waynegeraldine

She was told at the embassy that if she was married already they would have helped her to go back, but tyet are not a position to help her now.

Maybe someone can be helped by this in the future, show this post to anyone who "think" they want to go back home and was foolish enough to do so without considering the consequences, basically wrecking everything that took so much pain and money to accomplish.

She is now paying the price and so am I, I'm done period.

Thanks for all you kind words and help.

This is unfortunate. Just the though of having to go through the entire process all over again is unbearable. I hope they can reissue the visa. Good Luck!

Not going through it again...

costly mistake and time consuming now. before it cost you $170 and your NOA2 in 56 days, total to interview was 140 days.

Now it will be $455 and your NOA2 will come in 140 days. your interview over 200 days. hope you can get it re-issued. if not you are back to square one. wow, what a blunder. thats like the couples that get their interview scheduled for K1 and then go and get married.

That blows

Knowing the embassy in Kingston, I do not think they are going to reissue the visa.

We are not married and we have less than 1 week. NVC told me to send her to the embassy in Jamaica. I don't think we have enough time.

Oh boy!!.

Hello, my fiance decided stupidly to travel without AP, and now wants to come back, she has very little time before the 90 days is up, does she stand chance of being allowed back in the country without parole.

OK, seriously I'm DONE!!!!! :angry:

I think I have been VERY paient for a Sagittauran!!! If I see August 7, 2007 on my USCIS contact screen ONE MORE TIME...I AM GONNA SCREAM!!! Does anyone have a REAL number for VSC??? Everytime I try to call I get a crazy recording that I can't get around!!! Any advice...I am losing hope and other July filers from outside boards are saying due to backlog I might not get my NOA2 til January!!

Seriously guys, I hope if you know one thing about me is that I ALWAYS try yo be a positive person and offer constructive support to all. For some reason I am DYING this week! I've been ok til now, but I just can't keep living like this! I feel like I am about to burst into tears for real and that is SOOOOOOOOOO not me!

I love to smile and laugh and make people laugh...well I am finding it really hard to find ANYTHING to laugh about these days!!! It just feels like it is never gonna happen...yuh know?

Anyway, thanks for listening, love ya all

Blessed love,

Gill

It will come soon Gill. Just be patient, you will get it soon, it took me a while to hear from them too.

What you are not understanding is that Nicky is still torn. The fact that the visa is almost through and that she's paid for the wedding and sent out invitations is making her lean towards forgiving him much too easily. This is Lilly's way of trying to get it through her head what he's truly done.

Money and pride should not be the leading factors in thinking this through.

It's a last ditch effort. If I were in Lilly's shoes, I would do the exact same thing........whatever I could to get this person to really think it through. I could not live with myself if I just let it fade away without trying.

Again, this man is now going to be FIGHTING for his chance at a visa. He will be doing and saying EVERYTHING to make her believe that Lily is lying, she's just jealous, wants to break you up etc etc...

However, I believe, in her heart of hearts, Nicky knows it isn't a lie.

If I screwed up like this and I have screwed up to the extent that after ten years of separation, I still would run and hide if my ex-wife found out what I did.

I would just come clean and say, look I messed up and if I genuinely want to be with the woman I beg forgiveness, if not I let her know the truth and move on. I wonder if this man has that in him, I hope he does. Just be honest, that can go a long way. I really feel bad for these two women, especially Nicky, you did nothing to be ashamed Nicky, I wish you all the best with your decision.

I hope this dude gets his act together. People are not there to be used by anyone.

Actually, she did not rant and rave. It appears to me those who disagree with the way she handled this are the only one's ranting and raving.

Those supporting Lilly are pretty much discussing this very calmly.

I did not sat that Lily rant and rave, I said that there is too much ranting on raving "here" meaning on the board, people are going to say hurtful things and disagree with her and she don't need that now that is all I'm trying to say.

DID U REALLY HAVE TO POST THIS IT IS OUT OF ORDER! OUT OF CONTROL! COULD YOU NOT HAVE LEFT THAT TO A PERSONAL MESSAGE WITH NICKY WE ALL DO NOT NEED TO SEE YOUR BUSINESS THIS IS HURTFUL AND I BELIEVE UR PURPOSLEY TRYIN TO RUB THIS IN AND WHY ARE U EVEN TELLING WHERE NICKY LIVES YOUR A MAD OOMAN

Wow!!!! Jalove I completely agree with you. Nicky I am so sorry you are going through this, you are in my prayers!!! I know I'm new to this but we are all here for you.

