KevinB

So, do I get the divorce done in Honduras? I called the attorney that married us in Honduras this weekend and he's looking into the process as I am here in the USA (NY) as is my Dominican wife. Do I contact a divorce attorney here now as well? Keep in mind I never registered the marriage here in the USA or New York. I just sent the translated copy of the marriage certificates into the USCIS to accompany all the paperwork for the I-130, I-129F, I-485 and I-765. I've never made contact or registered the marriage locally. I'm confused on next steps here in the USA as it relates to the divorce?

I have contacted a lawyer to squash this BS order of protection that she 'magically' came up with after I called her bluff and told her I'd grant her wish of a divorce and will begin the deportation proceedings to send her and her son back to the Dominican Republic. That's when she hit the panic button and started this BS with the order of protection. I am concerned about the WAWA law, and clearly that is the angle she is going for. That is another reason I cannot wait for the "interview" for the green card.

Note, we were married internationally in Honduras, as the visa backlog for an interview at the US embassy in the Dominican Republic was 2 years at the time we were married. I actually spent thousands more, so we could marry in Honduras so we could get an interview within 4 weeks after the approved I-129F was sent to Tegucigalpa, Honduras. I have contacted the lawyer I used to marry us internationally in Honduras, to assist with the divorce. I'm still waiting for a response. I'm concerned that if my wife doesn't want to proceed with the divorce (as she may think that it will cancel all opportunities for her to receive her green card), then can I still get a divorce if both parties don't agree? I have sufficient proof that she clearly married me fraudulently and for the sole purposes of receiving immigration benefits. Also, I never registered our marriage here in New York State. I only sent in the international marriage certificate into the USCIS for the I-130, I-129F, I-485, I-765. We do not have a marriage license from New York State, where I am a resident.

I can provide sufficient evidence. I have Western Union and La Nacional money transfer receipts in my wives name as the sender to various family members. Keep in mind she has no job, and was sending large sums of $ (no idea) where it came from to the DR. I personally think she took $ from our account in the DR (however it is a joint account, however all the $ in there was mine at the time she took the $). Again, this is tough to prove as she is the primary on that account. I also found Western Union money receipts sent to a boyfriend (I believe) who is here in the US now as he is/was a minor league baseball player (currently released and without a job), but who is originally from the DR.

Beacuse of the events that have gone on since last week and my infidelity suspicions, I have reviewed all cell-phone calls made and received by my wife for the last year, and there are over 200 phone calls and texts + photos exchanged, made/received between my wife and the alleged boyfriend. This I'm sure is significant proof for the USCIS.

I'm not sure I know where to begin. But I might as well get started. I met my wife in the Dominican Republic in December 2006 through a friend (employee) of mine who made the blind date introduction. None the less, we fell in love with one another and agreed to be married in February of 2007. She was unfamiliar with the visa process, so I did all the investigation on the processes and procedures here on the internet, both on dominicanstotheusa.com and this website visajourneys.com I brought her over to this country (with her blood son - 7 yrs at the time), I brought her to the USA on a K-3 visa and her son on a K-4 visa, as we married internationally.

She received her visa in Oct. 2007, and immediately has been with me in the US now for 16 months now. I had to fill out the I-485 (adjustment of status to permanent resident) and I-765 (work authorization) paperwork and send the fees in for both my wife and her son. They were quite hefty at $2,010 for the I-485, I-765 for my wife and her son, and I had to file another I-130 for her son when he was here for another $350 or there abouts. Being that I spent a fortune on two trips back and forth for our families back to the Dominican Republic, which she insisted upon as she really missed her family, I delayed filing the paperwork mentioned above until November 12, 2008. However, my wife hounded me often (almost demanded) that I file the paperwork before we went back for our visit to the DR for two weeks from Christmas through the New Year. She says she wants to work here in the USA and is obligated to helping her family, whom all are very nice (however very poor). All are hard workers and most of all her family went through the Police Academy and are police officers in the DR. In the interim while my wife wasn’t working here in the US, on her requests we would send money and clothing, etc to the DR to assist her entire family. Well, I must admit, I am starting to have regrets about filing this paperwork. I've noticed that ever since I've filed the I-485/I-765 paperwork, that her personality has gone very 'cold' and disrespectful of me. It's almost like she thinks that because I have filed this last leg of paperwork, that she is 'home free' to stay in the USA and she can treat me disrespectful. She is very 'moody', one day she is happy and the next day she's upset (and takes it out on me). Our relationship has gone downhill since I filed the paperwork in November 2008, and she even treated me bad/disrespectful while we visited the DR during our vacation (which again cost me thousands) for 2 weeks over this Holiday season 08/09.

