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1. Bonafide Marriage

Ours is a Bonafide marriage! We have maybe 1500 calls - About 500 sheets of chat/email etc, about 9-12 trips travelling to see each other in total, photos of meeting families - blended family members meeting each other and more. We have wedding photos, videos etc

Now, I am uncomfortable sending too many of our personal chats.

I plan to include

Pics: 4-5 pics from wedding, pics of our first meeting, subsequent meetings, single picture of each different country we may have met in, he with my kids, me with his kids, parents etc.

Meeting up proof: Perhaps include photocopies of our passport page with travel visas as most boarding passes have been tossed.

2-3 select online conversations beginning, mid, wedding planning

Life Insurance: Updated Benificiary sheet

Maybe a phone bill or two...

Is this enough?

Is it really needed to get affidavits from others - isn't their attendance at our wedding enough!!?

They can ask either of us anything about the other - we would likely get all of them right.

We do not have joint accounts yet - we married less than 3 months ago... I have sent funds into USC account to pay for some wedding stuff - he was tight on money and I wanted certain things a certain way .

I have become uncomfortable when I read of a member who submitted 200 photos, FaceTime chat - 500, affidavits and more but got denied (other reasons?)!

We may not see each other till end of process now due to financial difficulties - they would understand that right?

My husband is a super private person and I don't think he wants to include a "How we met..."

Scanned form

G325a for non-US citizen - Is a scanned form enough? Generally all our forms are typed - that's okay right? Reading too many messages about handwritten forms

Interview

Way in advance question - would USC be allowed for the interview - if he happens to be her...

you can apply for evisa for Turkey, if they grant you, which most likely they will ,yes you will be able to enter Turkey.

you have immigrant visa or not, green card or not, it has no effect, because you hold Pakistani passport, you are Pakistani national.

My brother-in-law US citizen, wife Pakistani citizen, both applied e-visa they got it, my brother in law could have gotten the visa on arrival too, just because he is US national, but he applied with his wife.

they are going for Umrah, on their way back they want to go Ankara and see Blue Mosque.

You have to apply in advance as the visa in not on your passport yet.

Good luck.

Good luck.

Lovely how so many years down the line you are still contributing to the forum. I hope I do the same too.

There are some people on this site who have never seen their significant other.

Thank you to all others. No need for any more replies, as we will do what we can and I have had anxiety attacks reading some replied.

Boiler - you do realise you know nothing about mental health issues. You have no idea how a person with complex PTSD with incidents starting from dangerous abusive parents and abusive marriage reacts to things. You have no idea that I would not have to leave my home and move with anybody who would keep me because I cannot be left alone. That I have sent kids to unstable ex on most days as I can't cope on some days. You don't know how scary it is when this trigger of separation and the anxiety that we will never see each other again and that all the old days are coming back feel like. How, I am unable to drive on most days - woke up around ten days ago not knowing who I am.

Similar things but different nature with my husband - but will keep his privacy.

The fear that my entire life will repeat with the tortures and we will never see each other is beyond what you perhaps feel when you say good bye to your spouse. We are rational people otherwise - but some elements of life are triggers when one has seen a very tough life.

Those with financial questions of course I have the full details - but that is just providing explanation for ourselves - its a genuine situation where things have snowballed. A large part for him linked to a bit of bad luck when he divorced and split assets the businesses that he kept, except one ran into issues - people owe him big amounts (cases on), someone ran away emptying all the inventory of his business (case on) and the new person who took over that business is not paying the rent...

There are other details but they are irrelevant. some members offer genuine help. Others tend to simple enjoy making personal comments.

Thank you all. No need for any more advise. I have got some direction.

The general consensus is you will not get an expedite. I can't say I even recall an approved case that was for financial hardship, although I am sure there are. You can try, just be prepared to be denied. My wife and I tried a medical expedite as I had just had surgery and needed help...denied.

Just generally speaking its an incredibly slow process regardless of circumstances, separating families for these extended periods I think is not a good thing for society. Where background checks are required I understand to some degree but with straight forward applications how nice it would be for resources to be given jobs and clear the backlog...

Also, unless someone suffered from depression and anxiety in the true form they wouldn't understand that it could easily take life prematurely. One cannot snap out of it! I was told financial distress is what will be given consideration - the biggest standout though for both of us from our perspective is how its effected our mental health.

Anyway, got papers together finally (almost!) ....will hope. Have medical reports. Actually a single before and after picture from 2 months ago says a lot...but then does anyone care...

