Kelechi

card production ordered on 02-04-2008, todays status, approval notice sent, no interview

Congratulations, I have been waiting for your Green Card to come. I am so happy for you. Once again Congrats!!!!!!!!!

I finally received my green card today.

Congratulations on the green card.

i got my Green Card on New Years Eve!

What a gift for the end of 2007!!!

Good luck to everyone else!

Congratulations

Today we received a e-mail saying our I-485 was transfered to CSC. How long does it normally take before you either get a interview or you get the greencard in the mail?

For a while I decided to keep my thoughts and comments to myself regarding this post. It appeared as though whenever I made the statement "keep your third eye open", etc. comments with regards to 'why are you with your husband', or 'I would never do that' and even 'maybe you have some insecurities within yourself' filled the message board. Initially I was going to make replies regarding individuals being 'naive' on life matters. But I did not want to put it in print, because the intent is not to try and hurt anyone's feelings, nor did I want to come across as defensive. I just simply summed up as - maybe I'm not explaining myself very well. However, when I started to read Besangin's comments it helped me to formulate some feedback of my own.

So far so good, I can honestly say that I have been blessed with a good husband. Next month will be two years since his arrival. They were not the easiest years, nor were they close to being aweful. Something that has worked for me has been to always be aware of what's going on (Keeping my third eye open). It does not mean that my husband had (or does have) the intentions of trying to hurt me in anyway, but it did make him aware that I was not going to be 'played for a fool'. In the meantime, it helped me to eventually understand the heart of my husband.

In the midst of my husband waiting for his EAD, he eventually enrolled in a CNA Certification course at our community college. The course lasted one month, and he attended classes M-F. Two weeks into the class my husband started talking on the phone with a young lady he had met in the class. It did not bother me that he had a friend (besides, at the time I was the only person he knew here). However, I started having issues with the fact that whenever she called, and I would answer my husband's cell phone she would hang up, and when she did ask to speak to him she never acknowledged my presence. I told my husband that I considered this to be very rude behavior. His reply was pretty much, she does not mean anything by it.

In the midst of all of this I pulled up our cell phone records and saw that she was calling him almost everyday during a two week period (remember .... they just met). Knowing how nice and very naive my husband can me (seriously, this man truely has a heart of gold), and also knowing the mentality of some of the women in the town in which we live, I knew I had to step up my game. One afternoon she called again not knowing that I had my husband's cell phone with me (waiting for her call). She hung up, then I called her back. (NOTE: I know you are not to approach the 'other' women, but instead you need to approach 'your man'). I politely introduced myself, and said that I noticed that she and my husband had been communicating a lot. So I asked her if there was something going on, she said no. I asked was she in need of anything (my husband had already told me that she had a toddler), she said 'no'. So I then said to her 'well if there is nothing going on between you and my husband, and you are not in need of anything from us, I take it that this would be the last time you call me husband!'. She said 'OK". About an hour later the hefa had the nerve to call back, and say to me 'I was thinking about what you said, and I want you to know that he is my friend, and I can call him whenever I feel like it.' Because I was at work, I politely/professionaly said to her "OK", then I hung up.

WHEN I GOT HOME ........ I shared with my husband the conversations that had taken place, as well as my findings with regards to the cell phone calls. My husband was very strong in his behavior with regards to trying to convince me that she was just a class mate, and that he hardly knows her. I sat my husband down, and explained to him that that type of 'friendship' is not appropriate for a 'married' man. Besides, if she is 'his' friend, then why is she not 'my friend.'? During this 'hour of power' I shared with my husband the last conversation in which his classmate said to me that she could call him whenever she felt like it. Initially my husband was in disbelief that his classmate would say such. That was when I flipped and told him to 'get out'. I was absolute, positively, NOT going to deal with this type of drama in my life. I have been single, and independent for a long time, and AIN't nobody going to take away my peace of mind. So .... leave! Immediately my husband grabbed the phone from me, called his classmate, put her on the speaker phone, and point blank told her to "NEVER disrespect my wife again. As a matter of fact, don't ever talk to me again, NEVER".

You see - in my situation I believe that had I not 'kept my third eye open', my naive, kind, good looking, sensitive husband would have started to open the door to trouble. I do believe that my husband's intentions were good, but like I said - I know the mentality of some of the women in this town. In her case, she found someone who was attractive, nice and lives in a good neighborhood. Hmmm .... perhaps a new 'uncle' for her baby .....sorry - that was not nice. But anyway - believe it or not, my husband and I experienced one other situation similar to this several months later. However, he quickly learned a very valuable lesson - if she is not my wife's friend, she's not my friend either. In addition, we also learned that the 'approach' to things speaks volumes. For example, only communicating when I'm not around, easily sends the wrong message to both the other person as well as to me.

