CountryBoy

Ok, you had it CHANGED (sorry typo) but was is mandatory (it had to be done) in order to petition you to the US?? My fiancee has sooooooo many documents, diploma, degree, etc. with the misspelled name that it would be a true burden to have it all changed but if we have to, we have to.

thanks for your reply.

Hi, in my experienced 6 years ago I had my misspelled name corrected. I went to the civil registrar to file "correction of entry". They can give you information or advise how to process it especially in your fiance's case family name is different from her father's last name.

Ok, you had it required but was is mandatory (it had to be done) in order to petition you to the US?? My fiancee has sooooooo many documents, diploma, degree, etc. with the misspelled name that it would be a true burden to have it all changed but if we have to, we have to.

thanks for your reply.

If my fiancee's last name is misspelled on her birth certificate and is different from her fathers last name do we have to get it corrected? All of her paperwork is under the misspelled name, passports, clearances, ID's, Diplomas, Degrees, everything ..

You can expect some extra scrutiny during the second process. You need to file an waiver ( free) that is basically a statement that you are filing for a second ( or more ) beneficiary. I don't think they have a form for it. Look in the IMBRA forum to see sample of what you have to write. Make very sure that your new wife to be knows all about your ex and any bumps with the law you may have had.

My fiancee (Yani) is very aware of my ex wife, I actually met Yani 3 days after I met my ex wife on a dating site back in Sep. 2006 and I just chose the wrong one. Yani and I chatted casually while I was preparing my exes documents (she did chat with my ex wife too during this time) and once my ex got to the country I stopped chatting altogether. Late last year when my wife was gone for days I logged into my account and was only logged on just a short time and Yani said hello, after all these years she hadn't forgotten me.. she was the one that helped me get thru the times when my heart was breaking and the ex was running around all the time. I made a mistake the first time but now I can make it right.

We never had any bumps with the law during my marriage.

If the previous I-129F was the only one you've ever filed then you don't need an IMBRA filing limits waiver. It's been more than two years since your previous petition was approved. If you HAVE filed another I-129F (whether or not it was approved), in addition to the previous one, then you need an IMBRA filing limits waiver. You just include a letter asking for a waiver of the IMBRA filing limits, and explaining why you believe a waiver is justified. Unless you have a criminal record that falls under the IMBRA then the waiver will likely be approved. There is no special waiver request form. You just write a letter. Read the I-129F form instructions. This is only my 2nd I-129F Petition (or petition any kind)

You can file a petition as soon as you've met the requirements - divorce is final, you've met your fiancee face-to-face within the past two years, etc.We have yet to meet face to face but have been chatting for a while and I will go to phils soon to meet her and her family. There is no mandatory waiting period imposed by USCIS. Make sure your divorce is actually FINAL. Legally separated in Dec. 09 Divorce final in Aug. .. no waiting periodIn some states, the divorce doesn't become final until a mandatory waiting period has expired.

You can expect some extra scrutiny, especially at the consulate stage. Your first wife lifted conditions on her green card late last year, and you're already divorced and looking at petitioning a new fiancee. This is easy... when she lifted her conditions she didn't need me anymore; she started leaving for days without calls or texts, she stayed with her friends in the bar till all hours of the night leaving me to care for her child (which thank god I didn't adopt), etc... She said she got bored with me but she is only 6 years younger than I.. what can I say, I am just a simple person and I found a simple lady to petition this time. They may suspect you're doing this to help girls immigrate to the US. If your income is low then they may even suspect you're being paid to do it. I make over $75,000 per year and provided proof of support from the bank that I had a balance over $60,000 in my main checking account for my ex wife.If, by any chance, you happen to be disabled and these girls are nursing school graduates then you can probably expect them to crawl up your tailpipe with a microscope looking for evidence of fraud. I am Temp Total Disabled but she isn't a nursing student.. Bachelors of Science in Commerse Hopefully, none of this stuff applies to you, and you'll sail through. Good luck! Thanks for the info and wish of good luck

I'm sure this question has been asked numberous time but I don't know the correct words to use in my search so I am getting no relevent results.

Can someone show me what the waiting periods and waivers needed for filing a petition for my new fiancee? I divorced my previous wife without any struggles and we are still good friends, however I have found a new lady to marry me and I love her very much and want to file her petition for fiancee visa.

Thanks

That is correct. If they receive it 91 days before your current GC expires, they will reject it.

