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I am not a Ghanian but a Nigerian. My dear, prayer is the key. My journey start since 2005. It is well, ur time to shine will come, i believe that.

Congratulations on your approval

CAN YOU RUB THE GHANIAN JUJU ON THE REST OF US

His interview went well. we got the visa

Thank you all for your help. thank u.

idocare, thanks. it has been a long time. we are doing well. how is Jr doing? I have exams this week, i will call u this weekend.

Hey !!!! Long time it's been. I hope that you and the kids are doing well. Congrats on your citizenship !!!!!

Thank you Mrs. Jibowu. You know how those embassy people can be, you can never be to sure and i am not ready to take any chances. Yes, the original post was in 07, i actuall filed for him since 05. It has been a long wait but I am thankful to God that it is almost over. Thank u, i will check the embassy reviews again.

Congratulations on the great News! Thank you for coming back to share. I notice the original post was in June 07. My husband's interview was the basic questions. that you can find under Embassy Reviews. There are tons of great reviews for you to go through. Your case sounds tight since you both have the same cultural heritage and children.

My husband was put in Admin Processing to verify our documents and they did a home visit, but this is not common so trust you will be in God's favor. We are all in God's favor. Some just do not chose to see it.

Stay blessed.

That is the spirit, I see that you a very strong woman. The Lord is your strength, our strength.

Thanks for the thoughts . There are some days that just turn into melt down days. In the end we will be together. It is just hard sometimes to stay on the right track as far as your personal values are concerned when you get so mistreated by "the goverment" Sometimes I think of how much easier it would have been if I were te type that could have just pulled up roots here and gone there. I would have no issues finding the exact same work there. But that is not even in my list of things that are morally possible. I will just bear this burden knowing that I will never be given more than I can handle

Wow!! Sylvia, that is alot for any human being to take all at once. I am so sorry. But you know, you have to pray(push) until someting happens. I believe that all will end well. Keep the faith.

Josephs interview didn't go well at all. He has a black woman , her very first comment was , oh your fiancé is white and she seems old than you. You could have almost ended the interview right there. She asked about my address,name date of birth , my parents names and where did they live ( they are both dead which he knew ) she asked my children's names and their birth order and ages which he knew. How were we introduced ( though an uncle ) How I know the uncle , which was a chance meeting so there was no big event but back in 2000 . He knew how much I make.

Then she asked where I worked and he knew the company name and that I do "computer stuff"

then cames the demand to know details of things I do at work. She has all the papers in front of her knowing the company does classified work. She tells him unless he can tell her things about my work he is not getting a visa. ... end of interview... papers heading back to the US.

The embassy will not accept communication from me, my work or my congressman . I went the next morning and talked to the government security representative at work and said the from my side things were correct, that I can't tell him more than he knows ( company name and compute work ) and she takes down an incident report of attempted espionage for the withholding of the visa for not releasing classified data. ( Not that it helped me one bit but it should have gotten the woman fired )

Joseph said every few questions she went back to ask someone else things in another room.

We had several hundred pictures including a kola nut ceremony with his father. And over 12 months records of daily phone calls.

To make the pain of the denial even more unbearable the next day when word reached his village where his uncle from here was waiting so he could help travel back. The father was very upset that they would think Joseph would lie about wanting to marry me and talked at length to Philip about us. That night the father had a heart attack and died. So we are plunged into dealing with the rejection and planning a funeral for the big Chief.

Now six months later .. . the father is buried after a funeral with 2000+ attendees. I have visited but missed the funeral due to family fighting . My work does not allow me extended time in other countries and

he can't get a visit to visit here. I am dealing with a several emotionally disabled 12 yo grandson here , who has walked into school this year and announced intent to kill the principal , his mother and himself ( this was in Sept shortly after the denial ) and attacked his mother with a dumbbell. Joseph has gotten through the funeral and we are trying to figure out the smoothest way to balance my family here , immigration and the preparations for him to take his fathers throne. I am told once we are married and that happens at least the Nigerian government will give me a special passport to travel with. Other than that things are a mess. My wedding dress sits in the closet and the plans to marry and vacation are so long gone .