Last week I found out some information that my wife, might have hooked up with a boyfriend that she had about 4 years ago, while we were back in the DR over the Holidays. Of coarse I don't have proof, and unfortunately there are a lot of rumors and lies that move around the neighborhood where she lives (as it is quite poor). There are a lot of people jealous of my wife, as she has married an American (me) and has everything now. With that said, I was trying to take this data that I received with a grain assault. However, I couldn't help but notice the change in her personality with me. I decided to approach her about the situation and she got upset and of coarse denied everything. She accused me of jealousy and said that I am making her 'pay' for the sins of my first wife (American whom I married young, who treated me bad, committed adultery and used me). I'm thinking that clearly it is within her right to make such a claim, however based on the information that was provided to me regarding her 'date' with her ex-boyfriend during our DR visit, I was thinking this was an easy 'defense strategy' to be used by her, as she knows I don't have video tape proof. I received the data regarding the alleged hook-up with my wife and her ex-boyfriend from a good friend, in fact this is the person who made the initial introductions of our first blind date. Ironically, my wife now says that this person is not my friend and is only telling me this information so he can use me for money (as this person actually works for me, well before I met my wife). When she told me this, I simply said to me wife "If Jxxxx is such a bad person and you think so bad of him as a person, then why did you listen to him when he asked you if you wanted to meet his American boss? If you didn't like or trust this person in the first place, why would you ever think that you would introduce you to the man of your dreams?" Now once I said this to my wife she became very angered. First, she never answered my question, as she knew what I was insinuating. Then she turned and said to me that she wants an immediate divorce and wants to have both her and her son go back to the DR immediately. She said she doesn't care about this country or the visa, she only came here because she loved me and had an opportunity to help her family. I slept on the couch that night (last Monday night). I had to fly to NYC on business the next morning, so I didn't see my wife or child before I left, as it was very early. I returned Wednesday night and my wife had a couple girlfriends at the house and she was doing their hair. Once the left she ignored me, and went to bed (with her son (8 years old) next to her again), so I was forced again sleep on the coach. The next morning I waited until he went off to school, and then I decided to talk with my wife. I told her that she has her wish. I contacted immigration and have began the deportation process and both her and her son will be going back to the DR immediately. Of coarse none of this was true, however I was trying to 'call her bluff' on the divorce request of hers, and see her reaction. The reaction was what I thought it would be, she ignored me and immediately started calling her latin friends that she has made during her 16 months here in the US. I overheard her one friend from Puerto Rico, suggest that she go to the Spanish Action League for help. I left for work, when I returned she was gone. Based on my suspicions, I took my wives and her sons passports (with visa stamps in them), the night before and put them in a secure location. At some point on Thursday my wife realized that both hers and her sons passports were missing, and I know she knew I had them (although she didn't say anything to me). Thursday night, the police showed up at my house with my wife (no child), and she was escorted in a van from the Spanish Action League. The police said that I had to return both hers and her sons passports. I explained that I suspected my wife only married me to receive her visa, and that I was in the process of contacting the USCIS regarding the suspected marriage fraud on the count of my wife. He indicated that he doesn't get involved with visa stuff, as her current visa is valid until Oct 2009. Unfortunately she is legal in this country and free to come and go from our home if she so chooses. He understood where I was coming from with my suspicions and reiterated that I need to take that up with the USCIS. The police showed up, as the Spanish Action League called them on behalf of my wife to come and get a suitcase of clothing. My wife entered w/ the police at her side and proceeded upstairs to pack her suitcase. She said nothing to me, and I said nothing to her as she passed me in the hallway before heading upstairs to pack. They left. I went the entire weekend wondering where my wife was at and why she hadn't called me nor returned home. The police indicated to me that she might be going to a 'safe house' per the direction of the Spanish Action League. I'm thinking 'safe house' for what?? There was no violence involved here. However, to my larger surprise on Monday afternoon, I was served with a stay away order of protection that was petitioned at our local county family court here in New York. Wow!! I read through the paperwork, and clearly it was completed by some type of 'abused wives' organization, which I have later confirmed to be exactly the case. Apparently a police report was taken from my wife on Thursday evening when she came to grab her suitcase, where she mentions in the report about the argument (she calls it) that we had Monday evening where I accused her of infidelity and she returned the accusation with the request for a divorce and immediate return to the DR. She apparently used that report (keep in mind no violence of any kind (aside from an argument) that did NOT in any way shape or form involve any type of physical confrontation) to receive this temporary order of protection against me. I called the police officer that came to my home that same afternoon that I was served the papers, and he was not surprised that I was served with the order of protection. He claims that anyone can go down to the family court with any type of domestic incident report (no matter the content of the report) and request an order of protection. He also said that the family court hands these things out "like water". I am sick and disgusted at this point for a few very good reasons

