vanillabean

I notice you posted a pic in your profile ... is that to show all of us that we have insecurites and you don't ? Or is it just to prove that people that look like you don't have fraud marriages ? Please enlighten me ...

Funny. For some reason the way I pictured her she was a lot older...

Funny, I didn't know people still wore neon pink.

Umm, actually, what I meant was I thought we had a "pot calling the kettle black" situation going on, but from your picture, I can see that's not the case.

I see you saw my wedding photo. Thank you for the fashion advice.

Yes, I did. You and your hubby make a very cute couple (congrats!). When I read your post, it didn't come across as you meaning what you thought. Sorry!

I just reported her for violation of TOS, I suggest that all of us do this.

Good. I reported each sneer post just as well. I can play this game just as well.

Funny that you reported sneers when they all were derived from your personal attacks that you initiated on this ENTIRE forum! Did you expect us to send you flowers?

Did you expect me to apologize??

Feel free to PM me if you have any suggestions on members who you think might be doing things not in the interest of the community . You PM will be kept private.

Ewok,

Check out vanillabean. She may need some disiprining

PLEASE....she is out of hand BIG time!!!

And the rest are not, right??? Just me.

I just reported her for violation of TOS, I suggest that all of us do this.

Good. I reported each sneer post just as well. I can play this game just as well.

I notice you posted a pic in your profile ... is that to show all of us that we have insecurites and you don't ? Or is it just to prove that people that look like you don't have fraud marriages ? Please enlighten me ...

Funny. For some reason the way I pictured her she was a lot older...

Funny, I didn't know people still wore neon pink.

Thank you for your insight and for being the only adult in here.

I didn't want to bring this onto the board, but the person who did PM me with her comments, couldn't handle what I had to say. If you're going to PM with your childish comments, keep them to yourself.

OMG, and you think what you're doing isn't childish??

Yes, Carrie, yes, you are right.

It's ok for everyone to gang up on one person here instead of Laura handling her own dirty work, right?

actually YOU did that Vanillabutt - YOU posted about ME in the open forum. what did you expect LOL

poor u

sure, bran-flake.

Thank you for your insight and for being the only adult in here.

I didn't want to bring this onto the board, but the person who did PM me with her comments, couldn't handle what I had to say. If you're going to PM with your childish comments, keep them to yourself.

OMG, and you think what you're doing isn't childish??

Yes, Carrie, yes, you are right.

It's ok for everyone to gang up on one person here instead of Laura handling her own dirty work, right?

VanillaBean I do not understand your beef. I always say that the ones bringing our loved ones over from the ME/Asian forums really need to stick together and support one another. I see Morocco is listed in your profile. I have not said anything ugly to you and always try to post each post with the utmost respect and wish to have the same given to me. I was dismayed by your posts yesterday and then today to start a post with one persons name on it. Each of us may not agree but we can say things that are tactful instead of giving broad statements encompasses a whole group or pick on one person and do it in a nasty fashion. And if you have a problem with a member you can always pm them.

I hope you find happiness and understanding in your life.

Rahma, Thanks for JigglyPuff picture since I did not understand the reference.

Thank you for your insight and for being the only adult in here.

I didn't want to bring this onto the board, but the person who did PM me with her comments, couldn't handle what I had to say. If you're going to PM with your childish comments, keep them to yourself.

I have no clue who she is talking about but all i have to say is if someone has beef with someone else they should come here and fight their own battles. What a copout.

She is a copout. She didn't want to finish what she started...obviously.

Why PM me, then block me? Can't take what you give??

GROW UP!!! Do you ever have anything nice to say? From going back and reading every post you've made, ONE TIME did you say something decent! If you and your relationship are so perfect, then why the hell are you here?

Ok Carrie, I'll be fake then, oh, I mean tactful. I don't know how some of you act one way here, but are completely different when emailing one another privately.

And I'm here because I was asked to be here by some of your own "friends".

i highly doubt that vanillabutt, unless you *out* them or they admit to unleashing a raving lunatic on us....

I would never tell, jigglypuff...

I don't know how some of you act one way here, but are completely different when emailing one another privately.

And I'm here because I was asked to be here by some of your own "friends".

I have no idea what you're talking about.

you might not, but some do...

Why PM me, then block me? Can't take what you give??

GROW UP!!! Do you ever have anything nice to say? From going back and reading every post you've made, ONE TIME did you say something decent! If you and your relationship are so perfect, then why the hell are you here?

Ok Carrie, I'll be fake then, oh, I mean tactful. I don't know how some of you act one way here, but are completely different when emailing one another privately.

And I'm here because I was asked to be here by some of your own "friends".

It's funny how a GUY can post about age difference and not be attacked, but a woman cannot say a damn thing.... how hypocritical is that?

Seems like some of us need to grow an extra layer of skin, eh?

