*JG*

Hello VJ Family;

How is everyone here. I have been missing alot of things on the VJ site, but I have been working very hard to take very good care of my wife. She has adapted to Birmingham (Southern Lfe) well. Jobs are hard to find so I tell her that as long as hussie is bringing the $$$$$$$$$$$$$$$ that she she has nothing to worry. It has been 92 days that my Step child is in California Service Center and we are praying for an approval soon.

Dammit....I was in Birmingham in June. I would've tried to meet up with you had I known.

I want to know who called my hubby and told him he was being a as!#$$ole, because this week has sure been different for us! He has started doing everything on my list. :dance:

And yesterday I woke up at 6:30am to go to church, solo I needed that blessing and didnt want anything to stand in my way so I left the kids at home with him.

He asked me when I was getting dressed (where you going) I said (Church) he said well let me talk to you before you go

he apologized like never before and said he understands that all this started because of him

He gets it...he finally gets it!!!! I am so happy!!!!!!!!!!!!!! It really worked to stand my ground.

Thank you Jesus for answering my prayers and hearing my calls

Thank you girls also for the best wishes and I pray it just gets better from here. ((hugggggs))

BTW today is Moy Moy and we are having a party for her this weekend. Pictures to come.

That's great sweetie. Been thinking about you!

Dang not one post all day...alright then I will break the news down on everyone then.

MrsTee is PREGNANT! CONGRATS!!!!!

Sus is relocating to Jamaica

JQ won the lottery and is filthy rich

finesse got locked up for indecent exposure

Quanna got written up for texting during the day

Jamerican bout to go postal on USCIS

my3rmylife is PREGNANT

I know I missed a few people but I will be back with another update.

FROWN!

That is so true,

well so much has went on with my life this past weekend yall I just confused, but I had decided my hubby and I need to separate.

He did the ultimate Sunday. Im so shocked

Maybe with out me he will realize, that I am needed or he will realize, that he can live life with out me.

I am very indepenedent, and with God's help, because my help cometh from HIM. I will be ok.

Please guys dont post anything on my FB, this is a private matter, but I wanted yall to know because you have help me so much, but now it is time for my hubby to change or loose his family.

Love you all

I understand more then you will ever know.

Sorry, JQ. Take care of you!

Love you.

No they are strictly requesting DNA testing. So we will either be relieved or shocked. But either way we are still that child's parents. Only bad thing is that she won't be able to come over to the states to live with us, prob until she is older, I am guessing. I haven't done much research yet.Just be down myself. Hurt a little. Hurting for Eric cause his mind is all over the place.

I see Sus already said it. I looked into adoption of my orphaned nephew. There is a way to adopt. If both parents alive, there are additional hoops to jump through. But, it is possible.

Hi Yardies! Have a wonderful Labor Day Weekend. I know some of you on facebook already know this but I started my own savings blog. If you want to check it out it go to countrysavingmommy.com and it is also on Facebook just push the like button if you want to be a fan. I have learned how to score $1 purses for my mother inlaw and cheap clothes (as low as 10 cents)! Plus more so I don't have to spend an arm and a leg visiting inlaws and friends. Best Wishes to all and Happy 3 day weekend. One Luv, Jax!

Oh how cute! hehe

Hows the sweet baby girl, BM?

Finesse, the girls are so beautiful!

Mo - I have been watching the hurricane forecast too - looks like it will mash up the Museum for Friday But at least I still have Roseland Ballroom!

JQ - I agree with the others - You need to just stop doing things - Let him figure it out when he's hungry, has no clean clothes, etc... - after a while of this, he'll start to get the hint and then is the time to have the heart to heart - Not now when you are doing it all and he's not grasping the full concept of what you do. Your priority right now needs to be you and the baby, and he needs to do his part.

I agree with ALL of you; but..........big BUT......you all are kind of missing the point. Her priorities are THE KIDS. He can cook and do laundry. But, what she really needs help with are the kids. He has to step up in ALL aspects of the family. She needs so much help right now. Yeah, maybe after the pregnancy she can pick up some of her old chores. He needs to think about everyone involved and not just himself.

