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Hello all, I have a very complicated situation that I am looking for advice on. I am an Indonesian woman who is 29 years old who moved to the Netherlands in October of 2011. My move to the Netherlands was supposed to be a temporary stay because I had enrolled in Dutch language courses and an au pair program. I ended up meeting a Dutch man during my stay in the Netherlands. We ended up getting married near the end of 2012 and I became a legal resident of the Netherlands. During this time, I began to establish my life in the Netherlands by learning Dutch and getting a job. My marriage with my Dutch husband went bad during this time frame. My family back home in Indonesia does not agree with divorce making it very difficult for me to make the decision to go back home to Indonesia and deal with them especially since I had already established a life in the Netherlands.

This was also when I met a man from the United States who was traveling to the Netherlands for business (March/April 2014). He is also the same age as I am. We fell in love with each other during his stay. He has spent more than a year total time in the Netherlands since we met and he makes frequent vacations with me throughout Europe. When he is on business in the Netherlands, we stay together at his hotel apartment much of the time since I still reside with my husband at his house. Our relationship has been quite serious for the whole time and my boyfriend understands the situation that I am in. I have never traveled to the US before and really wanted to meet my boyfriends family in person. However, I have been rejected for a tourist visa twice due to not being able to establish nonimmigrant intent. My boyfriend told me not to try for a visa again because it would just cause more suspicion and troubles later in the process should we decide to get a K1 Visa.

My boyfriend even came to visit Indonesia with me in December of 2015. During this stay, I introduced him to my mother. My mother has accepted my position and my new boyfriend. However, I will still have issues with other family members. I understand this sounds silly to a western culture, but family is very important where I live and my culture is quite conservative. It seems small, but it is a big problem for me.

There is a Dutch law that says one can apply for Dutch citizenship if they have been married for 3 years with their partner and have passed the required Dutch language exams. I have already passed my Dutch language exams and am already eligible to apply for a Dutch passport since we have also legally been married for three years. There is another Dutch law that states if one has lived continuously in the Netherlands for more than 5 years, then they are eligible for "continued residence" without having to apply for a Dutch passport. Since I moved to the Netherlands in October 2011, then I should be eligible for continued residence later this year.

We are at a point in the relationship where we want to start thinking about filing a K1 visa since we are really in love with each other and want to try to stay together permanently. My situation is so complicated now because as soon as I am divorced, I am not allowed to legally stay in the Netherlands any longer. Then I am required to move back to Indonesia to deal with the rest of my family.

I told my boyfriend that I want to get my Dutch passport since it will allow me to remain in the Netherlands. However, he thinks this is a really bad idea since I will get my Dutch passport and then immediately divorce and file for the K1. He says that there is a big risk that the US may deny our K1 visa if I get my dutch passport because it will look suspicious. He thinks the best option is to file for divorce now and then file for the K1 immediately afterwards, which would then mean I have to move myself back to Indonesia while we wait. He says that if I divorce now that there shouldn't be any problems with the K1 because we have so much proof that our relationship is real.

Could someone please offer their advice for my situation? Thanks

Hello all, I have a very complicated situation that I am looking for advice on. I am an Indonesian woman who is 29 years old who moved to the Netherlands in October of 2011. My move to the Netherlands was supposed to be a temporary stay because I had enrolled in Dutch language courses and an au pair program. I ended up meeting a Dutch man during my stay in the Netherlands. We ended up getting married near the end of 2012 and I became a legal resident of the Netherlands. During this time, I began to establish my life in the Netherlands by learning Dutch and getting a job. My marriage with my Dutch husband went bad during this time frame. My family back home in Indonesia does not agree with divorce making it very difficult for me to make the decision to go back home to Indonesia and deal with them especially since I had already established a life in the Netherlands.

This was also when I met a man from the United States who was traveling to the Netherlands for business (March/April 2014). He is also the same age as I am. We fell in love with each other during his stay. He has spent more than a year total time in the Netherlands since we met and he makes frequent vacations with me throughout Europe. When he is on business in the Netherlands, we stay together at his hotel apartment much of the time since I still reside with my husband at his house. Our relationship has been quite serious for the whole time and my boyfriend understands the situation that I am in. I have never traveled to the US before and really wanted to meet my boyfriends family in person. However, I have been rejected for a tourist visa twice due to not being able to establish nonimmigrant intent. My boyfriend told me not to try for a visa again because it would just cause more suspicion and troubles later in the process should we decide to get a K1 Visa.

My boyfriend even came to visit Indonesia with me in December of 2015. During this stay, I introduced him to my mother. My mother has accepted my position and my new boyfriend. However, I will still have issues with other family members. I understand this sounds silly to a western culture, but family is very important where I live and my culture is quite conservative. It seems small, but it is a big problem for me.

There is a Dutch law that says one can apply for Dutch citizenship if they have been married for 3 years with their partner and have passed the required Dutch language exams. I have already passed my Dutch language exams and am already eligible to apply for a Dutch passport since we have also legally been married for three years. There is another Dutch law that states if one has lived continuously in the Netherlands for more than 5 years, then they are eligible for "continued residence" without having to apply for a Dutch passport. Since I moved to the Netherlands in October 2011, then I should be eligible for continued residence later this year.

We are at a point in the relationship where we want to start thinking about filing a K1 visa since we are really in love with each other and want to try to stay together permanently. My situation is so complicated now because as soon as I am divorced, I am not allowed to legally stay in the Netherlands any longer. Then I am required to move back to Indonesia to deal with the rest of my family.

I told my boyfriend that I want to get my Dutch passport since it will allow me to remain in the Netherlands. However, he thinks this is a really bad idea since I will get my Dutch passport and then immediately divorce and file for the K1. He says that there is a big risk that the US may deny our K1 visa if I get my dutch passport because it will look suspicious. He thinks the best option is to file for divorce now and then file for the K1 immediately afterwards, which would then mean I have to move myself back to Indonesia while we wait. He says that if I divorce now that there shouldn't be any problems with the K1 because we have so much proof that our relationship is real.

Could someone please offer their advice for my situation? Thanks

If i get divorce then I'm a illegal to stay in Holland.

Thats what my boyfriend also thought tht They can say its fraud if i stay on my plan to getting my dutch passport.

So do you think its the best way to do not trying Get the dutch citizens?

Hi everyone, I'm new to this forum. I'm a indonesian woman who's leaving in holland. I have a dutch husband But my marriage already not went good. It has been my plan to change my nationality into a dutch, so after divorce i can still stay in holland because of a family reason. So i have been waiting until 3 years then apply dutch passport. The excitement begin since i met a guy from Us Here in holland when he visited Holland for work, we were falling in love and in relatioship for more than 1 year already. He accepted all my condition. all the plan seem need to be change. To be honest i can't imagine i have to Move to US, kind a worry because i never been in the Us before. So, I applied tourist visa but i got denied twice. our relationship going to be really serious but of course i need to be officially divorce, but i need the status until i get my dutch passport and then apply for K1 visa.

My boyfriend told me it won't be a good overview story if i changed my passport into dutch and right the way we start apply K1 visa. He suggested me to just get divorce and we apply k1 visa right the way. Its really big risk for me.

Thts why my boyfriend lead me to this forum, so i can do research. He is support all my decision only he wants us to minimize a chance for visa's denial.

I wish i can have any advices from you all.. Many thanks.. Have a good day everyone.