I suspect now that my wife has become nervous that I know the truth, that she has married me only to receive the visa (as I told her this, and she has committed marriage fraud, which I also told her) and that she can be criminally prospected against and immediately deported back to the DR. Therefore she has now sought out a 'Woman’s Rights Group, designed for Latinas that is out to nail any guy (right or wrong) and pin me as an abuser (mental). Personally, after reading through another post on here, I think she is only doing this as I understand that her only way to save her #### and not get the I-485 approved and her visa expired, is to indicate 'domestic violence' on the part of her husband (me), and ask for an immediate green card. Can this happen? I'm sure she has received legal advice, that the only way to stop the deportation process (as she thinks I've already called USCIS) is by claiming that I have mentally abused her. Personally, I'm scared to death of this stay away temporary order of protection issued by our local family court (of coarse all unknown to me). We have an adjournment date in court on March 23rd where the judge will here my side of the story as well. Regardless, I have a serious issue on my hand for the next 17 days before our court date. The fact of the matter is that per this temporary order of protection I cannot call, text, email or have any contact at all with my wife until our court date 03/23/09. I've called my wives family in the DR, as my wife calls her mom daily ever since she has been here in the USA. Her mom tells me that my wife has informed her of the situation, and that I need not pay attention to rumors and lies, as everyone is jealous of our relationship in the DR. This I still don't understand, but none the less it has been said to me not only by her mother, but by her sister-in-law, brother, etc. Her mother and sister-in-law have been contacted by my wife while she has been in the safe house, and they tell me that she (my wife) wants me to know that she loves me and wants to make amends with me, but is scared of the order or protection. She claims that her lawyer is telling her that she cannot have any contact with me at all before our court date on 03/23. I told my mother-in-law that when my wife calls her again, please tell her that this is strictly 'advise' as they are a woman’s advocate rights organization, and the majority of the women that go to them for assistance are abused by their significant other. Obviously that is not the case with me, however this group assumes that I too have intentions to harm my wife (simply not true). If I want to be very nieve, I could assume that her whole family is blind to everything that my wife is doing behind my back. Or I can be smarter, and assume that her family knows my wives alleged intentions of marrying me to obtain a visa and the ability to work here in the USA to help her family. I've sent money to her family on numerous occasions, I have even gone as far as sending $5000 to assist in the foundation being created for a new home for my mother-in-law. Call me stupid, but I have a big heart and don't like to see my wives family so poor (but yet happy) as compared to what we have here in the US. On another money note, I have given my credit card (debit card) to my wife to take money out in emergency situations. I confronted her a couple of weeks ago about a transaction that she made where she took $200 out of the account behind my back. When I confronted her about this and asked if she took the money more importantly for what, she responded with ‘yes’ she did it, and she needed to send more money to her mother and she forgot to tell me about this. Again, this is not like my wife, but again she did admit it (however after I approached her on the topic). Had I not asked her about this, would she have ‘remembered’ to tell me about this money? Also, this past Thursday I checked my bank statement again, and saw that she removed $200 again. This is the same night she showed up at the house with the police to pack her suitcase. Per my bank she removed the money at 9:30pm (3 ½ hours after) she came by the house with the police. I informed her family that she removed money without my permission, and they said that it was wrong (at first they didn’t want to believe it). I think maybe her mother said something to my wife about it, as today (Thursday 03/06) the police showed up at my home again per my wives request for more clothes for her and her son. I kindly gave the clothing to the officer, and ironically the group that requested the clothing again was this Spanish Action League (who by the way I don’t trust as far as I can throw). The girl from the Spanish Action League handed me my credit card (that my wife had) and explained to the police officer that she was instructed by my wives lawyer to give me the credit card, but for the police officer to take note of it. This is very strange and seems to be a CYA (cover your ####) attempt by my wife, as she knows that this is solely my account (doesn’t have her name on it) and she was holding a credit card with someone else’s name on it. And she knows I know about the two $200 ATM withdrawals she has made without my permission. By the way, I changed the PIN on the card immediately after finding out that she took the 2nd $200.00 out of the ATM last Thursday. Do I have legal coarse of action against my wife for larceny? Should I pursue this?

