when you come here. The only person who has shown they are racist and discriminating, is YOU. You turn your nose up and make comments like that about white women when you're here in the US, and you're sure to have a white American woman knock you on your butt. American women come in other colors also. Black, brown, yellow, and red. It won't matter to them that you're darker skinned. American women won't put up with that bullshit. We are a very diverse nation of cultures from all over the world. It's my RIGHT to choose what lady of skin color I want to marry. I am not ashamed and don't deny I'm of Filipino heritage. But because I'm Filipino, that doesn't mean I have to give you any special treatment. Ethnic backgrounds or where a person comes from doesn't make any difference to me. If I don't like someone, I just don't like them. If you think that I am rude, as we say here in America, you're in for a very RUDE AWAKENING! I'm fairly tame. You're going to encounter people much worse than I could ever be in my lifetime.

It makes me laugh that you wish to know your "American" rights. That's fine. Wouldn't it be smarter to be asking a qualified attorney-at-law about your exact rights? You should've done that before accepting a marriage proposal to an American man. You seem to be more focused on our streets that are paved with gold, our mansions with swimming pools, and sports cars. Don't forget to fill out Form 411 to collect your $1,000,000.00 dollars when you arrive at your Point of Entry.

You are certainly entitled to these materialistic rights as our American movies always show the world!

ok, dude, whatever. so when you're asian you apply for a work and you are not accepted because the manager said you are asian, do you just shut up, and find another job?

You got too much to say when I just wanted to know my rights, nah i dont feel i am better that your gf, you go to a store and they say youre not allowed coz they said you're asian, you will just shut up. why do i have to go to an attorney to ask just to ask for my rights?, whats the booklet for in USCIS web site anyway, when i know my rights and someone discriminated me thats the time to see a lawyer. Racial discrimination even happens to american citizens there how much more if you are a new immigrant.

That's fine. Wouldn't it be smarter to be asking a qualified attorney-at-law about your exact rights? No, i don't think so.Wouldnt it be smarter to read the rights of immigrant first before hiring a lawyer? What's so funny to know the immigrants rights anyway?

I dont think I gave any comments about white women, where did you see that?

HELP! I'M GOING TO CRY! I'VE BEEN CALLED A "COCONUT"! OH PLEASE!

You're gonna have to call me more than a damn coconut for you birds to offend me!

With so many of you rallying together to call me whatever you wanted, it just reminded me of this photo:

The funny thing I am asking myself, being Filipino also, how many of you Filipinas might be related to me?

Not me for sure! shame on your attitude, probably if you can deny being pinoy probably you will.

LOL, COCONUT NUTS.

Funny how the word "NUTS" must roll right off of your lips!

Since you decided to point with your comment that you are better than my fiancee' because she is "white", it's not my attitude that needs changing. It's not me who needs to adapt to a new environment and culture. It's you when you come here. The only person who has shown they are racist and discriminating, is YOU. You turn your nose up and make comments like that about white women when you're here in the US, and you're sure to have a white American woman knock you on your butt. American women come in other colors also. Black, brown, yellow, and red. It won't matter to them that you're darker skinned. American women won't put up with that bullshit. We are a very diverse nation of cultures from all over the world. It's my RIGHT to choose what lady of skin color I want to marry. I am not ashamed and don't deny I'm of Filipino heritage. But because I'm Filipino, that doesn't mean I have to give you any special treatment. Ethnic backgrounds or where a person comes from doesn't make any difference to me. If I don't like someone, I just don't like them. If you think that I am rude, as we say here in America, you're in for a very RUDE AWAKENING! I'm fairly tame. You're going to encounter people much worse than I could ever be in my lifetime.

It makes me laugh that you wish to know your "American" rights. That's fine. Wouldn't it be smarter to be asking a qualified attorney-at-law about your exact rights? You should've done that before accepting a marriage proposal to an American man. You seem to be more focused on our streets that are paved with gold, our mansions with swimming pools, and sports cars. Don't forget to fill out Form 411 to collect your $1,000,000.00 dollars when you arrive at your Point of Entry.

You are certainly entitled to these materialistic rights as our American movies always show the world!

ok, dude, whatever. so when you're asian you apply for a work and you are not accepted because the manager said you are asian, do you just shut up, and find another job?

You got too much to say when I just wanted to know my rights, nah i dont feel i am better that your gf, you go to a store and they say youre not allowed coz they said you're asian, you will just shut up. why do i have to go to an attorney to ask just to ask for my rights?, whats the booklet for in USCIS web site anyway, when i know my rights and someone discriminated me thats the time to see a lawyer. Racial discrimination even happens to american citizens there how much more if you are a new immigrant.

That's fine. Wouldn't it be smarter to be asking a qualified attorney-at-law about your exact rights? No, i don't think so.Wouldnt it be smarter to read the rights of immigrant first before hiring a lawyer? What's so funny to know the immigrants rights anyway?

...as for the idea that a store can refuse to serve anyone...

Shunned Women Refused Service, Sues Store

Ruth Irene Garrett, the ex-Amish woman whose fascinating book Crossing Over I reviewed a little while ago, has filed a lawsuit against an Amish thrift store for refusing to serve her. She has been excommunicated from the Amish and is shunned by the Amish community; she, however, insists that this doesn't justify ignoring anti-discrimination laws.

The Lexington Herald-Leader reports (via Internet Infidels Forum):

[W]hen Garrett was turned away from an Amish thrift store, its owner called it a case of religious freedom because taking money from the excommunicated comes with a risk of being thrown out, too, and damned to an eternity in hell. “Personally, I don’t feel like I did anything wrong,” shop owner Erma Troyer said.

