Colada

Hello All,

I am in the middle of a divorce with the USC and I am receiving alimony from him every month. I just realized that I might need to file for tax return for the alimony. Anyone here is receiving alimony and know what forms I should file? How can I predict my income for the rest of this year to file the tax since it is only April? I am seeking employment and alimony is the only source of income right now.

Thanks,

Colada

Thank you all for the kind words. It meant a lot to me.

I thought that after the whole immigration process, you really know it is true love. Who would have gone through all this trouble when they weren't in love? However, my husband wasn't really in love with me. You live and you learn. It was a lesson indeed.

Hi All,

I suddenly have a very lonely feeling. sometimes i wonder what am i doing here? H and I are separated and it is very devastating. I love(d) him, but he tells everyone that I married him for his GC and it really hurts. I am frustrated that he didn't try to work on our marriage. I am here, in the US, alone with no family or relatives. Going back home is not an option either since I will be discriminated because of the divorce. I feel like I don't belong any where.

Colada

have you finalized the divorce? It is not enough that you just file the initialize paper for divorce, there is additional paper work that you have to file to get a divorce decree. Is there a family law clinic at the court that you can go to and ask them what is going on.

He will be able to file under VAWA.

Congratulations! Good that now it is over.

Thank you all for the replies. He and I actually went to therapist a couple of times. When things were really bad, he would be willing to attend sessions with me. I go see therapist regularly. He has addiction problem and it is not something that can be changed easily. I feel sorry for him sometimes because he doesn't realize how serious HIS issue is. Maybe it is something that I have to work on...to realize that he doesn't have the capacity to love. I feel lonely not having him by my side. and I am worry about money and wonder the amount and length alimony that I can get. All the uncertainity makes me nervous.

Thank you all for the replies.

When I miss him, I have to try very hard not to contact him as it will only make me miss him more. I don't know if it was being I was an abused wife and that made me more vulnerable. How can I still love him after the way he treated me?! I guess love doesn't make sense.

My H and I are separated, but I love him very much. I only wish that he knows how much I love him and love me equally that he will change for me. Maybe it is wishful thinking. I just think that after the whole immigration process, it would only strengthen the marriage. After all, we all have been through a lot. To me, marriage is for life. People think about divorce too easily. Things are not going well? Let get a divorce. My husband was being abusive, but I still love him. He could be so sweet when he is not being abusive towards me. Sometimes I think "if only I have done this..." I do't know, just want to vent on a lonely night.

Reading this board about divorce just made me sad. I mean, we all tried so hard to be together, file all the paper work, attending interviews. And then, all of a sudden, things don't work out. I used to think that this whole experience will only strengthen the relationship and because we all tried so hard to be together, we wouldn't want to give up so easily. My husband and I are separated and I miss him every day. I wish so much that he can realize how much I love him and give up to be with him. At times, I doubt if he really love me. I know that I loved him and it just hurt that he would given up on our marriage so easily. Even though he and I didn't get along sometimes, we had our happy moments together. Being a divorce immigrant really makes it difficult. One is the immigration status and second is the loneliness. Most of my friends are either married or going to get married. They do not understand the difficulty of getting a divorce.

BTW, if anyone know of a good divorce forum (I would be happy if it is half as good as this one), please let me know.

Sorry your marriage is not working out, but I am glad to know that your husband are willing to help you with the paper work.

You can have your divorce finalized and then file for self-petition. Have your husband write a letter stating that it was a good faith marriage.

How come the Charramal hasn't posted a single post to respond? And all of us are so concern about her situation?

do you have an interview date yet? they don't interview everyone these days, so don't get worry too much.

Hi Guys...

I kindly request everyone to share their experiences of the interviews based on Waivers of filling for removal of conditions CR-1 status.for example..1.with finalized divorce-good faith marriage

2.with Extreme Hardship

3.Mental and physical abuse...etc

I am a silent observer of this forum..and never found ANY interview experience for the waivers of I-751...

please let me know where can I find that???is it somewhere else in this forum?I am lost....

thanks a lot in advance.

If you are truly unhappy and neither of you have desire to work on the marriage, just get a divorce asap. why waste time on the marriage that make you sad? u sound like you have already make up your mind.

I am just surprised that abuse doesn't really play a part in divorce in no-fault state. I think no fault state is just bullshit. What if the cheating spouse wants alimony from the faithful spouse? That doesn't sound fair.

