cambutler

Hate to be the bearer of bad news....

Hello everyone, i need your help and suggestions-

I never thought this could be happening to me, I filed for my husband and our relationship was declining but we continued to "work on it" now when it was time to go about everything, my husband became hesitant to come to america. I couldn't understand why, he didn't have any money or job and his living wasn't so great so i thought it would be a good idea for him to come and atleast visit for a few months.

That was 2.5 months ago, my husband during his visit was lazy, quiet and mean. He was nice at times but our relationship was mostly strained by his constant complaints. He didn't really like it here.. He used my phone to call his girlfriend down in jamaica constantly, i could tell it was a woman by the way he reacted to my questions and the way the person responded when i called the numbers. He has ran up all my bills to the point where i cannot pay them. Anyway, it was a nightmare, i talked to his family and they told me to leave him. So anyway, he has left and gone back a yard, leaving me with no money or anything, he told me he was coming back. He called me once to tell me he landed and never after that. I called him and I told him i felt that he didn't care about me and that i didn't want him to return after leaving me this way and he was so detached and he said "didn't i try to make u see that?" so he asked me what did i want to do because he didn't feel the same way about me anymore and i said nothing and then he said "move on, cam" and he said he would call me back later (i guess he was so happy to be back with his girlfriend) i said "why bother" and hung up.

I feel relieved that he is gone from my life, i should have gotten rid of him a long time ago but i was trying to honor the sanctity of marriage. I tried to do anything to keep my husband but he wasn't giving anything in return. Now he has recieved his conditional green card, but he's not in the country and i dont want him to be able to come back, naturally. I know this time next year i will be alright but right now i feel bad.. I'm 23 years old, divorced used and abandoned. I was just acting on my my youth and now i'm thrown away.

I would like to have his visa revoked so that he cannot come back, but i was told this was not possible until 2 years from now. I know that he will regret what he has done because it's not really in his nature to be so cold (or so it seems), I know he doesnt like atlanta but i believe he will try to come back later. He has a job in jamaica and he worke a small job here off the books, I know he can lose his gc if he does not pay taxes, so maybe that's one way.

I need your help.

thanksTh

cam.....johnson

Sorry to hear about this. Take care of yourself. Like others said there is nothing you can really do to take his visa away. The support thing is also true for 10 years unless you had some form of a prenuptial agreement used. Hug and remember that you still have a lot of life ahead of yourself.

Thank you all... all these things is true, i really do think he will be too lazy to do anything to help himself in anyway.. I have learned a valuable lesson, beyond anything i could imagine. I told my mother, from this experience i have learned what i would've learned in a atleast 5 different relationships.. I've realized i didn't really love him anymore, i just grew comfortable with him after the years of waiting and things. and i understand that there's nothing to do but move on as he has. I can't afford a divorce right now because of my predicament, so i'm just spending the time getting myself back to myself and remembering to always love myself more than a man, which i didn't at times in my relationship. I know i didn't do anything wrong to him, only to myself and that's the truth and i think that's the only reason why my stomach hurts so much." My friends are taking me out for a "coming out" party and i'm getting back in shape, cuz I'm Back on the Market Baby! I am a jamaican american woman and i'm praying that he doesn' t taint me from men of my culture, but i know the next time i'm back a yard, a guy comes over mi granny's house, i'll just low him... lol..

as for the other woman who is having trouble getting her man on the plane, i'd be wary, cuz Rahan was the same way before too. cuz ain't no seafood festival that important.

Hate to be the bearer of bad news....

Hello everyone, i need your help and suggestions-

I never thought this could be happening to me, I filed for my husband and our relationship was declining but we continued to "work on it" now when it was time to go about everything, my husband became hesitant to come to america. I couldn't understand why, he didn't have any money or job and his living wasn't so great so i thought it would be a good idea for him to come and atleast visit for a few months.