We both are confident business people who have made millions in the past and can do so again once we are together.... That's a personal story though - don't think immigration officers would consider.

Good luck to all.

Financial hardship is a very dangerous, double sided way of expedite. I would not attempt this reasoning. When it comes to interview, they may deny due to same financial hardship and large IRS debt... I would attempt medical expedite but not financial. No way.

Thanks.

Yes you tick child.

No G-325a for I-130s for children. Read the I-130 instructions.

The children should have a main address, whomever is their legal guardian or main custodial parent.

That is one more thing you will need. A letter from their father providing knowledge that the children are moving to the USA. You'll need it by interview.

Thank you. All instructions read now and papers ready. Incredible help on this forum.

Kids were generally staying with me, however due to current issues of severe anxiety and depression they are with their father. Is it okay to mention two addresses at the same time? They stay with me on some days?

Getting my application together finally.

I-130 - I learnt from this website and others that they USC will have to file separate forms for my children. What do we tick on the form there is no options for Step-Child. Is it okay to tick Child - I don't want issues later hence asking. Should I do a clarification on a separate sheet?

G-325a - Only required for spouse of USC correct? Is this the only form that Spouse of USC will sign? Do I send original or can I sign/scan and send to USC to print?

With as little info as you are giving, it would be almost impossible to find. Do you remember anything, such as where you linked to the website from, what the woman looked like, was it a "facts" we page or a personal story one?

Several of our members here have blogs that they link to on their profiles, with their personal stories and tips.

Was an extensive website. White lady perhaps from the UK. got her papers around 3 years ago I think. Anyway, if I don't find it I don't! Tried google for far too long now...

Get the IRS sorted out. Owing a big balance has been problematic for VJ members in the past. The expedite will just get you to the brick wall faster.

These have just come up in the past few months, things were very well under control in the past. USC has been a regular and big tax payer. All his papers are to date and his accounting organised an well.

Unfortunately, the personal distress of separation is beyond what normal people experience for both of us due to past major traumas and past history of depression/anxiety for both - which has now kicked in a bad way. We have also had major personal upheavals of death, one of his business going to loss and others - we are struggling on our own. We are working on medical help on those issues - but at psychiatric help is expensive too ...

If the financial situation with the business is that bad, why is he clinging on to this business that is drowning him with the debt? Close it down and get a job that pays a guaranteed wage each day you show up for work. I have never driven past a McDonald's that didn't have "we are hiring" outside. At least you know you will get paid there and not have to speculate on whether you will make any money this week. I understand he had his pride but his pride won't feed him and pay his light bill.

I assume you have a joint sponsor. To be honest, I can't see that they will expedite for poor business decisions (he should have remedied this situation before it got to the point of causing fits and mental health problems). Otherwise we would all claim financial woes to get to our loved ones faster.

His business is paying the bills and doing well. The new tax bills cannot be paid - if he takes a job then he will be worse off.

I guess you are getting personal here! but the mental health issues are due to our seperation - we were doing very well and travelling to each other's country every 3 weeks.

Get the IRS sorted out. Owing a big balance has been problematic for VJ members in the past. The expedite will just get you to the brick wall faster.

He is working on Petition at the moment its going back and forth - they are looking at a payment plan - just not final yet

Your husband has to show financial hardship and distress. You having same distress will not move immigration. It's the petitioner that has to show why you being here ASAP will help the situation and I surely wouldn't say because you can bring in money. Focus on health concerns.

Don;t know where you are in the process at USCIS you call and send in there. If at NVC you call and send to them. If you are at USCIS still you would have to request an expedite there and then at NVC.

Also because of where you live you may be put in Administrative Processing and extra security checks given the new climate of how things are now.

All the best. Keep us posted.

Thank you.

He is not on a payment plan yet. I have a 400 page business plan, acceptance of investor. Investment of USD5million pledge - withdrawn because I can't do the sourcing trips to to the US - due to freak situation with my B1/B2 visa getting damaged and cancelled. Can all these really not help? We have heap loads of documents to show.

Our mental health due to the situation combined? I have had to move out of my home and now staying in a hotel because I cannot manage a household - the distress of separation is severe due to our backgrounds. We were incredibly happy when together and our businesses getting back on track - suddenly since my B1/B2 got cancelled and our regular meetings cancelled and investor backing out etc and so much more at the same time - things tumbled.