Remember ... sometimes when in pain...we do things that don't make sense. I know I have in pain sent out crazy letters to friends and family members telling all my sh** because I wanted to hurt HIM but ultimatly it just made me look foolish. Just remember all both women (if not more) are in pain and probably are just looking for support.

im wondering why lily would join VJ today just to air this business and tell nicky business is what upset me why today? why not give nicky a chance to have aired her business on a site that she frequents daily or keep the most personal details in a PM noone need know where nicky live or that his son is coming then to say give nicky love and support? did nicky vent her issue on here to ask for love and support she didnt post abt this or was even given the opportunity hence her statement of He's telling her that we were just friends, LOL. I have photos, text messages, etc. I've shared it all with Nicky -- but she's in a quandary as to what she should i just feel it a little bit much

OK...time for me to step in on this issue.

I told Lilly and Nicky what I figured out yesterday. And, yes, Marlita, it was because of you posting her pictures that I figured it out. I know Lilly from a couple of other sites and she had posted many pictures of Corey, in the exact same shirt he was wearing in one of those pictures yesterday. I did some research on some previous postings here and there and then I went to the ladies via PM's and told them what I thought. I sent each to the respective websites to verify for themselves. Turns out, I was right. They ended up wanting to talk to one another and after asking permission from both, I gave each the other's information. From there, they are working this triangle out.

Nicky is in denial. She's invested much time, energy, emotions, and money into this relationship and she doesn't see a clear cut answer on what to do. Lilly dumped Corey immediately. I believe Lilly's post was a way of working through her feelings. She loved this guy. If you would read some of her posts, she really loved him. And, he talked words of love and of building a future right back at her. They even discussed LIlly filing a visa for him. She asked me where to start a few months ago. To add insult to injury, Nicky and he were already engaged when Lilly met Corey. She was duped from the very beginning. Anyhow, I believe her posts are her way of trying to get over Corey and this situation. And, a way to show Nicky that he did this to her too......he carried on while Nicky filed for a visa for him and talked about their wedding and their lives together. She really wants Nicky to think about what she is still contemplating. Believe it or not, Lilly took an automatic liking to Nicky and her maternal instincts kicked in. She doesn't want to see her hurt again now or in the future.

Sometimes you have to do bold things to get the point across. That's all that was. Lilly cares enough to want to shock her into really thinking about it. And talking on the phone to her did not seem to be getting this point across.

One last thought for you, Nicky, if you are reading this......if there were two of you and all his family and friends were involved.........how many more could there be out there? Think about it.

Nicky......tune out the thoughts of money and pride and really, REALLY think about this. Please.

That is excatly the kind of person Shawn was telling everyone about last week, I don't know the man and don't want to be too harsh, but I'm wondering right now what his girlfriend in Jamaica would think about all of this. He seem to really like talking about the future to together with ladies he meets, he should have been married by now if he is that much the marrying type, there are women in Jamaica you know, but the thing about jamaican women is that they really don't marry bums.

The only thing this man loves are his sneakers and Jeans, and you can toss in a gold chain here and there. I see visa all over this one. Kick him to the curb Nicky, you can do better, but that is only my opinion.

I've shared my concerns with Nicky about my hunch that there are local women he is involved with -- and I gave her specific reasons why I thought what I thought. She can choose to ignore them if she wants, but the signs are there. The hair had been up on the back of my neck since my visit in August and I was desperately seeking the truth. I can handle anything as long as it's the truth. And, handle this . . . I will. I'm writing a letter to the Embassy with PROOF of my relationship with this man. Although it may not fall into the right hands in time for their interview, I pray that God will see fit to keep this bum in his own country . . . and that he stops preying on American women in search of a Visa. Believe me, Corey's very sweet, soft-spoken, and suave . . . almost innocent and naive acting. He could win over a charlatan with his childish good-looks and romantic swooning.

Silly me. I fell too -- and I'm a grown woman. But, knowing what I know now about him, I can walk away without hesitancy.

I know you have been hurt and the man is a liar but you have NO BUSINESS writing the embassy, I want Nicky to leave the man too but it's no one's business if she decide to stay with him. You are taking this a little to far. I know what went down is kinda crazy but your posts are becoming a little bit overbearing.

I appreciate the opinions expressed that I shouldn't write the Embassy . . . and hopefully, when my hurt and anger subside, I'll agree that it's inappropriate. Right now, I'm not in that space.