So you mean I have to mail it right on the 90th day before? What about my daughter, her residency ends 3 months after mine, do I have to do her separate?

Same rules apply for your daughter - 90 days before the expiry of her conditional GC send the paperwork in.

Someone please correct me if I am wrong but I believe that if the daughter was included on the parent's visa (k-2) then both should be filed within 90 days of the parent's green card expiration, regardless the daughters expiration...

that is what we did for my wife and daughters removing of conditions and both were approved at the same time.

My wife has been very worried about her and my daughter not being approved when so many else from September were approved. I called this morning and asked that my call be escalated so I could speak with an immigration officer, she said nothing to worry about and about 2 hours later we got the email for both of them ..

Current Status: Card production ordered.

coincidence???

woohoo !!!!!!

BTW Coco&Kitten updated

California Service Center - CSC

VJName........Date of I-751...NOA1Date....Biometrics.......Approved........ GC Rec'd

E&K..............08/31/09.....09/02/09....10/15/09..........10/26/09 ...... 10/31/09

calitoday........08/31/09.....09/02/09....10/08/09..........10/16/09 ...... 10/22/09

David-and-Mae....09/02/09.....--/--/--....10/19/09 EB10/05..10/20/09....... 10/26/09

chemaatah........09/02/09.....09/06/09....10/07/09..........10/26/09 ...... --/--/--

CountryBoy.......09/04/09.....09/08/09....10/19/09..........11/20/09 ...... --/--/--

CB's Daughter....09/04/09.....09/08/09....--/--/--..........11/20/09 ...... --/--/--

Coco&Kitten......09/05/09.....09/08/09....10/14/09 LB10/24..11/12/09 .......11/19/09

Tarik_1985.......09/07/09.....09/17/09....10/23/09..........11/03/09 ...... --/--/--

Chris_n_Veronica.09/08/09.....09/10/09....10/09/09..........10/16/09 ...... 10/23/09

payxibka.........09/09/09.....09/14/09....10/22/09..........11/10/09....... 11/16/09

CanInCali........09/10/09.....09/11/09....10/16/09..........10/21/09 ...... 10/26/09

chelseafan.......09/11/09.....09/15/09....10/24/09..........--/--/--....... --/--/--

littleg15uk......09/14/09.....09/18/09....10/27/09..........11/13/09 ...... --/--/--

NycBra...........09/16/09.....09/18/09....10/24/09 EB10/16..10/20/09....... 10/26/09

j_infy...........09/16/09.....09/18/09....10/27/09 EB10/21..11/07/09 ...... --/--/--

RomeoNan.........09/17/09.....09/21/09....10/24/09 EB10/21..11/09/09 ...... 11/16/09

Nanusia&Lukaszek.09/19/09.....09/21/09....10/29/09..........11/19/09 ...... --/--/--

cunnind..........09/19/09.....09/21/09....10/22/09..........11/17/09 ...... --/--/--

Dano2006.........09/21/09.....09/23/09....10/20/09..........11/13/09 ...... --/--/--

Kabigon..........09/21/09.....09/22/09....10/22/09 EB10/17..11/12/09 ...... --/--/--

prettyfacenbody..09/23/09.....09/26/09....10/22/09 EB10/16..10/20/09 ...... --/--/--

Glady............9/8/2009....9/15/09......10/22/09..........11/18/09

Vermont Service Center - VSC

VJName.......Date of I-751....NOA1 Date....Biometrics.........Approved......GC Rec'd

crysethu.........08/31/09.....09/02/09.....09/18/09...........--/--/-- .....--/--/--

JamalNTam........09/01/09.....09/04/09.....10/05/09...........--/--/-- .....--/--/--

SM&LP............09/04/09.....09/08/09.....10/07/09...........--/--/-- .....--/--/--

cdngirl06........09/04/09.....09/09/09.....10/15/09...........--/--/-- .....--/--/--

GabachaYucateca..09/04/09.....09/09/09.....10/02/09...........--/--/-- .....--/--/--

MonicaMexico.....09/05/09.....09/14/09.....10/07/09...........--/--/-- .....--/--/--

Lhedyjoe.........09/08/09.....09/14/09.....10/23/09 EB10/14...--/--/-- .....--/--/--

Agnar............09/09/09.....09/11/09.....10/23/09...........--/--/-- .....--/--/--

JelloShotGirl....09/10/09.....09/14/09.....10/23/09...........--/--/-- .....--/--/--

sh18.............09/11/09.....09/15/09.....10/15/09 EB10/01...--/--/-- .....--/--/--