I agree with the last respond, if you have already filed for K-1 visa for him, that could be why he wasn't given. I have friends that tried to do that but they were denied visas not matter has real the purpose of the visit is. They dont believe he will return after the visit.

Sorry for your pain, trust me i feel u.

Take care.

Did you already file the K-1?

I know my SO at the time..got denied once they knew we had already filed.

Sylvia, sorry to hear that. Is there nothing that can be done?

Please, I will love real life experience questions, that were asked during their interview. Honestly, I was thinking that the interview will be a piece of cake and I have nothing to worry but i can see that it can go both ways. Please keep your advice coming.

Thank u all.

I am so glad I have been put through hell by Lagos. To be kept apart from my love, to have his father die , which I believe was related to the news that the interview was unsuccessful. They can cause such unbelievable pain at a whim. It has been over 6 months and there are still times when I melt into a mess of tears. Nver ever would I want someone else to go through that,

We did both the traditional and court marriage.

Did you only have a traditional marriage ? I hope that doesn't cause any snags as not being a real marriage. I know of some people that have gotten into issues over the validity of their marriages. I thought Nigeria only accepted court and church marriages . Hopefully I am terribly wrong . Can someone else from the area add somethings , Is there anyone out there that got through the process with only a traditional marriage. Lagos is known for pure stupidity in visa pocessing.

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Hi,

I wanted to share my good news with everyone. I became a US citizen last december. So that changed my case status. My husband has gotten an interview date for next month.

I still need help please, with possible questions for the interview.

Thanks

quote name='joej' date='Jun 26 2007, 07:00 PM' post='1010707]

I know someone here with similar situation that waited 4 years.

Best wishes.

I need advice on getting a Delta flight from Atlanta to Lagos, Nigeria. I do not like stop over in Europe. I need the CHEAPEST website/agency/etc... that can atleast give me the delta flight from Atlanta to Lagos that can be under $1000 including taxes. I know if I was going to purchase it directly through the airline for November, I would get it around $1300 plus tax which will end up around $1400.

I have not taken Delta to Nigeria before, any advice on how the airline is like. I just love the direct flight from America to Nigeria, even being a few hundred dollars more than a few other airlines but with less tax.

I told Delta for the first time to Nigeria last month, the flight was good better than the KLM own to me. The direct flight also i love. I think the price will depend on the season you want to travel. I paid $1287 plus tax when i travelled last month. Check around if you can get it cheaper from other places and also check the airline. I got my ticket directly from delta but you can also get it cheaper elsewhere. Best of luck in your search.

quote name='idocare' date='Feb 17 2008, 05:13 AM' post='1588874']

Omoba,

Last I checked Captain Wok was the person overseeing this site. Why do you feel that you can control Sub Saharan did you buy it from Captain Wok ? At this moment I'm not understanding your post directed to me. From what I can see you have only been a member here since August 2006, and this is an open forum, Omoba your just a member here you have no right to tell me or anyone else where to post messages. How dare you, do you think if you told me to jump up and down that I would? Who do you think you are, I'll tell you who you are, you are a member of this forum and NOTHING more. I have been posting here since 2003 and never once have I seen your name as owner of this site, where do you get off susgesting that I post somewhere else.

Listen to me, your not the moderator for this site and if you were appointed a moderator you need to read about what's to be posted here and fall back into line as a member just like me, I don't know why you feel like you have the power to tell people where they should post, or talk about what you and others are so tired of reading. As long as I adhere to Captian Woks instructions I don't care what you and others are tired of, do I live for you ??? Are you sending me money and paying my bills ? No your not. So you have no right to open your mouth asking me to post somewhere else, I have been posting here before you knew this site existed and you think you can tell me something ?you may get away with that with some but not me, I'll never let YOU control me, nor will you ever have control of where I choose to post. What you do have control over is choosing not to read my post, especially if you already know what it's gonna be about, why do you continue to burden yourself with reading it? Hummm.

Noel kept telling people the ran is coming the rain is coming and there were some that listened to him and saved themselves, so If I choose to repost a message or how many times I decide to discuss my message on this open forum is my business.