This man has devastated me, my teenage daughters, my family . . . and we didn't deserve any of it. Why should he walk scott free for his indiscretions? Why should he be allowed to prosper? And . . . his winfall, is Nicky's downfall.

I won't act in an emotional manner. I will give this much thought and consideration. Right now, I'm having a hard time telling what time it is. It's hard when somebody pulls the rug out from underneath you and you're left to deal with it.

Scott Free!! He did not commit a crime against you, what crime did the man commit, please!!!, what make you think the embassy will care if he is a two-timer, if his fiance decide to forgive him, that is waste of time if you ask me. A message board is a bad place to start your healing process too, you should speak to some friend private, there too many ranting and raving here and that will only make things worse.

DID U REALLY HAVE TO POST THIS IT IS OUT OF ORDER! OUT OF CONTROL! COULD YOU NOT HAVE LEFT THAT TO A PERSONAL MESSAGE WITH NICKY WE ALL DO NOT NEED TO SEE YOUR BUSINESS THIS IS HURTFUL AND I BELIEVE UR PURPOSLEY TRYIN TO RUB THIS IN AND WHY ARE U EVEN TELLING WHERE NICKY LIVES YOUR A MAD OOMAN

Wow!!!! Jalove I completely agree with you. Nicky I am so sorry you are going through this, you are in my prayers!!! I know I'm new to this but we are all here for you.

Remember ... sometimes when in pain...we do things that don't make sense. I know I have in pain sent out crazy letters to friends and family members telling all my sh** because I wanted to hurt HIM but ultimatly it just made me look foolish. Just remember all both women (if not more) are in pain and probably are just looking for support.

im wondering why lily would join VJ today just to air this business and tell nicky business is what upset me why today? why not give nicky a chance to have aired her business on a site that she frequents daily or keep the most personal details in a PM noone need know where nicky live or that his son is coming then to say give nicky love and support? did nicky vent her issue on here to ask for love and support she didnt post abt this or was even given the opportunity hence her statement of He's telling her that we were just friends, LOL. I have photos, text messages, etc. I've shared it all with Nicky -- but she's in a quandary as to what she should i just feel it a little bit much

OK...time for me to step in on this issue.

I told Lilly and Nicky what I figured out yesterday. And, yes, Marlita, it was because of you posting her pictures that I figured it out. I know Lilly from a couple of other sites and she had posted many pictures of Corey, in the exact same shirt he was wearing in one of those pictures yesterday. I did some research on some previous postings here and there and then I went to the ladies via PM's and told them what I thought. I sent each to the respective websites to verify for themselves. Turns out, I was right. They ended up wanting to talk to one another and after asking permission from both, I gave each the other's information. From there, they are working this triangle out.

Nicky is in denial. She's invested much time, energy, emotions, and money into this relationship and she doesn't see a clear cut answer on what to do. Lilly dumped Corey immediately. I believe Lilly's post was a way of working through her feelings. She loved this guy. If you would read some of her posts, she really loved him. And, he talked words of love and of building a future right back at her. They even discussed LIlly filing a visa for him. She asked me where to start a few months ago. To add insult to injury, Nicky and he were already engaged when Lilly met Corey. She was duped from the very beginning. Anyhow, I believe her posts are her way of trying to get over Corey and this situation. And, a way to show Nicky that he did this to her too......he carried on while Nicky filed for a visa for him and talked about their wedding and their lives together. She really wants Nicky to think about what she is still contemplating. Believe it or not, Lilly took an automatic liking to Nicky and her maternal instincts kicked in. She doesn't want to see her hurt again now or in the future.

Sometimes you have to do bold things to get the point across. That's all that was. Lilly cares enough to want to shock her into really thinking about it. And talking on the phone to her did not seem to be getting this point across.

One last thought for you, Nicky, if you are reading this......if there were two of you and all his family and friends were involved.........how many more could there be out there? Think about it.

Nicky......tune out the thoughts of money and pride and really, REALLY think about this. Please.

That is excatly the kind of person Shawn was telling everyone about last week, I don't know the man and don't want to be too harsh, but I'm wondering right now what his girlfriend in Jamaica would think about all of this. He seem to really like talking about the future to together with ladies he meets, he should have been married by now if he is that much the marrying type, there are women in Jamaica you know, but the thing about jamaican women is that they really don't marry bums.