HELP:

Am I crazy? Are my assumptions about my wife marrying me for the sole purposes of obtaining a visa and permanent residency here in the US, rather then for the love I have for her and her son?

What do I do next? Do I wait until after our court date to see what she says on the date of court and tells the judge that she wants to make amends with me? I'm thinking that this could be risky for a couple of reasons: 1) If I'm being played here, that she only 'drummed up' this domestic violence fantasy against me to expedite her green card process, then clearly she is going to tell the judge to keep the order of protection in place and that she doesn't want to return home to me. 2) She in fact was really scared when I tried to call her bluff last thursday when I said I will grant her request of an immediate divorce and that I was beginning the deportation process for her and her son back to the DR. In response to her being terrified of the potential reality of being deported, she reached out to this Spanish Action League and they are telling her what she needs to do, and maybe she doesn't understand it all? Clearly the document that was drafted to the family court was done by the womens rights lawyer, as my wife can't read or write well enough in English. I personally don't think she understood all that went into that petition for the order of protection. My wife is telling her family in the DR, that her lawyer is forbidding her from contacting me (although she (my wife) claims that she wants to do just that and resolve things.)

3) I was advised to write a letter to the USCIS, and attach all supporting proof and copies of all the approved and pending USCIS forms I have. Once I have the letter completed, I need to request an INFOpass appointment at our local USCIS office and present the marriage fraud letter to an immigration officer. The letter needs to detail my suspicion of marriage fraud and requesting for immediate denial of the pending I-485 and potentially asking them to cancel/revoke the current visa stamp that she has that is valid until 10/2009. If I delay in writing this letter for another 17 days, awaiting the results of the court date, does that jeopardize my credibility with the USCIS?

Thanks all!

KB

PS. So sorry for the long read, however I wanted you to have all the facts so that I can receive so good advice as to my next moves.

Hello,

My name is Kevin. I am a US Citizen and born here in the USA. I plan on marrying my girlfriend, who is from the Dominican Republic. We plan on being married in Honduras and then once married I planning on filing the appropriate CR-1 process and I-130 paperwork here in the USA to petition to have my new wife come live with me in the USA. Once I receive the NOA-1, then I would finle the appropriate K-3 paperwork and I-129F Form with the Tegucigalpa Consulate.

Question: We are getting to Tegucigalpa on 02/16 and plan to be married at some point during our stay in Honduras. We are staying there through 02/20. Can we get married 'officially' by judge in Tegucigalpa, Honduras? Any suggestions on who we contact to make arrangements? Being that neither of our families are local in Honduras (her's are from the Dominican Republic and mine are from the USA), we will unfortunately not have any witnesses (family or friends) present, just my fiance and myself. Will the Judge who marries us supply witness(s)? If not, what are your suggestions

Also, my finance will need to make medical/doctor arrangements ahead of our interview (once they approve our petition) and schedule the interterview. How/who does she contact (doctor) for this? I'd love for the appointment to happen on the same trip that we make back together to Honduras for the consulate visit. Hopefully arrangements can be made for doctors visit for her BEFORE the interview at the consulate. I'd hate to make another very expensive trip for the both of us.

Thanks in adavance for assistance and quick response!