I have yet to meet an intelligent person that will join somebody else's establishment then speak out as if they are the owner and try to run the show. A intelligent person will join the club already knowing that they are just a member, they will adhere by the rules of the club and not try to control something that they have no control over. they will go to a restaurant they enjoy eating at. A person that lacks intelligence will join a establishment then attempt to take over, they will think more of themselves then what they are, they will repeatedly go to a restaurant they feel has bad food and continously complain about the food.

If my post don't apply to you, why worry about it, there has been many that have experienced what I've experienced and there are some post ( not by me ) that thank me for posting, why do you continue to read my post, are you fishing for something ? I don't know why you feel the Sub-Saharan full of happy folks when I and others which fall within the sub saharan are at different stages in our VJ . Everybody from Sub Saharan isn't where you are therefore have different experiences to share. I'm not where your at on this journey, but I will tell my story even if it's not approving in some eyes, (my story is my reality ) As I was posting before your journey started what makes you think you have authority to tell me what to post. you and your click ( of friends ) really need to check yourselves and check the rules of the Sub- Saharan board. Your all members here, you don't run nothing, and you surely don't run me, nor do you have control over any thing I decide to post.

Actually I do know of one person that has decided to withdraw her petittion, but that was her decision , not mines, you Omoba don't know the many people that I talk to, nor do you know the many people that read my post, why do you think I continue to post, it's not for you but for the one's that decide to e-mail me because they can relate to what I'm saying. Heck your husband isn't even here yet, so I don't expect you to relate to me yet.

I never look to destroy a relationship, but like I have said, when one person in a relationship doesen't want the marriage to work, it won't, because the agendas weren't the same. You Omoba, are in AP, you don't know what will come off that plane once he arrives. You may say well we have a baby, well a baby didn't stop a medical doctor from leaving , I dought if it stops your husband if that's what he wants to do so. Actually you have no clue who is keeping your husband warm at nite. You call yourself Omoba, but the reality is that you don't know if your the second or third wife. I have posted in the Effects area, and I will continue to post wherever I desire, YOU won't dictact where I decide to share or provide information,nor will you dictate what information I share !!! While you and the others are sitting waiting for your men to arrive I can only guess that some of you will go down the same journey that I experienced, and Omoba, my feeling is that you will be within the group that will end up being deceived. I only hope that your women enough to post your story. Omoba will you post your story?

Omoba your on this site acting like you grew up with your husband and know him very well, you only know of what he (and others ) tell you. A scam wouldn't be a scam if it were detectable before it's too late. Although I'm wishing the best for everyone that petitions for an Alien to into the states, I'm at a place in this visa journey where I know that's not realistic.

Ebonyqueen,

I guess you have never heard this saying, "speak the truth and the truth should set you free"

Like I said, poor you! Time will tell. Best of luck, you will need it.

Yea...poor poor pitiful me... Oh ye of little faith! Thank you so much for your heartfelt good wishes I'm sure I'll remember your nonsense when I'm basking in the glory of my wonderful, sincere, loving, strong, proud Nigerian husband who posesses the integrity and godliness that all of your friends (99.9%) obviously don't have. Seems the green-eyed monster is rearing his ugly face. Didnt anyone ever tell you "god don't like ugly"?

Peace, Love and Happiness

AMEN

Like I said, poor you! Time will tell. Best of luck, you will need it.

ebonyqueen,

Poor you! Why is the truth so painful to hear? . You have the right to say whatever you want, so do I. Catch ya.

Efia06

Thanks for praying for me can you please pray for my whole family? Aint nothing wrong with someone saying a prayer.

I will only address you this one time. After that anything you want to say is fine with me but I'm not going to address it. Efia regardless of the way you met your husband, how well you all hit it off and how many times he tells you that he loves you, You efia06 won't know his real intentions until he arrives here and you all live as husband and wife. Although your prepared to go to battle for your man, you won't know if he's also prepared to do the same for you.

You parable can apply to all situations, especially a person who's husband is still abroad and they for what ever reason want to exalt themselves, what is your reason? As this is a forum, if you post something and I feel moved to address it, that's what I'm gonna do, period. Now weither you approve of my message or not is totally your issue. You Efia06 currently aren't in a position to control what I decide to type, you don't have to agree with me but I will excercise my freedom to express myself, and continue to be myself. You efia06 are in a position to not read anything else I decide to type as I don't post of here to get approval and high fives from anyone that might read what I type. Bottom line you don't control me, and I don't type my messages looking for approval from you.