The only thing this man loves are his sneakers and Jeans, and you can toss in a gold chain here and there. I see visa all over this one. Kick him to the curb Nicky, you can do better, but that is only my opinion.

I've shared my concerns with Nicky about my hunch that there are local women he is involved with -- and I gave her specific reasons why I thought what I thought. She can choose to ignore them if she wants, but the signs are there. The hair had been up on the back of my neck since my visit in August and I was desperately seeking the truth. I can handle anything as long as it's the truth. And, handle this . . . I will. I'm writing a letter to the Embassy with PROOF of my relationship with this man. Although it may not fall into the right hands in time for their interview, I pray that God will see fit to keep this bum in his own country . . . and that he stops preying on American women in search of a Visa. Believe me, Corey's very sweet, soft-spoken, and suave . . . almost innocent and naive acting. He could win over a charlatan with his childish good-looks and romantic swooning.

Silly me. I fell too -- and I'm a grown woman. But, knowing what I know now about him, I can walk away without hesitancy.

I know you have been hurt and the man is a liar but you have NO BUSINESS writing the embassy, I want Nicky to leave the man too but it's no one's business if she decide to stay with him. You are taking this a little to far. I know what went down is kinda crazy but your posts are becoming a little bit overbearing.

I appreciate the opinions expressed that I shouldn't write the Embassy . . . and hopefully, when my hurt and anger subside, I'll agree that it's inappropriate. Right now, I'm not in that space.

This man has devastated me, my teenage daughters, my family . . . and we didn't deserve any of it. Why should he walk scott free for his indiscretions? Why should he be allowed to prosper? And . . . his winfall, is Nicky's downfall.

I won't act in an emotional manner. I will give this much thought and consideration. Right now, I'm having a hard time telling what time it is. It's hard when somebody pulls the rug out from underneath you and you're left to deal with it.

Scott Free!! He did not commit a crime against you, what crime did the man commit, please!!!, what make you think the embassy will care if he is a two-timer, if his fiance decide to forgive him, that is waste of time if you ask me.

DID U REALLY HAVE TO POST THIS IT IS OUT OF ORDER! OUT OF CONTROL! COULD YOU NOT HAVE LEFT THAT TO A PERSONAL MESSAGE WITH NICKY WE ALL DO NOT NEED TO SEE YOUR BUSINESS THIS IS HURTFUL AND I BELIEVE UR PURPOSLEY TRYIN TO RUB THIS IN AND WHY ARE U EVEN TELLING WHERE NICKY LIVES YOUR A MAD OOMAN

Wow!!!! Jalove I completely agree with you. Nicky I am so sorry you are going through this, you are in my prayers!!! I know I'm new to this but we are all here for you.

Remember ... sometimes when in pain...we do things that don't make sense. I know I have in pain sent out crazy letters to friends and family members telling all my sh** because I wanted to hurt HIM but ultimatly it just made me look foolish. Just remember all both women (if not more) are in pain and probably are just looking for support.

im wondering why lily would join VJ today just to air this business and tell nicky business is what upset me why today? why not give nicky a chance to have aired her business on a site that she frequents daily or keep the most personal details in a PM noone need know where nicky live or that his son is coming then to say give nicky love and support? did nicky vent her issue on here to ask for love and support she didnt post abt this or was even given the opportunity hence her statement of He's telling her that we were just friends, LOL. I have photos, text messages, etc. I've shared it all with Nicky -- but she's in a quandary as to what she should i just feel it a little bit much

OK...time for me to step in on this issue.

I told Lilly and Nicky what I figured out yesterday. And, yes, Marlita, it was because of you posting her pictures that I figured it out. I know Lilly from a couple of other sites and she had posted many pictures of Corey, in the exact same shirt he was wearing in one of those pictures yesterday. I did some research on some previous postings here and there and then I went to the ladies via PM's and told them what I thought. I sent each to the respective websites to verify for themselves. Turns out, I was right. They ended up wanting to talk to one another and after asking permission from both, I gave each the other's information. From there, they are working this triangle out.

