Karel

i had UTI when i was in High School, and felt it just a year ago..it's normal for female right? but i'm worried..might affect the medical exam result...any advice?thanks

fel

It's not "normal" but it's common. To be sure just have a urinalysis & all you really need is a 7 day course of antibiotics if found positive. But as other people have told you, it's not ground for denial.

Gyrona40,

My stepdaughter is 16, was abandomed by her mom 10 years ago and had never kept in touch with her; she uses marijuana, has been kicked out of school and hangs around with the wrong kids. This gives you an idea of the magnitude of the problem she is adding to our own issues. My husband had even be present at the time she had threaten me, he had done nothing but saying to her "stop, if you don't have anything good to say at all, don't say anything", he had never punished her because of this. He punished her for swearing at me, because I push him a lot to do so. He does nothing about the other issues she has, even if I help by finding drug programms, counseling options. We're taking together a parent project course for parents of strong willed teenagers (I finally persuade him to take that class after a fight) he has found ways to sabotage the new information learnt in class, he's is very soft and permissive and is afraid of setting boundaries to his daughter. I'm sorry he's so weak and passive to face the situation, that's one of the big reasons I have to say he's not the kind of husband I want for me or the father for my future kids. He'll rather confront me than to confront her. I honestly feel the biggest obstacle I have in my new family is him more than her. So, I don't see chances the situation improves. I wish I would because I love him and I've came this far for him.

Please tell me what can I do to stay in the U.S without depending on him for a residence? what organisations might help me?

If you'll tell the State where you are right now, maybe there'll be more specific agencies that we can add to help you. I was a counselor for foster teens for about 2 years and the conflict you have with your stepdaughter is very common. Usually, stepmoms has the desire to help, care, and embrace the stepkids as their own and would behave in a manner that is perceive to be Mom like. However, stepkids esp teenagers doesn't see it that way.

You said you love your husband and you wish your situation improves. In my opinion, four months is not enough gauge to give up on the relationship. You're new in the country, just newly married, & though you didn't say it, Im assuming you don't have a job at this time (correct me if im wrong). There'll be less strain in the future if you'll find a job that will give you time to be out of the house for few hours everyday. That would also give you opportunities to meet new friends and earn some money of your own. Im not saying you stay for the heck of your GC, but stay if you really want to give your relationship a time to improve. As regards your stepdaughter's threats, just be careful & back off a little bit. Just let your husband deal with her for the meantime whether you agree or disagree with his parenting styles.

If you leave around the Inland Empire in California, pm me if you like & I will try to see if the agencies that I know can help you. Take care!

Karel

Yesterday my fiance told me that she made out with another guy for 15 min. She says no intercourse, but the requisite amount of kissing and touching. There is only one American man in her college. She decides to make friends with him, then goes to his dorm alone. Then she says she was surprised at what happened. I do admire her honesty in telling me about this 1 hour after it occurred. But my feeling is that we are engaged to be married. How can she do this to me? I also think, if she seeks the one American man in her college and does this with him, how can I bring her to the USA and trust her with all the American horndogs around here? It seems no way. Even though she swears it will never happen again and begs for another chance, I know I will just get hurt again. 4 trips to China, $25,000 and countless hours now seem all to be wasted. All thrown away in 15 minutes. But I am not an angel either. I lied about a previous marriage until my 3rd trip to China. Being 30 years older than her doesn't help either. But I came clean and I have been true to her (except about my past) since we met. Maybe it's my come uppance. Now I need to think about whether I should give her up. But I know now that I can't bring her here. Comments and thoughts (even brutally honest ones) are welcome.

Mike

My fiance's interview is supposedly scheduled Nov 28th, but last month I caught him cheating on me. Hell! I didn't send him the affidavit of support papers & I faxed a letter to the Manila Embassy that I've changed my mind & I'm withdrawing the petition. You might think that it's kind of harsh, but the last cheating has been the third time. He already cheated on me twice in the past and I have forgiven him for that because I love him. His friends & family are telling me that "he's a guy and he's only doing that because we're apart and he's lonely." #######! I was so depressed for 2 weeks, but now I'm okay. No way in hell that he'll come here in the US through me. And like you, I made 4 trips in the Philippines, 1 trip for me & him in Hongkong, and about $15,000 in cash & gifts for the last two & a half years for him and his family.

Lying about your previous marriage is bad, but that doesn't give the other party an excuse to cheat. And I'm not telling you not to forgive her, but believe me it's hard to put that incident at the back of your mind. I know because it happened to me.