He is struggling to work at the moment.

Anyway - we will give it a shot. What stage do we file the request?

Members, I will refer to only relevant information on subject in this post. Have mentioned other details on previous post - but its irreleavant maybe on this topic

I have just got the missing document for my application and now ready to apply.

We want to try an expedite request.

I will leave aside personal details - emotional distress, PTSD, lost 25% weight and more

We want to highlight our financial distress

My husband the USC is deep in debt that he is unable to pay at the moment. He was very well before his divorce about 3 years ago - but giving his ex half of what he had and a business failing since then, he has tax bills of about USD120K + USD25K (property tax) + penalties increasing by the day. he currently has about 3-5K in his bank...the monthly income from his one business that is running just about manages bills, mortgage, interest payments. The tax bills he is simply not in a position to pay even if it went in instalments over years.

He has visited me here but those were all mainly paid by me, I have also pumped whatever funds I had to him to float - now I am drained out too - because of the unexpected cancellation of my B1/B2 an investor backed out of a new business that was my baby it involved getting US products here.

The sooner I get to the US the better as:

1. He (USC( will be able to work better - suffers from severe anxiety and depression struggling to work. He had a fit last night (his last night visiting me). His health is real bad. I know we should get oursleves together but its not happening. We had NONE of this when together - we are both under extreme distress. Won't go through life stories here, but could do a move or two!

2. He will be able to do a shift at his store, instead of staff and save something which he could use to pay tax in installments

3. I plan to help in his business too (have strong business history) and we are expecting our finances to change with me there.

There are several more factors about how me going there helps financially - such as me getting investors for a business we plan to start in US.

Right now he is on the verge of bankruptcy.

Do we have a chance to get expedite? Request for expedite goes at what stage?

This is an incredible forum. Love how members help. I had bumped on a page that a lady created it has her picture etc and it wasn't a formal website like this. There were some very relevant points that I had wanted on that page. Simply cannot find it again Was not a lawyer or anything.

Me and my ADD - don't remember the points I wanted and didn't book mark the page. Does anyone know of websites like this

Is it easier if i file for a fiance visa her in the states or marry in Jamaica?

If being with your partner is more important than the inferiority/superiority of your paper work, if you are less concerned about the cost K1 anyday.

We almost wish we could divorced and start this over - the separation is very difficult. I feel sad when people talk about CR-1 being a superior visa etc - I don't care! All I want it my husband and if it means I can't work or we have to fine extra papers or whatever else we would have dealt with it,,,

Do not marry - if you are one of those couples who don't like to be apart. K1 K1 K1 (K1 is less than half the processing time from what I see 3-4 months)- better than 9-14 months anyday...

I wish someone had told us - we researched but our lawyer misguided us partly.

Hi All

I have approved papers to apply for a European country's passport (sorry I am very bad with remembering technical terms) through parental descent. I have not bothered so far - but have now considered as I am not sure how long we will reside in the US (after my GC comes through of course).

Anybody have experience with this?

Given I live in this region, here's some information that you can pass on to your friend:

1. I don't want to be nationality biased, as I consider myself a global citizen and don't understand all these borders and things. Yet, I do agree that given circumstances, environment people in regions/cultures etc do tend to have similair behaviours generally speaking.

2. I know of at least 6 women all with "white" passports - UK/US/Australia and perhaps one was EU who travelled to Tunisia to have a Tunisian fall madly in "love" with her - usually in 2-3 days....the story then is typically as you have written. Some of them did marry their "love". I did not follow what happened to these people I know. (Please excuse use of "white" - I just don't want to give wrong nationality and have forgotten some details)

3. The one case I am aware of a white friend with Tunisian husband (for at least 7-9 years), taker her white female friend to Tunisia on holiday. Her husband's friend was agreed in advance for an introduction. On day 1 he fell in love with her and in a month or two they were married in Tunisia! The woman is 40+, the guy about 21-22. As soon as he returned with her to her country of work he called all male names on her phone and told them to not disturb his wife. I know a year later they were still married..

There's no real lesson here - but yes the story about the Tunisian man "truly and completely" falling for the woman is the same every single time. However in point 3 you will not that the couple were married for long - so maybe some marriages do survive inspite of initial intent!

I still can't see any reason to why they would grant you an expedite. The financial distress you talk about is your husband taking loans to support you. That's not financial distress.

Thank you for this comment - its incorrect, but likely due to me not mentioning details on the financial distress... Will help with our application.

