Bunnyqr

Last night my fiance called me to tell me two things.

First how much he loved me.

Second, that he lied to me when he said he sent his final divorce decree in the mail 2 weeks ago.

If you see my time line you will understand that our first RFE was for his final divorce papers. We submitted his divorce petition. I have been waiting for 7 months for these papers and now the truth is out. Why now? Because he had no other choice but to tell me the truth now at the last ticking hour. Our dead line for these papers are this Sunday.

I am numb, I listened to all he had to say to me. I didn't scream, I didn't swear, I just listened and asked why the lies. He said that he has been trying to get his ex-wife to sign them since I told him we needed them in April. He says she wants more money from him. He says she is playing games with him promising to sign and then not doing it. He said he tried to "protect" me from his problems with her.

He said it's not my problem.

I said it was my problem. And then all the fears flooded through my head, my engagement is false! His family has no idea what is going on!!! My wedding plans are finished! My wedding dress is paid for and I don't want to pick it up at the bridal shop.

All this time, all the opportunities he could have told me face to face and he chose not to.

TRUST!?!?!?!!

The foundation of a relationship crumbled!

If he had told me in the beginning, I never would have started the Visa process. I don't know what I would have done, probably stuck with him and waited it out till it was finalized.

Now what?

I left work early today. I can't concentrate. I will call Immigration on Monday and withdraw the visa, ask what needs to be worded in the letter.

He tells me he will be here in December. I don't believe him. How??? He doesn't know what he is talking about. The embassy has already denied him a travel visa due to not having strong enough economic ties to Greece to guarantee he will come back.

So last night I took off my engagement ring and put it back in it's box.

I put all pictures of him, gifts, etc. away.

I really believed him that the papers were coming. I feel like a fool calling everyday to see if they were delivered to my home.

The only thing I can say right now that makes any sense, is thank God Immigration knows their stuff and knew to request the final divorce decree. What if we got the visa with only his divorce petition, he came here and married me and then I find out his divorce wasn't final!!!!

God blesses us in so many ways, even in ways we don't understand at the time.

So, I will say farewell to all.

Thank you all for your support, your funny stories, sharing your pics, passing along jokes and giving great advice.

To all of you, good luck and may your true loves be with you soon.

B

I have two stories.

First one was when I was living in Greece with my fiance and his family for one month, it was Laundry time. So I asked my fiance if I can do the laundry. In a few seconds his mom shows up and I said "NO", I can do it. I didn't want his mom doing my laundry. So after a few minutes of tug and pull on my laundry bag I gave in. A few hours later I am in the bathroom and I look out the window to their back yard and there I see all my THONGS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Multi color hanging on the clothes line for everyone to see. Their backyard is surrounded by at least 8 neighboring apartments! I was frozen!!!!!

The second story is a toilet story. I didn't know that in Greece their plumbing is bad and when you wipe they put it in a trash can. Who Knew!?!?!??!! So for a month I am flush, flush, flushing away. Toilet paper, tampons, feminine wipes, you name it.

Then one day I hear all this commotion going on in the apartment, banging on a door, yelling, etc. I asked what fiance what was going on. And he said that their stupid tenant was in big trouble for blocking up their pipes and his father and brother in law were letting him have it.

Then I see his father pulling the drain out back. I still didn't clue in that I was the cause of this problem till I saw him snake out a tampon!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

IT WAS ME, I told my fiance and his eyes were the size of saucers when he realized I didn't know about the wipe and trash can method.

I felt horrible that the tenant was almost killed for my error.

The way I put the package together was first the cover sheet listing everything I was including. Copies vs. Originals, USC vs. Beneficiary, check etc.

I put all my background info, Birth Certificate (the back to mine was blank too so I wrote on it "BACK BLANK", divorce papers and K1 application together with my passport photo clipped to the bundle, then I put my fiances info and his photo clipped to his bundle.

As for proof of relationship, I made copies of all pages of my passport, most recent flight to Greece and a copy from www.theknot.com web page of us, how we met, my friends and family that posted on the guest page.

Hope this helps!

B

I once packed a box with two types of Peanut Butter, crunchy and smooth. Also a jar of FLUFF (marshmello). The nieces loved this, ages 7, 8 and 13.

T-shirt for the 13 year old with NEW YORK on it. Baseball cap for the dad that had NYPD on it.

Mom, I got her slippers to wear around the house, also another time I brought her a nice nightgown.

Cologne is good, the older sisters got silkie pajama sets. Key chains and a CD for that had classic American songs about New York City. Oh and nice tote bags.

19 my first marriage, WHAT WAS I DOING!?!?!?!?!?!?!

36 for this marriage and will be my last!!!

Ohhhhhhhh, what a pain!! All that paperwork all over again!!!!

GOD Bless you both.

Wishing you a speedy process this time around!

B

Amazing the timing on this thread. I feel like I am in such a rut. Our daily phone calls are now every other night. He is getting more and more busy with work and I am getting more and more used to not getting daily phone calls. I have been waiting 6 months for his divorce papers and they are on their way to me now. But I am just tired of it all. I want to start our lives together so bad. I day dream of the day he tells me that he has his Visa, I think of our wedding day, I look at Bridal magazines, I tell everyone that asks "still waiting". It's all so frustrating and draining on the emotions.

I physically feel weak now. Before I was so gung ho and energized, now I just feel like a dead horse who keeps getting kicked. Ugh!

We still talk about our days, what we have had for meals, the family, the weather, our days at work, etc.