I am NOT saying to track each and everything your husband does. But as mentioned by someone else - when things don't add up - question it! Stop believing 'oh my sweet husband would never do such a thing'. Sometimes it ain't your husband you need to worry about. Except that in my case - my husband was too naive, and trusting to realize that he was about to walk into a wall; sorry - but temptation is a real thing! Had I not 'kept my 3rd eye open' things would have continued to manifest, and I probably would not be here today to tell my story. It's like rearing a child, you don't let them go around misbehaving without correcting their behavior. Otherwise, they think that it's OK. I know my husband is from a different culture background. I know of some of the practices that are a part of his history. But because we did not have the typical courtship of going out every weekend, and spending time with each other for months and months, I needed to learn his thoughts on matters, just as easily as he had to learn mine.

Sorry, but I just believe in nipping things in the butt immediately. Don't give it time to grow or festure. Now when we are out and about, and he runs into anyone he knows (male or female) that I don't know .... he quickly finds me, and introduces me as his 'right hand'.

Love your man, nuture and support him in all the things that are good for the two of you. But when two and two does not add up to four ... ask questions. Make it known that things do not appear to be 'right'. If nothing is going on, he should have no problem with making things clear. And as Besangin stated - when he starts to have a seizure when you ask him a question - dial 9-1-1.

All that I've said is only with the best of intentions - peace, love and prosperity - while keeping your 3rd eye open!

Boaz

Nicely said.

I decided to start this thread as a result of reading some of the other posts, concerning the good and the bad experiences.

Let me first say, I'm still married to my husband. But let me also say it has not been easy. I have learned some things from really nice seasoned married women that has helped in the relationship. Suggestions like exhibiting more patience and trying to put myself in his shoes, coming to a country with no family, no friends and learning new things to make it here in the US. Learning patience for me is still a work in progress......

With that said, I went out my way to make available everything to my husband, which included cell phone, luxuries at home, supplying a whole new wardrobe. And I believe that was a mistake, it was taken for granted!! All he had to do was just mentioned it and it was done. But then it was like he was always looking for something. I put myself on the bottom of list, if I was even on the list. I needed to take care of me more as I tried to help in his adjustment. So now I make sure I pay attention to me and not just him.

Many people have their thoughts concerning Nigerian men and I made it a point to not let family know if we were having problems. But I went through the throwing of fits (him of course), money issues (when he started to work), the checking out of single sites, the porn sites, etc. which has damaged our marriage. Right now I'm trying to heal myself to be able to continue in this marriage. So I see where the feelings of being scammed for a paper comes from, but then I have to look at the whole picture and determine, if it is about a paper or is it just how this man (my husband) is.

No matter what others may say to you always remember you are not alone. There are more people out there who have the same issues as you and sometimes worse. If you need to talk you can pm me and I am always close to listen to you. This is the reason why people come to this forum and then leave. Everyone has a right to say what they need to say without starting a ugly arguement. Let the peace of God rule in your hearts. There is nothing wrong with being careful.

I first want to say I have been very busy in this new life with a new job and a new husband and have not been posting as much as I probably should and I hope I can post a bit more especially if I can help someone in their journey.

I have been reading this post and I personally feel this is a very good post. We need to try to let the ones coming after us know not only the good but the bad also as any marriage has. I need to tell you ladies to be very careful of your personal computers and your telephones especially your cell phones. I also want to inform you that there are ways to protect yourself when you have a personal computer in your home with Internet Access. There is software on the market that can moniter your pc. If anyone wants more information about what I am talking about just pm me and I will give you details. Some telephone companies allow you to keep track of phone calls on a daily basis and AT&T is one of them. No matter how you trust your husband always take care of you first. Always try to stay one step ahead of satan and rebuke him in the name of Jesus.

We have to remember that our fiances or husbands had a life before they met us and some of these people that were in their lives will continue to be in their lives. All I am saying is to keep your eyes open and be cautious of these people that are being called cousins, sisters, extended family and aunts. If you see a lot of chatting, text messaging, and phone calls going on between your husband or fiance and a cousin ask questions. This just could not be a cousin. And no matter how close you think you are to his family just remember that it is his family not yours and they all could be in on whatever is going on. Stay in prayer my sisters and brothers and always remember that there is someone on VJ who is going through the same thing that you are so dont think or feel that you are alone.

Has anyone heard from Deecee ?

I was just wondering about them.

I just got home from Senegal this morning.

The result of the interview is No Visa, and the case was refered to their eligibility review unit.

questions during the interview

1. How do you pronounce your wife's name

2. Tell me how did you meet your wife

3. Describe your first meeting

4. Why did you come to senegal

5. How many children does you wife have

6. Tell me the ages of the children

7. How do you and your wife communicate

8. Do you have any photos to share with me

9. She read every card I sent to him

I was not at the window with him, they only wanted to talk with him.

