NevadaJoe

Hello,

I need some very much needed help. I come to USA from Bari, Italy in April 2006 to be with my American husband. We do DCF for me to come to states. In June 2006 I go home for 2 week vacation, in July 2006 I go home again and no come back. I no like my new husband very much. In 2007 I give birth to son in Bari. I don't know if it is husband baby or boyfriend baby BUT now I want to return to USA with baby for better life and maybe child support. My husband start divorce proceeding last year against me because I no come back.

My question is: Can I return to states after long absence? (although less than a year?) Oh I forgot my 2yr green card in states too. My husband told me he would file with USCIS to withraw support. Can I bring my baby with me? how long is wait and what is procedure? does baby need visa? is my visa in passport still good to return?

Thanks

Susana

I no care. Maybe he is father, maybe Italian boyfriend is father. I want divorce and law saying I can have 1/2 of everything his and money support too, that is your state law and I just follow it. Then I bring my brothers here and my BF, and we live much better than in Italy! and maybe I buy villa in Italy, who knows...

I now waiting for embassy to give citizenship for baby and I am coming to USA.

I no have my Green Card, forgot it in states, but I have my SS card and marraige certificate, hope this is good enough to re-enter.

Susana

Its quite funny how you're trying to infuse an Italian "accent" in your posts. Your original post's very first sentence sounds very much like English is your first language. "I need some very much needed help?" Yet by the third sentence you try to sound like a foreign language is your mother tongue: "We do DCF for me to come to states."

For someone who's second post starts w/ "I no care" (sounds "accented"), but then uses an acronym like BF (boyfriend) which is easy for someone who speaks English primarily, but sounds fake if you are who you pretend to be...an Italian. Been trolling lately?

Hogy Van! Paula and Minya....hahahahaha, that is Madgjar

but I probably spell Madgjar wrong, so I no noting of Hungarian people by your rule, do you still eat sweet and salty foods? Is Puskas still hero there? he is football legend, ops but I spell Madjar wrong so I am not suppose to know this

I think you are 2 girl trolls....mama mia

You desreve to go to jail!

You will never enter with that ####### child, he must sign something and get it notorized for the Embassy. Do you think the folks there are stupid and will take your word that he is the father??? A birth certifaicate with his name is not enough, they put down anyone's name you tell them to.

Oh what tangled web's we weave.....

NevadaJoe:

Sorry to hear about your situation. My prayers are with you.

It may be that it looks hopeless now, but your situation my be easily correctable. It really may be that you guys need to learn about each other "now" since you didn't spend enough time doing it "before". It may be that the adjustment was a bit much for her, and she doesn't cope with (drastic) change very well. Or it may be that she's a visa scammer, but either way you owe it to yourself to find out what's really going on before you just throw in the towel.

Unfortunately, living with your mother probably isn't doing "wonders" for your marriage either... even if your wife was expecting it, it just isn't the ideal scenario for bonding between husband and wife.

Check out www.MarriageBuilders.com, and look at the section on "Most Important Emotional Needs". After you check it out, then print out the Emotional Needs Questionnaire and go over it with your wife.

This way, you will find out INSTANTANEOUSLY what it will take for you to please her (if anything), and she will know what she needs to do to please you.

This simple exercise should reveal whether or not your wife is really in love with you or not.

If you think you and/or your wife may have been in love with each other at SOME point, then your marriage is likely salvageable. Check out the "Counseling" link at the same website. Don't be shocked, it is expensive ($185/hr.), but I GUARANTEE you that your divorce, and subsequently supporting a woman who is no longer your wife, or that you are separated from is FAR MORE EXPENSIVE.

The ironic thing about divorce is that you actually end up paying for TWO divorce attorneys... so if your attorney is $150/hr. (which is cheap) and hers is $150/hr., now you're up to $300/hr...

A friend of mine who is divorcing an AW had to pay for his attorney ($300/hr.), his wife's attorney, and a psychiatrist for his wife, and a psychiatrist for his children while his divorce was going on... can you say OUCH!

Ya, maybe after all that touchy, feely stuff we can get naked together, hold hands, and sing "Kum Ba Ya". It's a little difficult for counseling since she is currently in Europe visiting, hopefully it will be a permenant visit.....I agree that living at home is difficult - you are right and I must be fair and admit that, and I do. I wish I can afford living on my own......I am in awe that you value money (divorce attorney prices) over sanity.....I mean is $5 or 10K worth more to you than the next 20-30 years of stress and going totally bonkers? WOW I'd rather live in a shack and have peace of mind than in a house that I dread coming home to.....but that is just me.

p.s. are you still looking for a wife? take mine

Move!!