That was 2.5 months ago, my husband during his visit was lazy, quiet and mean. He was nice at times but our relationship was mostly strained by his constant complaints. He didn't really like it here.. He used my phone to call his girlfriend down in jamaica constantly, i could tell it was a woman by the way he reacted to my questions and the way the person responded when i called the numbers. He has ran up all my bills to the point where i cannot pay them. Anyway, it was a nightmare, i talked to his family and they told me to leave him. So anyway, he has left and gone back a yard, leaving me with no money or anything, he told me he was coming back. He called me once to tell me he landed and never after that. I called him and I told him i felt that he didn't care about me and that i didn't want him to return after leaving me this way and he was so detached and he said "didn't i try to make u see that?" so he asked me what did i want to do because he didn't feel the same way about me anymore and i said nothing and then he said "move on, cam" and he said he would call me back later (i guess he was so happy to be back with his girlfriend) i said "why bother" and hung up.

I feel relieved that he is gone from my life, i should have gotten rid of him a long time ago but i was trying to honor the sanctity of marriage. I tried to do anything to keep my husband but he wasn't giving anything in return. Now he has recieved his conditional green card, but he's not in the country and i dont want him to be able to come back, naturally. I know this time next year i will be alright but right now i feel bad.. I'm 23 years old, divorced used and abandoned. I was just acting on my my youth and now i'm thrown away.

I would like to have his visa revoked so that he cannot come back, but i was told this was not possible until 2 years from now. I know that he will regret what he has done because it's not really in his nature to be so cold (or so it seems), I know he doesnt like atlanta but i believe he will try to come back later. He has a job in jamaica and he worke a small job here off the books, I know he can lose his gc if he does not pay taxes, so maybe that's one way.

I need your help.

thanks

cam.....johnson

hey everyone, what a gwaan?

I'm just dropping in and looking at the tread, luv's post helped me see what lies ahead of me, my husband will be here on the 17th and i can already tell it will be a trial, i am grateful for the insight. I was just talking to my mum today cuz rahan wants to work asap cuz we're both very broke from the whole thing and i was telling her i didn't want him to take certain jobs cuz i don't want him to be exploited, but she showed me that "yuh haffi crawl before yuh walk" so i let go of that..

I just moved and i haven't changed the address with USCIS but when i went to the website to change the address, AR-11 asked for a alien number but he doesn't have one yet so i don't know what to do. i don't want them to send any of our info to my old address. what do i do?

Hello..

I know that it has been a while since I've posted anything... My husband got his visa this tuesday. I am not as lucky as many other posters, it seems once everyone else's spouse get their visas, they're already on di plane... but my hubby is uneasy about coming... He has ends to tie, he says.. I respect that, isn't there a time frame on which you can travel with the CR visa? I told him two months and he says he will come in almost two months, but I want to be sure..

He wants to come, but he says it makes him feel like he's going to a new school and he doesn't know anyone.. which I guess is true, he knows my family only, I can't think of any ways to ease his nervousness, so I'm going to be patient and understanding, i'm trying.

But is that true with the visa? I know k1 visas have 3 months.. what about CR1 visas?

Hello everyone! cam butler here....

I just got back from my interview with my husband on this tuesday... His visa is granted however they want me to file my taxes for this year before he can come...

Let this be a warning to those that apply:

I filed the AOS with my current job income which is above the poverty level.. however... the last three tax transcripts were below the level.. I had not filed my taxes when I went to the interview, I only brought my W2s... The embassy did not accept these W2s alone... so since I had only the w2s they went by the income of the previous tax year which was below, therefore the interviewer told me and husband to do the taxes and bring in the return and then the visa will be granted...

other than that, everything went just fine... the questions they asked my husband was:

How did you meet your wife?

What does she do in america?

where does she live?

How do you keep in touch?

when did you last see your wife?

Where were you married and how many people were there?

then he asked to see the pictures from the wedding.

after that he said "well mr. butler, everything looks fine I see no problem with issuing the visa, however your wife's income from her last tax year is a little low..." and then he gave us a blue piece of paper where we can email to come in again and turn in the paper..

Now more warnings..

