Eric&Tasha

Two genuine people will always prevail! Thank you so much for you kindness!

Thank you so much for your advice and for sharing your experience, it can help many people.

Tasha

Visa in hand, Ticket Booked......Thanks VJ For your support....

Congratulations! All happiness to you both!

Tasha

Please A&Oforever how can you set that appointment I want to know because my fiancé is coming too ?

I did the appointment once through US embassy website asking for interview. I think it's better what I read somewhere online, the petitioner, American citizen, writes a letter to consulate (can be by email too) asking to be present during the fiance(e) interview. The people online was saying, asking in writing they can't deny an American citizen. Please, try and tell us if it worked.

Good luck, Tasha

That is part of the standard attire in a semi formal sense. For more formal occasions they were an over piece that is huge and rather square until it is tucked up. The more expensive the material the better.

http://www.total-facts-about-nigeria.com/nigeria-fashion.html

Wow! It's luxury! I did see in google images the wedding ceremonies, very beautiful attires, men and women.

Thank you for info.

Tasha

It's interesting. I did see some Nigerian men wear a long light color dress and matching pants, also a round no brim hat with some geometrical design .. I thought it's a national wear. Does it mean something?

Since you seem to be focused specifically on Muslims and how not to offend people my suggestion would be the same way you would go about not offending the general population. Do not walk around with your female parts exposed, do not wear explicit clothing, and practice good manners. You can behave exactly the same way around a Muslim as you can around a Christian. And as was mentioned previously, as with all religions there is a wide range of levels of devoutness.

Thank you so much for all your advice. I do know how to behave between Christians as I am a Christian myself, maybe that's why it looks I am asking only about Muslims. I do have many friends in Nigeria, don't have a clue what religion they are and I plan to visit Nigeria with my future husband, I was in Ghana several times visiting him. So I am very curious about how the people lives there and what are the preferences.

Learning to cook here too, interesting food, I like it.

Tasha

My fiance is a Christian, I did ask much before and I know his church too. I wouldn't mind about him being a Muslim if he was.

My question is about Nigerian culture, I try to learn and research about tribes, religion, cultural behavior and researching, I realized there are many Muslims and my question is mostly about what they wear, how do they behave and how to difference between Christians and Muslims, how to behave myself and do not offend the people around me?

I am asking about religion here, I am also learning about their wedding ceremonies, family values, cooking, I love to cook and here in Dallas we have a very good African store close by, etc.

Thank you to all of you who answered to my topic the way it was posted, general question about religion in Nigeria.

Tasha

I am not very religious and specially I am not very familiar with the religions other than my Catholic.

Can somebody explain to me, what is the difference between Christian and Muslim Nigerians and how to identify what religion do they belong?

How can you tell if a Nigerian person is a Christian or Muslim? Clothes? Behavior? ...

Thank you, Tasha

But at least you can sit and wait for your fiance(e) inside in the waiting room, air conditioner, also you better approach to the citizens window and ask simple questions like how long do I need to wait? it's the way to let them know you came for your scheduled appointment and asking questions about "other". Moral support for your fiance(e) too, you both see each other in the waiting room, then he / she goes the way it's for interview and can mention to the CO you are waiting in the general public waiting room if CO wants to ask you questions. I hope it works.

Tasha

We had every red flag in the book (including the age difference). Luckily, I was able to attend the interview, and we got his K1 visa without any issues whatsoever - but we also had a lot of chemistry that seemed obvious to the interviewer. However, a large age difference between an older non-African woman and a young African men automatically conjures the image of a "desperate middle-aged woman who wants a young hot boy toy" and "an African yahoo boy who wants a green card"

This is not meant as an offense by any means, but that's just what the outside world will assume - and not just at the consulate.

My marriage fit that cliché, and ultimately didn't work out unfortunately. Convincing the consulate and getting that visa is a small feat compared to what married life in the US will present for such a couple. Co-workers, family, friends, neighbors might not understand. And when the outside world constantly doubts, it's hard to maintain trust and confidence in your relationship. That pressure is sometimes too much, even when the relationship is real. And then it's easy to say "he only used me for a green card". And no matter how much you want to believe that age is only a number, there will be a day, when you realize that you are in different stages in life.

This is not meant to discourage. I still remember how much in love I was with my "beautiful young man", and how I was convinced we'd beat the odds. Love is a gamble, and I am glad I played ;-)

Wishing you the best of luck!!! Don't worry too much about the interview - if it's meant to be, he will get that visa.