Nicky is in denial. She's invested much time, energy, emotions, and money into this relationship and she doesn't see a clear cut answer on what to do. Lilly dumped Corey immediately. I believe Lilly's post was a way of working through her feelings. She loved this guy. If you would read some of her posts, she really loved him. And, he talked words of love and of building a future right back at her. They even discussed LIlly filing a visa for him. She asked me where to start a few months ago. To add insult to injury, Nicky and he were already engaged when Lilly met Corey. She was duped from the very beginning. Anyhow, I believe her posts are her way of trying to get over Corey and this situation. And, a way to show Nicky that he did this to her too......he carried on while Nicky filed for a visa for him and talked about their wedding and their lives together. She really wants Nicky to think about what she is still contemplating. Believe it or not, Lilly took an automatic liking to Nicky and her maternal instincts kicked in. She doesn't want to see her hurt again now or in the future.

Sometimes you have to do bold things to get the point across. That's all that was. Lilly cares enough to want to shock her into really thinking about it. And talking on the phone to her did not seem to be getting this point across.

One last thought for you, Nicky, if you are reading this......if there were two of you and all his family and friends were involved.........how many more could there be out there? Think about it.

Nicky......tune out the thoughts of money and pride and really, REALLY think about this. Please.

That is excatly the kind of person Shawn was telling everyone about last week, I don't know the man and don't want to be too harsh, but I'm wondering right now what his girlfriend in Jamaica would think about all of this. He seem to really like talking about the future to together with ladies he meets, he should have been married by now if he is that much the marrying type, there are women in Jamaica you know, but the thing about jamaican women is that they really don't marry bums.

The only thing this man loves are his sneakers and Jeans, and you can toss in a gold chain here and there. I see visa all over this one. Kick him to the curb Nicky, you can do better, but that is only my opinion.

I've shared my concerns with Nicky about my hunch that there are local women he is involved with -- and I gave her specific reasons why I thought what I thought. She can choose to ignore them if she wants, but the signs are there. The hair had been up on the back of my neck since my visit in August and I was desperately seeking the truth. I can handle anything as long as it's the truth. And, handle this . . . I will. I'm writing a letter to the Embassy with PROOF of my relationship with this man. Although it may not fall into the right hands in time for their interview, I pray that God will see fit to keep this bum in his own country . . . and that he stops preying on American women in search of a Visa. Believe me, Corey's very sweet, soft-spoken, and suave . . . almost innocent and naive acting. He could win over a charlatan with his childish good-looks and romantic swooning.

Silly me. I fell too -- and I'm a grown woman. But, knowing what I know now about him, I can walk away without hesitancy.

I know you have been hurt and the man is a liar but you have NO BUSINESS writing the embassy, I want Nicky to leave the man too but it's no one's business if she decide to stay with him. You are taking this a little to far. I know what went down is kinda crazy but your posts are becoming a little bit overbearing. Nicky was hurt too but she choose to deal with it in quiet dignified manner, please draw the line somewhere, you motives are starting to look suspect.

DID U REALLY HAVE TO POST THIS IT IS OUT OF ORDER! OUT OF CONTROL! COULD YOU NOT HAVE LEFT THAT TO A PERSONAL MESSAGE WITH NICKY WE ALL DO NOT NEED TO SEE YOUR BUSINESS THIS IS HURTFUL AND I BELIEVE UR PURPOSLEY TRYIN TO RUB THIS IN AND WHY ARE U EVEN TELLING WHERE NICKY LIVES YOUR A MAD OOMAN

Wow!!!! Jalove I completely agree with you. Nicky I am so sorry you are going through this, you are in my prayers!!! I know I'm new to this but we are all here for you.

Remember ... sometimes when in pain...we do things that don't make sense. I know I have in pain sent out crazy letters to friends and family members telling all my sh** because I wanted to hurt HIM but ultimatly it just made me look foolish. Just remember all both women (if not more) are in pain and probably are just looking for support.

im wondering why lily would join VJ today just to air this business and tell nicky business is what upset me why today? why not give nicky a chance to have aired her business on a site that she frequents daily or keep the most personal details in a PM noone need know where nicky live or that his son is coming then to say give nicky love and support? did nicky vent her issue on here to ask for love and support she didnt post abt this or was even given the opportunity hence her statement of He's telling her that we were just friends, LOL. I have photos, text messages, etc. I've shared it all with Nicky -- but she's in a quandary as to what she should i just feel it a little bit much

OK...time for me to step in on this issue.

I told Lilly and Nicky what I figured out yesterday. And, yes, Marlita, it was because of you posting her pictures that I figured it out. I know Lilly from a couple of other sites and she had posted many pictures of Corey, in the exact same shirt he was wearing in one of those pictures yesterday. I did some research on some previous postings here and there and then I went to the ladies via PM's and told them what I thought. I sent each to the respective websites to verify for themselves. Turns out, I was right. They ended up wanting to talk to one another and after asking permission from both, I gave each the other's information. From there, they are working this triangle out.