Quoting kml on another post:

I'm sure Simo never meant to offend no one or blame the returned petitions, but in a way he is right.

I had my interview on April 17,& luckily i got the nice guy.There was another girl on k1 who was being interviwed by the lady & she gave her a real hard time.& to be honest i dont blame the CO.why?

1. She doesnt know english & claimes to understand it, & when the CO asks her in english she just keeps staring at her.

2. Her fiance (USC) doesnt speak neither arabic or frensh, so obviously the CO had to ask her "how do u communicate with eachother??".Hell, I thought of that question even before the CO asked her that

3. The age diffrence of 20 YEARS

4. Her sister in the USA arranged the marriage

5. They dont have any proof of on going relationship like emails, phone bills, chats, etc...

Yes i was evesdroping on em in case i was asked the same questions, but all of a sudden the guy CO calls my name

I'm not saying that you have similar red flags or that u even have any, but just blaming the CO isn't gonna get you any closer to being with your loved one.

Hope i didnt offend anyone with this post, just remember one thing, "we are all here for the same purpose".

Good luck to everyone on their journey...

Um excuse me you troll... if you simply posted about age difference that would be one thing, it was the way you said it. You don't even know anyone here to judge them.

your quote from off topic - Take a look at the middle eastern/north africa pics, THOSE seem quite fradulent. These old women are bringing their boy toys from overseas......

What I think is funny is how you would go in another forum and direct negative attention to us in here and then come in here and try to befriend us. This is not about one specific person at all. I am offended by your comment in off topic simply bcz the women in here have always been supportive and they are friends. We do get into spats, have disagreements, but we are all adults and no one here has sunk to your level nor do I think we could ever be so low.

I wasn't trying to befriend anyone JP...

Can't help but feed the trolls once in awhile..............

There is a HUGE difference in our age. It has never been an issue. I take care of myself and look/act 10 years younger than I am, Mohammed looks/acts 10 years older than he is....so we meet in the middle.

I am hot. It's a fact---no insecurities here.

Jackie

That's great Jackie! Being secure is the key.

No reason to take it personally unless something isn't feeling right...

It's funny how a GUY can post about age difference and not be attacked, but a woman cannot say a damn thing.... how hypocritical is that?

Seems like some of us need to grow an extra layer of skin, eh?

Quoting kml on another post:

I'm sure Simo never meant to offend no one or blame the returned petitions, but in a way he is right.

I had my interview on April 17,& luckily i got the nice guy.There was another girl on k1 who was being interviwed by the lady & she gave her a real hard time.& to be honest i dont blame the CO.why?

1. She doesnt know english & claimes to understand it, & when the CO asks her in english she just keeps staring at her.

2. Her fiance (USC) doesnt speak neither arabic or frensh, so obviously the CO had to ask her "how do u communicate with eachother??".Hell, I thought of that question even before the CO asked her that

3. The age diffrence of 20 YEARS

4. Her sister in the USA arranged the marriage

5. They dont have any proof of on going relationship like emails, phone bills, chats, etc...

Yes i was evesdroping on em in case i was asked the same questions, but all of a sudden the guy CO calls my name

I'm not saying that you have similar red flags or that u even have any, but just blaming the CO isn't gonna get you any closer to being with your loved one.

Hope i didnt offend anyone with this post, just remember one thing, "we are all here for the same purpose".

Good luck to everyone on their journey...

i came to my senses that you are senseless.

uh, i doubt that. i think i hit a fluffy spot.

dont feed the trolls!

yeah, just keep on feeding yourself....

WHEEEE!!!! I just learned how to use the "ignore" feature Bye bye, bean!

Noura

I never even PM'd you.....

Why PM me, then block me? Can't take what you give??

Well, I think if you take offense to certain posts, then there must be insecurities of some sort.

I don't feel bad for what I posted, nor do I apologize.

How does taking offense to something mean that you're insecure? I might take offense to many things, that does not mean that those things are even relevant to my life. I am offended by racial slurs against African Americans, for example. I am not African American. I am not insecure about anything involved, it just so happens that I take offense.

Now your comment in the other thread... I do not feel that your comment applies to me. But I am offended nonetheless. You may feel what you said to be true, and that's fine. Do you not see that what you said though is very unkind? If being unkind does not make you feel bad or give you the urge to apologize, so be it.

I stand corrected, I should not have said "offended" but "if you take it personally".

Well, I think if you take offense to certain posts, then there must be insecurities of some sort.

I don't feel bad for what I posted, nor do I apologize.

One of my best friends is 23, engaged to a 51 year old man. Both Americans. How do you explain that?

Is he rich?????

Thanks...my Denzel happens to have gotten the short end of this stick. He loves and supports not only me and our daughter, but my other children more than their American father. And for this...my country keeps him from his only child. While all these illegals get to live and work in MY country.

