MakeItWork

22 hours ago, theresaL said:

I agree 150% with TBoneTX. It's time to be proactive and take care of yourself. Abuse is not okay and passively waiting for things to change is not going to protect you. These types of situations tend to only get worse. And for goodness sake, don't tell her anything before hand!! You need to take action without her being aware of your plans or you may very well find yourself in handcuffs.

 

I'm not trying to be alarmist, but there is more than one post here on VJ of men who have found themselves in your situation and it did not go well for them. I am truly sorry this has happened to you.

Thank you and everyone. I'm trying to find these post you mention and read more. I feel like I am too close to the problem to listen to my own good advice which is very much the same as the general opinion. If anyone does happen to know of a post of the same matter please let me know.

if anyone is in the same boat as me. I agree with the other posters. But would also say as soon as you see the signs of violence then don't get married. It's tough because of the short time we have to do everything. You find yourself focused on the goal of marriage versus bring light to the small things that become bigger. 

My wife is from another county and she is being  verbally and physically abusive. 

adjustment status of the K1 visa coming soon 

interview is coming quickly.

She literally has hit me a dozen or more times before I even put up a hand to stop it. 

There have been days where I have headaches from being hit in the head and had to push her away from me.

Our physical incidents were gone I thought because I would not engage

Then I found myself in what could of been serious harm although I can see now she didn't realize I could of been really hurt (not trying to sugar coat it but it's true)

I was trying to get away but luck would have it that she still got hurt bad enough that we had to seek attention. 

I never thought I would be in this type of relationship due to my aversion of violence towards women, 

Now that I am married I feel like I can't run and kept trying to make it work. To be honest I do want it to work but I don't think she does anymore.

I know couples usually want to get past it and make it work. Could the marriage be saved? I don't know but she says she wants to go and leave me.

She's not totally against me and has been supportive at times but none of it out weighs the verbal pain nor being hit.

We applied for adjustment status of the K1 visa awhile back.  Our interview is coming quickly.

Please! if anyone has ever been in this situation I implore you to tell me your experience.

If I have posted this in the wrong place... Please post where I can get some answers.