Glenn & Rosemarie

Glenn, you may want to read this for guidance:

http://www.visajourney.com/forums/index.ph...s-immigration-b

Yes, I read these pages and I think it is clear that she can stay here if she continues with her lies. It looks to me that there is nothing that I can do about it at all. No wonder this is happening so much. These scammers are obviously being coached on how to do this. I am so discouraged now. It isn't that I was looking for vengeance, but I have just be done very wrong. Of course, maybe in my stressed out emotional state, I am jumping to conclusions. However, for some reason I just dont think this was about homesickness now, but only a greencard.

I am now of the opinion that my wife not only has used me, but possibly will try to find anyways she can to stay here. I have many questions that I need answered or at least some feedback on.

1. I have withdrawn my petition for her, she has no AOS or greencard. Can she stay here legally anyways?

2. I was under the impression that being I am the sponsor, she by law had to be living with me?

3. Is there a way or do I have any right to know if she is in the USA or back in Philippines?

4. How can I divorce her without her signing the divorce papers? I don't know what address to send them too!

5. Is there a number that I can call for help or to have questions answered?

I somewhat apoligize that I post this here. But, I have been a memeber here a long time and respect the opinions and feedback that I receive here very much. I appreciate the concern and caring of all of you that have replied to me here. I hope and pray that you have happiness and a blessed life together.

Glenn

Glenn, I have been following your story and was thinking about your case and how you are doing now, glad you're back. Roy gave you a good advice, seek help from an Attorney for a dvivorce. Even if you don't know her exact address, since she's living in your area, I think you can file divorce and publish in a local newspaper for 3 days or weeks (?), not sure, but you have to do it through your Attorney, they will know better on how this process works. You also need to follow up your complaint with the authorities about the missing person report you filed for your wife (ex-wife to be), since she showed up with the police. There are legal and illegal ways she can do to stay in the US. But if your petition has been withdrawn, she should get deported. But, if she files for "abuse/maltreatment" (rape as you mentioned), she can use this as a reason so she can file for a stay and maybe even file for AOS by herself without your help? Please seek a good Attorney, so you won't loose "some" of your assets and most importantly, your reputation.

Good Luck!

Yes, I am going to pursue the divorce by publication method. I am at pure disbelief that she would dare make any allegations against me. Rape? I was married to her and there was never any pressure even by me. She was willing always. My petition is withdrawn and I filed a case with ICE about 2 weeks ago. She should be deported. I know I was used by her, but I don't intend to pay out money to her or suffer from her wrong doings anymore. I will fight her in court if I have to. I do not want to see her be successful from her plan. I have evidence of her lesbian desires, such as her laptop sites visited, copy of her ad looking for women, photos she downloaded of naked women and her friends statement that she is a lesbian, as well as her so called cousin is not her cousin, but her lover.

This is such a shame, dissappointment and a scam by her. If she is allowed to stay here for any reason, there is no justice in this country! I want to see to it that she is sent back. Thanks for your concern and advice.

Hello everyone, it has been awhile since I visited here in the forum. The last 23 days since Rosemarie left me have been very stressful and hard on me emotionally. It seems that I need closure to this awful situation that I have faced with. It is truly difficult to accept that I gave someone 100% of my love and that they could treat me this way.

I had not heard a word from her until Wenesday night. I received an email from her that said she wanted to work things out and was coming back soon. Actually, it was like she re-opened the wound saying that, as it brought about very confusing feelings. I had to think about this a lot. While we were together, her lies were often and she never seemed to be very affectionate. I assumed possibly this was because she was inexperienced in relationships, as well as we are from different cultures. I am then informed she is a lesbian by a cousin of hers and a friend of hers that now lives in the USA. I find these things very unsettling.

She showed up with police here unannounced on Friday and wanted her things. I agreed and allowed her to get everything that was hers and actually carried out her suitcases for her. She made the statement that maybe she will come back. I replied that wasnt a possibility at this point. I told her that she needed to return back to the Philippines. I also informed her that I withdrew my petition for her visa and there will be no greencard or AOS for her. I offered to buy her a ticket back, but told her I would not give her the money, but only a ticket was all. She then replied not to me not to buy it, that herfriends will help her. She is staying with a Filipina here in my city I learned. The filipina is married to a very sick man. I met the girl once and being the intuitive person that I am, I felt as though the girl didn't like me for some reason unexplainable. A filipina friend of my wife has called dthe girl Rosemarie is staying with to talk. She told me that the girl talked awful of me. She said things like I should be charged with rape of my wife? I have never heard such absurd things as this woman said.

I am now of the opinion that my wife not only has used me, but possibly will try to find anyways she can to stay here. I have many questions that I need answered or at least some feedback on.

1. I have withdrawn my petition for her, she has no AOS or greencard. Can she stay here legally anyways?

2. I was under the impression that being I am the sponsor, she by law had to be living with me?

3. Is there a way or do I have any right to know if she is in the USA or back in Philippines?

4. How can I divorce her without her signing the divorce papers? I don't know what address to send them too!

5. Is there a number that I can call for help or to have questions answered?

I somewhat apoligize that I post this here. But, I have been a memeber here a long time and respect the opinions and feedback that I receive here very much. I appreciate the concern and caring of all of you that have replied to me here. I hope and pray that you have happiness and a blessed life together.