Hey yall,

I'm still overwhelmed and its not getting any easier.

Yesterday when I got home I started making dinner my usual routine, and when my hubby got home he just took off his clothes and went to bed. I went into the room and said, "I sure wish I could just relax after I get in. But I had these kids since 6 am."

He tells me: "Who told you to have them since 6 am"

Me: wait a minute, your daughter couldn't go to the school around the corner remember, because she couldn't pass the test, so I had to put her in the school by my job, all day kinder, which means when I take you to work in the morning at 6am, the kids are with me until I drop them off at school.

He just lays down and doesn't say anything and goes to sleep. Sleeps until about 11:30 pm and wakes up looking for dinner. Eats dinner goes on the computer and goes to sleep.

Wakes up this morning doesn't say anything to me, doesn't help get any of the kids up, and tells me at 6:30 to drop him off at his friends house around the corner so he can get a ride to work.

No fckn convo since that smart sht yesterday afternoon.

I had a talk to him on Sunday letting him know our relationship so up and down it aint gone work. He don't help he just do what he do and expect since his mom did everything that that's a womans job. Maybe that's a womans job if she don't work. Beacsue she has never had a job. If I didn't work I could clean and cook and shop and take on all the responsibilities as a house wife, and not look to him for support, but since Im bringing in as much money as him I feel it should be split. And danmn it im pregnant where is my sympathy.

Then he had the nerve to say, we can barely make it with 3 how we gonna make it with 4 (OMG yall I blew up and told him sht him and his daughter and this newborn can make it back in Jamaica with his momma, if he chooses so) He claims he will try to make it better gave me a hug and was acting different for the rest of that day. But they next day it ack to the same oh him.

Well I told his azz next week make sure you take off work because Im switching all these kids to the school by the house. I cant keep leaving work in the morning and the afternoon, to take these kids.

Update: So the baby took the test at the new school with the all day kinder and she passed it ( maybe because my husband was with her and he don't play with her) but they put her in 1st grade. And the work that she is doing right now in the first grade she understand we just gotta work with her to learn how to sound words out.

So Im switch her to the school by my house, well my hubby is because Im tired of going in circles for this little girl. I had to take off 8 hrs last week and don't have no more vacation due to the JA trip. Im taking off to switch my boys but he gonna have to switch her and take the test scores from the school showing she passed the test.

This is a lot of drama!!!!

I love all your adivce and keep it coming but if anybody wants to talk negative, because im sure it is coming, write it then delete it because I don't need any one talking about how perfect their life is and telling me mine is shtty, just keep it positive and try to help in a nice way or be prepare to get cussed out!!!! Cause everyone has problems and Im trying to share mine with my true VJ sisters on here. To get healthy advice(L)

JQ Smiley Boom

Sweetie, all I really have to say is that's exactly what happened to me. Not only did I get tired of doing every damn thing, I got tired of feeling alone. You know the ending to my story.

He's got to step up. You can talk till you are blue in the face; but if he doesn't want to step up and then actually DO IT, it's not going to work.

You have to be a partnership.

I wish you the very best of luck. I'm sorry. Hugs, my friend.

Are there any newbies on here? Thinking I haven't seen any in a while around here.

we put:

Montego Bay

St. James

Jamaica, WI

Love it Finesse! Thanks so much. I was feeling guilty, but you made me feel much better. You are exactly right , the more you say yes the more they will ask. If it was a one time emergency then that would be one thing, but I know it would lead to all the time, which is why I didn't even want to start it.

JaEng- I would love to do to a photo shoot with you. You do beautiful work.

JG- it has been sloooow in here. When I have time to catch up and post a lot then you know the chatters are M.I.A. Congrats again on your job!

Sugar- Wow you just made it in time before that rude hurricane is coming through. Congrats and can't wait to see pics!!! I still can't believe that the island lost power for a year. Yikes!

