Huanyen

I really don't understand why they would ask for SSN. I think it's really not safe to supply SSN through email.

In HMC office -

I sent an email asking several questions about my case. I provided my case number, birthday, petitioner's name and beneficiary name, but I guess that's not enough. They ask for SSN. Is it usual???

congrats. how you get your drivers lic so quickly?

arrived. take the written test in a week and the driving test another week.

Ralph, would you mind posting the questions the CO asked your fiancee if you know them? Did she answer in Vietnamese or English?

Thanx

Jonas

she answered in english... and they were just about all the questions that have been posted here before. I will post them when I have a chance. She didn't really know how to answer about the town I live in other than its quiet and there is a lot of shopping and restaurants here. She didn't know my education background cause I really don't have one. I went to tech school for computers. They asked her where I got my associated degree. So she didn't know how to answer.

I would suggest everyone (who is lacking of vocabulary) to use the translator. Otherwise, there is not much for the person to say

Thank both of you for your kind words, so we don't need AOS

My wife got pink last month. She arrived to the US and received her SSN Card, Green Card, and driver license. Do she and I need to submit any other paper? We used CR-1 Spouse Visa. Do we need to submit the AOS because of CR-1 Spouse visa? Or is this only applied for K3 visa?

Thanks for helping

Congratulation!!!!

If you need any help, please let me know.

In order to get pink slip on your first interview, i have some advice for you:

1. Know your own red flags; the red flags tied to your case that C.O. may consider

2. Practice interview questions around the red flags so that there will no surprise questions; most cases got denied because their answers were not reasonable enough for C.O. to approve the case on the spot when C.O. asks them questions around red flags.

3. Show strong evidence first because C.O. will most likely look the very first evidence that you hand to him

Practice and practice the interview questions. I can't stress this enough.

In case, your case is denied because of any reason, please contact NVC right away and tell them to process your CR-1 immediately. Don't forget you already applied both before it gets to HCM Consulate.

However, the second time, you need to be careful.

1. Do not fall into the same traps/mistakes.

2. Prepare to clear any doubt that the C.O. had in the previous interview.

3. Understand why C.O. turned down your case previously.

4. Make sure this time around you have proof to prove C.O. wrong the first time they denied you.

Other people may have experience in the second round of interview may give you other advice. That's all I can do to help.

Best Wishes to you all !!!

I speak from experience regarding to using service that helps you fill out forms and submit paperwork.

It's truly a bad experience for me. I trusted them. But they failed me because they mistyped, did not proofread.

I recommend you to buy a book ' Fiance' and Marriages Visa' from NOLO publisher. It costs you only $20.

Filling out those forms is easier than filling out forms to apply for university or filling out job application. Using service is not safe. They do not care about your paper like yourself.

Another note: If you understand your before-and-after-interview red flags, you will know how to clear C.O. doubts.

I need your advice, please:

Q: Should I be there in person to turn in the material, in addition to requesting them to talk to me? (I would have to quit my job because I can't take off right now.)

Q: Should I also submit photos and other things that support our relationship that was never examined by the dude at the interview? --the dude didn't look at anything.

Q: If in my shoes, would you hire ME?

Lastly, please give me your honest impression: do you think I have a chance in hell to pull this out of the fire?

Your white paper requested documents are very standard when they have doubts about your case.

I do not believe that going back to Vietnam and meet C.O. will make any difference. I'd rather send them emails and discuss your concerns.

You should submit photos that REALLY shows you two have been together for some period of time. You can show this by picking out pictures with different hairstyle, skin textures of the people on the pictures.

If you have emails/letters, picking out the ones that you two discussed about marriage, futures, plans...etc

I cannot say anything about hiring M.E. or not. I don't know your red flags. What would be a reason for the C.O. give your spouse a white paper?

Last advice about timeline, please make sure you have everything match up with what your spouse has said at the interview. You do not want them to use that against you.

I know that everyone is different and I try to live by taking into consideration "the individual" more than the individual's culture, because you should not generalize. However I am having some difficulty with my husband who is from Philippines regarding not directly answering a question. Usually I let it go cuz its not a major issue but lately in regards to some issues IMPORTANT we need to discuss and info I need to know it is like pulling teeth to get a straight answer from him. Example: he is having back pain and he went to doctor and got the ex rays back. He is in a lot of pain.I asked him what doctor said and he is like almost skirting the issue .I dont want to be a nag. Also some other important issues came up and he wont answer me . maybe I am just an A**h**E. I just want to help him. But now I feel like, ok whatever I will just ignore him and not bring up the question or issue unless he brings it up. Just need ur advise on this.

I am not an expert in marriage. But I would say that to understand a person is hard. To understand a person with a completely different background and culture is even harder.