I spent some time reading the complaint from the attorney. He married a woman from Russia and that she claimed "abuse" and she worked in a brothel house after marrying him. That was what he said any way. I found his last sentence in the complaint interesting...

"In practice and intent, the Violence Against Women Act and certain sections of the

Illegal Immigration Reform and Immigrant Responsibility Act and Immigration and

Nationality Act create a process by which the constitutional rights of American men who

take foreign wives are violated in order to rectify the feminists’ inability to make American

men love them."

These are the options given in the I-751:

"You entered the marriage in good faith, but your spouse subsequently died;

You entered the marriage in good faith, but the marriage was later terminated due to divorce or annulment;

You entered the marriage in good faith and have remained married, but have been battered or subjected to extreme cruelty by your U.S. citizen or permanent resident spouse; or

The termination of your status and removal would result in extreme hardship."

The sex of the applicant in the above reasons is not inferred, but almost wish I underwent a sex change operation when in a divorce court with my ex wife. but in a state with no-fault divorce rules, the word abuse wasn't even allowed to be introduced, my ex learned that quickly. All I was after was the full physical custody of my children, the rest of the junk in our marriage I could replace. I did get that, the rest was divided 50-50.

So her claiming abuse was worthless, she was lying through her teeth anyway, but it all depends upon your state. But really felt that bias toward the fairer sex or as it is called.

Best method is prevention, watch out who you marry.

How about medical or life insurance? Even store membership that both of your belong to will work. Or an affidavit from a friend that know both of you.

The waiver is actually part of the FormI-751. Down near the bottom it states you are applying for this petition because . . . and then it gives you a number of options which includes requesting a waiver of the joint filing condition due to divorce. Just checking off that box is all you need to do to activate the request for a waiver.

If the account was a joint account, contact the bank and ask for copies that covered the time you were married and you held the account together - as an account holder you are entitled to that information. If you received any mail addressed to both of you at the same address, or if you have anything else that shows you lived in the same house at the same time, include that. What about church or memberships in your community together? Are there newsletters welcoming you to the neighbourhood, the church, etc. ? Did your husband include you on any medical insurance from work? Can you request copies of the application? Did you change your address with the Post Office when you moved? Include a copy of that notice showing the change from the old address where you lived together. Are there any bills that you paid? Any checks that you wrote that you can get copies of from the bank?

Did you travel anywhere together? If so, do you have copies of your tickets or boarding passes? (Just trying to think of other ideas).

Good luck.

Did you meet the neighbours at your house? Will any of them write a letter verifying they saw you then and knew you were married and living together at that address? Did you get any type of State ID with your address on it?

Thank you guys for the help..It is really a big help in my part. I will post more message here if i have another qquestions..thank you so much..

See the notary for a proper format, but usually begins with " I JOHN SMITH state the following.....etc."

At the end, they must say "I declare under the penalty of perjury..."

Just want to share this, in case it hasn't been posted yet.

http://mensnewsdaily.com/2008/02/21/finall...-federal-court/

Here is the attorney's myspace. http://profile.myspace.com/index.cfm?fusea...iendid=93824748

Please notice his friends' pictures.

Hi! I would like to know for those of you that file for abuse waiver and got approved, do you claim abuse in your divorce proceeding?

I know in CA, it might affect the length and amount of alimony, but I am not sure if I want my spouse to know that I filed for abuse waiver. He can get real nasty and says mean things.

Thanks all for the reply.

I suddenly feel very lonely. I think it is something that most immigrants go through. Married for a short time and now separated and not knowing what the future holds. I started to think that some USC marry foreign nationals because they cannot find a spouse within the nation. I feel so sad that my USC blame everything on me and not give me money because I am the one that left him. I do hope that he would come to some sense in the future and not ruin other women's life.

My question is does being abuse make a different in alimony? I read that it can affect the length and amount, but does it mean we will definitely have to take it in front of a judge?

The abuse waiver has been approved and now I am really worry that he will get us/me into financial debt. My USC is a big spender and if he is upset or angry, he go shop and we are talking about big ticket item. Women would just go buy new clothes or shoes, but men go buy a new car even though they are already in debt. I also want to be done with the marriage asap, so that I can move on with my life.