Glenn

Hi Everyone, as you know my life has been upside down lately. I guess also it will be that way for awhile. I need some advice, feedback or viewpoints. Then again, maybe I just need to vent? I can never get my mother-in-law on the phone. She sends me text messages almost daily. She sometimes begs me to take Rosemarie back, then sometimes she sends text with things like "don't hurt her or kill her!" Hell, I don't even know where she is! I was told yesterday that she is in a shelter somewhere? her mother is sending me text messages based on information she receieved from an undisclosed friend of Rosemarie's. She states that I ordered my wife to leave in middle of the night and that I was angry with my wife everyday. Yes, some days I was angry at her. Yes, it makes me angry that she has $1000 cell phone bill. Yes it makes me angry that she lays on couch all day watching the filipino channel and never helping me clean our house, cook our meals, do basically anything to help me. Yes, I was angry that when I come home she has cooked, only for herself and cleaned nothing up.

Does this sound unreasonable to anyone? When getting angry, yes I raise my voice. Yes, when someone lies to me over and over and I know it's a lie. It makes me angry when my wife acts as though she could care less for me, when I am treating her like a princess. I just don't know what will happen here. She is still in the USA somewhere. I need closure to this 19 month long scam. Thanks for letting me vent.

Glenn

Glenn....first let me say sorry for what happened to you. Second, let me say I am puzzled by this post. Do you really care what her family thinks at this point? I thought her family was part of the scam?

Third, I would be a little concerned about the fact you think she is in a shelter. Homeless shelter or a battered woman's shelter? I don't mean to imply you battered her. I mean that maybe she will try and claim that she was battered as a means of gaining her right to stay in the USA without you. As shameful as she sounds, I would not put it past her. Protect yourself by saving every piece of evidence you have gathered so far that points to other reasons for her departure. Print out the webpage of her inquiry for another lesbian lover, save emails from those disclosing this information to you...and anything else you can think of to protect yourself.

Lastly....closure? Filing for divorce and changing your cell phone number to get the family out of your life comes to mind. You don't need any part of her or her family anymore.

Just one man''s opinion...subject to criticism....and by all means imperfect.

Scott

I see that you see the same unsettling part of this as I do. A Shelter? What for is my question? When she first left, I assumed she was pawning her jewelery and headed for the Philippines. No, I didn't batter her. I would never become that angry at anyone. Now raising my voice, yes, but very matter of fact and diplomatic. I have saved evidence on my computer and text messages, etc. I have her ad copied at the Lezbo site as well. I see these people trying one last ditch effort to extort something from me. As for her lover that thinks she is headed here on a CR1 sponsored by the old man in Arizona, I gave him heads up yesterday via phone call. Thanks

So Glenn, forgive me for asking but, give us an idea of what this man said. Was he aware of the scam or did he defend his fiancee?

The man is a desperate man that wants companionship. He doesn't trust that girl at all, but he is foolish enough to think he can control her. Things and methods he talked of regarding controling, scare me. He believes she is a lesbian, just like my wife. In fact told me that while he was in the Philippines with his wife, they lived with my wife. According to him my wife was living with her lover (his wife) daily when I wasn't there. He is foolish enough in my opinion that he will believe her. The man is 67 and the girl is 20! Gimme a break! The motives for her to come to the USA are clear. BTW, this man just seperated from his last Filipina wife about 9 months ago. She lived with him eight years and left him for another man. She was 38 years younger than him.

Hi Everyone, as you know my life has been upside down lately. I guess also it will be that way for awhile. I need some advice, feedback or viewpoints. Then again, maybe I just need to vent? I can never get my mother-in-law on the phone. She sends me text messages almost daily. She sometimes begs me to take Rosemarie back, then sometimes she sends text with things like "don't hurt her or kill her!" Hell, I don't even know where she is! I was told yesterday that she is in a shelter somewhere? her mother is sending me text messages based on information she receieved from an undisclosed friend of Rosemarie's. She states that I ordered my wife to leave in middle of the night and that I was angry with my wife everyday. Yes, some days I was angry at her. Yes, it makes me angry that she has $1000 cell phone bill. Yes it makes me angry that she lays on couch all day watching the filipino channel and never helping me clean our house, cook our meals, do basically anything to help me. Yes, I was angry that when I come home she has cooked, only for herself and cleaned nothing up.

Does this sound unreasonable to anyone? When getting angry, yes I raise my voice. Yes, when someone lies to me over and over and I know it's a lie. It makes me angry when my wife acts as though she could care less for me, when I am treating her like a princess. I just don't know what will happen here. She is still in the USA somewhere. I need closure to this 19 month long scam. Thanks for letting me vent.

Glenn

Glenn....first let me say sorry for what happened to you. Second, let me say I am puzzled by this post. Do you really care what her family thinks at this point? I thought her family was part of the scam?

Third, I would be a little concerned about the fact you think she is in a shelter. Homeless shelter or a battered woman's shelter? I don't mean to imply you battered her. I mean that maybe she will try and claim that she was battered as a means of gaining her right to stay in the USA without you. As shameful as she sounds, I would not put it past her. Protect yourself by saving every piece of evidence you have gathered so far that points to other reasons for her departure. Print out the webpage of her inquiry for another lesbian lover, save emails from those disclosing this information to you...and anything else you can think of to protect yourself.

Lastly....closure? Filing for divorce and changing your cell phone number to get the family out of your life comes to mind. You don't need any part of her or her family anymore.

Just one man''s opinion...subject to criticism....and by all means imperfect.

