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We use telephone bills affidavits from Friends family and my work. We also show our bank account any credit cards. Anything we possible could think of Anniversary cards, Christmas Cards. Congratulations on your marriage cards, friends emails anything like that help us out. We also lived with my family for a few years too.

So after my husband arrived to the usa. It seems his family has been nothing but, hard on him. They keep secrets from him and there favorite line is don't worry about us your in the usa.

or they constantly ask for money we do not have, Then when we say sorry we don't have it. They get all mad and remind us of all the support they gave us to get married.

What is a person to do? Is this normal? How do you handle it? They keep their life secret from us then they turn around and blame the wife. Saying she is brain washing you. or something else.

Or your not the same you have changed to much blah blah blah....

My question is this normal for India Families to do? Is there something we can do?

To make matters worse they make my husband depress and seem to enjoy doing it. They say you enjoy your life in america we will be okay our poor lives. Funny thing is they are doing good in India.

Is this a game all families play when the son or daughter move overseas?

Is them constantly trying to make you feel bad normal?

I try to talk to his family but, it constant taunting they talk back.. or they try to make my husband and I against each other.

When we went over to visit they constantly talked in Hindi so I could not be apart of the conversation.

Is this normal? even though they know English. I just don't understand.

Do they really think we are so wealthy in the usa?

What gives?

Its hard on my husband and I know he gets depress a lot.

What can I say or do to help?

Any suggestions would be most welcome any answers would be most helpful.