Take care!!!

Karel

Gary - Glad to see you back!!!

Yna - Goodluck to you and Ethan.

Uling- Goodluck to you & Wilma, are you going to the Philippines for Wilma's interview???

PW - Really glad to see the face behind the most hardworking member of the Manila Embassy interview thread.

I was so busy & depressed lately that I haven't had the chance to wish everybody goodluck on their interviews and congratulate those who passed. And for the November folks, I know you guys gonna have a party, but don't count me in coz my fiance & I broke off the engagement two weeks ago. It's a long story & it's really "petty" but that's part of life that I just have to accept I guess.

Thank you folks & I wish everyone the best.

Karina

"Expedited due to age-out" What does that mean?

As far as I remember, Jo's kids who are also being petitioned are going 18 soon, am I right Jo&John? Or am I remembering someone else's timeline.

I'm sleepy. Just got home from work.

Karel

Hi all,

What a great board!!!! Long time lurker, first time poster...

I'm finally putting together my K-1 packet for Alina and I after almost two years of acquaintance and 4 trips within the last year and a half.

I know one of the conditions for being approved for the visa is to have actually met in person within the last two years. Well, I've visited Alina 4 times (as mentioned above) within that stipulated time period. Now here's the big question:

How many of these trips should I show documentation for (photos, passport pages, airline boarding stubs, itineraries, hotel receipts, train tickets, etc)? It almost seems like overkill to send in all of this stuff for all of these trips. Can I just get away with sending in the evidence for the first trip, and then mention in my I-129F supplement that we've met 3 other times and then list the dates of those trips?

Honestly, it would take an adjudicator a year to go through all of the documentation I have on this relationship, and I've actually heard that too much evidence can work against you.

So which is it, and what should I do???

Thanks!

How about few BUT important evidence of each trip? I met my fiance 3x before I filed the K1 & I included evidence for each trip. You really don't need to put everything that you have for each trip, maybe just those that would weigh the most. I think there are examples in the guide of primary & secondary evidence if Im not mistaken.

Goodluck!

Karel

Ok you guys, our interview is Monday @ 8:30am at the South Korean Embassy. Well, actually he will be having his interview Sunday night here due to the large time difference. Anyway, we are getting very nervous, and I know everytime I thing about it I get butterflies in my stomach.. I am very postitive, we have everything in order and have all paperwork needed, and were well prepared ahead of time. Just want my VJ friends to wish us luck, prayers and keep your fingers crossed for us.....thanks everyone for your support through this past 8 months....I could not have gotten this far without you.

~Stacey

For you and your fiance, just take a couple of breaths to relieve the tension! And tell him to sleep early on Sunday night & eat light breakfast on the day of interview. Everything we'll be fine. LOVE CONQUERS ALL!!! Goodluck!

Karel

Packet 4 received 09-23-06. Another boxed checked and one more step closer...

Same here. My fiance received packet 4 on September 23, 2006.

Karel

I had my interview this morning, and we are approved! I saw the "approved" sticker on my folder.

PW, please update the list. Thanks to all from this forum who have helped us a lot.

Audrey

Congratulations!!!

Goodluck to Joel and Analyn, Sillygirl, and TomnJas!!!

Karel

He is 29 years old & immature. I am 37 years old and more immature. 8 years difference in immaturity,

Karel

Congratulations guys for your interview dates!!! God bless and hope you all get your visas and no ARs!!!!! Praying we will also get an1st week Dec interview!!!

Im Happy for you!!! :-)

Elizabeth, our physical files were received a day earlier than yours & we're just lucky we made it for the November schedule. I'm hoping that you get at least the 1st week of December in time for the holidays.

I always knew my fiance would be here before Christmas, I just have that feeling!

PW= thank you for all the advice & work that you're doing for this thread. Wish you the best!!!

Everyone, just hang in there and goodluck!

Karina and Joel

I am not sure but here is a list of the 3 locations perhaps your SO could call one and find out.

Manila - Escolta

G/F 288

Escolta Twin Towers

Escolta Manila

Phone : 241-5450

Office Hrs. :

10:00-9:00 (Mon-Sun)

Manila - Robinson's Place Manila

Level 3, Robinsons Place Adriatico St.

Ermita Manila 100

Phone : (525) 4812

Fax : 800-7964

Office Hrs. :

10:00-9:00 (Mon-Sun)

Manila - Quirino Avenue

858 San Andres st.

Malate Estrella Condominium cor.