Scott

I see that you see the same unsettling part of this as I do. A Shelter? What for is my question? When she first left, I assumed she was pawning her jewelery and headed for the Philippines. No, I didn't batter her. I would never become that angry at anyone. Now raising my voice, yes, but very matter of fact and diplomatic. I have saved evidence on my computer and text messages, etc. I have her ad copied at the Lezbo site as well. I see these people trying one last ditch effort to extort something from me. As for her lover that thinks she is headed here on a CR1 sponsored by the old man in Arizona, I gave him heads up yesterday via phone call. Thanks

Hi Everyone, as you know my life has been upside down lately. I guess also it will be that way for awhile. I need some advice, feedback or viewpoints. Then again, maybe I just need to vent? I can never get my mother-in-law on the phone. She sends me text messages almost daily. She sometimes begs me to take Rosemarie back, then sometimes she sends text with things like "don't hurt her or kill her!" Hell, I don't even know where she is! I was told yesterday that she is in a shelter somewhere? her mother is sending me text messages based on information she receieved from an undisclosed friend of Rosemarie's. She states that I ordered my wife to leave in middle of the night and that I was angry with my wife everyday. Yes, some days I was angry at her. Yes, it makes me angry that she has $1000 cell phone bill. Yes it makes me angry that she lays on couch all day watching the filipino channel and never helping me clean our house, cook our meals, do basically anything to help me. Yes, I was angry that when I come home she has cooked, only for herself and cleaned nothing up.

Does this sound unreasonable to anyone? When getting angry, yes I raise my voice. Yes, when someone lies to me over and over and I know it's a lie. It makes me angry when my wife acts as though she could care less for me, when I am treating her like a princess. I just don't know what will happen here. She is still in the USA somewhere. I need closure to this 19 month long scam. Thanks for letting me vent.

Glenn

Glenn, I have said it before and if you have not already done so, you need to report her and her carpet munching lover to the ICE. The more you can tel the hotline, the better. I lived in the PI for 5 years prior to the internet and cell phone boom and it was not like it is now. I work there about 6 months out of the year and see the same thing as Beam talked about, it is just sad. However, do not let a few bad apples sum up the filipino people. Ken & Maria

Okay, this is for sure off topic here. but, Made my journey through this room, so I decide I would share what facts my investigative work has brought forth into evidence this week. As most of you know, I was married in the Philippines on December 29, 2005, well my wife arrived here in the USA on February 7, 2007. She had daily problems with homesickness and seemed to never be happy regardless. She left for a bike ride on the moring of April 6 and has never returned since. At first I was worried and heart broken, then I decided to do some investigating last week. Here is a copy of the letter that I sent to someone that I have been talking to by PM on a regular basis. He asked for an update, so here it is:

You won't believe this. I was contacted by a lifelong friend of my wife's that said she felt compelled to tell me what was going on. I seems that my wife is a lesbian. It is a well known fact in the community that she grew up in that she is. The cousin she refers to, is not her cousin, but her lover. Her cousin aka lover is awaiting her interview now, as she is married to a man in Arizona. I whole-heartedly believe this was a 100% scam for the two of them to be together in the USA. I know from what my wife said that her cousin/lover had no intentions of staying with her husband once she received greencard. Little did I know that the same was being done to me. I am almost 100% positive that my wife is in the USA still. Through online research, I found her picture posted on a website looking for other females in my city. The date it was posted was two days after she left, she also said she is single on this site. I found a couple pictures of naked women in her computer as well. This whole thing I believe was pre-meditated by her. I also know for fact that the cousin/lover has been living with her for over 3 years. I also know that my wifes family knows she is lesbian 100%. I never even thought she could be this way, what a con-artist. In fact, the whole family participated in this scam from the Mother to sisters. Now, I am faced with the loss of many thousands of dollars on her, her family, etc. I spent a lot of hard earned money on these people so they could have air-conditioning, new furniture, appliances, electronics, 2 new Honda motorcycles and not to mention home repairs and spending money. It makes me feel like fool, but it also pisses me off. I put my heart on the line and 19 months of my life flying back and forth during the waiting. She even clipped me for a top notch wedding for 500 people. I don't want vengeance, but I don't want her to be allowed to remain in the USA. I had not applied for her AOS and I am glad of that. I sure as hell would like to see her deported! I am even contemplating calling the man in Arizona and telling him these facts. Now, I have to find out how to get a divorce from her and I guess I will never be able to marry another Filipina, as I was married in the Philippines. Can you believe this? Now we see why the Manila embassy is so strict. I am sure this is just one example. Thanks for listening.

Glenn&Rosemarie aka Glenn&Lezbo

I thought a U.S. Divorce was recognized in the PI? PW, Sheriff & Deputy Uling... a littel help... Ken

Now, I have to find out how to get a divorce from her and I guess I will never be able to marry another Filipina, as I was married in the Philippines. Can you believe this? Now we see why the Manila embassy is so strict. I am sure this is just one example. Thanks for listening.

Glenn&Rosemarie aka Glenn&Lezbo

If you were de-frauded, that is grounds for annulment. With an annulment, it is as if you were never married. Were you married in a Catholic Church? Even if you were in civil ceremony, you can still file for annulment if you want to meet another Filipina.

Ken, I reported her to ICE last week under your advisment.