If you got married and you changed your name legally (ladies) and you have to file as married jointly.. then you have to submit a w7 for the out of country spouse which will give them a taxpayer number and a whole lot of other fuckery.. word to the wise.. dont change the exemptions on your check at work if you are in the situation of having an overseas spouse.. it is tedious and troublesome...

however as far as the visa.. we just need to bring a copy of the 1040 return to the embassy and that's it, then hubby comes to me..

lovely jodie---

Good luck on your interview, mine is a week from yours on the 13th... I'm getting everything together now. I'm still not sure what exactly to take.. my husbands medical is tomorrow... well good luck...

cam

Hi everyone--

I'm getting ready for my interview in 4 or 5 weeks... I hope I have everything together, Do you think i should take my w-2 from this past tax year as well as the transcript from 2005? The expenses are becoming overwhelming for me and my hubby, everything costs so much and i'm still a student, but i'm happy i'll get my degree in May and my husband will be there to cheer for me. So right now its getting to crunch time! i'm not really thinking about the interview for some reason, but i think i should. I'd been so anxious to get a date and now that i have gotten the date, Im feeling really relieved. I did have a nightmare that i forgot to bring something to the interview, though. Is it a fact that we have to have to 2 copies of my husband's birth certificate? I don't see why they would need that. Well, anyway just saying hi!.. susanwill's interview was yesterday and i'm praying that everything went fine. She's probably the only one that can 100% accurate info.

Well I got my interview date on friday!! it's March 13th!!!.... I tried a million times and the calls would never get through to the immigration assistance.. So after i got into the Immigrant visa section I just pressed 0.... and then I was able to speak to someone.. I'm so happy i finally have a date.. I can stop calling and being angry over ignored emails...

good luck to everyone and just hold on...

even now my journey is still not over but soon

cam

I am impatient, I know and my husband isn't as antsy about it as I am, but I cannot get the consulate to respond to ANY of my emails... It's as if they are ignoring them... When I call they say "just email and we'll respond" but they never have and I've given them days time to answer. In fact when I called last Friday, I spoke with a girl and she checked the email while I was on the phone... I'm just anxious and the waiting is annoying to me... They've had my case for going on a month next week, it hasn't taken anyone else that long to get a date.

This is something I've been thinking about for some time....

Now, my husband"s case was forwarded last week, so thankfully I am finish with them, but the NVC's operators I believe are some the worst customer service reps, I have ever dealt with in my life.. and I do customer service over the phone and I can be pretty bad sometimes (my mum says its karma) but they are horrible. First of all, it takes forever to connect to them whenever you want to ask them anything and then when you are finally lucky enough to get in queue and they take the call, they act so exasperated as if you are wasting their time. And it's not just one experience this is everytime... I have had one good experience with one of their ops and the rest were horrible. I know this process can be hard and exciting when you are finally seeing progress with your case, and i always make it a point to hide my excitement and only ask reasonable questions but they act as if they don't know that their job is to reunite family members. It's disgusting...

thankfully I am now finish with them and i no longer have any reason to call on them, to those who are still dealing with the NVC just hang on and you will be delivered too.

That sounds about right to me... I used a book by the nolo law publishing company called obtaning a green card through marriage, and it gave step by step instructions on filling out the forms and everything... they also included a pull out check list of things to bring to the interview, i have it in my extensive "hubby come home" file that is at home. I can post the list at a later time, thanks for the email post as well. that was what I was looking for... I was gonna call now but I'll wait till next week sometime. My husband is being too nonchalant about the whole thing, we sat down and did all the paper work for I-130 and I-129f at the same time so I guess he thinks thats all I've had to do... I wish he could see this huge stack of things i've been compiling and the phone bills and all that.

Hi to all---

I just checked the NVC automated service and dem seh dat they sent off the paper to kingston embassy!!!!! Alright!!! I know how the embassy likes to be closed on holidays but i would like to know when they have recieved the papers,when do you guys think it's a good time to contact them and what do i do from here? I know we can get an email with the interview date but is that all from here? What will the consulate need from us?

anyhelp?

dying from excitement, i'm tingling!!

cam

My husband's papers have now been sent to kingston!!!! Its great news and I will have to contain my excitement before I contact them, considering the holiday and the embassy will be closed. but i am so excited!! I just have to be patient but i have been waiting for so long!! I'm not sure what to do from here but I know that there is an interview date in the future!

I guess the question is how do i find out when the embassy recieves the information?

My schmoopie's case is completed! Soon, it will be sent to Kingston for an interview date!.. This is a wonderful Christmas present! I don't have the date yet but atleast I know the paperwork will soon leave American soil!!!! I was bummed about about this being our first Christmas apart but this is marvelous news indeed... I want to wish everyone a very Merry Christmas and hope that this painful experience will be over soon for everyone.