Dayna and Ali....09/12/09.....--/--/--.....--/--/--...........--/--/-- .....--/--/--

Berber Mama......09/12/09.....09/15/09.....10/21/09...........--/--/-- .....--/--/--

Sandy Cheecks....09/23/09.....--/--/--.....11/09/09...........--/--/-- .....--/--/--

chaplin..........09/23/09.....09/28/09.....11/03/09...........--/--/-- .....--/--/--

Vylex............09/24/09.....09/25/09.....10/29/09...........--/--/-- .....--/--/--

sobol3v..........09/24/09.....09/25/09.....11/05/09 EB10/26...--/--/-- .....--/--/--

mrc..............09/24/09.....09/28/09.....11/06/09...........--/--/-- .....--/--/--

bobby_DE.........09/24/09.....09/28/09.....11/09/09...........--/--/-- .....--/--/--

Lace.............09/26/09.....09/29/09.....11/05/09...........--/--/-- .....--/--/--

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still worried .. whats up with the wife and daughters paperwork??? UGH

Getting a little worried .. no touches, emails, anything and others that had biometrics after us are getting approved .. hmmmmmmm.....

Biometrics wasn't as hard as I expected. I even did mine more than a week from the time they scheduled me. Not many people in there either. So, relax and everything will go smooth I bet you that. Smile

In and out in about 10 minutes .. $6 to park the car, that comes up to $36 an hour for one car !!! The lot holds about $100 cars .. WOW, I need to start scoping out some property downtown St. Louis for my post retirement employment ... HEHE

Just kidding, it went really fast and smooth as silk .. 1:00 in the afternoon and not a single person waiting ..

We are in the same boat. Waiting for an answer Monday from you Countryboy.... Appreciate any info you give us. Like I have said before. We took Mathew along for Ruchies Biometrics and they said he didn't need to be there... I am as confused as everyone else.

You might consider calling USCIS and use the "address change" option to get a speaking person on the phone to find out Mathew's biometric receipt number so you can check his case status online .. you might also consider asking if a letter was ever sent out ..

I did just that and they said a letter was never sent out and did give me the receipt number to track the case status ..

just a little trick you might try, my wife and daughters applications both had the same receipt date, Sep. 10.. if you get on USCIS and search for the numbers immediately following your wife's BIOMETRIC receipt number and verify the same date of receipt with the same petition type (CR189) then there is a pretty good chance that the first number you come to will be Mathews .. I did this for both AOS and now ROC and it worked both times (my daughters biometric receipt number this time is 13 after my wifes)..

Good Luck !!!!

Anyone here from CB today?

I saw him earlier today but was just reading...

Must have been my wife using my profile to browse the forums .. she was laid off a half day today and VisaJourney is as good a place as any to spend that free time

Sorry Guys, we had a machine shed burn down TOTAL LOSS .. lots of stuff to do !!!

My wife and I took our daughter down with us for a biometrics appointment yesterday and was told that all of her biometric information was transferred to CSC by computer on Sep. 17, 2009. The girl behind the counter showed me the printed information stating this and assured me that a child her age (7 years old) often doesn't even have to do any of it, she actually said that the information from 2007 (AOS) will be used... hopefully she is right !!!!

Wondering now if I will get a refund for my daughters biometric fees .. hmmm ?????

Just kidding, I know it won't happen !!!!

Good luck to all and I do apologize for not getting back yesterday ...

My wife has really been sweating this one !!! Her biometrics appointment is for Monday afternoon and it is now Friday (3 days before the appt.) and we still haven't received my daughters biometrics appointment letter ..

UGHHHH WHAT ARE WE GOING TO DO ??????????

Well, I just got off of the phone with USCIS and explained the situation to a customer service rep and he said, "Just take her along and they should go ahead and do her while you are there." I then explained that everybody I have talked to said they got appointment letters for their minor children as well and at the very least I thought I should have her biometrics receipt number when we go, he replied, " Please hold while I research your question." About a minute later he gets on the phone and says, "I am going to have to escalate your case, will you please hold again?" About 15 seconds later another individual answers and I explain the situation to her, she asks for my daughters A# and looks up her case.. She then tells me my daughters biometrics receipt number and tells me to go online at uscis.gov and print out the case status page and to present it on Monday when my wife has her biometrics so they will do my daughters biometrics at the same time. WHEW !!!!

Well, for now it seems we have the problem solved but only time can tell what Monday will bring. I'll let you know for sure when I know for sure ..