Thanks George, I won't say it took courage to post this and I didn't post it out of any malice. I posted this to make people be more careful when selecting a person to spend their life with. I am a strong willed and tough businessman, but I was taught growing up to follow my heart. It seems as though that has some good and some bad points about it. I just received an email from NVC stating that I can withdraw my petition for her AOS and she will be deported. That is what I will do today. I also was able to speak with her cousin in Manila that verified the facts that she is a lesbian, as well as her "cousin" is not her cousin, but her lover. I will get this marriage annulled or divorce, as I intend to move on with my life. This isn't about love anymore, it's about not letting a "scammer" get away with a conspiracy to commit fraud. In my past, I have made over 10 trips to the Philippines (5 were on business there) and I always thought when my life slowed down I wanted to marry a Filipina. I still do and I will, as didn't marry a wife this time, I married a woman that is an insult to her country and to the human race.

Glenn

You should file to withdraw your petition, so she could be blacklisted. And also try to find the other guy so he could be warned. Although it is really unfortunate that this happen to you, I am glad to hear that you still would want to marry a Filipina. You just have to be careful the next time.

You can file a divorce there in the US. Although you can file also an annulment here (Philippines) which could take months and more money, maybe I would advise you not to get an annulment here. Just a suggestion. If your wife will be deported and you can divorce her there, then you are free to marry again, although not here in the Philippines. If she intends to do another scam, then she cannot and will not be able to get married here in the Philippines since her status with the NSO and in the Church will still be married. Although divorce is accepted, she cannot marry here again, unless she files for an annulment herself. Let her file the annulment and let her spend money for that. You need not spend more for her benefit. Just my opinion. If she would do another scam, she will have to be on a K-1, but will have more problems because her status at NSO will remain married.

But whatever you decide, think of protecting yourself and your assets so she (or her family) will not be able to get anything from you again.

Are you saying that if I get a divorce from her that I will not be able to petition another filipina and marry her in the USA?

Here it is Glenn.

http://www.chanrobles.com/executiveorderno209.htm

Art. 26. x x x

Where a marriage between a Filipino citizen and a foreigner is validly celebrated and a divorce is thereafter validly obtained abroad by the alien spouse capacitating him or her to remarry, the Filipino spouse shall have capacity to remarry under Philippine law. (As amended by Executive Order 227)

I'm having server problems. I will update the list when the server is better.

It is 10:20 in Manila. Time to sleep zzzzzzzz

I assume that this means I can get a divorce in the USA and be able to marry a Filipina again in the future if it works out that way? As for my wife marrying again, I don't think lesbian marriages are allowed in the Phils?

We were married in the Catholic church there in the Philippines. Surely with my story, I can get an annulment. Do you agree? I just need to begin the process. Thanks

Glenn, if it is a marriage between a US citizen and a Filipino, you may file for divorce in the US and it will be recognized in the Philippines (the civil aspect of the marriage, that is). No need to file for annulment here. However, you cannot have a Catholic wedding anywhere in the world without filing an annulment with the Catholic Church first (separation of church and state). For purposes of visa, a US divorce will suffice to petition another Filipina fiance or wife.

I will find the law that supports the above, I believe that it is in our Family Code. You may initiate divorce proceedings in the US now.

If you are able to get the name of the cousin/lover who is about to be interviewed at Manila Embassy, report her right away so that her visa will be denied. But make sure you include evidence. We don't want Filipina scammers to ruin the reputation of the rest of us here. No wonder Manila Embassy is so tough.

I am glad that you still want a Filipina wife after what she's done to you.

Thank you PW. I must say that you are an absolute Godsend to this posting. Your knowledge, compassion and consideration has helped 100's of people. Doug is a very lucky man and I know God will place a special blessing on your lives together.

Now, I have to find out how to get a divorce from her and I guess I will never be able to marry another Filipina, as I was married in the Philippines. Can you believe this? Now we see why the Manila embassy is so strict. I am sure this is just one example. Thanks for listening.

Glenn&Rosemarie aka Glenn&Lezbo

If you were de-frauded, that is grounds for annulment. With an annulment, it is as if you were never married. Were you married in a Catholic Church? Even if you were in civil ceremony, you can still file for annulment if you want to meet another Filipina.

We were married in the Catholic church there in the Philippines. Surely with my story, I can get an annulment. Do you agree? I just need to begin the process. Thanks

Okay, this is for sure off topic here. but, Made my journey through this room, so I decide I would share what facts my investigative work has brought forth into evidence this week. As most of you know, I was married in the Philippines on December 29, 2005, well my wife arrived here in the USA on February 7, 2007. She had daily problems with homesickness and seemed to never be happy regardless. She left for a bike ride on the moring of April 6 and has never returned since. At first I was worried and heart broken, then I decided to do some investigating last week. Here is a copy of the letter that I sent to someone that I have been talking to by PM on a regular basis. He asked for an update, so here it is:

You won't believe this. I was contacted by a lifelong friend of my wife's that said she felt compelled to tell me what was going on. I seems that my wife is a lesbian. It is a well known fact in the community that she grew up in that she is. The cousin she refers to, is not her cousin, but her lover. Her cousin aka lover is awaiting her interview now, as she is married to a man in Arizona. I whole-heartedly believe this was a 100% scam for the two of them to be together in the USA. I know from what my wife said that her cousin/lover had no intentions of staying with her husband once she received greencard. Little did I know that the same was being done to me. I am almost 100% positive that my wife is in the USA still. Through online research, I found her picture posted on a website looking for other females in my city. The date it was posted was two days after she left, she also said she is single on this site. I found a couple pictures of naked women in her computer as well. This whole thing I believe was pre-meditated by her. I also know for fact that the cousin/lover has been living with her for over 3 years. I also know that my wifes family knows she is lesbian 100%. I never even thought she could be this way, what a con-artist. In fact, the whole family participated in this scam from the Mother to sisters. Now, I am faced with the loss of many thousands of dollars on her, her family, etc. I spent a lot of hard earned money on these people so they could have air-conditioning, new furniture, appliances, electronics, 2 new Honda motorcycles and not to mention home repairs and spending money. It makes me feel like fool, but it also pisses me off. I put my heart on the line and 19 months of my life flying back and forth during the waiting. She even clipped me for a top notch wedding for 500 people. I don't want vengeance, but I don't want her to be allowed to remain in the USA. I had not applied for her AOS and I am glad of that. I sure as hell would like to see her deported! I am even contemplating calling the man in Arizona and telling him these facts. Now, I have to find out how to get a divorce from her and I guess I will never be able to marry another Filipina, as I was married in the Philippines. Can you believe this? Now we see why the Manila embassy is so strict. I am sure this is just one example. Thanks for listening.

Glenn&Rosemarie aka Glenn&Lezbo

I know it took a lot of courage to post all that. Like many in here, we wonder at times if we really know this person whom we are in love with, from far away. So hard to develope trust over the internet. I'm sure scammers like her have learned all the secrets to success. I can't say I would have acted any different than you did. I'm sure her family even convinced you that she had such "good intentions". Did you know, Liars burn in hell!!!! I feel sorry that she did this to you. I hope she is removed immediately if it makes you feel better. I am happy to know you would consider another filipino lady and not let this one get you down. You have helped me so much with my journey. Thanks Glenn. Please keep us updated or send me a msg. if you wish to talk some. I'm here for you Brother!!

George

Thanks George, I won't say it took courage to post this and I didn't post it out of any malice. I posted this to make people be more careful when selecting a person to spend their life with. I am a strong willed and tough businessman, but I was taught growing up to follow my heart. It seems as though that has some good and some bad points about it. I just received an email from NVC stating that I can withdraw my petition for her AOS and she will be deported. That is what I will do today. I also was able to speak with her cousin in Manila that verified the facts that she is a lesbian, as well as her "cousin" is not her cousin, but her lover. I will get this marriage annulled or divorce, as I intend to move on with my life. This isn't about love anymore, it's about not letting a "scammer" get away with a conspiracy to commit fraud. In my past, I have made over 10 trips to the Philippines (5 were on business there) and I always thought when my life slowed down I wanted to marry a Filipina. I still do and I will, as didn't marry a wife this time, I married a woman that is an insult to her country and to the human race.

Glenn

Well if it makes you feel any better, you are not alone. I have a lot of friends in the expat communities of Subic Bay (former U.S. Naval Base) and Angeles City (former Clark AFB) and there are so many jokes about naive foreigners supporting girls through Western Union. In the internet cafes you can see them on Yahoo chat talking to 6 guys at the same time (6 "windows") asking for money for this "emergency" and that "emergency". Passing by the local Western Union office you can see the girls lined up on a daily basis. Being "online" has become a career for these enterprising young Filipinas. The Internet has made a big difference since the "old days" of penpals - much more deceptive IMO.

Okay, this is for sure off topic here. but, Made my journey through this room, so I decide I would share what facts my investigative work has brought forth into evidence this week. As most of you know, I was married in the Philippines on December 29, 2005, well my wife arrived here in the USA on February 7, 2007. She had daily problems with homesickness and seemed to never be happy regardless. She left for a bike ride on the moring of April 6 and has never returned since. At first I was worried and heart broken, then I decided to do some investigating last week. Here is a copy of the letter that I sent to someone that I have been talking to by PM on a regular basis. He asked for an update, so here it is:

You won't believe this. I was contacted by a lifelong friend of my wife's that said she felt compelled to tell me what was going on. I seems that my wife is a lesbian. It is a well known fact in the community that she grew up in that she is. The cousin she refers to, is not her cousin, but her lover. Her cousin aka lover is awaiting her interview now, as she is married to a man in Arizona. I whole-heartedly believe this was a 100% scam for the two of them to be together in the USA. I know from what my wife said that her cousin/lover had no intentions of staying with her husband once she received greencard. Little did I know that the same was being done to me. I am almost 100% positive that my wife is in the USA still. Through online research, I found her picture posted on a website looking for other females in my city. The date it was posted was two days after she left, she also said she is single on this site. I found a couple pictures of naked women in her computer as well. This whole thing I believe was pre-meditated by her. I also know for fact that the cousin/lover has been living with her for over 3 years. I also know that my wifes family knows she is lesbian 100%. I never even thought she could be this way, what a con-artist. In fact, the whole family participated in this scam from the Mother to sisters. Now, I am faced with the loss of many thousands of dollars on her, her family, etc. I spent a lot of hard earned money on these people so they could have air-conditioning, new furniture, appliances, electronics, 2 new Honda motorcycles and not to mention home repairs and spending money. It makes me feel like fool, but it also pisses me off. I put my heart on the line and 19 months of my life flying back and forth during the waiting. She even clipped me for a top notch wedding for 500 people. I don't want vengeance, but I don't want her to be allowed to remain in the USA. I had not applied for her AOS and I am glad of that. I sure as hell would like to see her deported! I am even contemplating calling the man in Arizona and telling him these facts. Now, I have to find out how to get a divorce from her and I guess I will never be able to marry another Filipina, as I was married in the Philippines. Can you believe this? Now we see why the Manila embassy is so strict. I am sure this is just one example. Thanks for listening.

