Divorce him (you do not need his approval/consent in the US), gather your evidence, and submit a divorce waiver for your ROC now or within the 90-day before your conditional GC expires. You do not have to take any abuse and you are entitled to your permanent residency/10-yr green card. When you get the final divorce decree, you will send it in, Depending on how long it you to divorce in your state, you may be able to provide the decree before USCIS sends you an RFE (request for evidence) asking for it.
Good luck and get out!