A phone is NEVER an emergency. There is always someone else's to use. Food, shelter, school, shoes.....maybe in certain circumstances. Phones, cars, electronics....I think not.

LOL the funny thing is last night I just was telling my Mom that they don't have BINGO here at the casinos. I would love to go sometime just give me a heads up.

OHHHHH and we are thinking of moving...you want to help? LOL!!!!! :rofl: :rofl: :rofl:

Moving? Where now? And, yes, I would help again.

HI JG! I am not cheating on you! Was just a last minute going out.

We went and played bingo last night. I though....hmmmmm, I should call Dillon one of these times. I need someone else to talk to cause he starts counting down at like 6. If I hear, I'm down to 6, I'm down to 5, etc. one more time I may smack him.

Where the hell is everyone this morning? I'm finally on during the day and everyone disappears!!!!!

Oh I see. You know first hand what it's like. I see where he gets his brains from. I've just heard people say for maturity reasons they don't want their kids to skip, so I was just curious if that was your reasoning too. That's good he learned his lesson. I'm still excited Moy Moy gets to go all day now. That is great!

Ok everyone (or anyone that wants to give their 2 cents), how do you deal with hubby's friends back in JA asking for things? He has one friend that has already asked for a new phone and $100. He asked hubby for the phone and hubby just ignored him (it was visa FB he asked), then he just asked be tonight if I could send $100 and just keep it between him and I. Vaughn has a big family and none of them have even asked for anything, so I think this friend is out of line. I'm happy to help anyone that is important to my husband but I just feel he is thinking I have an endless supply of cash. What makes it hard is that he sees our pictures on FB going to all these places, so how do I say no? I told I can't because hubby and I aren't working this year and are just spending time together before we get serious about work and kids. I'm thinking that he's thinking we aren't just sitting at home so if we have money to go places then why not for him? I'm sure some of you have encounted this before and just would like to know how you handled it.

I just said NO. I don't have it. He's not working and money is tight. You will encounter that ####### over and over again.

Honest, it pissed me off to no end.

wow....always so much to reply to. I can't keep up. I installed my computer on BFs new internet so I can at least go over there now when I can't get on firehouse computer. No more internet at work for me. Frown. But, at least I can now say I HAVE A JOB!

For those of you who don't follow FB (um....Finesse!) I finally have a job. After 12 long weeks of exhaustive trying, I ended up getting 2 job offers last week. Had to quit one before I even started. I start work in a doctor's office Sept. 7th. Back to what I used to do like 4 jobs ago. It's scary and exciting all the same. Just being back to work makes me very happy. So, I'm enjoying my last days off and working on that killer tan I got this year. Sort of feel like a teacher having all summer off. A girl could get used to it IF I got paid to be off.

JQ, I agree....it's better to keep the child back and get some good groundwork on the education, then rush along. It's hard enough to adjust without the added pressure. They can always move up a grade in future years if it merits. I feel you though. Keep up the good work. There are plenty of resources out there for you to use.

Dillon............I read a night out and didn't receive a phone call or text so I feel very dissed right now. Cheating on me?

Congrats on the job JG and welcome back. You were missed

Hi Just.. how are things going with your son?

Don't even get me started on him. That boy is going to die by my hands one day soon.

He started college last week. He ended up making it to class on time 2 of the 5 days. Traffic he says. How many times do I have to say just leave 15 mins earlier?

Hi girls. I'm still around, whomever asked. Just a whole lot less internet time. I was spending all the time looking for a job. Now that I finally have one, I should be able to spend my limited internet time having some fun on here.

Hope all is well with everyone.

YA JQ!!!!!! PLEASE TELL US! I know you are leaving today so you better not leave us hanging!!!!!

Dillon....dillon....dillon.....................

WTH have you been up to? Better PM me with answer. I may never see it otherwise.

Hope all is well!

What happened in here? New thread name? I'm so confused.

I miss you all. Hope all is well. And, if anything important, someone pm me please. I'm so out of loop.