All my love and you are all in my prayers,

happy hanukkah, christmas and kwanzaa to all

Camisha

Hi,

I'm applying for the IR/CR1 visa and the NVC is now doing its final processing, they have all the paper work and it will take 2-4 weeks from there, my question is what are the interview dates looking like now? I'm thinking the interview will be in january because if it takes up to 30 days to get an interview then that will be the timeframe i'm working with. Who has an interview date in mid or late December? anyone Yet? I love Jamaica at Christmas time, but the tickets are always expensive, so I'm anticipating an interview soon but i'd kinda love to miss the Christmas Rush.. nah Mean? lol thanks Cam

Hi,

I'm applying for the IR/CR1 visa and the NVC is now doing its final processing, they have all the paper work and it will take 2-4 weeks from there, my question is what are the interview dates looking like now? I'm thinking the interview will be in january because if it takes up to 30 days to get an interview then that will be the timeframe i'm working with. Who has an interview date in mid or late December? anyone Yet? I love Jamaica at Christmas time, but the tickets are always expensive, so I'm anticipating an interview soon but i'd kinda love to miss the Christmas Rush.. nah Mean? lol thanks Cam

We have finally finished the paperwork at the NVC, and I'm trying to guess when our interview in kingston will be. I'm thinking it will be sometime in january. Has anyone gotten their interview dates recently? Have they been for december? Our paperwork haven't left the NVC yet, they are still reviewing the affadavit of support, which they started on the first of november so, i'm hoping it will be sent to kingston soon. Can anyone help?

We have finally finished the paperwork at the NVC, and I'm trying to guess when our interview in kingston will be. I'm thinking it will be sometime in january. Has anyone gotten their interview dates recently? Have they been for december? Our paperwork haven't left the NVC yet, they are still reviewing the affadavit of support, which they started on the first of november so, i'm hoping it will be sent to kingston soon. Can anyone help?

Please let me know when u find out your interview date, my husband is also jamaican and I haven't gotten my ds230 yet but I just sent off the iv bill so I guess it will be in the next few weeks.. I read the posts for the embassy @ kingston and they say it takes about 20 days to get an interview date once they get the case so I myself am anticipating an interview date in december... But I can get a better scope once you have received your date

Hi, I am in the process of getting our application complete and ready for the kingston consulate... if we get the cr1 visa do we have to apply for the EAD, after my husband gets in the states? or will his visa suffice?

Congratulations again from me!!!!!

mine was approved on sept 7, but what does it mean? i"m doing the k3, but i thought i would atleast get some papers from nvc about my petition since it has been sent to them so long ago... does anyone know if i should be recieving anything else from them? besides the approval letter

I have been checking the uscis website and comparing those to the ones on vj and i seems that they are both very behind... the last 129-F that was approved was sent in on july 16th, but the website only shows march 20th... and in addition, my I-130 was approved after i sent it in july and it was approved 80 days later, but the website says March as well... is there anyway to know exactly what they are processing?

Hooray! Our I-130 was approved today!!!! But I'm doing the k3 visa thing.... And I checked a book out @ the librairy about the marriage visas but I don't know what to do next... Is it a good thing our visa was approved, and how much longer will it take now?

You're not alone.. although i just sent off my i-130 in june and my i-129f in august.... i got a feeling that i will waiting as long as you are... i am sensing that it takes less time for those in european countries.. such as england, france and germany... and that is not fair... just think that you're so much more closer than you were 4 months ago and youre a day closer than you were yesterday.. right?

i send all my prayers and patience,

cam butler

I sent the I-130 in june, I know it was received on june 17th, cuz I asked for the signature. It's now july 6th and I haven't heard from TSC saying they got my petition neither have they cashed my check... So I went to the website today to see what's going on. I didn't assemble my petition correctly, I didn't tape the sides, and I didn't put the pictures in an envelope... There were no instructions like these on the application for the I-130, itself so I didn't know how they wanted it, I put everythiing in a folder neatly and gemclipped the pictures to the bio sheet and clipped the check to the side... Now I'm thinking my petition is scattered around some big room full of papers...Could this be why I haven't received anything? I'm so worried, i wish I could just get it back and send it again. Any ideas?