So in short if you post anything and I choose to answer that's what I'm gonna do, if you choose to get offended, then deal with your feelings, because I'm not a replica of you so I may not share the feelings that may dwell within you.

I can't speak of what will happen in your relationship Efia06 but then again neither can you ! You don't know what your husband will be like once he comes here. Although I do wish you and your relationship well, the fact remains that even your relationship may be built on deceit. You can call me foolish because I trusted and loved a man abrode that I met on the internet but I'm just wondering how u think your relationship is so different when you are doing what I already did ? Hummmmm. (minus meeting him online ) Again I wish your relationship well and I like to extend you an invitation to keep posting as the month and years go by, will you do that ?

Finally I'm not bitter and I have moved on with my life that's why I can freely post of my experience. you see I like to help others, I don't wish for anybody to go about blindly and fall deep in a scam the reality is that some couples won't make it and it may or may not be a scam, but when your in the midst of a scam wondering ####### is going on, at least you can at that time begin to understand what I'm doing. You might even find some comfort and know what you need to do to protect yourself, or at least know that there is someone out there that has been there who just might have some advice or just a ear they can vent into. I don't expect you to understand. Again thanks for praying for me, in this world I can use all the prayers I can get.

Chinemeze, na u get ur mouth.

I agree with Awa_Mugu. If it doesn't apply to you and you dont have anything useful to say,dont say anything. That is not a way to support each or help, Efia.

"Whats up with the man in the shack, girl where you get that from. If want you a man to move out of his dirty run down shack, give him a job or a down payment for a new house or he need to contact Habitat for Humanity."

Good one! You know Ive never really been told im bold. I usually try to "waterdown" or speak in passive voice so as not to offend anyone here but because it was a public forum and because I feel the way I do today...I decided to speak how I felt. haha u know I sometime read really bold, aggressive or contreversal posts and think dang! thats going to start something, but I have never been the one to really say anything to get a reply such as yours. Liberating, actually. thanks. but what I told Idocare was not done in a spirit of malice, we are here to support each other. I try to put myself in the other persons place and see it from all different angles. I saw she is trying to enlighten other and I wanted to add my 4cents to how it might be done to be more palatable to some. But I also want to be express how I felt too. Maybe you missed the meaning of the illustration::shrugs::: but I appreciate your opinion as well. Have a nice day

"I decided to speak how I felt" Apply that comment to Ms. Idocare. "We are here to support each other", you call that support. Glad that I have AA instead of you.

I am going to have a fantastic day.

Hot Pocket Calzone's on sale: Flashing down to pick up some. Anyone care for some?

Wonder do my SO need me to Western Union him some money to fix a flat?

idocare, your inbox is full, can you pls delete some things. I have a mail i wan to send to you.

Thanx

No! I didn't say anything like this. "And refering to American Women as dogs is really out of line" Pls dont get me wrong.

Sorry, I meant no disrespect.

Sorry, I meant no disrespect.

Sorry, I didn't mean any disrespect.

sorry.

This thread was never meant to be a Nigerian Bashing thread. While yes as with every relationship, my husband and I have had problems, I am sure that there are those negative nellys who would like for us to fail...fail we have not!!! We are happy and planning our future. Please stop posting your negative comments in my thread!!!!! Go bash your countrymen somewhere else!!! This american woman loves and trusts her Nigerian Huband!!! Rememer when you are pointing your finger at someone there are 3 more pointing back at you.

As a result of your negativity I have requested this thread to be locked.

sorry.

This thread was never meant to be a Nigerian Bashing thread. While yes as with every relationship, my husband and I have had problems, I am sure that there are those negative nellys who would like for us to fail...fail we have not!!! We are happy and planning our future. Please stop posting your negative comments in my thread!!!!! Go bash your countrymen somewhere else!!! This american woman loves and trusts her Nigerian Huband!!! Rememer when you are pointing your finger at someone there are 3 more pointing back at you.