Glenn&Rosemarie aka Glenn&Lezbo

Her life has been better for this, not mine for sure.

Okay, this is for sure off topic here. but, Made my journey through this room, so I decide I would share what facts my investigative work has brought forth into evidence this week. As most of you know, I was married in the Philippines on December 29, 2005, well my wife arrived here in the USA on February 7, 2007. She had daily problems with homesickness and seemed to never be happy regardless. She left for a bike ride on the moring of April 6 and has never returned since. At first I was worried and heart broken, then I decided to do some investigating last week. Here is a copy of the letter that I sent to someone that I have been talking to by PM on a regular basis. He asked for an update, so here it is:

You won't believe this. I was contacted by a lifelong friend of my wife's that said she felt compelled to tell me what was going on. I seems that my wife is a lesbian. It is a well known fact in the community that she grew up in that she is. The cousin she refers to, is not her cousin, but her lover. Her cousin aka lover is awaiting her interview now, as she is married to a man in Arizona. I whole-heartedly believe this was a 100% scam for the two of them to be together in the USA. I know from what my wife said that her cousin/lover had no intentions of staying with her husband once she received greencard. Little did I know that the same was being done to me. I am almost 100% positive that my wife is in the USA still. Through online research, I found her picture posted on a website looking for other females in my city. The date it was posted was two days after she left, she also said she is single on this site. I found a couple pictures of naked women in her computer as well. This whole thing I believe was pre-meditated by her. I also know for fact that the cousin/lover has been living with her for over 3 years. I also know that my wifes family knows she is lesbian 100%. I never even thought she could be this way, what a con-artist. In fact, the whole family participated in this scam from the Mother to sisters. Now, I am faced with the loss of many thousands of dollars on her, her family, etc. I spent a lot of hard earned money on these people so they could have air-conditioning, new furniture, appliances, electronics, 2 new Honda motorcycles and not to mention home repairs and spending money. It makes me feel like fool, but it also pisses me off. I put my heart on the line and 19 months of my life flying back and forth during the waiting. She even clipped me for a top notch wedding for 500 people. I don't want vengeance, but I don't want her to be allowed to remain in the USA. I had not applied for her AOS and I am glad of that. I sure as hell would like to see her deported! I am even contemplating calling the man in Arizona and telling him these facts. Now, I have to find out how to get a divorce from her and I guess I will never be able to marry another Filipina, as I was married in the Philippines. Can you believe this? Now we see why the Manila embassy is so strict. I am sure this is just one example. Thanks for listening.

Glenn&Rosemarie aka Glenn&Lezbo

Glenn, how was your love life with her? Did she seem giving, interested, etc. or did she always make an effort to kill any romantic feeling you might have. I wouldn't ask but you seem ready to move on now. It's amazing how she got everyone in her family to go along with it. I guess if her parents thought it was a good idea to rip you off, at least you know how she came by her deceptive nature. Good luck untangling this mess...

She should go to hollywood and be an actress! The greed for money makes many people forget God's teachings. I would have never dreamed I was being used. She seemed to be a sweet loving woman. I was wrong very much.

Okay, this is for sure off topic here. but, Made my journey through this room, so I decide I would share what facts my investigative work has brought forth into evidence this week. As most of you know, I was married in the Philippines on December 29, 2005, well my wife arrived here in the USA on February 7, 2007. She had daily problems with homesickness and seemed to never be happy regardless. She left for a bike ride on the moring of April 6 and has never returned since. At first I was worried and heart broken, then I decided to do some investigating last week. Here is a copy of the letter that I sent to someone that I have been talking to by PM on a regular basis. He asked for an update, so here it is:

You won't believe this. I was contacted by a lifelong friend of my wife's that said she felt compelled to tell me what was going on. I seems that my wife is a lesbian. It is a well known fact in the community that she grew up in that she is. The cousin she refers to, is not her cousin, but her lover. Her cousin aka lover is awaiting her interview now, as she is married to a man in Arizona. I whole-heartedly believe this was a 100% scam for the two of them to be together in the USA. I know from what my wife said that her cousin/lover had no intentions of staying with her husband once she received greencard. Little did I know that the same was being done to me. I am almost 100% positive that my wife is in the USA still. Through online research, I found her picture posted on a website looking for other females in my city. The date it was posted was two days after she left, she also said she is single on this site. I found a couple pictures of naked women in her computer as well. This whole thing I believe was pre-meditated by her. I also know for fact that the cousin/lover has been living with her for over 3 years. I also know that my wifes family knows she is lesbian 100%. I never even thought she could be this way, what a con-artist. In fact, the whole family participated in this scam from the Mother to sisters. Now, I am faced with the loss of many thousands of dollars on her, her family, etc. I spent a lot of hard earned money on these people so they could have air-conditioning, new furniture, appliances, electronics, 2 new Honda motorcycles and not to mention home repairs and spending money. It makes me feel like fool, but it also pisses me off. I put my heart on the line and 19 months of my life flying back and forth during the waiting. She even clipped me for a top notch wedding for 500 people. I don't want vengeance, but I don't want her to be allowed to remain in the USA. I had not applied for her AOS and I am glad of that. I sure as hell would like to see her deported! I am even contemplating calling the man in Arizona and telling him these facts. Now, I have to find out how to get a divorce from her and I guess I will never be able to marry another Filipina, as I was married in the Philippines. Can you believe this? Now we see why the Manila embassy is so strict. I am sure this is just one example. Thanks for listening.

