verysadman

I am in a similar situation, but in my case, my wife has not seen my daughter,

she has issues when I talk about my daughter.

Nothing has changed we had a big fight few weeks back. When I talked about my daughter, the problem starts when I talk about the problem.

She is extremely jealous of me, that is the problem.

She wants kids only if I want it.

If I don't file for ROC, she can file for ROC on her own from what I hear.

On 1/17/2017 at 3:26 PM, KierenHby said:

You could consider that option (moving back to her country) if there's a remote chance she might be amenable to changing her behavior. What is her home country? 

You think moving back to her country will change anything ?

She does not care to be here. This has nothing to do with immigration. She nags me all the time, telling me I should move with her back to her country, I know all this has to do with my daughter.

2 minutes ago, Harmonia said:

You should be posting in a marriage counseling forum, not immigration.

 

Half of marriages end in divorce. There are plenty of American couples who face the same issue, where one partner wants kids and the other doesn't.

 

Maybe you rushed into marriage, but you've been married 3 years. To proactively answer common questions, you can't deport your wife. She can ROC without you. You can't annull your marriage. She did not use you for fraud. 

Ok she does not like kids, what is her problem with my daughter ?

5 hours ago, POA said:

People has different views in having kids as we all know and if both of you doesn't want one then I don't think it is a good idea. If she is not into having kids, I would say think about the reason you married her, is having kids the most important reason as to why you married or you married just because you wanted to be together? My husband and I have that topic talked about before we got married, the real reason we got married. This is just us but we came up to the decision that having kids is a bonus but it shouldn't make or break our relationship. We were both in our 20s then and now in our 30s and we still feel the same way. If you are not on the same page in having a kid or kids, I don't think it is a good idea to have one with her. Just my 2c's.

She does not like Kids, I think all this started because of her sister's daughter when she was a teenager, and she could not stand her. she hates kids.

10 hours ago, Cruise77 said:

This...to the OP you really didn't discuss this topic in depth as much as perhaps you thought you did with your partner.  And so you seemed surprised at your wife's current stance.  Albeit her current stance from a distant point of view seems extreme.  In any case you need a few coming to "Santa" talks to find out what is really going on here.       

11 hours ago, Patient said:

Our only issue in our marriage was regarding this topic and my daughter. She has Jealousy Issues, Don't know how to solve this.

11 hours ago, Patient said:

 

You have a contradiction here and possibly due to factors not discussed:

• Having children caused you to leave your partner - could be invented in her mind, your statements or "off the cuff" comments
• Her body will change post children and her dependency on you will increase - is she sure you will deliver as a husband as you have only known each other for a short period.
• She hates your past family but loves you .... it could be attention related, you may be a "different" person when around others or during a family visit.
• Her standards and life values may be different to your "other" ex-wife. ....learn and take the good stuff
• And more .......

You and she have moved to a positional stance, yet fundamentally she loves you and would seek to have the same level of intimate relations you enjoy now but after children ........

 

You have only discussed 30-50% of the topic "having children" and I would advise getting on with it instead of dropping this into the forum where responses will vary considerably.

She has her two year green card, I never applied for ROC . It will be in August that I have to apply that.

My wife came here on Cr1 visa, before we got married she said, she likes to have kids, she said we can plan 1 year after marriage.

It's been 3 years since we are married, she told me yesterday she would never want to have kids with me.

She says on one condition she can have kids, that is if I stop all contact with my daughter from my previous marriage.

She is very jealous of me and she says kids are scum of the earth, and that they ruin one's life. I want kids.

She says she loves me very much and she does not want any kids because she cannot give me any attention.

I don't know what to do. If I get divorced this will be my second one.

I did a big mistake by marrying her and I think I rushed in to this marriage.

Has any one gone through this kind of issue here ?