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How do you talk yourself out of "the hell with it (the process... not the marriage)"

By realising that your separation at this time is the result of a "hell with the process" attitude once before. Good luck!

Touche

I have since gotten a second opinion and the other attorney said that this (DCF) is the quickest and easiest way to get through our situation.

Couple of comments

1) DCF is not an option in Mexico

2) As soon as the I-130 is in, get rid of your lawyer if you can - get someone who is well qualified in waivers specifically in Mexico. A great place to start is visacentral.net - Laurel Scott, an immigration attorney, holds free chats on Wednesdays at 11:00 am central time where you can post your questions and she will answer. You can also do a phone consultation with her. She is probably the best attorney to go with for your situation - she specializes in waivers, mostly in Mexico.

3) Once you file the I-130 you should follow it up with the I-129. This usually makes the wait time for an interview appointment much faster. The result is a K3 which means he would still have to adjust in the US, but at least you would be back together. If you file only the I-130, the wait time for an appointment in Ciudad Juarez (the only consulate in Mexico that handles these visas) is at least one year. With a K3, it's more like 4-6 months.

4) As the USC, you will need to write an extremely detailed hardship letter, with evidence, to prove why you cannot relocate to Mexico if his visa is denied. The best place for help on this (and for your situation in general) is immigrate2us.net where the majority of people on the forum are in more or less the same situation as you. People are extremely helpful and supportive.

5) The good news: waiver approvals in Mexico are around 97% - said to be the highest in the world. Processing for waivers take around 6 months plus another 7 weeks for a visa pick up appointment. So if you submit both the 1-129 and the I-130, once they are sent to Mexico you may have an appt in 6 months. Add waiver processing, etc and it *could* actually be less than 2 years.

Hope this helps and best of luck

Thank you for the advise. I hadn't had a chance to check my post in a few days.... I have spent a few days at Immigrate2us.net and you are absolutely right... they do have great info... they even have a section dedicated to sample letters. I am also going talk to the attorney you recommended... never hurts to ask... ask... ask!! I am however a little confused about the I-129 (Petition for a Nonimmigrant Worker) I'm assuming his work would have to file this.... but he worked in construction... doesn't his company have to show that they absolutely need him?

How frustrating!!!!!!

Speaking of frustrating.....

It's only been 2 months and he is already talking crazy.... he doesn't know what to do with himself in Mexico... it's funny because he was born there but has been in the U.S. so long... he has come accustomed to life here and now apart from missing me (of course) he has had to get used to a new way of life. The only thing that he says keeps him there is knowing that we could lose everything if he gets caught trying to come over and the fact that the immigration officer told him that if he does get caught in the U.S. or attempting to enter the U.S. he could spend 2 1/2 years in prison. (scary... huh?)

Which brings me to my next question....... (which I'm sure has already been asked)... How do you (the universal you) cope? How do you talk yourself out of "the hell with it (the process... not the marriage)"

Welcome to VJ! You sound like you've already been through a lot, I hope your story has a quicker resolution then the lawyer suggested!

Me too....

especially after I found out that his little happy a## FORGOT TO MAIL MY I-130!!!!!!!!!!!!!

They finally mailed it out yesterday the 18th (and I made sure to get the USPS confirmation number).... after a good earful... of course.

We signed an agreement with them, which I don't think I can get out of... so I'm kinda stuck. They are supposed to be a really good firm. but I beg to differ. I have since gotten a second opinion and the other attorney said that this (DCF) is the quickest and easiest way to get through our situation.

Which brings me to my next question.... maybe someone has been through this ....

I did not tell my husband that this last month and a half has not exactly counted towards the 2 year waiting period.... I don't want him to go through the same amount of frustration and anger that I just went through knowing that there is not much he can do but get angry and frustrated..... do I keep this from him even though we don't ever keep things from each other just to save him the grief or do I tell him and let him go through the emotions and then let him know that we will just have to wait?

Thanks for the

Welcome to VJ... Land of the Impatient and seemingly Forgotten Ones

JEn

Thanks.... It certainly is...

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Congratulations on the weight loss!!!

I have had some free time in the afternoons now that my hubby is hundreds and hundreds of miles away so... I decided that rather than sit and wallow (and possibly gain 50 pounds or 22 kilos) I would get my behind in shape and surprise him with a new me when I go see him in December.

Keep up the good work everyone!!

alleged sh!t stirring thread?

Do you think they're playing the other game?

pretty sad... isn't it?

do you see anyone else?

Are we still playing?

Am I too late?

What have I missed in these last 79 pages?

Good Luck from Newbie to Newbie!!

Good Luck from Newbie to Newbie!!

Correction....

From Newbie to Junior Member... I guess I should have payed attention before posting.

Thanks!

I hope I didn't prematurely post... after reading some of the other forums... like "Take it easy on the Newbies" I don't want you guys to think I'm just here to mooch. I was having one of those "What else can go wrong.... I miss him sooo much..... why is this so hard" type of days.

I have however read FAQ (DCP) and it has helped me have a better understanding of what some of the terms are and the step by step breakdown helped as well.

What most attracted me to the site was the amount of support and encouragement everyone gives each other. I have family and friends that say they know what I'm going through...but they don't. It's just nice to hear someone say... "I've been there, this is what I learned (or am learning) and look at how it worked out for us"

Welcome to VJ and good luck with your journey! It is an emotional rollercoaster, be prepared and keep in mind that in the end you'll be together and happy and it'll all be worthy.

Nessa

Thank you...

I know.... I can't wait until that day comes when my husband can come home and we can live "Happily Ever After"

Hello and Welcome to VJ! Good luck with your journey!

Thanks for sharing your story... don't worry... there are longer ones!!!

Thanks for the warm welcome and for letting me share my story. You don't know (or maybe you do) what a relief it is to know that I'm not the only one that's frustrated. I don't want anyone to have to go through this kind of emotional rollercoaster.

Hello everyone!!

I'm glad I found a site that is dedicated to helping those of us going through this tiresome and lengthy process at the very least vent about what is happening.

I'll try to make this short....

I am a US Citizen and my husband is a Mexican Citizen. Married since 2000, we have been through the entire process once and it took us 5 years to get a rejection letter. (Reason: a voluntary departure that became a order of deportation in 1992 that was not enforced until June of this year) After consulting with an attorney and having him tell us that we had to start all over again we hired him and started our consular process with the I-130. Before the I-130 was out the door.... Homeland Security came to our home and took my husband and deported him.

My husband has been in Mexico for about a month now... and our attorney says that there is no use in applying for a spousal visa because there is no way they will grant it because he was recently deported. And now all I need to do is wait and this should all be resolved in about 2 years.

WAIT?!?! 2YEARS?!!!??? I just came back from seeing him for a week..... It kills me to leave him and know that I won't be able to see him for a few months because I have to save up to go back. There must be something I can do...... I am not one to just wait... There has to be something else I can do to get him here faster than 2 years!!

So... here I am... I hope someone knows of something I can do to make this nightmare end. I just want to live a normal life again. We have a house, and he had a good job earning a decent living. We don't have any kids but we were already trying when he was removed from the US.

I hope this wasn't too lengthy for my first entry... if it was I apologize.

Thanks for listening!