Glenn&Rosemarie aka Glenn&Lezbo

My wife nd I were married on December 29, 2005 in the Philippines.My wife of 16 months came to the USA from the Philippines on February 7 2007 on a K3 visa. During her time here she showed numerous signs of homesickness, etc. On Friday April 6, 2007 she went for a bicycle ride and never returned. Later that day, I received an email from my wife's cousin who lives in the Philippines stating that my wife contacted her. The email from my wife's cousin said for me to be strong and move on with my life. It also said my wife was somewhere safe.

I contacted local law enforcement and filed report. I called the NVC and informed them that we were not, or might I say " I am not filing or pursuing the AOS" I also reported this to ICE for possible illegal or fraudulent activities that coud take place.

I have contacted my wifes family and friends by email, text and telephone messages. I have received no replies from them. I truly don't know if she is back home in the Philippines or somewhere unknown to me here in the USA presently.

It seems nobody can answer any questions for me at any agency that I have spoken with. At some point am I free to marry again? I was married in the Philippines, do I need a USA divorce? Am I free to ever petition another person for marriage?

If you have any solid information, I would greatly appreciate your feedback. I am stunned by the emotions of this event.........Thanks

I guess at this point I have to accept that Rosemarie is not coming back home. I was filed reports with state and local law enorcement and they really cant do anything about this I have sent a text message to everyone in her family and no reply from any. My attorney and his acossiciates have been 100% useless Any suggestions from anyone?

Thanks

Hi Glenn, at the risk of sounding like I'm defending an attorney, there isn't anything they can do. Unfortunately the only thing you can do is protect yourself and many have already said in this forum. Love involves exposing one's self to abuse by the party being loved. Most of us have had our hearts broken at some time in our lives, although I'm sure it doesn't get any easier. The only one that can break your heart is someone you love and love sincerely. Take some comfort in the fact that you did love her and probably still do, that it was not you that deserted her, but she deserted you. Some people are incapable of loving, this proves that you are not one of those people. Love is something that MUST be given away, otherwise it is not love, and you have done that.

As painful as all this is at the moment, Don't become hardened by this experience but do become wiser. Through all the love, anger, worry, and probably some other emotions that are being mixed together right now guard your heart, do not become bitter and do not harbor animosity in your heart toward Rosemarie or anyone else involved in this whole tragic situation. I suggest you pray for her everyday as well as those that helped her. I can tell you from personal experience that you will get relief by praying for her on a daily basis for at least 2 months.

God bless you, Dean

Yes, the pain is great for me. We had been apart so long and I was so happy that we were now togther. I had been single 14 years and I have had my heart broken a couple times since. But I have to move forward with my life. I appreciate all the caring people on this VJ thread.

I guess at this point I have to accept that Rosemarie is not coming back home. I was filed reports with state and local law enorcement and they really cant do anything about this I have sent a text message to everyone in her family and no reply from any. My attorney and his acossiciates have been 100% useless Any suggestions from anyone?

Thanks

I don't know what happened here? I am in shock and a little intoxicated. My wife went for a bike ride this morning at 9:30am and never came back. All she took was her money, jewels and passport. I received an email from her cousin in the Philippines 8 hours later that said my wife is safe and for me to move on with my life. I am in shock. I married her in the Phils 18 months ago, she was here 1 day short of two months and she is gone. Day after day she said she was depressed and homesick. The only disagreement we had was yesterday. It was about her $1028.00 cell phone bill where she had been calling the Philippines at $3.00 a minute instead of using our landline international service.

I don't know if I have been used or what. I am just in shock and have nobody to talk with.

Glenn

So sorry to hear this Glenn, I know this must be a tremendous shock. I don't know what I would do if I were in your shoes at the moment other than try and locate her and let her know you love her and want what is best for her. Maybe for now you can try and chat with her family back home and let them all know how you feel and that you are worried about Rosemaria's safety. Soon she will have to come back and talk about this with you, because you are both married, for Christ's sakes!!!! I know you have done all you can do for now, we will be praying with you for her return. You will come out of this a stronger man I really believe.

George

I love her with all my heart. I treated her like a princess and I gave her a beautiful home to live in. Maybe our cultural differences keep me from understanding this? I just don't understand why? I have emailed her, but no response. I don't know where she is.

I haven't filed a missing persons report as of yet. She contacted her cousin in the Philippines and told her to contact me. I have to assume that she is okay and is not interested in any contact with me.

Glenn, this is just so sad. I know that this is a difficult time for you and I hope and pray that you find the strength and courage to face whatever it is that lies ahead. I hope that you will continue to let us know here how you are doing. Has your lawyer made any contact with you yet?

Hang in there! We're just a computer away if you need someone to talk to.

PW

What should I do? It has been over 48 hours now since I have heard anything related to her.I have no choice but to feel that I have been used. We were married in the Philippines on December 29, 2005. Do I file for divorce here in USA? I have emailed my attorney, but no response. I think he is only good at cashing checks. He was a major waste of $3000 for sure. Did she do this just to get here in the USA? If so, how can she stay? We had not applied for AOS. I don't like being used and want to know where she is.

