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1 minute ago, laylalex said:

Also, I think if you post on the internet asking about whether other people think that your relationship is on the short side, maybe people might think it's on the short side? I mean, some might not, but 3 months (objectively speaking) is kind of not a long time.

My question want if people here thought it was a short time, I'm aware of that. I was hoping to get some feedback from people that have been in a similar situation

4 minutes ago, Kerege said:

They don't care. Get married before her visa expires and file an adjustment of status before her visa expires. It's better to wait here while married than for her to go back and have to wait apart while married. It will take almost a yr to adjust her status so evidence will build. People have gotten married on less time than that. People meet on vacation for 2weeks call in love go back get engaged and file k1 and it's fine as long as the relationship is real you have nothing to worry about. 

Wow that's a lot of feedback from everyone haha. I do appreciate the different views, and will consider all of them, along with my own judgement. I do understand that whatever the decision, it's not an "easy" process. 

3 hours ago, databit said:

So she will be quitting her job and moving in with you immediately, right? 

That would be the plan upon her completion of the program

58 minutes ago, Russ&Caro said:

If she's an au pair, she's probably here on a J1 visa and these are sometimes issued with an obligation for the person to return home for a period of 2 years after completion of their au pair duties. Before you do anything else, check what obligations, if any, she has associated with her J1 visa.

It is a J1, and she's not required to the two year return. 

10 minutes ago, Roel said:

If your main reason to get married is for her to be legal in the US, then you are not ready to get married. 

That's not my reason at all. I love the woman. I guess the fear is that it's going to be harder for her to come back if she has to leave first. Maybe the info I've heard is incorrect?

1 minute ago, JFH said:

What good would messages be if you live together? Messages about what? You are confusing the process for adjustment of status with applying for a visa whilst overseas. Couples who live together don’t usually communicate solely by electronic means. 

Sorry I could have been more specific. She's currently in the Aupair program, and living with the family she's working for. She's here with me every chance she gets, but not fully living together yet. 

Just now, payxibka said:

Proof of what?

 

 Look at the required evidence for the i485. 

 

The proof you are talking about you have a year or more before the interview to pull together 

I just thought maybe you need a lot more pictures, messages, joint accounts, ECT.... Than that little time gave us, before the initial filing. 

I greatly appreciate your quick response and advice. 

2 minutes ago, payxibka said:

She can stay.   Best is to get married and file the I485/I131/I765 before her status expires

Do you think there's a problem with the short relationship? That was a reason we were thinking to wait for more proof

3 minutes ago, payxibka said:

If her Visa is about to expire, and since it is taking 12 to 18 months to get an interview to adjust her status, there's no doubt she will be here longer than she is authorized 

I'm not sure the correct way to respond to an individual reply

But is that a problem? I was under the impression that she can be here while it's pending.

My girlfriend and I want to get married, but we have only been together for three months. Her visa is about to expire, so we can't wait if we are going to do it. Does that look bad that we're getting married after a short time and her visa is up? And what if she has to overstay while we wait for the interview?