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    Looking for divorce after mistreatment and a K1 visa

    in Effects of Major Family Changes on Immigration Benefits

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    Thank you so much to everybody for taking time to read this and the good advice.  God bless you infinity.

     

    Never is easy to talk about this. I feel so ashamed about the situation, and for me is almost traumatic to say one single word.

     

    I would like, if is possible, contacting a pro bono attorney to start the process of divorce, may someone has information about one in Tulsa? The problen is that we would have to work out trough the distance because I do not live in United States.

     

    Sandraj, I have read your posts, I deeply admire what you have done for survivors. And I thank you because you gave me hope about all this. However, I do not know if I can build a strong case since I am  not sure if I can prove two items: that we were living together and his US cityzenship.

     

    About the first topic, my abuser deleted almost all the evidence of a life together while I was with him in US (pictures, videos), also we did not have any invoice under our names because we lived with his parents -later we had to move out but was for short time before I left- however nothing had my name because I was under finantial violence too -I even did not have an allowance-. Also, I was literally isolate, so I do not have a neighbor or someone else that may can speak about it.

     

    Related to the citizenship, I do not hav any copy of his birth certificate or passport. Only my K1 Visa where he is the sponsor. And about the marriage certificate, I just have a picture of it and what I can download from Clerk...

     

    Your opinion would be highly appreciated Sandraj, reading you makes me trust on each word of yours, I will follow your advise, thank you so much

    Looking for divorce after mistreatment and a K1 visa

    in Effects of Major Family Changes on Immigration Benefits

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    On 8 de julio de 2017 at 9:06 PM, sandranj said:

    You didn't mention if you want to return to the US, but you qualify for Vawa. The VAWA is a law that allows victims of domestic violence to receive a green card.If you want to know about it then join the thread VAWA part 8 and read the thread Vawa part 5 to 8. To file VAWA you don't ned to have a divorce based on extreme cruelty.

     

    If you want just to divorce him then check with the Family Court in your Country how to serve him the papers in the U.S. 

    Thank you so much for your answer Sandra. I appreciate it. I listened about VAWA, however I never did anything related to that because is 'too hard to prove emotional abuse', also because I am outside from United States and I thought I could not do anything about. So I do not know which are my possibilities to do it successfully...What could I do to apply for VAWA? 

     

     

    Looking for divorce after mistreatment and a K1 visa

    in Effects of Major Family Changes on Immigration Benefits

    Posted · Edited by Marian2

    2 hours ago, Jenilyn and Awal said:

    I think you can state your reasons but you need to prove them otherwise it's just your word against his ? 

    Thank you for your answer. In reality I do not know if I have enough documentation to prove this. I have the histories of conversations where he call me names and use abusive language. The record of a phone call and a video. Files of what I was doing per hour during more than three months and the videos of what I was doing because I had to carry up a camera...

     

    The messages I exchanged with a women rights advocate when I was in United States and some diaries but are not from all these years, just from some months. I have screenshots, even one where he advise to get  the abortion when I was pregnant of him; and if is possible to access to his credit card statement, there we could find the payment for the tickets he used to buy me to humiliate me and also a copy of a receipt from some dating sites he paid for. Ahh and of course, a chat conversation with a woman from other country with who he was pretending to establish a relationship, I have a copy of his Skype history calls to that country. What do you think?

     

     

    Looking for divorce after mistreatment and a K1 visa

    in Effects of Major Family Changes on Immigration Benefits

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    Good day to everybody!
     
    Thank you so much for taking some time to read this post and help me out. I will appreciate it so much. I will make a good contextualization, so you may understand better :)
     
    I am in a crazy situation and I would like to ask for advise.  On December 2015 I traveled to United States with a K1 Visa. I got married with my fiancé one day after my 90 day period be done, however, 15 days later I came back to my country.
     
    The reason why I decided to come back to my country was not good at all. When I was in the United States I was victim of many kind of abuse that I even do not want to remember: emotional abuse (my fiancé called me names all the time, sometimes was 'playing' like he would punch me, I had to write down what I was doing each hour and I could not move out of the house because people could 'kidnap me'); financial abuse (I did not have money and he did not provide an allowance to me); sexual abuse (I even could not do control birth and as result of that I got pregnant). I could not communicate with people: I had an old phone that barely worked to chat with my family, I did not want to tell them what was going on to do not make them feel bad, anyways they could not do nothing for me. My fiancé removed the land line and set passwords in all his devices with the objective of not allowing me make use of them. For me was forbidden talking to people outside, because if I do was because I was thinking on being unfaithful.
     
    My fiancé used to humiliate me buying me a ticket to come back to my country. He did it several times. But one day I could take that ticket. My fiancé left me in the house alone, he did not know that in secret I was going to a Christian Church, the Pastor of that Church helped me out to get in the airport. I escaped to my home. Once in home, I discovered I was pregnant, it was so devastating to me. I talked to my fiancé again, I was needing his economical support since I was alone, with no job and really sick.
     
    He took it as an opportunity to keep his emotional abuse. Even he visited me and pushed me against a wall, he knew I was pregnant back then. I started to fell in depression and because that I lost the baby. However, I was not feeling good at all, my spirit was broken and I stayed some time with my 'husband' in long distance relationship. He wanted to control me in the distance, and he set on my phone applications to control what I was having in there, also an application to see in real time what I was doing, was pretending to install cameras in my house to see what I was doing, and of course, closed my social accounts and took the passwords of each account I had. 
     
    I got tired of it how was logic, and decide to break up with him and move on with my life. However here is my big issue, ¿how to divorce him? He is pretty much making fun of me because he says I do not have a Visa to come in to United States and I do not have money neither, which is true. But I want to get divorce, and I will for the right reasons: he was giving me a cruel treatment. 
     
    I documented some of this mistreatment when I was on United States. However my fiancé deleted all of them when he catch it. I have documented some of the stuff he said to me when I get back... I have a very long list of conversations, videos and voice recordings to support what I say -I did not record him, the program he installed to spy on me did it, I only discovered it-.
     
    I want to divorce him for his mistreatment for one single reason: if his first wife would talk to me about this, I never would have fell on this scam. Obviously I would not had to live all what I did and dealing with the loss of my baby. I do not want any other women experience all the soul pain I felt. I do not want to be coward anymore, I was enough already by putting up in silence with his mistreatment and acting like losing my baby did not break my heart.
     
    Please guys, if any of you has a good recommendation of what I should do and which are my chances to be successful with this, I will listen with the mind open. I am not looking for Visa benefits -I do not want to ever go back to States, at least t has to be to a court- or money arrangements neither, I just want justice, I want people recognize that I never have been crazy, that I had reasons to leave and stay away from the 'gentleman' that people from outside see on my 'husband'.
     
    My punctual questions are, can I request divorce for cruel treatment even if I only can prove the mistreatment when I arrived back to my country? And second, how could I initiate the process when I am overseas with no permission to come in to United States and no idea about how to get a lawyer that does not charge so much?
     
    By the way, the mistreatment started once I arrived to United States and continued after getting back.
     
    Thank you so much for Reading. I will appreciate your help.
     
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