Desparate,

KevinB

Hello,

My name is Kevin. I am a US Citizen and born here in the USA. I plan on marrying my girlfriend, who is from the Dominican Republic. We plan on being married in Honduras and then once married I planning on filing the appropriate CR-1 process and I-130 paperwork here in the USA to petition to have my new wife come live with me in the USA. Once I receive the NOA-1, then I would finle the appropriate K-3 paperwork and I-129F Form with the Tegucigalpa Consulate.

Question: We are getting to Tegucigalpa on 02/16 and plan to be married at some point during our stay in Honduras. We are staying there through 02/20. Can we get married 'officially' by judge in Tegucigalpa, Honduras? Any suggestions on who we contact to make arrangements? Also, do we need to have witnesses? Unfortunately, none of our families are in Honduras, so taking family to Honduras with us will be quite expensive. I am hoping the Judge that marries us, will have witnesses??? Do we need to be residents of Honduras to be married there?

Also, my finance will need to make medical/doctor arrangements ahead of our interview (once they approve our petition) and schedule the interterview. How/who does she contact (doctor) for this? I'd love for the appointment to happen on the same trip that we make back together to Honduras for the consulate visit. Hopefully arrangements can be made for doctors visit for her BEFORE the interview at the consulate. I'd hate to make another very expensive trip for the both of us.

Thanks in adavance for assistance and quick response!

Desparate,

KevinB

Hello,

My name is Kevin. I am a US Citizen and born here in the USA. I plan on marrying my girlfriend, who is from the Dominican Republic. We plan on being married in Honduras and then once married I planning on filing the appropriate CR-1 process and I-130 paperwork here in the USA to petition to have my new wife come live with me in the USA. Once I receive the NOA-1, then I would finle the appropriate K-3 paperwork and I-129F Form with the Tegucigalpa Consulate.

Question: We are getting to Tegucigalpa on 02/16 and plan to be married at some point during our stay in Honduras. We are staying there through 02/20. Can we get married 'officially' by judge in Tegucigalpa, Honduras? Any suggestions on who we contact to make arrangements?

Also, my finance will need to make medical/doctor arrangements ahead of our interview (once they approve our petition) and schedule the interterview. How/who does she contact (doctor) for this? I'd love for the appointment to happen on the same trip that we make back together to Honduras for the consulate visit. Hopefully arrangements can be made for doctors visit for her BEFORE the interview at the consulate. I'd hate to make another very expensive trip for the both of us.

Thanks in adavance for assistance and quick response!

Desparate,

KevinB

I'm checking airfair for the countries that the my girlfriend in the DR can travel too right now. It looks like it's tough to fly from the DR to Mexico. I was trying to find either DR to Cancun, Mexico or DR to Cozumel, Mexico flights. As those cities are easy to get to from the USA via plane for me.

Any ideas? Here are the countries that I found that someone from the DR can travel to without a Visa

Countries with which Dominican Republic has agreements FOR DIPLOMATS and Government Officers to Travel without Visa:

Argentina, Belize, Colombia, Costa Rica, Ecuador, El Salvador, Guatemala, Honduras, Israel, Japan, Korea, Mexico, Nicaragua, Panama, Peru, and Uruguay.

Any help would be MUCH appreciated. I'd personally prefer a country closer to the USA and/or the DR as opposed to having to fly to Asia Pacific or the Middle East

I live in the state of New York, so according to the I-129F form I just read it will be sent to Vermont. I dowloaded the form and I'm filling it out right now. I plan on sending it out in tomorrow's mail. It looks like I might catch a break on getting the documents timely to the consulate. However, I have heard nightmares that the Dominican Republic (where my love is from) is a high fraud country and has a huge backlog of K-1 Visa requests and it could take 1 1/2 - 2 years for the whole process. Talk about testing our love ;-) Obviously I'm willing to do this but faster is always better. But like you said if it were easy lawyers that do immigration would be out of business. But it always doesn't hurt to read good message boards like this one and a few others I found in my search this weekend and do some good reading of other folks experiences that might be similar to the journey I'm about to take on. Looks like a long ride....I better fasten my seatbelt and be very patient. I wish there were faster ways. But it looks like the K-1 is the way to go