Thank you for your post. I understand what are you saying. Yet I disagree, any marriage, the same age, the same skin color, school sweat hearts, etc. it's the lottery, in US 50% of marriages end in divorce. We did think about all differences, maybe I understand better because I know the life in US, he doesn't. Any marriage also depends of 2. I am not afraid of divorce in the future specially because now I see he is not for a Green Card with me, he loves Africa and so many times we both were thinking where to live and work, we both are very active and business minded and doing business in Africa is interesting yet for now we will see how we do in America.

I am sorry your marriage is over but it's life, I am sure you both had a great time being married, it's life and experience. I hope my marriage will last forever yet I am not afraid if it ends at some point. He is much more mature than I am, not a boy toy at all, I am more childish and more likely to run away and need to be focused, lol. I am not worrying about the interview either, everything is real and correct and it will be approved, sooner or later. :Life is a strange thing, I never did think about a marriage like this, never about a younger man. The people can think anything they wish and thank you so much for all who are kind and positive.

Tasha

True. Not bad. Interview rescheduled, not a denial, just keep going, you will be probably approved the next time.

Sorry, waiting more time is not easy but it does not depend of you.

God bless! Tasha

Thank you to all of you for the advice, we do work together on our K1 visa. My fiance didn't tell me but he applied to his Resident Permit already and he does all his documents by himself, almost everything is ready for the interview. Getting sick made me more nervous and I am worrying too much. Now my goal is getting better and travel to be in Ghana for his interview.

Again, thanks to all!

Tasha

Hi, I am sorry. I do not know much about situation in Ghana. However, in my case, they did transfer my files back to NVC after the embassy received it. The consulate in embassy also contacted me and noticed me that I do not qualified to apply immigration visa in this country. K1 visa is non-immigration visa, but lots of embassy deal it like an immigration visa. So in my case, they did not give me the chance to explain any situation. They made decision by the information they got.

Sorry for your case. How did they know before the interview?

Hey everyone ; so currently sitting outside the embassy . I was not let in. And when I say tried everything, they still said no . All the security guards are my friends now but that could not get me in . The rules have changed and citizens can longer go in but have to have an appointment already set . I called and spoke to someone and they said petitioner won't be allowed in unless the consular asks for them so that's the answer . I told my fiancé to mention it and hopefully it works in our favor . Waiting patiently for our approval ! Keep praying . My fiancé has been in there for about 4 hours and since I made inside guard friends they said for me to hold tight and that he hasn't been called yet. Maybe if the USC makes an appointment for the same time they can try to go but don't think that's a good idea either

WOW! It's not good sitting outside. I know you can make an appointment online as a US citizen and get in walking around the corner to the door for citizens only and inside is the same waiting room with different windows where you can find your fiance, I went once when I was in Accra indicating in the subject others, filling up the form online, receiving approval online and going with the printing. I am not sure if it work for the fiance interview and the embassy will give you the same day appointment but it worth to try.

Good luck to you, praying you get the visa approved today.

Tasha

Can he not work and make the money instead of you ? How did he get to Ghana ?

Hopefully he will handle his responsibilities as a man and not rely on you to pay for everything.

He should have done it sooner and may screw it all up now having procrastinated getting the permit in time.

If the visa is refused then you have to start all over again, so postponing the interview may be a wiser decision so he can come up

with the money and permit.

I am sorry you are sick and stressed, draw your boundaries with what you can and can't do and heal up well enough to travel to the interview.

Try to get to the root for the many misunderstandings as they tend to continue here if you don't head into the same vision and direction

for your lives.

Thank you so much for your such a realistic advice!

I do understand you and I did tell my fiance exactly the same, I hope he does his own documents part at time showing me he is a responsible man. I hope so. For now I do give him the benefit of doubt because it's a different background, culture or maybe his work, his kid support, I do hope he will do everything needs to be done and at time.

Again, thank you so much for your advice, you are right about fixing any misunderstandings better now than later.

Tasha

A white USC with a much younger Nigerian interviewing in a 3rd country is really looking for an uphill battle. Hopefully you met in his country and have a longer stay and spent time with his family

I did visit him 3 times already, we lived for a short time (12 days or so each time) together, shopping, cooking together, etc. and I am planning to be there for his interview with all my original documents, we are approved fast by USCIS (no RFE) and I hope the US embassy in Ghana will see us as the real couple and approve his visa. This is what all of us wish.