Good luck to everyone in their journey,

CB

Besides the 'usual' contact information found on USCIS.gov, there's a contact number on the biometric appointment notice as well.

I actually wanted to know what numbers to hit to get to a live person .. I just did it at 1, 3, 1, 2 (change of address)

Can someone please tell me how to contact the USCIS quickly? My wife's biometric appt. is Monday and my daughter hasn't received her notice yet so I need to call and make sure she can do it also so we don't have to make an additional 2.5 hour trip.

Thanks

I was really hoping to get my wife and daughters biometrics done early but we still haven't received our daughters bio letter YET. We got my wife's bio letter 2 weeks ago, ugh .. 1 more week and the scheduled date rolls around for my wife, now I'm just hoping my daughters letter gets here before then..

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Oh, thank you..I know it was a mess..Didn't get the chance to fix it good today..Hehe..Been busy with our garage sale..Thanks again..

No problem .. any bargains??

I tried searching (VJ and Google) to find out what kind of experiences people had when they just showed up for an unscheduled biometrics appointment.. specifically in St. Louis, but I would like for anyone that has used this option to feel free to share their experience.

I don't intend to use this forum to advocate this action, I just want to know what the people that did choose to do so experienced when they did it. This being said, I would appreciate greatly if members refrained from making off topic posts such as .. “Wait your turn” and “There is a reason they make appointments.”.. etc., etc.

Thank you in advance,

CountryBoy

Hi Country Boy,

My husband & I live in Brooklyn, NY. His appointment is not until Oct.15. We read that going early was easy so he decided to try it. He went last week on 2 different days & got denied. They said he had to come back on the exact appointment date. Although discouraged, we decided to try one more time. We went this Saturday & the manager (I think) was very nice & let my husband do it. So it's worth a try...even a 2nd & 3rd try. Good luck!

Thanks Arroz e Feijao ..

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California Service Center - CSC

VJName.................Date of I-751........NOA1 Date............Biometrics.........Approved

E&K....................08/31/09.............09/02/09.............10/15/09...........--/--/--

calitoday..............08/31/09.............09/02/09.............10/08/09...........--/--/--

David-and-Mae..........09/02/09.............--/--/--.............10/19/09...........--/--/--

chemaatah..............09/02/09.............09/06/09.............10/07/09...........--/--/--

CountryBoy.............09/04/09.............09/08/09.............10/19/09...........--/--/--

CB's Daughter..........09/04/09.............09/08/09.............--/--/--...........--/--/--

Coco&Kitten............09/05/09.............09/08/09.............--/--/--...........--/--/--

Chris_n_Veronica.......09/08/09.............09/10/09.............10/09/09...........--/--/--

payxibka...............09/09/09.............09/14/09.............10/22/09...........--/--/--

CanInCali..............09/10/09.............09/11/09.............10/16/09...........--/--/--

littleg15uk............09/14/09.............09/18/09.............--/--/--...........--/--/--

NycBra.................09/16/09.............09/18/09.............--/--/--...........--/--/--

RomeoNan...............09/17/09.............09/21/09.............--/--/--...........--/--/--

Nanusia&Lukaszek.......09/19/09.............09/21/09.............--/--/--...........--/--/--

cunnind................09/19/09.............09/21/09.............--/--/--...........--/--/--

Dano2006...............09/21/09.............09/23/09.............--/--/--...........--/--/--

Kabigon................09/21/09.............09/22/09.............--/--/--...........--/--/--

prettyfacenbody........09/21/09.............--/--/--.............--/--/--...........--/--/--

Vermont Service Center - VSC

VJName.................Date of I-751..........NOA1 Date...........Biometrics.........Approved

crysethu...............08/31/09...............09/02/09............09/18/09...........--/--/--

JamalNTam..............09/01/09...............09/04/09............10/05/09...........--/--/--

SM&LP..................09/04/09...............09/08/09............10/07/09...........--/--/--

cdngirl06..............09/04/09...............09/09/09............10/15/09...........--/--/--

GabachaYucateca........09/04/09...............09/09/09............10/02/09...........--/--/--

MonicaMexico...........09/05/09...............09/14/09............10/07/09...........--/--/--

Lhedyjoe...............09/08/09...............09/14/09............10/23/09...........--/--/--

Agnar..................09/09/09...............09/11/09............10/23/09...........--/--/--

JelloShotGirl..........09/10/09...............09/14/09............10/23/09...........--/--/--