Quirino Ave. Manila

Phone : 536-0369 / 536-0370

Fax : 536-0396

Office Hrs. :

8:00-6:00 (Mon-Sat)

Of the three that YuandDan posted, the closest is the one in Robinson's Place in Ermita. But as suggested, call them also because they might have additional FEDEX locations that are not yet listed in the Fedex website.

Goodluck!

Karel

Can anyone tell me about the seminar my fiancee has to attend before leaving to come to USA? Do i need to attend also? They say no they just need a copy of my passport. Do i myself need any documents? Any one who has already attended this seminar in manila recently could give me any info I would greatly appreciate it. She has her visa now i'm just going back and we are coming back together to start our lives together and i can't wait :-)

Thank you everyone for all the help and support, hand in there it will surely come.

Louie

Try these links:

http://www.geocities.com/aleiana/k1/cfo.html

http://www.cfo.gov.ph/fs_manila.htm (Manila)

http://www.cfo.gov.ph/fs_cebu.htm (Cebu)

Karel

Fellow Manila VJ'ers (especially those with late July/early August NOA2), please read my post "HELP - I'm so confused!" in the Foreign Embassy and Consulate General Discussion. I just put it there and I am so confused. In a nutshell, the Dept. of State just informed me that whomever entered my fiancee's address into the computer left out her city!!!! So, they told me to e-mail the embassy the full address (which is clearly listed in her package) and request that they send Packet 3 ASAP (yep, Packet 3...I thought we didn't get that, only Packet 4, but she says otherwise). The specialist told me that she won't get an appointment date until she gets Packet 3 and mails the embassy her DS-230!!!! (YIKES) That means instead of the November appt we were expecting, we're going to be pushed back who knows how long!

Anyway, I'm really confused and could really use your knowledge and experience. Please post here are check my other thread for more details.

Oh, and congratulations to all of you who are now receiving appointment dates for October and November - good on ya!

I suggest that you call the Manila Embassy also - 0116325286300 ext. 5184.

As for the Packet 3, whoever you talk to at DOS is just plain STUP..!

Karel

I really don't understand why my case is so far behind. If they have updated the website, and even November is filled up already (since my case isn't coming up at the URL http://203.177.135.10/ivappointment/login.asp ) I must be looking at a time sometime next year!

I was one of the last who finally got their IMBRA forms, but one of the ones closest to the March 6th deadline when I originaly filed it took 2 days to get NOA1. I don't understand how people later than me got their RFE's sooner (by about a month) and now their interviews?

This is just very upsetting.

That is very odd and upsetting. Have you called the Manila Embassy to inquire about your case?

Yeah, try calling the Manila Embassy. Your timeline didn't say when the Consulate received your physical files, but NVC receiving it since May? I would be upset too!!!

Goodluck!!!

Karel

Who else is considering attending their fiancee's interview at the embassy? I would really like to be there, and then to accompany her on the trip back.

My only concern is: how to time the flight to her visa being delivered. The timelines are no less than 5 working days for delivery (assuming no complications).

Our interview is Wednesday Nov 15th, so I am thinking flight leaving Manila on Thursday Nov 23rd, which is Thanksgiving Day (ugh).

Any ideas on logistics of all this?

If you look at the other thread " Manila Embassy...... " that was started by Windchaser, the average days for visa to be in your hands is about 6 to 10 days.

Karel

PW - U'd probably have a lot of updating to do because of the November interview schedule. Kindy update ours, my fiance's interview is on NOVEMBER 28TH at 7AM.

Congratulations to everyone, I wonder what Yna's schedule is. Hey YNa, keep us posted!!!!

Karel

http://203.177.135.10/ivappointment/login.asp Check link ours is Nov 27th 7 am

Thanks ED for the tip, ours is on November 28th at 7am. YIPPPEEEE!!!!!

Las Vegas for NEW Year, here we come!!!!

Karel

Not sure who this is, the petitioner or the beneficiary. I will take the perspective of the petitioner.

If you are concerned about it enough to post, can you supply a "sponsor" in advance?

If your Fiance has not yet had the interview, plan for success and get an I-134 from someone that can be a co-sponsor for her.

Are you familiar with the poverty guidelines of income? If not, suggest you "read up" quick.

Do not have her go into an interview with doubts. You do not want to dig yourself out of a hole.

Plan for success!!!

I agree 100%

Where it says: life insurance, cash surrender value of , what is that? is it the total amount of the insurance if I die?

