tessa&simon

Hello this is Simon, a Ugandan fellow from Northern Uganda. The words to describe your situation if i am to use would be as "sad, hurtful, disappointing and disrespectful" This doesn't sound like a relationship but rather scam or some business sort of things that we are talking about herein this discussion. I will write as short as i can and i hope i am not yet too late to give in my perspective as a Ugandan from the North.

She dreads talking to you, she doesn't like you. Oh my God network is so bad but the network is full bars when asking for moneygrams. She doesn't care about when you are sick she takes you as money bag. May be she even saved your name in her phone as "money", some would save as "stupid", some as "trouble" or lunch but now that you cited tv you must be called "TV" or "dollar" just kidding.

I would love to firstly appreciate you and your family for being so generous in giving out a lot of support to those orphans in Lira, God bless you abundantly. It would be absurd for me to talk about your relationship objectively since i don't know it but i will bring my ideas from the general context basing on my cultural knowledge and personal experiences. I am not surprised! many parents in Northern Uganda have often times been accused of using their daughters as money bags to give them better lives (Facts). There is no way in this culture or in any culture in Northern Uganda that i a man should propose to a lady on the lady's parents/relatives demand. It is insinuative to here that this happened to you. I call it DISAPPOINTING!!. If both of you had agreed, your finance's parents should write a letter addressing it to your parents about the plan for your marriage, in the letter her family would do what they call the "Marriage assessment" the assessment also bases on a number of factors like the level of education of the girl. These factors would inform the girl's family what the dowery price should looks like, the more educated the lady is, the more expensive her dowery would be but this $150 earner if was to be married by a Ugandan would not probably get an equivalent of 5million Ugandan shillings. Who knows why the father of the girl disappeared? Maybe there was too much burden in terms of money that is why he decided to leave the lady. I don't see this woman as a church woman, for us fellows like that are nicknamed as "Church dwellers" they uses church to cover up for bad things they do. What she is doing is not normal and not socially accepted in this society. Those who are supporting are do what she is doing are also in the same clicks, may be they are all getting small shares of the money you sends. Three thousand five hundred dollars is a lot more than what she makes in a year. If you want to know whether she loves you or not become so assertive, don't give even a penny not even a drop of coin, let her starts taking care of her own bill, let her be the one to call you and makes her love you even without money but from your post i don't see it happening. "Money can't buy love" but money can hurt love.

I don't know what else to tell you but only to say quit if you can because you will regret heavily and you will never be happy. Her family and her are after you money and it is a clear sign, PERIOD. It is not the first time i am hearing about this kind of thing. I know you must be loving her for real but love is never one sided. It takes two people to be in love. Acholi says "didididi otucu i min bul" and also "Ogek ma odugu gang awobi ma kome yot pe donyo ieye". I wish you good luck with your decision.

Hi, my fiance was from uganda also, the way we handled it was to buy a safaricom Sim card and I added the money from here using moneygram so no funny business could go on. Meaning the agent in uganda couldn't steal the money we were adding to the Sim card as mobile money. I remember the exchange rate using money gram isn't so great so I added a few extra dollars and she used it to buy phone cards in kenya. I added the money and she paid quickly so we didn't have a problem. It worked out perfectly. Thank God since it is a lot of money.

Thank you so much for the information! We successfully scheduled for early next year - fingers crossed!

Thank you Love&Faith! Simon will look in Kampala soon. Best wishes on your journey!

Hello all,

This is my first post, but I have gotten so much helpful information from reading this thread - thank you to all of you!

I have a question on fee payment for the K1 visa. I know that this has been asked in other posts, but I'm trying to get the most up-to-date information. My fiance is Ugandan, and we would like to schedule his interview in Nairobi. He just submitted the DS-160. How can we pay the fee if we don't know anyone in Kenya to assist us with Mpesa? He was going to use Mpesa in Kampala, but I read somewhere that it has been blocked in Uganda?

Any info you have would be greatly appreciated! Thank you.