Dayna and Ali..........09/12/09...............--/--/--............--/--/--...........--/--/--

Berber Mama............09/12/09...............09/15/09............10/21/09...........--/--/--

Sandy Cheecks..........09/23/09...............--/--/--............--/--/--...........--/--/--

chaplin................09/23/09...............--/--/--............--/--/--...........--/--/--

Vylex..................09/24/09...............09/25/09............--/--/--...........--/--/--

mrc....................09/24/09...............--/--/--............--/--/--...........--/--/--

Lace...................09/26/09...............--/--/--............--/--/--...........--/--/--

You can file to adjust your status if you are divorced, but they will require the divorce decree so you will have to file for the divorce and wait for it to be final. You will also have to gather as much evidence of your marriage that you can. If you can get copies of the lease or other forms of shared assets (things in both of your names) then it will prove you entered the relationship in good faith and without intention of coming here for a green card. Once you file for divorce, you do not need to wait until your conditional green card expires to file AOS. File right away as soon as your divorce is final.

It's late and I could very easily be confused due to lack of sleep BUT ..

She said in her post that she got her conditional green card in August of this year; so that means she has already filed AOS .. she cannot file to remove conditions until 90 days before her green card expires and that will be May of 2011. The rest of the advice about collecting evidence sounds right though.

I believe that the answer she was looking for is, yes .. you can stay at least until your green card expires at the very least.

A conditional greencard is a 2 year greencard based on being married, she cannot file AOS until her divorce is complete. ie: she needs to have an actual divorce decree (legal documentation) she may have adjusted her status, but she still needs to remove the conditions of that status (ie: her 2 year to her 10 year greencard) If she files for divorce and the divorce goes through, she can immediately file to remove conditions prior to the 90 day requirement of married couples. She should file immediaely after her divorce decree is in hand despite that 90 day requirement of married couples.

Thanks for clearing that up ..

You can file to adjust your status if you are divorced, but they will require the divorce decree so you will have to file for the divorce and wait for it to be final. You will also have to gather as much evidence of your marriage that you can. If you can get copies of the lease or other forms of shared assets (things in both of your names) then it will prove you entered the relationship in good faith and without intention of coming here for a green card. Once you file for divorce, you do not need to wait until your conditional green card expires to file AOS. File right away as soon as your divorce is final.

It's late and I could very easily be confused due to lack of sleep BUT ..

She said in her post that she got her conditional green card in August of this year; so that means she has already filed AOS .. she cannot file to remove conditions until 90 days before her green card expires and that will be May of 2011. The rest of the advice about collecting evidence sounds right though.

I believe that the answer she was looking for is, yes .. you can stay at least until your green card expires at the very least.

how do I waive for my removal of condition if i will terminate my marriage?

I'm very happily married but I tried to do a little research from posts here on VJ and think I may have found your answer..

If you are wanting to waive the removal of conditions you would just return to phils and the GC will expire on the exp. date found on the card.

If you are looking for a divorce waiver there isn't one, all you have to do is check the appropriate boxes on the I-751 and submit ample documentation to support your claims (abuse and/or good faith) along with all of the other documentation that everyone else is filing.

Could someone please verify this?

Thanks

Just two years after our marriage, hubby brought up the idea of asking Mother to move from the rural hometown and spend her remaining years with us. Hubby's father passed away while he was still very young. Mother endured much hardship and struggled all on her own to provide for him, see him through to a university degree. You could say that she suffered a great deal and did everything you could expect of a woman to bring hubby to where he is today. I immediately agreed and started packing the spare room, which has a balcony facing the South to let her enjoy the sunshine and plant greenery. Hubby stood in the bright room, and suddenly just picked me up and started spinning round and round. As I begged him to put me down, he said: "Let’s go fetch mother".

Hubby is tall and big sized and I love to test on his chest and enjoy the feeling that he could pick me up at any moment put the tiny me into his pockets. Whenever we have an argument and both refuses to back down, he would pick me up and spin me over his head continuously until I surrender and beg for mercy. I became addicted to this kind of panic-joy feeling.