The Human Rights Commission heard the case this past month and a recommendation could come early next year. In addition to unspecified damages, Garrett’s complaint seeks an order requiring Troyer to serve anyone and training to familiarize her with civil rights law.

Troyer says that serving people like Garrett would be a violation of her religion. That’s true. However, what if it were a violation of her religion to serve blacks? To serve mixed-race couples? Would it still be acceptable for her to engage in this discrimination? I don’t think so. A person’s right to practice their religion cannot extend to actions which undermine the public good, and the public good is harmed when stores that are open to the general public are able to discriminate like this.

It’s true that Garrett’s choice to leave the Amish carried consequences, including being shunned by the Amish. These consequences cannot, however, be supported by the state in the form of special exemptions from generally applicable laws. The Amish wouldn’t be exempt from laws against killing or raping ex-Amish, obviously. Why? Because such actions violate the rights of those being harmed and undermine the general public good. The same is true when it comes to the sort of discrimination described above, even if it’s not to the same extreme degree.

If the Amish are going to open stores that admit the general public, putting them into direct and regular contact with non-Amish, they have to accept the fact that they are becoming directly engaged with an outside world which does not follow their religious doctrines. This may make it difficult for them to maintain a closed enclave run by their religious doctrines. The forms of discrimination which they engage in privately, on their farms and in their private lives, can’t necessarily be accepted in public and while operating a business.

Having strong religious beliefs does not exempt one from the law.

http://atheism.about.com/b/a/223518.htm

Thank you for the link.

Interesting.http://www.iidb.org/vbb/showthread.php?t=144480

asianbeauty, it's not exactly a common occurance in the US for a person to walk into a store and for the people in the store to say "you cannot come in". I really don't think you have anything to be so concerned about. If something does happen, you'll do what anyone would do -- talk to the manager and if need be, contact the corporate office to discuss further. People don't normally sue for poor customer service or for being treated rudely.

But it happened to Julia Roberts in "Pretty Woman"....

LOL.

thanks kitkat, that's good to know.

HELP! I'M GOING TO CRY! I'VE BEEN CALLED A "COCONUT"! OH PLEASE!

You're gonna have to call me more than a damn coconut for you birds to offend me!

With so many of you rallying together to call me whatever you wanted, it just reminded me of this photo:

The funny thing I am asking myself, being Filipino also, how many of you Filipinas might be related to me?

Not me for sure! shame on your attitude, probably if you can deny being pinoy probably you will.

LOL, COCONUT NUTS.

It seems I missed all the fun last night! So I got called "ugly" in Filipino? Big deal. I know I'm about as beautiful as a person can be. I don't hide the real person I am behind a fake photo of a magazine model. At least, you could have chosen a 1/2 decent model of real "beauty". I know who I am, what I am, and there's nothing you can do to make me feel otherwise. I will not give you approval to make me feel inferior. As I have obviously, done to you.

If I were allow you to do that to me, I would be upset too. But I'm not.

Your quote had me laughing so hard!

am behind a fake photo of a magazine model. At least, you could have chosen a 1/2 decent model of real "beauty".

"My purpose to go there is to marry my fiance, we'll of course go shopping as well, once in awhile we'll go to an expensive restaurants/ shopping at stores selling signatured stuff... yes, be nice and I will be nice, someone not being nice so i told him pangit, lol, which is true. i am always nice in posting questions here, but some people really like to say things that are not nice so.

I am proud to be pinay! not a closet pinay, unlike others.

There is a word for this type of person....hmmmm....GOLD DIGGER!!!!!!!! BLAYAD!!!!

I have a whole family of pinays that are in their old age now. Your so-called "physical beauty" is not going to last forever.

Yes, I am Filipino and proud of it. I'm American first and foremost. I was born here. I don't need to dig for gold. Whenever I choose to go to another country, acting ignorant while being arrogant, is something I don't see that will help you. Most Americans aren't going to tolerate you and you're not going to find yourself being happy here. If this is the way you're going to respond to people here in the USA, I don't think your soon-to-be husband will be getting very much attention. You're going to be spending most of your time filing complaints against everyone who you think is not being nice and believing they have discriminated against you. On this last note, WELCOME TO THE USA!!!!!

Ok, filipino Joe, LOL you sound like you don't like pinays, so you got yourself a white lady, LOL. Buying signatured stuff doesn't mean a person is a gold digger I love Louis Viouton bags, so when I am there I plan to go shopping at their stores and not to worry about it's authenticity, ya know. So if that store wont let me in because I look asian discriminate me to shop and probably will think I cant afford to buy any of their stuff, they will let me out, so I asked what can I do, just in case? No, I didn't mean to say filing complaints all the time when ppl like you are rude, knowing my rights when I am there, is what I meant. Stores wont let me in for being asian which is open to public but wont let me in, can I sue them. Ignorant, yeah when I didn't know the the rights of immigrants but now I do, because I asked question, and I got answers. knowing your rights in advance wont mean being arrogant, that's being wise.

I could not believe a Filipino man my country man could be so rude to a filipina. You were born and raised there, but still you are Filipino in blood.

do u speak tagalog?

am behind a fake photo of a magazine model. At least, you could have chosen a 1/2 decent model of real "beauty". , LOL, that was funny, did you mean I look like a model?, If you do, well, then thank you, wish i was!