Please be patient and continue to have small conversations. Everything will work out.

Yes, I find that my wife will not admit to feeling bad, and I basically have to call her a liar to get her to admit she is sick (which happened a lot these last 3 months, the first 3 of her pregnancy).

Anybody have any trouble with Vietnamese women wanting to cook (and therefore wanting you to eat) WAY TOO MUCH food? My wife is mad at me because I finally decided that I am not going to eat enough for 3 or 4 people every single night. Plus, it'll make us fat in the end. I had the warning signs when I was in Vietnam: After a short while there, I dreaded every meal because I would be expected to eat almost to the point of pain.

Is it just her, or have others experienced this as well?

I think this is understandable based on the fact she's vietnamese.

In Vietnam, back in 1980's and 1990's (or even now) Vietnamese people did not have enough food to eat. That's why you see most Vietnamese are skinny. When there were not enough food to eat, people started to save food and always have quite some food saved some where, in case, we were running out of food (again).

It's really in Vietnamese blood when we cook and save food for later. It's even more obvious that Vietnamese also express love by giving food to their significant others. Food had a strong value in Vietnam society. If someone give you food, they really care and love you.

I will agree with you that this is definitely not always a cultural thing. You can always COMMUNICATE the feelings you have shared with us here on VJ with the one it matters most- your husband. If he remains a closed man, don't count on changing him, but just try to accept the aspects you find difficult. Welcome to married life!! And good luck...

I think this is understandable based on the fact she's vietnamese.

In Vietnam, back in 1980's and 1990's (or even now) Vietnamese people did not have enough food to eat. That's why you see most Vietnamese are skinny. When there were not enough food to eat, people started to save food and always have quite some food saved some where, in case, we were running out of food (again).

It's really in Vietnamese blood when we cook and save food for later. It's even more obvious that Vietnamese also express love by giving food to their significant others. Food had a strong value in Vietnam society. If someone give you food, they really care and love you.

Case by case basis and different CO's check different things to check on the relationship being bona fide. Overall photos are still the most checked out. Pictures are still worth a thousand words!

More ammo the better!

pictures are worth thousand words only if it shows you two spent a lot of time together. If you have pictures and they only show you two spent a day or two together, C.O. may use it against you.

How do C.O. recognize whether you spent a lot of time together by looking at your photos? I don't know. But if I'm C.O., I won't look at clothes. I look at skins, hairs of same people in the pictures, the surroundings...ect....something that will change overtime. If your photos have timestamp, it's good.

It's really your choice. I do not see any difference.

Even though we chat, we did not print any of our chat logs. We printed our emails. It's better that you proofread your emails and give them the emails that really speak of your relationship, love, sharing of happiness/sadness, discussion about future, ect...

If they think your marriage is a sham, they will read and compare. If they find your emails have many repeated phrases/messages, they will think you copy and paste everything single email you sent.

Use your common sense when collecting your evidence

As for proof, I believe it's better to have as many emails/letters as possible. I speak from experience. They looked at our emails and approved our case; nothing else requested

I'm glad you share this. It will help anyone who's in similar situations

Do not give up. There are still hopes. I'll lend you the Immigration Visa Guide book

Please cool off.

I found emailing is the best way to keep in touch with HCM Consulate.

Please post your resulting paper here. We may be able to help.

WHITE PAPER...

They want a timeline. I had one prepared and notarized but they refused to take it.

We are crushed, of course.

We'll have to figure things out after we've calmed down. This whole process is B.S.

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I will have their heads for this. I swear!

They want you to submit the timeline in the afternoon, not during the interview.

It's not because the timeline was prepared before the interview.

Moreover, when you do not have enough letters/emails, C.O. would ask for a timeline if you have not submitted with I-130.

Thanks Luckytxn for your encouraging PM. We were blessed to have your support. And of course, we did not disappoint you. We finally received our pink slip. Yen will pick up her visa on 09/05. This was a stressful journey. However, it worth every minute of it because we have learned a lot from this prolonged process; and without all the help from Tyrobe and many other supporters, we would not have gone this far of the journey.

Specially thanks to Landy for his book recommendation. It was a great book that guide through how to get an immigration visa. This book is a keeper from NOLO

Thanks everyone for helping out. My wife yesterday got her pink slip. We are very happy right now.

My wife just submitted the I-864 along with I864A and within an hour she received her pink slip.

Thanks everyone for contributing to visajourney forum. Without this forum, I could not imagine how I would go through this burdensome process. I have learned a lot and really appreciate your contribution.

Good Luck to all of you for the rest of your journey.

Congratulation!!!! I hope today my wife receives pink slip too

Reading this, I understand why you want to live in an apartment, but I don't know why your husband likes to live in a single-family house. Do you know why he wants to live in a single family house?