Mother brought along her countryside habits and lifestyle with her. For example; I am so used to buying flowers to decorate the living room, she could not stand it and would comment: "I do not know how you young people spend your money, why do you buy flowers for? You also can't eat flowers!" I smiled and said: "Mum, with flowers in the house, our mood will also become better." Mother continues to grumble away, and hubby smiled: "Mum, this is a city-people's habit; slowly you will get use to it". Mother stopped saying anything. But every time thereafter, whenever came home with flowers, she would ask me how much it costs. I told her and she would shake her head and express displeasure. Sometimes, when I come home with lots of shopping bags, she would ask each and every item how much they cost, I would tell her honestly and she would get even more upset about it. Hubby playfully pinched my nose and said: "You little fool, just don't tell her the full price of everything would solve it." There begins the friction to our otherwise happy lifestyle.

Mother hates it most when hubby wakes up early to prepare the breakfast. In your view, how could the man of the house cook for the wife? At the breakfast table, mother facial expression is always like the dark clouds before a thunderstorm and I would pretend not to notice. She would use her chopsticks and make a lot of noise with it as her silent protest. As I am a dance teacher in the Children's Palace and am exhausted from along day of dancing around, I do not wish to give up the luxury of that additional few minutes in the comfort of my bed and hence I turned a deaf ear to all the protest mother makes.

From time to time, mother would help out with some housework, but soon her help created additional work for me. For example: she would keep all kinds of plastic bags accumulating them so that she sell them later on, and resulted in our house being filled with all the trash bags; she would scrimp on dish washing detergent when helping to wash the dishes and so as not to hurt her feelings, I would quietly wash them again. One day, late at night, mother saw me quietly washing the dishes, and "Bam" she slams her bedroom door and cried very loudly in her room. Hubby was placed in a difficult position, and after that, he did not speak to me for that entire night. I pretended to be a spoilt child, tried acting cute, but he totally ignored me.... I got mad and asked him: "What did I do wrong?" Hubby stared at me and said: "Can't you just give in to her once? We couldn't possibly die eating from a bowl however unclean it is, right?" After that incident, for a long period of time, mother did not speak to me and you can feel that there is a very awkward feeling hanging in the house. During that period of cold war, hubby was caught in dilemma as to who to please. In order to stop her son from having to prepare breakfast, mother took on the "all important" task of preparing breakfast without any prompting. At the

breakfast table, mother would look at hubby happily eating his breakfast and cast that reprimanding stare at me for having failed to perform my duty as a wife. To avoid the embarrassing breakfast situation, I resorted to buying my own breakfast on my way to work. That night, while in bed, hubby was a little upset and asked me: "LD, is it because you think that mum's cooking is not clean that's why you chose not to eat at home?" He then turned his back on me and left me alone in tears as feeling of unfairness overwhelmed me.. After some time, hubby sighed: "LD, just for me, can you have breakfast at home?" I am left with no choice but to return to the breakfast table.

The next morning, I was having porridge prepared by mother and I felt a sudden churn in my stomach and everything inside seem to be rushing up my throat. I tried to suppress the urge to throw up but I could not. I threw down the bowl, rushed into the washroom, and vomited everything out. Just as I was catching my breath, I saw mother crying and grumbling very loudly in her dialect, hubby was standing at the washroom doorway staring at me with fire burning in his eyes.. I opened my mouth but no words came out of it, I really did not mean it.

We had our very first big fight that day; mother took a look at us, then stood up and slowly made her way out of the house. Hubby gave me a final stare in the eye and followed mother down the stairs. For three days, hubby did not return home, not even a phone call. I was so furious, since mother arrived; I had been trying my best and putting up with her, what else do you want me to do? For no reason, I keep having the feeling to throw up and I simply have not appetite for food, coupled with all the events happening at home, I was at then low point in my life. Finally, a colleague said: "LD, you look terrible; you should go and see a doctor." The doctor confirmed that I am pregnant.

Now it became clear to me why I threw up that fateful morning, a sense of sadness floated through that otherwise happy news. Why didn't hubby, and mother who had been through this before, thought of the possibility of this being the reason that day? At the hospital entrance, I saw my hubby standing there. It had only been three days, but he looked haggard. I had wanted to turn and leave, but one look at him and my heart soften, I couldn't resist and called out to him. He followed my voice and finally found me but he pretended that he doesn't know me; he has that disgusted look in his eyes that cut right through my heart. I told myself not to look at him anymore, and hail a cab. At that moment, I have such a strong urge inside me to shout to my hubby: "Darling, I am having your baby!" and have him lift me up and spin me around in circles of joy. What I wanted didn't happen and as I sat in the cab, my tears started rolling down. Why? Why our love couldn't even withstand the test of one fight?