Thank you for the quick reply. I still have a critical question though. How do I find out what countries my girlfriend and I can marry in. I think I can travel anywhere, as I am a US Citizen, have a valid US Passport and have traveled to many countries on my passport that was issued in 1999 (Singapore, Mexico, Bahamas, Dominican Republic, Belize, Canada, etc). My girfriend (Future wife) is from the Dominican Republic and currently lives there. She has never left her country (even on a vist) to another country before. She just got her passport in early january. Please advise best path

I am a newbie on here so please bare with me on some of my questions. My proposed spouse is from the Dominican Republic. We definitely want to marry one another, but I want to make sure what ever we do, we do it correctly so I can ultimately get her here with me to the USA (New York). I am a US Citizen and born in the USA. She is Dominican (woman), never married before and has a child. She's 23 yrs, and I'm 33 yrs. We met during my visits from the US to the Dominican Republic, as I am a professional baseball agent to contracts business in the DR. One of my baseball players introduced me to her. We have fallen in love, and I want her to live/marry with me here in New York. She wants to come over first and then after she gets here, we'll petition for her son to come (he's 6 yrs old). I heard that the wait for K-1 or K-3 Visas for the Dominican Republic can be 1 1/2 to 2 yrs (possibly longer....wow!). BUT I also have heard that there may be a 'loop hole', if my girlfriend and I were to marry in ANOTHER country (that she can travel to without a visa) and then apply for the K-3 (or K-1), but I think it's the K-3 then I heard that the approval process could be ~6 months! Is there any truth to this?? Do you know what countries we can marry in? Is there any risks to not get approved if we do this (e.g. the consul we expect fraud or something)??

She currently has an appointment with the Consul on Feb. 7th for a non-immigrant Visitor Visa - but we were thinking of canceling this appointment, as we are concerned that they will not approve the visitors visa to the USA because they will be afraid she will never return to the Dominican Republic, even though she owns a car, owns her own Beauty Salon and successful business, and has significant funds in her bank account + not to mention she has a son in the DR to come back to. The thought is that because she is so young (only 23) that the consul may not even want to look at her evidence (Car Title, Business Ownership Proof, Bank Account balance, etc)? Should we cancel this appointment, as I'm worried that if she does get denied, it will hurt our chances of filing a K-1 and/or K-3 as we know this is a much longer wait? Currently she has never in her life applied for a Visa so I want to make sure that when we do it, we do it correctly.

Thanks in advance!

I am a newbie on here so please bare with me on some of my questions. My proposed spouse is from the Dominican Republic. We definitely want to marry one another, but I want to make sure what ever we do, we do it correctly so I can ultimately get her here with me to the USA (New York). I am a US Citizen and born in the USA. She is Dominican (woman), never married before and has a child. She's 23 yrs, and I'm 33 yrs. We met during my visits from the US to the Dominican Republic, as I am a professional baseball agent to contracts business in the DR. One of my baseball players introduced me to her. We have fallen in love, and I want her to live/marry with me here in New York. She wants to come over first and then after she gets here, we'll petition for her son to come (he's 6 yrs old). I heard that the wait for K-1 or K-3 Visas for the Dominican Republic can be 1 1/2 to 2 yrs (possibly longer....wow!). BUT I also have heard that there may be a 'loop hole', if my girlfriend and I were to marry in ANOTHER country (that she can travel to without a visa) and then apply for the K-3 (or K-1), but I think it's the K-3 then I heard that the approval process could be ~6 months! Is there any truth to this?? Do you know what countries we can marry in? Is there any risks to not get approved if we do this (e.g. the consul we expect fraud or something)??

She currently has an appointment with the Consul on Feb. 7th for a non-immigrant Visitor Visa - but we were thinking of canceling this appointment, as we are concerned that they will not approve the visitors visa to the USA because they will be afraid she will never return to the Dominican Republic, even though she owns a car, owns her own Beauty Salon and successful business, and has significant funds in her bank account + not to mention she has a son in the DR to come back to. The thought is that because she is so young (only 23) that the consul may not even want to look at her evidence (Car Title, Business Ownership Proof, Bank Account balance, etc)? Should we cancel this appointment, as I'm worried that if she does get denied, it will hurt our chances of filing a K-1 and/or K-3 as we know this is a much longer wait? Currently she has never in her life applied for a Visa so I want to make sure that when we do it, we do it correctly.

Thanks in advance!