Any realistic coments?

Does she have money for a return ticket ????

No, but she could probably scrap up enough......oh she does not have her green card with her or welcome letter - all that is here at home. Another interesting thing - she left the country using her Bosnia passport but her Visa stamp is in her Croatia passport. If and when she trys to re-enter I am asuming she will use the Croatia passport since it has the U.S. Visa stamp but when they run it through the reader - will it show that she has not left the U.S.? she might have some explaning to do why she was using a different passport....I don't know....she is very clever but she makes mistakes.....any comments folks?

Oh no!I hope you don't give up on women completely. I can promise you that we're not all bad. You just gotta take your time and ease into a relationship in the future which I'm sure you know now. I hope you get over all of this and start fresh. Good luck and I'm so sorry to hear all of this happened to you. Take care Joe,

Sarah

She went home yesterday afternoon on a Lufthansa flight!!!!!!!!!! She says it will be only for a short time to visit. What do I do?

She sounds like she really doesn't understand USA costumes. Did you tell her how life was going to be her? My friends from JA first all thought we lived like 90210 until they came her and saw I lived in a studio apartment and shoped at walmart. If your a smart man why didn't you get a pre-nup and make her sign it. I beleive in those highly. Money well spent.. But really such a short time of knowing her were you high on love or what.. I just think its crazy but hey I am slow and easy kind of gal. If it is fraud good luck with everything. I just remember what my friends thought of the USA before studying abroad with me and now they understand everything. Best of luck with the divorce. Think next time before marrying after a couple weeks. Its a lifetime commitment. hush---

Yes, I told her exactly what my life is like - I work from 8-5, home by 6 - not go out much weeknights, love to go out on weekends though, don't drive a fancy car, etc....she knew all that before we got married. I prefer Kmart and Target myself. I didn't get a prenump because I have no valuable assets, nothing. I don't think I'll ever marry again, like the gentleman a few posts above said - "I learned my lesson"

On to good news - she is going home for a vacation this weekend!!!!! Bought a one way ticket though...hmmmm ))))))) Maybe she will never return! Right now I'm enjoying the moment and nothing negative anybody writes here will spoil it for me

I wonder what state he lives in? Nevada? I guess but maybe not--hope his state is not like my state where everything is split 50-50 assets and liabilities in the divorce financial settlement.

The 50-50 statement does not scare me - I have nothing, sorry.......and say even if I did have 10K in a bank account I would gladly pay 5K to be rid of my daily nightmare, I think it's worth it, much better than finishing in a loney bin....also does not that apply to $ and assets you acquire together from the day you marry forward? We sure haven't acquired much in a few months together, except for a few grey hairs and upset stomachs for me. My little princess told me last night she has no interest in being a secretary, she wants to start right at the top - an executive or high level manager. She has a high school education and no experience. I know this is the land of endless opportunity but even our own college grads have a hard time landing that 1st good paying job.....oh well

You should really consider cultural differences.

I am sure that she has some language problems. She has no friends in the States.

She wants to be secure. She needs job. She wants to have her own place to live where both of you can live as a family. It is not always easy to live with a mother in law (even if you are from the same country). You need time to adjust to each other and to the fact that you are married.

Give her a chance. Talk to her.

You can divorce at any time. Sure you can get a legal advise but do not rush.

There are always two sides of a medal.

good luck

Artegal - can you send me some of that stuff you are smokin cause today I can really use something to releive my pain and help me forget just a little......the liitle princess does speak broken English, has a SS card and I do encourage her to get a job (but does not want to - working in a restaurant is beneath her, she's here to take Corporate America by storm and make millions because that is how they do it on our American TV programs she watched back home), oh and no I don't keep my trophy looked in the closet all day either, she can come and go as she pleases - I prefer her to go out in the sunshine and fresh air anyway. Yesterday she asked me when was I getting her a Mercedes SUV? Okay let's move on.....you know I am usually very careful with my life, I guess I was just real lonely this time and fell for a nice smile and sweet laugh.....