Back home, I lay on the bed thinking about my hubby, and the disgusted look in his eyes. I cried and wet the corner of the blanket. That night, sound of the drawers opening woke me up. I switched on the lights and I saw hubby with tears rolling down his face. He was removing the money. I stared at him in silence; he ignored me, took the bank deposit book and some money and left the house. Maybe he really intends to leave me for good. What a rational man, so clear-cut in love and money matters. I gave a few dried laugh and tears starting streaming down again.

The next day, I did not go to work.. I wanted to clear this out and have a good talk with hubby. I reached his office and his secretary gave me a weird look and said: "Mr. Tan's mother had a traffic accident and is now in the hospital." I stood there in shock. I rushed to the hospital and by the time I found hubby, mother had already passed away. Hubby did not look at me, his face was expressionless. I looked at mother's pale white and thin face and I couldn't control the tears in my eyes. My god, how could this happen?

Throughout the funeral, hubby did not say a single word to me, with only the occasional disgusted stare at me. I only managed to find out brief facts about the accident from other people. That day, after mother left the house, she walked in dazed toward the bus stop, apparently intending to go back to her old house back in the countryside. As hubby ran after her, she tried to walk faster and as she tried to cross the street, a public bus came and hit her...I finally understood how much hubby must hate me, if I had not thrown up that morning, if we had not quarreled, if....In his heart, I am indirectly the killer of his mother.

Hubby moved into mother's room and came home every night with a strong liquor smell on him. And me, I am buried under the guilt and self-pity and could hardly breathe. I wanted to explain to him, tell him that we are going to have our baby soon, but each time, I saw the dead look in his eyes, all the words I have at the brink of my mouth just fell back in. I had rather he hit me real hard or give me a big and thorough scolding though none of these events happening had been my fault at all.

Many days of suffocating silence went by and as the days went by, hubby came home later and later. The deadlock between us continues, we were living together like strangers who don't know each other. I am like the dead knot in his heart. One day, I passed by a western restaurant, looking into the glass window, I saw hubby and a girl sitting facing each other and he very lightly brushed her hair for her, I understood what it meant. After recovering from that moment of shock, I entered the restaurant, stood in front of my hubby and stared hard at him, not a tear in my eyes. I have nothing to say to him, and there is no need to say anything. The girl looked at me, looks at hubby, stands up and wanted to go, hubby stretched out his hand and stopped her. He stared back at me, challenging me. I can only hear my slow heart beat, beating, one by one as if at the brink of death. I eventually backed down, if I had stood that any longer, I will collapse together with the baby inside me. That night, he did not come home; he had chosen to use that as a way to indicate to me: Following mother's death so did our love for each other.

He did not come home anymore after that. Sometimes, when I returned home from work, I can tell that the cupboard had been touched - he had returned to take some of his stuff. I no longer wish to call him; the initial desire to explain everything to him vanished. I lived alone; I go for my medical checkups alone, my heart breaks again and again every time I see a guy carefully helping his wife through the physical examination. My office colleagues hinted to me to consider aborting the baby, I told them No, I will not.. I insisted on having to this baby, perhaps it is my way of repaying mother for causing her death.

One day, I came home and I saw hubby sitting in the living room. The whole house was filled with cigarette smoke. On the coffee table, there was this piece of paper. I know what it is all about without even looking at it. In the two months plus of living alone, I have gradually learned to find peace within myself. I looked at him, removed my hat and said: "You wait a while, I will sign." He looked at me, mixed feelings in his eyes, just like mine. As I hang up my coat, I keep repeating to myself "You cannot cry, you cannot cry..." my eyes hurt terribly, but I refused to let tears come out from there. After I hung up my coat, hubby's eyes stared fixed at my bulging tummy. I smiled, walked over to the coffee table and pulled the paper towards me. Without even looking at what it says, I signed my name on it and pushed the paper to him. "LD, are you pregnant?" Since mother's accident, this is the first time he spoke to me. I could not control my tears any further and they fell like raindrops. I said: "Yes, but its ok, you can leave now." He did not go, in the dark, we sat, facing each other. Hubby slowly moved over me, his tears wet the blanket. In my heart, everything seems so far away, so far that even if I sprint, I could never reach them. I cannot remember how many times he repeated "sorry" to me. I had originally thought that I would forgive him, but now I can't. In the western restaurant, in front of that girl, that cold look in his eyes, I will never forget, ever. We have drawn such deep scars in each other's heart. For me, it's unintentional; for him, totally intentional. I had been waiting for this moment of reconciliation, but I realized now, what had gone past is gone forever and could not repeated.