Nicky is in denial. She's invested much time, energy, emotions, and money into this relationship and she doesn't see a clear cut answer on what to do. Lilly dumped Corey immediately. I believe Lilly's post was a way of working through her feelings. She loved this guy. If you would read some of her posts, she really loved him. And, he talked words of love and of building a future right back at her. They even discussed LIlly filing a visa for him. She asked me where to start a few months ago. To add insult to injury, Nicky and he were already engaged when Lilly met Corey. She was duped from the very beginning. Anyhow, I believe her posts are her way of trying to get over Corey and this situation. And, a way to show Nicky that he did this to her too......he carried on while Nicky filed for a visa for him and talked about their wedding and their lives together. She really wants Nicky to think about what she is still contemplating. Believe it or not, Lilly took an automatic liking to Nicky and her maternal instincts kicked in. She doesn't want to see her hurt again now or in the future.

Sometimes you have to do bold things to get the point across. That's all that was. Lilly cares enough to want to shock her into really thinking about it. And talking on the phone to her did not seem to be getting this point across.

One last thought for you, Nicky, if you are reading this......if there were two of you and all his family and friends were involved.........how many more could there be out there? Think about it.

Nicky......tune out the thoughts of money and pride and really, REALLY think about this. Please.

That is excatly the kind of person Shawn was telling everyone about last week, I don't know the man and don't want to be too harsh, but I'm wondering right now what his girlfriend in Jamaica would think about all of this. He seem to really like talking about the future to together with ladies he meets, he should have been married by now if he is that much the marrying type, there are women in Jamaica you know, but the thing about jamaican women is that they really don't marry bums.

The only thing this man loves are his sneakers and Jeans, and you can toss in a gold chain here and there. I see visa all over this one. Kick him to the curb Nicky, you can do better, but that is only my opinion.

I had a pair of Coach heels he wore in Jamaica one Christmas. I think they were 3 or 4 inches though. He was hysterical just trying to walk in them.

Ummm... why was he wearing YOUR high heels?!!!

We were a little tipsy and he said something about it being easy to walk in heels. I said, then go for it.

Speaking of heels......so last night, after digging through my closet and his foot being too big and fat for any of my heels, we took off to Payless to buy him a pair. People were laughing and staring at this Jamaican guy in high heels running down the aisle. We settled on a pair of white strappy 3" wedge heels. At home, he spent most of the night running back and forth on the back porch. I was crying with laughter almost all night. I'm sure the neighbors think we are nuts.

I have to admit that he is a better man than me. I Ain't wearing them heels for no reason.

I remember a few year back I saw some guys participating in a race called "walk a mile in her shoes" men wearning their wives shoes (heels) for a mile for charity. It was one of the funniest things that I had ever seen. , just imagine some fat with a beard trying to walk down the street in heels.

Listen mi, mi not fighting against nobody, but people stop living in self denial. Mi know alot a people whey only in dis ting only fi ketch a farrin, some even buy married. Mi did have one cousin who guh down fi guh meet dis man whey she claim she fall in love with, but is a good ting ting him did chatty chatty, him tell one a him friend seh is only a buss imma a look. One try it wid one a mi auntie to. investigate di person throughly, right now mi have a girlfriend in dis same mess.....man get him card, mek trouble wid har and gone......she alone haffi a pay fi di house and bills now. If yu even have pickney together, dat nuh hold man or woman. When dem guh back a Jamaica dem start boast seh dem have pickney a farrin.

Sometime ask yu self, look how nuff woman deh bout and dem nuh ready fi seckle down, until dem find a farrin woman dem propose same day.

Some a di same madda in law collect di money from yu husband....sometime a nuh fi har, a fi pay di work man dem whey a build him house down dere and yu nuh know.(di same mumma in law whey did a boast pon yu, di same one whey did a gaawn like she would a dead fi yu) And if yu bad yu guh down dere guh mek trouble, yu would get lick to yu weak or gunshot.

All mi a seh check out yu man or yu woman THROUGHLY, we Jamaicans can pretend fi years.

Ole people sey......Di man whey sh.T a road nuh memba it, but a di one whey step inna it.

The exact thing happened to my sister, I believe that this has caused me to have problems with my fiance in the past because I'm quick to see "signs" even where they do not exist...