And believe me, the age difference is the real problem but for to start the relationship, it was for both of us, many doubts and on and off because the age, until we both decided to stop fighting our feelings anymore, now the visa, embassy, anybody can say or think anything, delay or verify, the most important thing is we wish to be together, we love each other and we will do everything for to make it happen. Good luck to all of us! and God bless you all!

Tasha

I would love to tell that they will just issue the permit, but Ghana doesn't work that way nothing is free, so even after paying the fees for the permit if your husband doesn't have a middle man or someone in the office who will help him with and you bestow upon them a helpers fee he won't get it, I'm sorry but unfortunately this ishow it works their, I was just there in January and did my stuff for a resident permit and the person who signs the permit wouldn't because I didn't pay them a fee also ?, so it's along story but me my husband have a new middle man so next time I'm there I will get it I only had two days left before I was leaving when they pulled this stunt

Thank you so much for your advice, I do know how the bureaucracy works in Ghana. The thing is I did explain my fiance before filing about the Resident Permit and ti file better in his country Nigeria but he assured me he will do it right away and fast once I file the K1 visa, for some reason he did not, now we are in NVC waiting for his interview and he tells me he needs to do it and it cost money he doesn't have. I understand that but now the new problem, I am very sick, was 5 days in ER and now the doctors, nurse, I don't have any money to send him at this point and I hope somehow he will work more and get his paperwork done. In the mean time, I am hoping to heal fast, still make some money working or borrowing and to travel to his interview which is very important, giving him the support with my presence and all original documents from my side. I hope we will make it even if we will need to reschedule his interview for later.

Long distance relationship and waiting are not easy and when there are some problems, lots of misunderstandings. I think many of us waiting and trying to be together are aware is not easy and not fast. Good luck to us all!

Tasha

Even if he will not get the actual permit in time for the interview, if you can show that he applied it is enough for some embassies.

Ghana being one of the toughest may not recognize a recent application only, worth a try though.

Thank you so much. It makes me feel better. I got very sick and can't help him with money, we even did think about to reschedule the interview once we get one but maybe we do it at time, trying to think here.

Tasha

Yes, he can get his residence permit done.. He just needs to walk into the immigration office in Ghana.. He'll have to pay a fees and they will want to see his passport and I believe maybe they might ask for police clearance.. But it's very possible for him to have it within a quick time frame

Thank you, it gives me hopes.

Tasha

I was afraid they will return his file to NVC and it's a denial and starting another visa again

The embassy will return your case to NVC as soon as they receive the case if he doesn't have residence in Ghana. If the consular is nice and able to approach, your case also can be transfer to embassy which in your fiancé's natianality country. You cannot apply K1 in a foreign country. I did same thing. I did resident in a foreign country but I did not have residence visa/permit. For my case, they visa in the end delayed about 5 months. Because it costs several months to transfer between different embassy.

Thank you. What is it if we do his Resident Permit before his interview? I heard it takes about 10 days to get it.

Tasha

I would like to know if somebody did the Resident Permit and how much did it cost in time and money.

Thank you, Tasha

I am an American and my fiance is a Nigerian man living in Ghana. We do have differences but mostly because many long distance misunderstandings, we have also a big difference in age yet we love each other, love is universal, no borders.

Tasha

Why are all other countries have shorter interview dates except Ghana? I think something is wrong with Ghana embassy.

I hope they do it now faster. Our NOA2 has validity until June

Tasha

Please, I need your advice. My fiance is a Nigerian living in Ghana, I did apply for him to have the interview in Ghana thinking he will fix his residence there, he didn't yet. Please, can somebody tell me which is the fastest and cheapest way to get the Resident Permit in Ghana? We are already in NVC waiting for his interview being scheduled.

Thank you in advance, Tasha

Yeah! Congratulations! I was waiting on you to post. We have the same approval date March 14th. We were in Jamaica for Speing Break vacation together when we received it. We of course celebrated nicely that day. I'm so happy! We will begin calling NVC on March 28/29th. It seems like it's taking 14 or 15 working days for them to receive our petitions.

Did you get a text and/or email for the NOA2?

Thank you. It's so nice you were together, I got very sick, was in ER yet was very happy receiving NOA2 by mail, didn't get any text or email about NOA2

Thank you to all for Congrats! I appreciate it. Tasha

NOA2 received with the date March 14, 2016, Approved!