Ariesown

19 hours ago, OlayemiLoray said:

@Ariesown go visit, get married, go visit, go visit and go visit as much as you can..I am 10 years older than my husband, but we knew what needed to be done if we wanted to be together and that was plenty of facetime and other quality evidence to prove a bonafide relationship being that Nigeria is a high fraud country..We went with the CR1 which I would advise anyone to do who has a spouse in Nigeria or any other high fraud country for that matter..However, we didn't get married until my second visit, but to each it's own..Wishing you the best on your journey!

Thank you. I'm planning to visit. If it doesn't work out then we'll get married here and file the CR1

19 hours ago, Khallaf said:

if she is twice your age, your going to need a lot more visit and a lot more evidence, how long ago was the spouse visa?

 

you have a tough embassy and if the age difference is not within the cultural norm, your going to have a battle on your hands.

 

IMO I would recommend more visits, more pictures, more time spent together.

 

does your family accept the difference in age?

6 hours ago, Mr. Data said:

Out of curiosity, where does China fall on this spectrum?

6 hours ago, MRSDURU said:

As a us citizen who is married to a Nigerian and been through the process. .. i highly advise you to go for spousal visa and not your finance visa. Your odds are better.  I been married to my husband 5 yrs now, i married him on first visit that i stayed a month. .came back to USA for 4 months and returned until we left together in feb 2016. We are of the same age, have two children together,  in lived in naija for almost 2yrs with him and we still went through hell n back to finally end the process. Naija is a high alert country n you can thank your bros for that for marrying women the age to be grandma lol... we filed i130 ourselves, used attorney for visa part, n everything else we did ourselves. She deff needs to come more n longer stays,  lots of pics,  start saving cards ya'll give each other, print pics, pics with family n friends,  get her traditional wears done n pics showing her embracing your culture. .. but if any advice i give do not go for k1 n waste that time. ..9/10 it will be denied based on country alone.  N ppl don't know what they are talking about.. they can deny based on age if they feel is fraud relationship n do not have to explain reasoning why they made decision.  Good luck n prayers sent my brother 

7 hours ago, Jorgedig said:

OP, you may want to read through many of the current and past threads on the sub-saharan Africa board here at VJ.  You have an uphill battle facing you, particularly if you did any type of traditional engagement ceremony at the first visit where you got engaged.

 

There are certain consulates where a CR-1 is better suited, and Nigeria is one of them.  Best of luck, either way!

8 hours ago, geowrian said:

I'd suggest going the CR-1 (spousal) visa route over the K-1. The extra time together (to marry) would help, but the CR-1 process allows you to at least challenge a refusal and get the petition reaffirmed. With the K-1 route, if denied then you will be waiting extra weeks or months anyway to get a formal refusal, and months longer if you wait for the petition to be sent back and expire.

 

The CR-1 is superior here in nearly every way, and may end up being faster from start to visa in hand anyway. If not, it's only a couple months longer and still has all the extra benefits (can work & travel abroad right away, cheaper, green card upon arrival, etc.).

 

Just a suggestion...I really think that's a much better route in this case.

8 hours ago, dwheels76 said:

Why risk denial. Why not make the odds better in your favor. That's what you came to ask us. K1 especially for a older/ younger pairing to a CO can look like you aren't commented since no guarantee you will marry after you arrive.

 

At least with a I-130 petition you have recourse to get reaffirmed if denied.

 

I came through Lagos. I am 26 years older than my husband. My previous husband also was Nigerian. See the Red Flags flying. And we knew it so guess what I moved there and lived for 6 months from approval at USCIS till Visa in hand. That overcame the red flags and we had no issues at interview.

 

You have to consider why fiance' route is it the best for your situation? Are you prepared to sit and not work for 4 to 8 months. Spousal route you can work soon as you arrive.

 

I strongly suggest another visit marry and file.

Thanks for your response everyone. I really do appreciate your time. 

7 hours ago, carmel34 said:

Many others in your situation, with a similar age difference, get married and file for a CR-1, with lots of evidence of time spent together, many visits to see each other in person, co-mingling of finances, etc. in order to be successful.  So be prepared for that if the K-1 is not approved.  Or be ready to live together in Nigeria and not in the US if necessary to be together.

Okay. We'll give the K1 a shot and hope for the best 

8 hours ago, Khallaf said:

if she is twice your age, your going to need a lot more visit and a lot more evidence, how long ago was the spouse visa?

 

you have a tough embassy and if the age difference is not within the cultural norm, your going to have a battle on your hands.

 

IMO I would recommend more visits, more pictures, more time spent together.

 

does your family accept the difference in age?

Alright. Thank you for taking the time to respond. I'll deliberate with my lady. 

15 minutes ago, JFH said:

How long have you been communicating? Have you only had the one visit? 

Last April. She visited this January and left in February after spending 3 weeks

1 hour ago, JFH said:

You won’t be denied based on age difference alone. The CO will look at all the facts of your case before making a decision. 

 

How much time have you spent together in person? Did you get engaged on the first visit? How long ago was her previous marriage? Also, how do you feel about never being able to have children with her? I’m guessing she must be at least 40...

We spent 3 weeks together. Yes we got engaged during the first visit. Her previous marriage lasted 8 years. Not being able to have children is not a problem so long as we have each other. Yes she's above 40

2 hours ago, Khallaf said:

from my understanding your embassy is going to be a hard one, you have an automatic red flag the age difference. Are you the USC or is she?

 

it would be a hard road but not one that cant be overcome with a lot of evidence.

 

if she is the USC has she petitioned for anyone else before?

Thanks for your response. Yes she's the USC. And no she hasn't done the K1 before. She did the spousal visa for her ex after they had gotten married here

Hello. I and my fiancee would like to file a petition for the K1 visa. The issue bothering us is the fact that she's twice my age and been previously married to someone from my country. We would like to know our chances before we proceed.