All I can think is that love is a two way street. She obviously never loved me.

I am sorry to hear that things have not worked out between the two of you.

I know you are feeling very sad and depressed, but try not to say or think things that you will soon regret. From reading your past threads of your journey, it seems to me that Rosemarie has had a very, very difficult time adjusting. I obviously don't know all of the events that have transpired over your times together, but from what you have posted since her arrival here, it seems that the problem is more of culture shock, rather than her using you or not loving you.

As Ken&Maria suggested, if you have not heard from her yet, by all means, you should file a missing persons report. There could be a problem or circumstance that you have not considered. Your first order of business is to someway have some contact with her, ANY contact with her, to make sure that she is alive and well.

She won't get very far on a bike, and since she left all of her possessions, I think this has to be more than something she planned all along.

At the CFO Seminar, they make a point to tell the Filipina National what steps to take if she finds herself in an untenable situation once she arrives in her fiance's/spouse's homeland. Unfortunately, some relationships aren't genuine, and they want to make sure the Filipina is not left without any options. I mention this because you sound as though you think this may have been planned from the beginning, and that may not be the case at all.

I think once you are able to talk to her, you guys can come up with a way to resolve your relationship. My prayers are with you.

I haven't filed a missing persons report as of yet. She contacted her cousin in the Philippines and told her to contact me. I have to assume that she is okay and is not interested in any contact with me.

Mirasol seems to think that the Baptismal Certificate is a required document, but I dont see it listed in any of the paperwork. Can anyone confirm or deny if a Baptismal Certificate is required in the Manila Embassy for a K1 applicant?

I agree with Gary (StarProg). Baptismal Certificate would be secondary proof of identity if birth registration is late or if there is a discrepancy in BC name and passport name. Otherwise, it is not required by the embassy.

Thanks to everyone for caring. This is one of the most difficult things I have ever went through in my life. I don't really know what to think. I think at this point that I was used, but I am not sure. I contacted my attorney via email twice, but he has not contacted me back. We had not applied for AOS as of yet.

As for contacting my wifes cousin, I hesitate to do that as in my opinion she is a bad person through and through. She is married to an American in Arizona that is 45 years older than her. When he is in Arizona, she cheats on him. I didn't only assume this, but my wife told me this to be fact.

At this point, I guess I am still in shock. I treated my wife like a princess and loved her like a man should love his wife. I just don't know what else I can do now.

Glenn, I cannot imagine the pain that you must be going through. I just wish there was something that your Manila thread family can do to take away some of your pain. We can only humbly offer you our ear and shoulder to cry on.

Since Rosemarie cannot adjust her status without your help, she might eventually contact you. Do not delete the cousin's email. You may need this as proof someday in case someone accuses you of abuse.

PW

I know how I-134 is important for my interview, but i did not receive one from my fiance who is currently deployed in Iraq. Is it alright that his Dad will be our co-sponsor? I only have his 2005 income tax return and W-2 form...will that be accepted? my interview will be on May this year.

thank you

The US fiance is ALWAYS the primary sponsor. If there is a co-sponsor, both the US fiance and the co-sponsor will EACH have to fill out the affidavit I-134 and EACH will have to provide supporting documentation.

Ask your fiance to at least send you the notarized I-134 then bring this to your interview together with his 2005 ITR and W2 (if 2006 is not available). The embassy has always shown leniency towards the military men (especially those deployed in the war zones) and might accept your fiance's 2005 W2 and ITR in addition to the I-134. Do not go to the interview without the I-134 or you will be put in AR.

All I can think is that love is a two way street. She obviously never loved me.

Thanks to everyone for caring. This is one of the most difficult things I have ever went through in my life. I don't really know what to think. I think at this point that I was used, but I am not sure. I contacted my attorney via email twice, but he has not contacted me back. We had not applied for AOS as of yet.

As for contacting my wifes cousin, I hesitate to do that as in my opinion she is a bad person through and through. She is married to an American in Arizona that is 45 years older than her. When he is in Arizona, she cheats on him. I didn't only assume this, but my wife told me this to be fact.

At this point, I guess I am still in shock. I treated my wife like a princess and loved her like a man should love his wife. I just don't know what else I can do now.

Glenn

I don't know what happened here? I am in shock and a little intoxicated. My wife went for a bike ride this morning at 9:30am and never came back. All she took was her money, jewels and passport. I received an email from her cousin in the Philippines 8 hours later that said my wife is safe and for me to move on with my life. I am in shock. I married her in the Phils 18 months ago, she was here 1 day short of two months and she is gone. Day after day she said she was depressed and homesick. The only disagreement we had was yesterday. It was about her $1028.00 cell phone bill where she had been calling the Philippines at $3.00 a minute instead of using our landline international service.

I don't know if I have been used or what. I am just in shock and have nobody to talk with.

Glenn

Hello Manila listers, will keep this short...I arrived in Manila to meet my beautiful asawa Milah Jean on March 25 and have had an INCREDIBLE experience here while she survived the CFO seminars followed by a very wonderful week with her family in Leyte province. At Manila today ready to head to America tomorrow. We can't wait to arrive and begin our new lives together. The day has finally come!!! Thanks all to the huge VJ family and to the Manila Embassy thread in particular. More later when we settle in. Good luck all!!!

Michael and Milah Jean

Congratulations Michael and Milahjean! I wish you both a life filled with happiness.