Other than the thought of the baby inside me that would bring some warmth to my heart, I am totally cold towards him, I no longer eat anything he buys for me, I don't take any presents from him and I stopped talking to him. From the moment I signed on that piece of paper, marriage and love had vanished from my heart. Sometimes, hubby will try to come into the bedroom, but when he walks in, I will walk out to the living room. He had no choice but to sleep in mother's room. At night, from his room, I can hear light sounds of groaning, I kept quiet... This used to be his trick; last time, whenever I ignore him, he would fake illness and I will surrender and find out what is wrong with him, he would then grab me and laugh. He has forgotten that last time I cared for him and am concerned because there was love, but now, what is there between us? Hubby's groaning came on and off continuing but I continuously ignored him.

Almost every day, he would buy something for the baby, infant products, children products and books that kids like to read. Bags and bags of it stacked inside his room till it is full. I know he is trying to use this to reach out to me, but I am no longer moved by his actions. He has no choice but to lock himself in his room and I can hear his typing away on his computer keyboard, maybe he is now addicted to web surfing but none of that matters to me anymore.

It was sometime towards the end of spring in the following year, one late night, I screamed because of a sudden stomach pain, hubby came rushing into the room, its like he did not change and sleep, and had been waiting for this moment. He carried me and ran down the stairs, stopped a car, holding my hand very tightly and kept wiping the sweat off my brow, throughout the journey to the hospital. Once we reached the hospital, he carried me and hurried into the delivery suite. Lying on the back of his skinny but warmth body, a thought crossed my mind: In my lifetime, who else would love me as much as he did? He held the delivery suite door opened and watch me go in; his warm eyes caused me to manage a smile at him despite my contraction pain. Coming out of the delivery room, hubby looked at our son and me, eyes tear with joy and he kept smiling. I reached out and touched his hand. Hubby looked at me, smiling and then he slowly collapsed onto the floor. I cried out for him in pain... He smiled, but without opening that tired eyes of his... I had thought that I would never shed any tear for him, but the truth is, I have never felt a deeper pain cutting through my body at that moment. Doctor said that by the time hubby discovered he had liver cancer, it was already in terminal stage and it was a miracle that he managed to last this long. I asked the doctor when he first discovered he had cancer. Doctor said about 5 months ago and consoled me saying: "Prepare for his funeral."

I disregarded the nurse's objection and rushed home, I went into his room and checked his computer, and a suffocating pain hits me. Hubby's cancer was discovered 5 months ago, his groaning was real, and I had thought that... the computer showed over 200 thousand words he wrote for our son: "Son, just for you, I have persisted, to be able to take a look at you before I fall, is my biggest wish now.... I know that in your life, you will have many happiness and maybe some setbacks, if only I can accompany you throughout that journey, how nice would it be. But daddy now no longer has that chance. Daddy has written inside here all the possible difficulties and problems you may encounter during your lifetime, when you meet with these problems, you can refer to daddy's suggestion ... Son, after writing these 200 thousand words, I feel as if I have accompanied you through life journey. To be honest, daddy is very happy. Do love your mother, she has suffered, she is the one who loves you most and also the one who loves me most..." From play school to primary school, to secondary, university, to work and even in dealing with questions of love, everything big and small was written there.

Hubby has also written a etter for me: "My dear, to marry you is my biggest happiness, forgive me for the pain I have caused you, forgive me for not telling you my illness, because I want to see you be in a joyful mood waiting for the arrival of our baby...My dear, if you cried, it means that you have forgiven me and I would smile, thank you for loving me...These presents, I'm afraid I cannot give them to our son personally, could you help me to give some of them to him every year, the dates on what to give when are all written on the packaging... "

Going back to the hospital, hubby is still in coma. I brought our son over and place him beside him. I said: "Open your eyes and smile, I want our son to remember being in the warmth of your arms..." He struggled to open his eyes and managed a weak smile. Our son still in his arms was happily waving his tiny hands in the air. I press the button on the camera and the sound of the shutter rang through the air as tears slowly rolled down my face.... A fatal misunderstanding and the person who loves me the most in this world is gone forever..."Cruel misunderstandings one after another disrupted the blissful footsteps to our family. Our originals intend of having Mother enjoy some quiet and peaceful moments in her remaining years with us went terribly wrong as destiny's secret is finally revealed at a price, everything became too late."........

Very nice story .. communication is most important