BRyant808

Hello guys, my in law is wanting to look for filipinas to date 😊 any suggestions? 

Just now, Boiler said:

Could you explain what you are trying to do? Does he want to go back to the Philippines?

Of course he want His son to be here in the US as he petitioned him over 10yrs ako.

Just now, Apple Bee said:

Does he have a power of attorney to handle his affairs?

12 minutes ago, BRyant808 said:

Family friend petitioned son over 21 from the Philippines last 2008. Unfortunately the other day he had a mild stroke and cannot remember past.

 

Advise on what to do?

 

 

No, not that I know of.

Family friend petitioned son over 21 from the Philippines last 2008. Unfortunately the other day he had a mild stroke and cannot remember past.

Advise on what to do?

1 hour ago, R&OC said:

While I agree that no physical violence was used, and I am not familiar with VAWA - how is it allowed to have someone immigrate to the US /Hawaii and then leave them behind without a work permit, access to housing and food/allowance and no means to get back to their home country? Isn't that a classic case of abandonment and abuse of power?

 

Well, OP's friend should at least file for spousal support and definitely talk to her command/ombudsman/the military. If she plays the power card and threatens him with deportation, then he should be allowed as her legal husband to report her to the military. This really makes me upset. We wouldn't treat our pets like that and this guy is left to fend for himself? The military does not accept their service members to treat their lawful spouses like that and abandon them in the street. However, at this point the military doesn't even know he exists and it is on him to make himself known.

 

Also, by law, the lawyer has one client and that is your friend. Unless his spouse signed for the papers and is part of the "contract", I would see this as a breach of confidentiality and client protection. Having said that, I would contact the lawyer and take the case off her/his hands. I would also report his/her behavior to the relevant associations. Take the case away from the lawyer as the spouse is using that against him.

 

Ultimately, he may just have to return to his home country but I would stand up for myself and hope you can guide your friend into the right direction.

 

In sum:

1. End working relationship with lawyer if he/she continues to misrepresent the interest of OP's friend

2. Contact spouse and ask to be added to DEERS

3. Contact spouse to ask for allowance and housing or be added to orders to Japan (I am assuming she has no interest)

4. Report to command for abandonment of spouse without means to support.

5. File for divorce if necessary (likely). I am hoping that 1-4. will create enough paperwork for him to ask for a reimbursement of his expenses and enough temporary support to return to his home country. 

 

 

 

 

 

 

She’s not in military but a federal employee.

2 minutes ago, Shiran said:

It is not her case to withdraw, she can withdraw I-864 though. Cops will not arrest him or deport him. Are they still married? If she is psychologically and/or physically abusive, and they entered marriage in good faith, there can be case with via abusive spouse "VAWA" claim. There are lawyers that can help with that. Hope he stays safe. 

Can you please lead me to the path where we can search for that? Hoping not that costly as this we are only supporting my friend with our own free will

Yes they are still married but she left him in Hawaii waii and she is in Japan already.

This is what my friend messaged me: read on (sorry kinda lengthy)