Thank you all for your help. I understand an expedite is highly unlikely. We may still request for one - if nothing till the denial of expedite comes it will help with hope till that point.

We will use a lawyer for our file, given both of us understand that we have chances of missing something on the forms given our state of mind. I read some things I wrote on here for instance and realise I end up meaning something else!

My application is now almost ready and will keep all posted on my journey.

Whilst I have sympathy for your situation, you will have to find a way to cope. We are all stressed and frustrated about being apart. Do you have any friends or colleagues where you are currently located? Spend time with them, take up a new hobby, learn a new skill or language. Do anything to fill the time while you wait and give yourself a sense of achievement. It's not healthy to devote all your energy and attention to one person and one thing.

And you won't get anywhere with this until you file the petition. So instead of looking for ways to speed it up that probably won't can apply in your case, get the petition sent. The sooner you send it, the sooner you can get going. I have to say that knowing that the petition had been sent and you are on your way to being together will improve your mood enormously. I was feeling very low until we got confirmation that the petition had been delivered. I have been floating on air since then and it's starting to feel very real that we will be together soon.

Stop thinking of the bad side of this and focus on making it better.

Thank you.

I had filed a one sided divorce first in Dubai and got it so I have those documents - ex didn't want it and filed in India contesting this or something like that and then finally got closure I don't have that document. I know the first one is also valid - but I don't want issues later and want file complete.

I guess thats adding to my frustration that I need ex to give me original or at least a copy of the final divorce or I have to travel to India to get it... I don't want to be in his hometown on my own in India... Looking at ways to get it through a lawyer etc...all wasting time!

Abuse wouldn't make an iota of difference to them

Well I think in this case it would - she asked how my relationship with ex was and I said good... you see I realised later they may have misunderstood why I travelled with him and thought that this is a sham marriage. She wanted me to justify why I travelled with him while I was dating to be husband - I was just so tired at the end of an hour and my severe ADD didn't help.

I think if she understood the circumstance she would have not said no. They were not wasting senior officer's time I am sure - when they came up with a full set of question each time and I assume were happy with the answers till then.

But anyway - that's in the past

Unfortunately mental illness like depression and anxiety has no bias

I understand that severe financial distress does - he cannot be with me because of loans. As I am unable to work now - I am losing money by the day. Hubby is just talking to bank of taking another loan to fund me staying here....

I bloody wish I could get myself together - I am going to try over and over again.

Irrelevant. Since you have a US citizen husband, you have clear immigrant intent according to a consular officer. Thus the visa was denied. I am not blaming you, I was denied entry because of my US husband. It is the way it is.

good luck

I was fortunate enough to be considered though. I had an hour long interview in sections with different officers getting involved. They saw all my business reasons and perhaps got really near to getting the visa again - I know they don't waste their time. They didn't like that I travelled with my ex to the US with the kids after the divorce, when that came up they said NO. I didn't get a chance to explain younger daughter's condition in detail and its my fault that I didn't tell them about abusive man he is - I just said I went because of younger daughter and me and ex have that much of an understanding that he and I were okay travelling together. My business persona can't go around talking about my abusive life... I really regret not telling them that.

sorry to hear about the situation. Please go ahead and send your request for expedite based on "extreme hardship" to USCIS by telling your story with medical reports, birth certificates of your kids and your husband's, and any documents to support the story. You have nothing to loose by doing that. In the case the process is expedited, be prepared to expect reduction by couple of months to 4 months from the average time not immediate processing. You know lower expectation may help in lowering your anxiety I hope. wish you the best!

Thank you - will give it a shot. I wish life had not been so tough - I survived very bravely through things that the worst abuse movies and stories don't have, but I am breaking now - after trying hard to rationalize last night that we will survive a year and its not that bad. Even ex's abuse is limited compared to the hell before... BUT Had another major breakdown.

Its the best time of my life being married to such a wonderful man,,,,my mind is convinced that bad things will continue and there's little point in living. I am educated, a post grad, an entrepreneur but admit that sometimes our feelings do get out of control.

Okay - last post allowed for the day...

Husband lives in Florida. Can we chose any service center?

SRC - Texas Service Center (TSC)

LIN - Nebraska Service Center (NSC)
WAC - California Service Center (CSC)
EAC - Vermont Service Center (VSC)
MSC - Missouri Service Center (MSC)
NBC - National Benefits Center (NBC)