Am I Myrna's Man?

Thank you all so much for your kind words, they have really helped.

I will pray for you all to reach your journey's end swiftly and without incident.

God Bless You All....

Andrew

Well it's all finally over, Myrna and I are officially no more.

The person I met and fell in love with was not the real Myrna, what turned out to be the real person was a deceitful, unfaithful woman who is and has been on a self desctructive path virtually her whole adult life (her words, not mine).

Now comes the hard part of mending my broken heart and rebuilding my life.

I would like to thank everyone on this site for their help in the past and their kind words of support during all the uncertainty over the past few weeks

Best wishes to all those on the journey, one which I will no longer be taking.

Good luck and God Bless

Andrew

Hi all,

I thought i would update everyone about what happening with myself and fiance (I think) in the US.

As I put in the last thread (Out of the Blue) she called it all off last Tuesday. I won't go into details, you can check the other thread if you are intrigued!!

Well I thought all was lost and had planned on cancelling my flight this week, but something happened on Sunday and Monday between us that has potentially changed everything back around. I am now going to see her on Friday for a week so we can talk through it all and see if we both still want this.

Love has a strange way of surprising you, sometimes in a good way and sometimes bad. But it's always unexpected....

Wish me luck everyone, this could be the restart of the rest of my life!!!

Andrew

Thanks to everyone for there support and kind words over the last few days.

She has admitted alot of things to me that she has done over the past 18 months or so that we have been together.

Under normal circumstances they would be unforgivable betrayels but I am going to try and work through them.

Myrna want's to call off the engagement for the time being and has asked for me to be a good friend for her while she tries to become a better person. It's pretty complicated though.

I am prepared to be a friend for her to help get through this, but I am still not sure if I can get past the betrayels and still marry her in the future if that is what she still wants

Only time will tell, maybe one day i'll have happy ending to tell on VJ

Once again, many thanks to you all

Andrew

I already know what she has done, and forgiven her for them.

The fact that she has told me indicates to me that she wants help

I have just found out the real reason why she has done this.....

There is still hope.....

GO GET ON A PLANE AND FIGHT FOR YOUR WOMAN!

I already have a flight booked for next friday....

She has admitted to doing alot of 'not very good' things, she needs help to work through it all and come out the other end a better person.

And I want to be the person helping her, and loving her while she does.

She doesn't think she deserves me, I am going to prove her wrong

I have just found out the real reason why she has done this.....

There is still hope.....

My best wishes to you and your partner

God bless

I was thinking about posting the letter up to get everyones opinion on it, but I doubt if anyone really wants to see my misery.

I tried to talk to her yesterday but she siad she needs time to think and asked me to leave it until saturday.

This has confused me even more. If she has made up her mind then what does she need to think about?

This really is more than my heart can take, I have not slept, eaten or been able to work since this happened

I would not wish this on my worst enemy, everything I had has gone in the blink of an eye.

I just don't know which way to turn

Well I guess this is a goodbye from me to all of you.

On Tuesday my fiancee sent me an email with a letter attachment telling me she can't marry me because she no longer loves me.

We have been together for almost two years, been through so much ####### together and just when everything was starting to fall into place she does this completely out of the blue.

Everything I have done in my life for the last 14 months has been geared towards finally being with her and now she has flipped my world upside down and left me nothing but a shell of a man with no idea what to do next.

I firmly believe that everything in life happens for a reason, i think this reason is going to take me a life time to understand

To everyone who has helped me on this forum, I thank you. To everyone on the journey I was on, good luck....

Andrew (Formally Myrna's Man)

Wow......Thanks to all that have responded to my question.

From the replies it seems the general opinion is that if the application is going to be complicated or the applicants don't have a basic grasp of the english language then a lawyer is a good idea.

I do not believe that our application is not complicated at all, we are both divorced and have the relevant paperwork to prove so, i do not have any skeletons in my closet (I know this as I had to be screened when I moved to Canada in 2002 and my work dictates that I am screened every 12 months) so I am confident that we can get through this without a lawyer.

I must say that we are comforted that we have a community such as this to look too for help and support as we start our journey. We both feel as if our lives have been on hold for the last 18 months, just waiting for our lives to restart when we are finally together.

We know that this is going to be sometimes hard, sometimes frustrating, sometimes upsetting, but the prize at the end of the road is a life of never being apart and that will make everything we are about to go through seem trivial.

We are on our marks, get set........LET'S GO!!!!

Hi all,

Well the time has finally come (well almost!!) for My baby and I to get the visa ball rolling. My divorce will be through in the next week or so and we want to get going as soon as I have the piece of paper in my hand.

So my question is: Should we use an immigration lawyer?

Will it speed the process up or can we get everything sorted just as quickly on our own?

The money is not the issue here, we both just want to get everything done as quickly as possible.

Any feedback or experience in this matter would be gratefully received

Thanks

Andrew

Hi,

been a while since I posted as my divorce in Canada is Taking FOREVER!!!!!

It should be done and dusted by March/April this year so I'll be able to get started with the next chapter of my life.

Which is why I am asking this question, which visa to appy for?

The pro's and con's of each, does one go through quicker than the other?

I need some help to see light at the end of the tunnel, I have been away from my baby for far to long and it's starting to take it's toll on me.....

Thanks all

Andy

My ex is in Canada and I have to wait 2 years unless she doesn't contest. She is insisting (and so are the canadian courts) that I pay for her 2 children from a previous marriage even though she gets money for them from their father (her other ex)

I really don't understand how they can allow her to get paid twice for the same children but thats seems to be the law over there, and I simply can't afford to pay for 3 children.

If I could I would just to get the divorce through quicker......

Looks like i'll just have to wait

I knida know the answer to this question but I need to get it off my chest anyway!

My current wife is doing everything in her power to prevent our divorce from going through, it's driving me mad as I can't do anything until the divorce goes through.

I was thinking that if we (my fiancee in the US and I) applied for the K1 now by the time the paperwork went through and I got my visa the divorce would have gone through.

It would mean telling a porkie pie about being already married but I miss my baby so much and being apart is tearing us both apart.

Comments would be appreciated!

Now you can all tell me I am crazy for even thinking about it!!!

Andrew

As you can see it worked!!

Thanks

OK, I am pretty good with computers but i can not work out how to get the tickertags onto my forum posts!!!

Can anyone help me please?

Thanks

Andrew

Thanks to you all, I feel like I am part of a new family!!!

Thanks for all your good wishes everyone, it's all much appreciated

Welcome to VJ and indeed, I also found all I needed at VJ and no other forum our there is so helpfulm, complete or offers as much support as VJ does. Good luck with your journey!

Thank you, I know this is not going to be as easy or short as I first thought but I certainly feel better about it all now.

Knowledge is power and the more information I get the more prepared we will both be to deal with any and all obstacles!

This may or may not be something people want to comment on but I feel the need to say it anyway!!

I met my future wife Myrna on April 13th last year in Minneapolis, I am currently still waiting for my divorce to go through before I can file any papers so we can be together permanently.

I have been looking on the internet for months trying to get info on the process/costs/timelines etc and to be honest most sites just give you generic stuff with no real substance.

I have just stumbled accross visajourney.com (about an hour ago!!) and have gathered more info on this site than all the rest put together.

What a fantastic idea this is, I hope to be able to gain valuable knowledge from all the other members that are further through the process than we are and one day be in the position to pass on the knowledge I have gained.

I look forward to chatting with you all, I feel so much better about all this now I know I am not alone in the journey....

Andrew