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I went here in Hawaii last June 8,2018. She petitioned me as Fiancé visa. I came here knowing to start a new life and new family with my wife  we were happy then all of a sudden she changed. I’ve always follow to what she was saying to me but the first month i stayed with her is all about adjusting stage and so I’m most likely the house husband that time because i can’t even apply for work since I don’t have any legal papers with me yet. So I do the cooking for my mother in law and for my step son everyday and clean the house, fix the garbage area etc... Then i notice when i forgot to do the things she asked me to do she easily got angry even small things like forgot to water her plants that day. But I try to understand her because I love her and I was thinking maybe she’s just got a lot of problem with her work so i try to be calm every time she’s like that. And this kind of angriness goes like twice a week, she even raise her voice at me. One time my wife and her son had a fight and I’m trying to calm her down coz she was yelling at her son already then she told me not to talk or else she will kick me out of her house that moment. So I tried to talk to her son not to do that anymore coz her mom will get angry. Then there’s this moment we had a fight for not following instruction so the fight went to like kicking me out of her house but before kicking me out of her house she say bad words against me like saying “stupid” “you’re not gonna get any legal papers here without me” “stupid you all Viray”, Viray is my family name so she was including my parents and sisters that not even connected to our fight that day then i went out crying coz I don’t know where to go,  i don’t even have any relatives here in Hawaii. So i tried to stayed  out for 4hours in the street like 15mins walk away from our house and trying to talk to her friend which will be our Godmother for our upcoming wedding then my step son saw me in the street and ask me what I’m doing there and replied “your mom got kicked me out” then 15mins later my step son picked me up and He said i talked to mom. So then she didn’t even say sorry to me. I try to be calm always with her saying we should talk coz most of the time she just got angry with one snap, even very simple things she easily got angry. So then we got married last August 18,2018. And we plan to go to mainland for our honeymoon and she told me that all of our expenses will be paid by me once i got a work. But before having a work I should’ve my papers process. So after wedding she did not file for my papers yet coz she told me i have to pay for my own filling fee like AOS(Adjustment of Status), EAD(Employment Authorization Document), and my Travel Document(re-entry visa), plus for the attorney’s fee. And this attorney is a friend of her. Then time goes by nothing change with my wife so same thing as always small things she easily got angry. She accept the job offer to move to Camp Zama base in Japan so she moved there last October 1,2018. 
Last December 24,2018 I managed to pay all of my papers including AOS,EAD & RE-ENTRY VISA with the help of my friends and some cash money job. Then my wife and I fought again so she even call our Attorney (her friend) to hold my papers to file it to USCIS, i really don’t know what to do coz my papers will be delayed again, it should’ve filed it last August after our wedding. She always threatens me that my papers will not go through.

Last January this year she went back here in Hawaii coz she got some important things to do here then one time we had a huge fight for not cleaning her house, i told her i always clean the house but her son is always making a mess and I even sent her a picture of all the mess of her son and she raised her voice again to me and saying bad words against me like(removed), i can’t take it anymore so when she told me to get the hell out of my house, i did get out. So that day is the second time she kicked me out and took pictures of me walking out of our room pushing my luggages and when I’m out of her house and she posted it on Facebook and tagging my parents and other relatives with a quote of “this stupid guy is going back to Philippines”. I am so mad that moment for me not to screenshot that post made by her and one of my relative saw the post she made. Also i called our Godmother and talk to her and she says i what happened coz she saw the post made by my wife. She even threatened me to divorce me the next day she kicked me out. Two days after with the help of her close friend that is already close to mine also we got to talk and forgive each other then she went back to Japan that same month. But she is still easily got angry with me with small things, she abandoned me coz her friend is going to rent her whole house so i don't have a place to stay. Her son will be studying in mainland and her mom will move to Canada so I’m the only one left here so i tried to ask my friend to stay at his house, coz i dont have any papers with me yet to pay for the rent.
Last month March I don’t know what to do, I’m going crazy out of my mind, and left everything behind in the Philippines and I’ve been put against my will and seems like there’s nothing i can do because she’s threatening me that she will deport me. Now I’ve waited for my working permit to come in but it was sent to her friend lawyer which i believe that paperwork should be under my possession. Now I’m living with my friend in the backyard of his house. I don't know what’s going on with my wife she told me that she will send a letter to USCIS to withdraw my petition and her Affidavit of Support to me so now i don't know what to do. My friend told me to report it to Domestic Violence act. I left what i have in my country just to stay with her here then she abandoned me.”

2 minutes ago, Going through said:

Immigration wise there's nothing your "friend" can do, unless eligible for VAWA.

 

 

Does this apply to men too?

I’m asking for a friend.

he came to the us with k1 visa, they got married, he got his EAD, but while processing adjustment of status, spouse decided to withdraw case and wants him to go back to the home country.

it has caused him stress and depression and no legal aid would help him as he is technically not an immigrant yet.

he has been threatened by the spouse that cops will arrest him for being in the US. He doesn’t know where to go and what to do. 

Advise?