NevadaJoe

I definitely agree with you my brother Artegal and Alenushka must be smoking the same sh^%t I say that you need to send that "Gold Digging, Stank ho back to where you found her

Thanks, today I found a good immigration divorce attorney who handles fraud matters, I will go in for a free consultaion....I'm at peace if if I have to pay her support - that would only hurt once a month when I write the check and not everyday like it is now.....

You should really consider cultural differences.

I am sure that she has some language problems. She has no friends in the States.

She wants to be secure. She needs job. She wants to have her own place to live where both of you can live as a family. It is not always easy to live with a mother in law (even if you are from the same country). You need time to adjust to each other and to the fact that you are married.

Give her a chance. Talk to her.

You can divorce at any time. Sure you can get a legal advise but do not rush.

There are always two sides of a medal.

good luck

Artegal - can you send me some of that stuff you are smokin cause today I can really use something to releive my pain and help me forget just a little......the liitle princess does speak broken English, has a SS card and I do encourage her to get a job (but does not want to - working in a restaurant is beneath her, she's here to take Corporate America by storm and make millions because that is how they do it on our American TV programs she watched back home), oh and no I don't keep my trophy looked in the closet all day either, she can come and go as she pleases - I prefer her to go out in the sunshine and fresh air anyway. Yesterday she asked me when was I getting her a Mercedes SUV? Okay let's move on.....you know I am usually very careful with my life, I guess I was just real lonely this time and fell for a nice smile and sweet laugh.....

Its ok m, I knew that anyway.

Since this is in the IR 1/ CR 1 forum, I just was not thinking about DCF in the slightest.

And Y, you'd not picked on me in a while, I wondered what was up.

*edited cos I can't type*

Maybe you are right meauxna, I should just be miserable and swallow it. I have broken my back trying to make things great for her but everything I do is not good enough......jula the more I think about your answer the more light I see - you are right too - I have been doing things half assed I should turn all my credit cards over to her and my pin numbers too, accounts, safe deposit keys, oh and my car. It only took me 15 years to build a credit score of 780....lets see how fast we can flush it down the toilet.

Yes she is dying to drive but I've been refusing because she does not want to get a valid drivers licence plus I need to add her to my insurance.

On the bright side in about 20 months her temp GC expires, gee I hope she doesn't forget to lift the conditions.....

Never heard of that quick of a CR1. Then again it would help to know what consulate.

It was a DCF and it was processed very quickly. She is here now. It was done in Croatia. Hope that helps.

Yes, thanks for the clarification!

Joe,

Sorry to hear about your troubles, I'm sure you are not the 1st something like this has happened to. DO NOT give her any account numbers or passwords. She will milk you dry and cry poverty in the end. Being from that region myself I know what the wrong women from there are like - Be careful. Talk to an attorney and call INS and report this - they probably come across this type of stuff. I don't know what the # is, if I did I would share. If you are going to leave her - move into an apt. somewhere and spare your Mom the grief...also it would avoid any squatting rights. Don't know how much support you would have to pay her under I-864 but it will be for 10 years.....Best of Luck

I have known her for a month prior to getting married (spent 2 weeks with her), I know a stupid mistake but it's done now.

Never heard of that quick of a CR1. Then again it would help to know what consulate.

It was a DCF and it was processed very quickly. She is here now. It was done in Croatia. Hope that helps.

Well here is my story - I am a USC, got married 3 months ago overseas. The wife came here a month ago and has a CR1 visa and has her 2 year GC. She has totally changed since she has arrived, far different from the gal I knew and fell in love with. Her constant nagging is driving me up the wall. She became extremley upset when I refused to start paperwork to sponser her younger brother to visit us (I have a feeling that he would overstay and never leave). I'm a regular working guy and really can't afford any more financial responsibility. I have done everything I can to make her happy - put in a satellite TV so she can watch her programs from back home, got a good long distance company so she can call home more often, we go out to nice places, this summer she will be starting English language classes, gave her a generous allowance so she can buy what she wants, I encourage her to find a job if she desires, I told her I would buy her a nice home next year (still saving), we currently live at my moms. She wants to know what my life savings is - how much and where? if I don't tell her then I don't trust her and it will never work. I continue to refuse to say. She has told me 2x already that if I wanted to divorce "her" that would be fine with her. Everyday I bang my head against the wall trying to figure out what i am doing wrong? and why I can't please her? My fear is that if I try to divorce her, she will lie and cry "abuse" and how do I get her out of my moms place?

Is there someone I can talk to? someone I can report this to?

Nevada Joe