Hi ladies.

I can't possibly keep up anymore. So, I hope all is well and if I am missing anything important someone will PM me or FB me.

I went on 2 job interviews this week. One was horrible. One was really good. My doctor's office and I worked with the current office manager previously on good terms. So.........well, wish me luck. Hoping for it. In the mean time, I continue to apply and interview. Another interview next week.

Otherwise, I am not sure where the time is going. I know I'm busy as hell just not sure exactly why. I am actually so busy I'm wondering how I ever worked full time before. And, I'm really tan. Smile.

Going out of town this weekend on another softball tourney. And, probably to visit a relative who's not far from site. Excited about that.

I am over here all the way turned up...just booked our tickets for September JA return home trip!

Am I the only one with this thing about getting on large boats?

Um, NO.......I've seen Titanic. I'm out on a cruise. I am not slowing drowning while the band plays on!!!!

However, if you all stop in the Bahamas, I will meet you there. Maybe my aunt will let us use her house there.

I'm out for the night ladies. See you all Wednesday about this time.

My beloved Cardinals just hit 3 home runs in this last inning. I have to go watch the end of the game.

Later!

A ghost!!!! I'm around we really do need to meet up I always have so much fun with you.

MARK THIS DOWN:

September.......some Friday.....not sure when yet.

We are planning a big group going to the Complex to see my friend, Tyler's, drag show. My friend Derrick and his friend. Me, Chuck, Marla, Jules, Chris and his GF at the time, Glen....and whomever else I can find. Derrick was the one is the gold thong and gold dust in a FB picture sent to me....if you happened to see it. Anyhow, even if you can't talk hubby into braving it, YOU better go with us. It is so much fun. Derrick wants us to go to a questionable club on Saturday and make a weekend of it; but I'm not sure I'm in on the Saturday one yet.

Morning Everyone! Busy day today at work so I will be on but in and out!

JG, good to see you dropping in. Miss ya. I'm claiming that something is going to come your way soon! I'm with you on getting use to being able to be on my own schedule and do what I love to do...hmmp, if only I could get paid to do that. I need to figure something out!

Jamerica, hi! Definitely will be praying for you guys, but no worries, you and your hubby will be fine! I hope all is well.

Maybe you are right. Interview tomorrow and another Wednesday. Wednesday is through a recruiter.....job turns out to be in my own OB/GYN's office. I hope that's a good sign.

Dillon......Memphis, TN....

Been there. Liked it. I went for the dog track. GREAT BIG mall there. Saw Graceland, BB King's Resturant, the big pyramid, etc. Besides really bad street beggers (picture worse then Chicago), it was fun.

Ironically, I went through Memphis a few weeks ago on the way back from Alabama. But, I was all drugged up on pain meds and actually don't remember a second of it. Chuck has funny stories to tell about it. Kind of like your snoring stories only he was smart enough not to video me. We really have to catch up. I have a lot to tell you.

Nashville was fun too.

Morning peeps! monday already????!!? ugh!!

So hubby's b-day bashment was really great and a lot of fun!!

Items left behind by partygoers:

2 wallets

1 camera

1 cellphone

1 blanket

3 coolers

3 shirts

1 pair of slippers

about 10 dishes/platters/bowls

Interesting happenings by partygoers:

1 girl walking a round all night cussing her bf on her cellphone

strip poker in the garage

a guy and a girl going into my dark basement and returning to the party 20 minutes later

a dude walked by the front porch and asked my aunt and i if we sold weed

a friend taking over the microphone and singing along to the music for about an hour thinking he really sounded good

a guy passed out in the shower while several people used the bathroom until hubby kicked him back to the backyard

a few white girls thinking they could dance but really looked like they were having a siezure

the list goes on and on.....

2 questions.............

What's your Ebay name? I could use a few things there.

When are you inviting me to the next party? I just need a chair, a bottomless glass, and some people watching time!!!!!

I just want you guys to know how wonderful MRStee is.

Already knew that!