It's only applicable for insurance policies that have cash surrender value like whole life, universal life, etc. Term policy as Jersey girl said, doesn't count. For my case I have a term life policy that I had for 5 yrs and a whole life that I just had for over a year. I just put "unknown" on the cash surrender value field and I was told that it wouldn't cause any problem. If you meet the poverty line with your salary, I'm pretty sure that your insurance policy won't even matter.

Karel

Congrats!! and I know it's not your fault but do you realize how sick to my stomach I feel(and I'm sure others) reading your post???

Everyday day gets worse I swear. Now Aug NOA1's are even being approved? They had my petition over 2 months before you even got engaged? 5 months before your NOA1!! I was hoping to have my fiance here by x-mas but that's about impossible now. I guess 10 months isn't long enough to wait? <--sarcasm

I don't want to hear how CSC is finally clearing things up and fixing their mess!!!

They're as screwed up as ever!! How can they even THINK about processing and approving your petition when they still have so many others from 6 MONTHS ago???

I can't even comprehend their stupidity anymore. It's beyond De de de!!! See Carlos Mencia for that!!!

Again I'm not mad at you, but please don't complain how it doesn't fit your schedule! Give me a friggin break

Hornet....I know how upset you are, but as I read the OP's post, I don't think she's complaining. She probably just didn't expect that their papers would be approved that fast. You also have to consider that the OP's fiance is from England and our fiance/fiancee are from the Philippines.

To the OP, congratulations!!! As everybody have said, you can have your interview schedule on a later date.

Karel

i've spoken to Lorraine G. before and your right about her being very nice and accommodating. she told me Nov might be possible but Dec. more likely coz of the number of petitions they have coming into the Embassy.

Yeah, she told me Nov/Dec also because of the number of petitions lately, but I don't want December. My crystal ball says we'll get a November interview,

Oh my goodness, I'm going nuts!

Regards on your journey!

Karel

We have been waiting for an interview date since 08 Aug 06. This hurry up and wait thing is getting real old… real FAST! If I am not mistaken, the interview dates are not set further than 90 days out. I'm going to double check that, but in the mean time... Is this true?

Also, I keep getting conflicting information concerning when our interview date will be issued. The Department of State rep said that interview dates for Nov are eminent and to call back every week. However, the Manila Embassy staff, who at first told me that we will be issued an interview date sometime within the last week of August and the first week of Sept, have now told me that they anticipate interview dates for November will be set by the end of this month. Has anyone waiting for an interview date heard anything different?

My fiancée and I simply want to have a date to work against… How hard is it to issue a freakin’ interview date!!!

I called Manila Embassy this morning ( Manila time) and was told the same thing. I was told that the "supposedly" schedule that would be out 1st week of September is not available yet. The lady told me to call before end of this month to follow up. She also told me that October has been booked up so the next people in line will most likely get a November or December schedule. Oh well, I won't bend on my predictions for a November 8th interview, . I have a crystal ball like the Manila Embassy folks! Oh well, who am i fooling?

Karel

i feel your pain uling.... right now theres too much pressure. i dont have an answer to give and my our lives just seems to be on hold ... sigh... i guess most people feel this way. i just dont know how to deal with depression that isnt mine....

Hey Yna, hang in there. Just believe that you & Ethan will be together this Christmas, if not Thanksgiving.

Take care!

Karel

hi! does anybody know when will the new list of visa interview appointments be released? i have been waitng and waiting for so many years and i hope that this time my case number will be included in this list. thanks and God Bless!

I called the Manila Embassy this morning (Manila time) & was told that they don't have the new schedule posted yet and most likely will have them ready before end of this month. She said that people in line for interview will most likely get a November interview as October has been booked up. Try to call this number, (632) 528-6300 x 5184, the lady (I believe Lorraine) is very very nice & accommodating.

Karina

our will be in two days! my fiance is nervous that he might suffer a complete memory block. i told him...the worse case scenario so far is to get an AR. i hope things will be as smooth as it has been. wish us luck!

Goodluck on your interview!!! Keep us posted ok?

Karel

we really so sad.. ..its been many weeks already(3 weeks and 2 days)..but still not heard from NVC if they already have our papers... ..

Are anybody here had same approval date of mine and still dont have the NVC case #?

patiently waiting and praying,

Trey_n_Roxy

Don't wait, CALL them. All you need to give is your receipt # to the NVC, then if it has been processed, NVC can give you your MNL case #

NVC - 1 (603) 334-0700

Manila Embassy - (632) 528-6300 ext. 5184

I understand, waiting can be depressing. Take care!

Karina