On the other hand my cousin marry a woman here and she is doing everything the break up the marriage after ten years and he is trying tooth and nails to save it, because he loves his wife. He has never cheated on this woman and has not even considered going back to the baby mama he left in Jamaica, but this woman is obsessed with the fact that this baby mama is now in the states on a work program that she just make the man's life so miserable, he wants her, not the baby mama.

She hates his kid who lives with them and tries to do everything to get the kid sent back to Jamaica. I would have left her it it was me, but he say he loves his wife will not leave. There are different sides to many stories, there are also women here who Ill treat the men they take here and men do the same, two many dynamics and variables to lump everyone under one umbrella, a large percentage of marriages here and in Jamaica end in divorce, stuff happens.

The best actors can't pretend every day, you are stupid if can't figure out that someone is using you, some figure it out but they choose to stay nevertheless, whose fault is it when they get used?

Listen mi, mi not fighting against nobody, but people stop living in self denial. Mi know alot a people whey only in dis ting only fi ketch a farrin, some even buy married. Mi did have one cousin who guh down fi guh meet dis man whey she claim she fall in love with, but is a good ting ting him did chatty chatty, him tell one a him friend seh is only a buss imma a look. One try it wid one a mi auntie to. investigate di person throughly, right now mi have a girlfriend in dis same mess.....man get him card, mek trouble wid har and gone......she alone haffi a pay fi di house and bills now. If yu even have pickney together, dat nuh hold man or woman. When dem guh back a Jamaica dem start boast seh dem have pickney a farrin.

Sometime ask yu self, look how nuff woman deh bout and dem nuh ready fi seckle down, until dem find a farrin woman dem propose same day.

Some a di same madda in law collect di money from yu husband....sometime a nuh fi har, a fi pay di work man dem whey a build him house down dere and yu nuh know.(di same mumma in law whey did a boast pon yu, di same one whey did a gaawn like she would a dead fi yu) And if yu bad yu guh down dere guh mek trouble, yu would get lick to yu weak or gunshot.

All mi a seh check out yu man or yu woman THROUGHLY, we Jamaicans can pretend fi years.

Ole people sey......Di man whey sh.T a road nuh memba it, but a di one whey step inna it.

The exact thing happened to my sister, I believe that this has caused me to have problems with my fiance in the past because I'm quick to see "signs" even where they do not exist...

On the other hand my cousin marry a woman here and she is doing everything the break up the marriage after ten years and he is trying tooth and nails to save it, because he loves his wife.

ok ladies i just made some porridge incorporating marlitas idea! with the cream of wheat its very good i used cream of wheat, water, lasco vanilla soy milk powder, sprinkle of nutmeg, dash of vanilla and a few tablespoons of condensed milk its pretty good

See, easy as pie!

I like the cream of wheat version better than corn meal. Never really liked corn meal. Plus ladies, before you think about giving this to the babies, remember corn doesnt digest. You could have a contipated baby for real Thats why you should not use corn meal, but baby cereal for the little ones. Ever seen a baby poop out a whole kernal of corn.....cause they cant digest it. Actually corn is bad for you, but thats a whole nother story. Popcorn doesnt digest either!

Even adults don't digest corn..But know wahhht..MI WHOLE FAMILY LOVE !!!

There some things you can do to make cornmeal digestable, but it's very time consuming, if you read Sallly Fallon's book, Nourishing Traditions (which is great by the way), there are some suggestions there, I tried it a few times to make corn bread and cornmeal spoonbread, knowing my fiance she would never go that so I don't even bother, I will do it again when time and money permits. She recommends a lot of soaking in pickling lime.

That doesn't sound like it would taste good.

Does not affect the taste at all, pickling lime is a powdery substance that you mix with water, I still have few bags, it's cheap and last very long because you just have to use a little. I don't know how it would be with cornmeal porrige but with the cornbread and spoonbread, zero effect.

ok ladies i just made some porridge incorporating marlitas idea! with the cream of wheat its very good i used cream of wheat, water, lasco vanilla soy milk powder, sprinkle of nutmeg, dash of vanilla and a few tablespoons of condensed milk its pretty good

See, easy as pie!

I like the cream of wheat version better than corn meal. Never really liked corn meal. Plus ladies, before you think about giving this to the babies, remember corn doesnt digest. You could have a contipated baby for real Thats why you should not use corn meal, but baby cereal for the little ones. Ever seen a baby poop out a whole kernal of corn.....cause they cant digest it. Actually corn is bad for you, but thats a whole nother story. Popcorn doesnt digest either!