You 2 look good together, no fraud there.

are you serious?? (not that you don't look good terri o'neal! but I mean, deciding if something is fraud or not by the picture....)

Take a look at the middle eastern/north africa pics, THOSE seem quite fradulent. These old women are bringing their boy toys from overseas......

And why are your SOs coming here? Because they're in love? YEAH, MAYBE, but they're living in 3rd world countries that are far worse than Mexico and they want OUT too.

Speak for yourself, please...

The truth hurts, I guess.

I do feel for those who are honest and sincere people and for their SOs who do want to come here for real love and I hope they will be here soon.

Why not deport all Cubans? Canadians? Not ALL are her legally. People only talk about the US/Mexico border, but not the US/Canada border. People from other countries get smuggled in through Mexico as well, not just Mexicans.

You know what I wish we could see? I wish that when these illegals protest tomorrow the INS shows up with a few hundred buses and start rounding up the ones without green cards. Then just drive them to the border and kick them out. I think we would see a lot less protesting then.

Rounding up everyone without green cards would not be appropriate. Those that enter the country on the K-3 visa adjust status after they arrive and have to wait for their green cards. If they did what you feel they should do, they could be shipping people out of the country that are here legally and have struggled through this process as we all are. Not everyone here legally has a green card.

I think you know what I meant. Anyone that isn't here legaly should be rounded up and sent packing. I still stand behind the idea.

Well, I think if Mexico were replaced with any other country, ie, the Phillipines, UK, etc, your wife/husband or SO would be crossing those borders just as well for a chance at a better life rather than marrying someone/you to get a free ticket here.

And why are your SOs coming here? Because they're in love? YEAH, MAYBE, but they're living in 3rd world countries that are far worse than Mexico and they want OUT too. If you were living in Mexico or any 3rd world country, you would want out TOO by any means possible.

You'd be amazed at how many first generation latinos are not what you see on tv...a lot HAVE accomplished their goals, etc and don't take being here for granted.

And what is the US??? NOTHING but a melting pot. Where are your ancestors from? How did they get here?

Geez, vanillabean, lighten up!!! Simo is only trying to help others w/ his experience, and very obviously he and Carrie have been around here a little longer than you. Did it ever occur to you that maybe, just *maybe* it's not the consulars, but perhaps in the way that things are presented, or the way your SO responds/reacts to questions..... Carrie did a fine job of preparing Simo thanks to the help of other's experiences.... he's only trying to do the same for us..... play nice, now, please

Noura

Hey Noura,

My husband has been here for several years and we are at the naturalization point. I recently joined, but have read posts for quite a long time now. Does seniority mean other's opinions don't count?

The people whose cases have been returned are suffering and they do not need people who have had success coming on here and blaming them for their bad luck. Everyone knows how those female CO's are.

Kiyah and others have been returned unjustly.

I don't know who you are, but NO ONE is blaming anybody for bad luck. ALL we are trying to do is give our visa experience just like EVERYONE else here does. If I am not mistaken, we were asked to post the interview experience for others following behind us to understand better. All he was trying to express is that the more you know and the better you prepare the easier it will be on you. You need to chill out with the hostilaty. I don't see where anyone was pointing fingers or trying to say what they did wrong cause in the end, NONE of us know the cirumstances surrounding each others relationships. Stop being so defensive!!! If you don't like what is said....move on to another post!

Carrie,

YOU CAN DO THE SAME. If you don't like what I have to say, DON'T READ IT!!!

Geez, vanillabean, lighten up!!! Simo is only trying to help others w/ his experience, and very obviously he and Carrie have been around here a little longer than you. Did it ever occur to you that maybe, just *maybe* it's not the consulars, but perhaps in the way that things are presented, or the way your SO responds/reacts to questions..... Carrie did a fine job of preparing Simo thanks to the help of other's experiences.... he's only trying to do the same for us..... play nice, now, please

Noura

Hey Noura,

My husband has been here for several years and we are at the naturalization point. I recently joined, but have read posts for quite a long time now. Does seniority mean other's opinions don't count?

The people whose cases have been returned are suffering and they do not need people who have had success coming on here and blaming them for their bad luck. Everyone knows how those female CO's are.

Kiyah and others have been returned unjustly.

if you really don't speak english well but practice interview's questions and answers in english, when somthing goes wrong it's not consulars it is you or petition or not enough proofs, so plz try to work out all this points before interview and then don't worry about any of those ppl in the consulate.

good luck guy and thank you very much .

I am happy you had success, but I think it is darn low of you to come in here and blame fellow VJ'ers for their their cases being returned. You don't really know anything about their cases and it is unfair and unsupportive to blame them.

If your love IS real like you claim, why ALL the training??? Are you worried you wouldn't of passed without it?