I just hate sleeping every night without him. I hate this LDR!!!!!!!!!!!!!! But the only thing that keeps us going is the big picture. I am praying for a November approval and pray he will be here by January. Hopes, dreams, positive thinking and most of all praying is what gets me through.

I know this sounds strange but I also pray for the Immigration employee that is handling our case. That they feel our love for each other through our paperwork and that everything we submitted is surrounded with God's love.

B

oooohhh the relief the two of you must feel!!!!

Thank you posting your update, we all want to hear good things for our fellow VJers!!!

Congrats and have celebrating

B

Don't Quit

When things go wrong as they sometimes will,

When the road you're trudging seems all uphill,

When the funds are low, and the debts are high,

And you want to smile, but you have to sigh,

When care is pressing you down a bit,

Rest if you must, but don't you quit.

Life is ####### with its twists and turns,

As everyone of us sometimes learns,

And many a failure turns about,

When he might have won had he stuck it out.

Don't give up though the pace seems slow,

You might succeed with another blow.

Success is failure turned inside out,

The silver tint of the clouds of doubt,

And you never can tell how close you are,

It may be near when it seems so far.

So stick to the fight when you're hardest hit,

It's when things seem worse, that you must not quit.

I am reading this and ready to cry... perfect for this couple going through this turn of events. And also perfect for all of us reading this.

You are in my prayers that the fingerprints go through with flying colors and you are both on the plane together with the weight off your shoulders.

B

Beautiful pictures, you look soooooooooooooo happy and sweet in every picture.

Congratulations to the NEWLYWEDS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Thank you for sharing with us

My pet peeves are:

Crowded subways with people pushing and shoving.

When there is absolutely nothing good on TV to watch (over 300 stations, come on!!!!!!!)

People that smack their food when they eat

People that use the "F" word in normal conversation as a verb, noun, adjective, etc.

Hearing my neighbors below yell all the time in front of their 18 month old daughter and always using the "F" word.

People that go through my garbage at night to take the bottles and cans

No parking

Long lines at stores (makes me shop on line more)

People at work that look at their blackberry's during meetings and even while having a one on one meeting with the person.

OK I am going to end it here, I am starting to stress out while thinking of my pet peeves, AHHH!!!!!!!!!!!!!

I am 2 years older.

34 and 36

Sorry peeps. Here are the pics!!!

Here are two pics of my wedding dress. I love this dress so much.

The back is detachable so I can take it off at the reception and boogie all night!!!

The front is just as beautiful but it needs to be taken in so the pics didn't come out good for the front.

B

We are. But it's our fault. Delays in providing paperwork for the 1st RFE back in April.

Next week I will be mailing them in and PRAYING for an approval in November.

B

My mom's pumpkin pie with sour cream topping (it's actually sour cream, cream cheese and sugar whipped up). Rhubarb & Strawberry, and lemon meringue.

For not so sweet, feta cheese pie. Yummmmmmmmmmyyyy!!!

THis is AWESOME!!!! THis Saturday is POUNDING with APPROVALS!!!

Way to gooooooooooooooooo!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

2007 is going to be such a beautiful New Year for everyone!!!

Good Morning from New York!!!

Woke up with a phone call from my baby. He is working so hard this past week, double shifts at work.

It's Saturday and raining. Perfect day to sit in my PJ's, drink a cup of coffee in my favorite mug and chill out.

Once I am fully awake I am getting dressed and doing my laundry, then grocery shopping and should get my oil checked on my car. Actually I should have the car looked at first.

This weekend I think will be the last one that I can really relax. The next couple of weeks at work are going to be crazy. It's very busy this time of year. I work for a large brokerage firm and all of our new clients want to be opened and running before year end.

Ahhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh!!!!!!!!!!!! Can we say STRESSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSS!!!!

Here's to all of you for a relaxing weekend

I bought him cologne last trip there. Bottle of Johnny Walker last year. My first big purchase was last week and he got it today. I bought him underwear, undershirts, 3 three t shirts, socks and a jogging suit. I had too, his stuff is soooooooooooooooooooooo worn to death!!!!!

Is this considered lavish????

So sorry to hear this

Yayyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyy!!! Happy to see someone from MARCH made it!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

B

The Notaries did the right thing. I am a Notary and what we are stating is that you are the person that is presenting the documents with ID and we state that it is a true document.

If you are looking for a "Certified" copy you need to contact the County Clerks office that signed your final divorce decree. You call them or right a letter, find out what the fee is (mine was $5) and they will send you a "Certified Copy" and it states that it is a Certified Copy of the original divorce document.

I know it's confusing but I got this information when I spoke with a lawyer a couple of months ago and they explained this.

I am doing the same for my Birth Certificate.

B

Peter Alexander for a boy (Peter after my dad, Alexander because we both like it)

Dorthea Rose for a girl (Dorthea means gift from God in Greek and Rose because that's the symbol I prayed for when I asked God to show me the sign of the rose when I meet the right man. My fiance showed me a picture of a rose on his cell phone when he first asked for my phone number. And it's my Great Aunt's name).

For the K1 application I submitted the copy of my final divorce decree, and they didn't give me an RFE. But they did give me an RFE for my fiance's final divorce decrees. In the waiting period I still went to the County Clerks office and requested a certified copy of mine. I gave this to my fiance for his future interview in case they ask for it.

We will see................

My bank did the same thing. THey only gave me a letter with the accounts/ current balance and date accounts were opened. I requested my statements on the phone that I couldn't get on line and had January to current month of statements to include.

Hey, they ask for it, they get it!