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I moved to the US in Nov 2015 legally, my husband and 1 met in 2012 online and went through the whole nine yards to get me here.

Am pregnant with our 2nd baby and life I great. I miss my family and that is driving me crazy. We have decided that time is right to invite at least my mum and sis to come visit. We don't know how to start the process and any/all advises will be appreciated. I just renewed my green card after 2 years so am not a citizen yet. my husband is however a citizen. 

I didnt submit mine either. I went with it to the interview and i was approved. So no big deal.

She is married, pls don't complicate it by putting single. They will not ask for an official document to show that.

The Co will ask her why she wants to go stay with you instead of her husband. If her husband is dead, she will need to show prove. If divorced she will be asked for prove.

They are aware that in most cases Africa traditional marriages don't have paper documents per say.

She will need loads of pictures of her n u when u were lil and also with u, her n siblings.

Worse case senerio, they will ask her to get a dna done. In that case, they will also refer you to a hospital in the US to get same done. Good luck.

In my case, I put NO.

A lil pop up page asked me why i haven't had this vaccinations:My explanation was that I will get them done before I come to the embassy for the interview.

Remember that she will be doing her medicals b4 interview and all of those vaccinations will be given to her.

I advice you get co-sponsors

They can. My Nigerian husband and I were married in Ghana.

Yes Nigerian can get married anywhere. My cousin and Nigerian wife got married in the UK. The thing is she wants to get married in the US where her family and friends can attend. And to get that done, he has to be there. The issue now is getting him over.

Congratulations! I am sure the 4wk old baby was pretty helpful evidence.

Just curious re questions such as tattoos? How is this type of information vetted? Do they actually inspect persons visually for all their various tattoos or just corroborate your answers?

Lol.....I don't think they inspect to verify those answers but they definitely will compare answers from both of them to see if same.

Congratulations.

I understand you want your family to be at your wedding but kindly take advice from the experienced ones who tell you this route will not be successful.

Come with one of your parents/relatives so your dowry can be paid or a court marriage. Then go back to the US for a big white wedding where all your family and friends can attend.

It will hurt to spend money on attorney n other stuffs to be denied again.

Good luck

From your profile story, you met him in Ghana. Is he Ghanian or Nigerian? If he is Nigerian and asked that you meet him in Ghana, pls run as fast as your legs can carry you because he is possibly married with kids.

Am so so so sorry this happened to you. I wish I could give you a huge hug right now.

Look at the bright side. If he is hiding this information from you, how many more important things is he hiding?

Maybe he is really married with a kid and is hiding it from you.....(just thinking)

This is a very sensitive subject matter but if I were in your shoes, I would dump him,cry so hard to relief myself of all the hurt, take a shower, go to the spa for a soothing massage, put on a lovely dress n makeup, get something great to eat and buy myself a gift for all my troubles.

God bless you and good luck with whatever choice you make.

Am happy for you. .....Congratulations!!!

Wow. ...great news. Congratulations to both of you.

Thank you calicolom. This is not the man i met. I know he needs help professional help. Please dont judge. I know he person i married. I know who my sons father is. Deep insdide I know there is help he needs to henal from his past. He faces this at home with his parents and he cant let go of that. PLease only answer what is being asked. Thanks!

One great thing about this site is that the black and white truth is told. We don't tell you what you want to hear but here we give and receive blunt truths to help us make informed decisions. You said he faced this at home with his parents, do you want your sons to see,learn and also do this?

An sorry if you think am judging. Good luck with whatever choice you make.

You should be protected not beaten. Kindly allow law enforcement to do their job and deport him. He might do more than this next time. Some decisions are very difficult to make, but they are necessary and beneficial in the long run. Hope you feel better now? (I mean the body ache) Good luck

About 70% of all those who were interviewed same day as me were granted visa's. Except for a few unique cases, that took a while, the average time per person was 10 -15 minutes. I have also heard encouraging stories lately from the lagos embassy. It will however be great if you can come more than once.

That said, they key word is honesty and confidence. The CO's are smart so even if you have all the evidence and you cannot verbally defend them, they will throw you off balance.

I think you should Visit once and file,then try to be around for the interview. Stay as long as you can during the visit and get as much evidence as you can. Good luck

Don't get stressed up over that. It won't affect you. I applied for a B1/B2 twice and I was declined. My intention was to visit and come back b4 we file for k1.

Since I was declined, he however filed and I got the visa.

We went through the k1 route also and my visa was approved in July. It's easier and faster. Like they have all said visit Nigeria and get engaged(keep the receipt of the ring). Start gathering as much evidence as you can now. Take lots of pictures with him also family and friends,phone records,Hotels receipt etc.

You however have to be very patient. It's can be a long journey sometimes. Good luck

It's because of instances like this that makes it difficult for other innocent Nigerians with good intentions to pass through immigration without thoroughly being scrutinised..because of instances like this,thats why fraud is all over us when it comes to immigration..people that truly love each other and want to be with each other go through hell because of people like you..u want to marry another American girl? I'm so surprised that's the next thing on your mind.Do u even care enough to want to know why she's not in contact with you?? NO,because you have an ulterior motive..Get a life pls

You are absolutely correct.

Marrying ANOTHER AMERICAN GIRL? I suspect she feels you married her for the GC. That's why she and entire family is ignoring you. I might be wrong.

My advice is you use all means possible to get her back. I think that should be more important than the interview at the embassy. But again, that's if you love her

The people who tell the OP that they should meet more are not only referring to the fact that people behind a screen can hide stuff. They're referring to the fact that a lot of people have a hard time getting approved if they haven't really spent any real time together.

Someone question her choice of wanting to marry someone she has met just once and if she thinks that is good enough that was why I said that.

We are all here for advice and support on this very difficult and challenging process. We doubt ourselves sometimes so what is needed is constructive advise and encouragement as many others including yourself have done.

The people who tell the OP that they should meet more are not only referring to the fact that people behind a screen can hide stuff. They're referring to the fact that a lot of people have a hard time getting approved if they haven't really spent any real time together.

Someone question her choice of wanting to marry someone she has met just once and if she thinks that is good enough that was why I said that.

We are all here for advice and support on this very difficult and challenging process. We doubt ourselves sometimes so what is needed is constructive advise and encouragement as many others including yourself have done.

To people who think meeting him more is so ooo important: I don't dispute that but trust me, people can hide whatever they don't want u to know. A guy dated a girl in the same city for 5 years and killed her 1 week after marriage.

As for the interview be bold and honest. My interview was approved last month as one other lady who was there. She met her husband online. He proposed on phone, they planed the wedding on phone, they meet just once and that was during the wedding. He only stayed for 1 month, she was sincere and she got the approval. My country is highly scrutinised by CO'S as yours.

Your case is unique as many other cases here, but if the intention is genuine and you are sincere, it is possible.

Good luck

Congratulations

Ok, I suggest she goes to the pickup venue with her collection stub and valid ID card.

Didn't the CO tell you when to pick it up? In my case which was last month, I was told when to pick it up and I also got an email telling me that my passport and docs have been picked up from the lagos embassy and that I could proceed to the pickup center which was earlier than the 2 weeks the CO told me.