Once she concluded she said unfortunalely we can not issue you a visa today, and gave him a letter. I tried to catch her so that I could talk to her but she left the window. We both were devastated and shocked. I could not think of what to do next. We just we home. After thinking for a while I decided that I was an American with a problem , so they had to speak to me. I tried to disect the letter and come up with as many questions as I could. On the next day we went back to the embassy. The consular section was closed. I resechuled my flight and went back on monday. Gave the clerk my passport, the clerk asked me if I had an emergency, I said yes. I got in. I went to the window for citizens. I gave my husbands case number and start with my questions that I needed an answer for. The person behind the window started to laugh at me. I told her none of this is funny,and I need something done now. She said I am not laughing at you but your question are too technical, are you a lawyer. she said I can't answer them. I said lady I am missing time at my job and I can't play with you now I neet to speak to the Chief Consular. She left the window and came back and said they would talk to you but you will have to wait. I told her I am prepared for that, and anything else that I had to do. I waited 3 hours. They pulled my husbands case, I asked what happened during the interview which made the consular question my husband's elegibility. He said, the interviewing consulars on notation was that the divorce decree for my husband was from Nigeria, and that they needed to verify the document. I did notice that they did not return his original divorce decree after the interview but return everything else. i asked what would be the process to verify the document. He said, we will send the document to the embassy in Abuja. I said, How long would that take he said lets hope not to long, I tried to get a timeframe and he would not give it. I asked what if time sensative doucents expire prior to them recieving their verification. He said, the documents will be requested prior to issuing the visa, and if they need more information taht information would have to be submited at that time. He then said your lawyer put the petition together very well so I do think we will be calling you for seconday information, we just need the verification of the divorce. I said in my mind we didn't use a lawyer, we used visajourney. I will be calling DOS to see if the Consular was telling me the truth and I will go from there. I think I am going to need some help with this process? Is everybody up for helping me out?

You know I am behind you 100%. Just tell me what you need me to do and I will try. Glad you made it back home safely and I pray for a speedy end to this.

On December 10, 2007 we received an e-mail about EAD production ordered. Then on December 13, 2007 we received another e-mail about the EAD production order. Why did we receive this last touch about the production order. Is this second production order them mailing it or something?

Congratulations girl.

I also used North American oneway for my fiance now husband from Nigeria. I called the airline and they told me the same as We_Destiny that he would need a copy of my id and credit card. He did not have any problems in Nigeria at all trying to leave.

May God give you the desires of your heart.

Hello everyone. I am a September filer also. I sent my file to Chicago Lockbox on 08/31/07, NOA's on 09/19/07, and Biometric appointment on 10/16/07. I wish everyone the best of luck on their AOS process.

Congratulations girl. I am so happy for you.

Congratulations on the Interview date

It all depends on if he is leaving his next flight from JFK or another airport in New York. I would give it at least 5 hours.

Girl friend you know I wish you the best. May God soon place your husband within your presence. Congratulations.

My husband has been in the U.S. for 6 days now and he is adjusting quite nicely. He is learning how to count the coins and it is very funny to see him get at the cash register and count the quarters, nickles and dimes. He loves the foods that we eat especially pasta salad and lasagne. As time goes on I will be telling of his adjustment. Hopefully soon he will get his drivers license so he can drive himself around and get more familiar with his surroundings. He loves Wal-Mart and is like a little child on Christmas morning when he is there. I am very proud of him and how he is keeping our family together and in tack. More to come later as he adjusts.

Great story! I'm so glad it was smooth and successful! COngratulations once again!

Congratulations my friend.

You know I am trully wishing you a good interview. Much success to you.

Try going to the post office and sending it international express mail. It is trackable too. It took 10 days for my husband to get his binder international express mail. You have other options also at USPS.

After I got off work on July 27, 2007 I left for the Memphis, TN airport. First there was a hold up on the highway which made me to freekout thinking I would miss my flight. Get to the airport only to find out that due to bad weather my connecting flight would be moved up. Get to Atlanta and have to spend the night on the bench in the airport for 9 hours because the flight was cancelled until 8am on Saturday morning. I fly out of Atlanta to Newark and took a shuttle from Newark to JFK which is an hour drive but you can site see on the way. My fiance had to wait for me for 5 hours before I finally got to him. We hugged and kissed and said lets go because our return flight was to leave at 3pm and it was now 1pm so we had 2 hours to get to our flight. We had to take a shuttle back over to LaGuardia and we got there on time and flew out to Atlanta which our connecting flight was moved up later about an hour and a half. We made it back to Memphis and drove home from there which was about an hour drive. We are home now and fully adjusting to our life together. My fiance is trully remarkable. He loves the Popeyes chicken and the beans and rice. As time goes on I will be posting about his adjustment to American life. So far so good my friends. My fiance is finally Home where he belongs.

I am sorry it happened to you also. I have so many concerns about this same thing happening to me especially because we have to send our bank information to Nigeira and our fiances sometimes have to print it out through someone else. I did not know that if you buy the ticket for them here it is a third party pay ticket and they have to have your credit card and ID with them. So anyone can get your information. If I had know he was going to need this I would have sent it in the binder. Well these are things we have to go through dealing with this process. Once again I am sorry for the loss.

Congratulations

Congratulations on the successful interview and the visa in hand. Keep us all posted on the reunion.