Even adults don't digest corn..But know wahhht..MI WHOLE FAMILY LOVE !!!

There some things you can do to make cornmeal digestable, but it's very time consuming, if you read Sallly Fallon's book, Nourishing Traditions (which is great by the way), there are some suggestions there, I tried it a few times to make corn bread and cornmeal spoonbread, knowing my fiance she would never go that so I don't even bother, I will do it again when time and money permits. She recommends a lot of soaking in pickling lime.

Question:

Why is it bad (in Jamaica) to be slapped with a dish towel??? I swatted at Tony with one because he was teasing me and he flipped out! Said something about becoming lazy or something Has anyone heard of this before?

Geez, I heard that one as a kid, but would be shocked that a grown person could really take it literally, he must be joking around.

It really means, if you get hit with a dish towel you will become a good for nothing, or just worthless, it's just silly Jamaican superstition, as you all know by now we are not lacking in that area.

im gonna be needing to learn to make chicken foot soup and cow skin soup for when he gets here he loves those and i have no clue how toi think i can manage the red pea soup we normally get that soup from the rasta in downtown mobay he makes the bessst soupppppp then late nights we get the rasta food i have no idea what street its on but they setup shop and be cutting up veg and everything makin fresh fried dumplings chris loves the veggie chunks im not feelin that one too much

Don't him cow skin, cow skin should not be eaten.

ok ladies i just made some porridge incorporating marlitas idea! with the cream of wheat its very good i used cream of wheat, water, lasco vanilla soy milk powder, sprinkle of nutmeg, dash of vanilla and a few tablespoons of condensed milk its pretty good

Cornmeal porrige is awesome with evaporated milk, fresh coconut milk adds a nice little wrinkle, also butter.

Have any of your SO's here in the US had to work with any homosexuals? If so, how did they cope with it?

I ask because Andre works with a new guy who is flamingly gay. Andre's having some issues with it. I keep reminding him that he's management now and has to be accepting.

Anyone else deal with anything like this?

There is genuine hatred for homosexuality in Jamaica, I've heard people said that they would not speak to their own children if they turn out to be homosexuals, and there is a feeling that tolerance means that you condone the lifestyle and that you might be one too (as silly as that sound it's true).

There is not much voilence directed at homosexuals but there is much resentment. I experienced working with homosexuals IN JAMAICA. I kinda shocked at the openess when I came here first, even though I was never bothered by it, I just found it bit funny.

My second job was in the gap store when I came here and one of my best friends there was openly gay, I became even more tolerant towards the lifestyle when I worked as a personal trainer in a west village gym, I trained many gays people, made many friends there, I got used to seeing homosexual couples on a daily basis hugging and smooching, half the staff was gay, I'm pretty cool with the lifestyle, don't matter to me at all.

He has to stop looking the man a gay and just try to see him as a co-worker.

Why the sad face? *hug*

Everyones fightin on here makes me kinda sad

I certainly agree with ya! That's why we need to make it upbeat and lighten the mood!

Yeah, let's talk about how much we hate that mean lady at the embassy in Kingston to lighten the mood and have some fun.

ok....why is everyone lookin at me strange??? could it be cause I am jumpin up and down screamin...doin the cabbage patch and running man at the same time (yeah I know, I am old)

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NOA2....NOA2.....NOA2.....NOA2!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Sweet!!!

Before I make a comment why exactly r u tired of Rhonda ?

I'm not even gonna open that can of worms.

You have to look at things like these from an historical perspective. We have to protect black boys from unjust prosecution, you don't want a better demonstration of the unfairness of the system when it comes to black boys than the SERIES OF EVENTS in Jenna. I wish I was there to show my displeasure.

If justice is not done, it must at least appear to be done, I don't support voilence but whoever shout racial slurs at another is on his own.

The school could have stopped all this long ago. What about the undercover segregation that was going on at the school.

It's not a small matter down there in Jena, we are just trying to protect our kids from prosecuters who threaten to end thier lives with the stroke of a pen.

It is not uncommon to see little babies with a piece of red cloth tied around tiny arms, parents do this to prevent duppies from playing with them.

"Duppy you si mi red red" I used to say that little ditty as a little kid, they have the saying that duppies are afraid of the color red, maybe that is where this came from.