Psalm51

Tahoma that is certainly encouraging information about the renewal of the petition for up to 1 year....are you sure about that? I had read on a law firm website that it was easier to re-petition rather than renew an expired petition. But maybe that was just their self-interest because they wanted the petition filing business....

This could easily stretch out months and months because my fiancé has gotten really busy.... with valid pursuits, which I understand .... but she has not been communicating with me much now because she is so busy (gulp)....

I just read through everyone's responses and really want to thank you for the feedback. I guess I should be a little more understanding of her request ....

I was getting a little frustrated and impatient with the whole thing after working so hard to get the I-797... and now it looks like it's going to slide over the 4 month expiration deadline (I'm not looking forward to going through the whole 129f ordeal again).

But anyway I think I will try really hard to explain to her the life here, and how we can try and overcome the away-from-family/nothing-to-do syndrome which is a real issue. She is from a big city, but is really close to her huge family and church so I can see how she could feel isolated. I was thinking of a lot she could do here but to be honest I haven't discussed any of that with her...my bad..

I did assure her that I would support her family in the Phil by more than what she contributes from her job there that she would have to leave...

I guess I might even have to make the trip there again and buy the whole family dinner. But that's a bit much to do just hoping that it'll give her more assurance....

Now that I have your attention.... maybe some of you experts can advise me.....

We got the I-797 approved and were just starting the process of getting a date for the interview when my fiance suddenly got cold feet.

She said she has some doubts and needed me to assure her that she would be “happy and satisfied with no doubts”. She wants to be “assured that I could take care her”.

I tried to ask for specifics but she just advised me to find a Filpina married to an American and ask them.

I actually have a good relationship with her and she says she wants the engagement to continue.

So ...can this be translated for me...is this just cold feet or am I missing a cultural cue.

conversely as I understand it, (and your fiancé might prefer), you could have the non-legal ceremony (ie church type marriage) in the Philipines first, and then use your K1 visa to come to the US and then have the legal marriage in the US

I am just curious if there is any way to combine the trip to Manilla for the exam with the trip for the interview.

my fiance lives and works in Cebu so taking 10 days to stay in Manilla doesn't seem as rational as going twice, but that's alot of travel for someone not used to traveling....

anyway, just want to make sure I was thinking logically and not overlooking something, given I'm not real familiar with the Phil. logistics etc.....

Thanks,

Tom

Thanks so much, TheSpoons and Pitaya for your tips...what a big help you have been!

I am confused by this letter from Dept of State, that I received 5/5, saying they recvd the approved 129F and are forwarding my docs to the embassy in Manilla. Am I or my fiancé supposed to wait for another letter on what to do going forward? Or do we take actions now before a letter on these isssues? Specifically do we do any of these now?

a). apply for the visa

B) fill out some form like the D-260?

C) make the medical exam appment?

C) make the interview appment?

And lastly who applies for the visa at state dept... the applicant (my fiancé) or me, the petitioner?

Help! Thanks,

Tom

I used FilipinoCupid.com

Hi All

Any more people gotten an RFE because the dating site where they met supposedly was an IMB? (even though it clearly is not an IMB?)

Anyone gotten approval after responding to this kind of RFE?

I got an RFE on 3/19/15 for not giving external evidence that FilipinoCupid.com is not an International Marriage Broker....

Help!----I just got an RFE requesting I prove that FilipinoCupid is NOT an International Marriage Broker.

All I did was mention the site in my response to question 34a on the 129F. (that's the question that asks that you describe how you met). Then I described several ways that it would not qualify as an Internat'l Marriage Broker.

Does anyone know what is acceptable proof to the USCIS that a website is NOT an Internat'l Marriage Broker?

FilipinoCupid clearly states in their Terms and conditions that they are not:

(from their website):

3. The Service

The Service is an internet information service that facilitates contact between members who may or may not be seeking friendship or a relationship. It is not a marriage brokering service, mail order bride service or a matchmaking service. The Company is under no obligation to broker any other member or members for you.

I wonder if printing out 16 pages of their terms and conditions is sufficient?

Does anyone have experience in sufficiency of proof in this regard? I'd rather not reply on just a hunch; it would be helpful to have feedback from someone who actually successfully proved a website was not an Internat'l Marriage Broker to the USCIS.

Thanks much

Tom