Hi! I have recently escaped my abusive USC and I live in fear everyday, afraid that he would find me. I want to file for legal separation/divorce, but not sure if I should go to an attorney or just file it myself. I am afraid the costs of attorney and that they will make things more complicated, but my divorce case can be rather complicated like most other immigrants here. First my husband is abusive and that I am afraid of his reaction. Second I am not sure meditation is the way to go since he is abusive. How would being abused make a different in divorce. I spoke with several divorce lawyers and they all told me differently. One said it doesn't make a different because I am in a no-fault state. Another said my husband will not be able to ask me for alimony. And I read in a book that the court will grant the divorce right away rather than having the separation period. I also thought about nullity of marriage, but not sure if it would affect my elegibility to file become a USC in the future.

Does anyone here have similar experience? I think being that I am an abused immigrant, it makes the divorce a little different, but would it be so complicated that required an attorney since my husband and I don't have much to divide.

Any help would be appreciated. Thank you.

You filed the I-751 jointly in July of last year?

Your immigration status has little bearing on the divorce, if you have removed conditions from your residency. If you are abused, and I have no doubt you are, then proceed with the divorce pronto. You can do nothing more to ensure your future safety that putting distance between you and your spouse. Once the divorce is done, his ability to control you on an emotional level is diminished, and his spending sprees will have no impact on your financial health.

The abuse waiver has been approved and now I am really worry that he will get us/me into financial debt. My USC is a big spender and if he is upset or angry, he go shop and we are talking about big ticket item. Women would just go buy new clothes or shoes, but men go buy a new car even though they are already in debt. I also want to be done with the marriage asap, so that I can move on with my life.

Hi! I have recently escaped my abusive USC and I live in fear everyday, afraid that he would find me. I want to file for legal separation/divorce, but not sure if I should go to an attorney or just file it myself. I am afraid the costs of attorney and that they will make things more complicated, but my divorce case can be rather complicated like most other immigrants here. First my husband is abusive and that I am afraid of his reaction. Second I am not sure meditation is the way to go since he is abusive. How would being abused make a different in divorce. I spoke with several divorce lawyers and they all told me differently. One said it doesn't make a different because I am in a no-fault state. Another said my husband will not be able to ask me for alimony. And I read in a book that the court will grant the divorce right away rather than having the separation period. I also thought about nullity of marriage, but not sure if it would affect my elegibility to file become a USC in the future.

Does anyone here have similar experience? I think being that I am an abused immigrant, it makes the divorce a little different, but would it be so complicated that required an attorney since my husband and I don't have much to divide.

Any help would be appreciated. Thank you.

You filed the I-751 jointly in July of last year?

Hi! I have recently escaped my abusive USC and I live in fear everyday, afraid that he would find me. I want to file for legal separation/divorce, but not sure if I should go to an attorney or just file it myself. I am afraid the costs of attorney and that they will make things more complicated, but my divorce case can be rather complicated like most other immigrants here. First my husband is abusive and that I am afraid of his reaction. Second I am not sure meditation is the way to go since he is abusive. How would being abused make a different in divorce. I spoke with several divorce lawyers and they all told me differently. One said it doesn't make a different because I am in a no-fault state. Another said my husband will not be able to ask me for alimony. And I read in a book that the court will grant the divorce right away rather than having the separation period. I also thought about nullity of marriage, but not sure if it would affect my elegibility to file become a USC in the future.

Does anyone here have similar experience? I think being that I am an abused immigrant, it makes the divorce a little different, but would it be so complicated that required an attorney since my husband and I don't have much to divide.

Any help would be appreciated. Thank you.

Hi All,

I am from CA and from my understanding I don't have to live in a county for at least 3 month before filing for legal separation. So, say if I move to another county and file for legal separation there and then I move another within 3 months, what will happen to my case? Will I have to file it all over again? Or I will be divorced once I obtain residency of the county that I would be living at the time?

I hope it doesn't sound too confusing.

Colada

What ground was the annulment based on? Are you entitled to any alimony?

Rightttttttttttttttttttttttttttttttttttttttttttttttttttttttt, surrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrreeeeeeeeeeeeeee he did. He is pulling your leg.

Yes I have a decree already an annulment decree, my ex husband told me he was gonna take care of everything I trusted him and instead of a divorce he filed for an annulment which is harder to get I don't know where he got evidence to prove anything. I asked him and he doesn't wanna tall me a word.

There is no such thing as an annulment after 1 yr and 8 months of good faith marriage in the USA. Good luck trying to apply by yourself, but you might go see an immigration lawyer first. For it sounds like you have a much more complex situation than you are telling us here. For it is not going to be easy.