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my mom who is a green card holder recently petitioned my brother in the PH  who is 18 yrs old. how long do we wait for it to be approved? we are afraid that he will over aged

Thank you for all your advices. I will have to think it over again.. i love my half siblings since i took care of them since they were babies and only wants the best for them.

If you petition her she will continue to abuse you and then your children.

If you want to pay for your sibling tuition and that doesn't cause you to work 3 jobs then pay the school directly so your mother can't get her hands on it.

If that is still too much on you and you have to put off having kids then you don't do it. It is time for your mother to get a job and also your siblings.

This is time for you to take care of yourself. If you get sick or hurt because you are taking on too much who will care for you? Not your mother that is for sure.

I'm sorry you can't do it all the stress will kill you!

*****fiancee asked me, until when is she going to do these to me? he bet even if my siblings finish there school, she will still ask for more

When i told her that i would like to petition her, she was excited about it. She even said she will find a job here so she could support her kids. But my dilemma is how could someone who never work there entire life be able to find and keep one? My fiancee said he could forsee us fighting over her. He has been supportive of me but he noticed how often i send her money and was upset about it. We only have one day off together since i work alot of hours. Maybe that is why im having fertility problems because of stress. I have told myself many times enough is enough but when she brings up the drama oh your siblings will live in the streets, oh they are sick, they dont have school supplies.. it breaks my heart. I once lived a rough life with my mother and i dont want them to go through it. Thanks to my dad who never gave up on us, sent us to school and brought us here, i wouldnt be in my position right now.

can our dad petition her again?

so i was planning to petition my mom so that in return she can petition my half siblings. i was never closed to her. she physically and emotionally abused us when we were kids. i used to think and feel she never loved us and the only reason she let us lived with her is for my dad's money. he sends us monthly allowance. she manipulated us to tell our father we need this and that and spends the money to her kids (my half siblings) and step father. she never worked. i gave her small businesses multiple times and couldn't keep up and so they were all unsuccessful. she asks money from me every week (every week there is new expenses - sibling got sick, she got sick, she needs meds, etc. she always have reason for me to send money) . i work 2-3 jobs to keep up with my bills, mortgage and her allowance. her husband expected her to contribute to there household's expenses. but how could she do that when she doesn't work? i told her to find a job but she said nobody accepted here because she said she is too old, btw she is only on her early 40's.. she got pregnant at a very early age. every week she asked at least 200$, i send at least 800$ a month. i told her that i also have bills to pay but she wouldn't understand. i helped her with my siblings tuition fee, school supplies, there utilities and monthly rent my fiancee suggested not to petition her since she will be a burden to me and can cause disagreements between the 2 of us (which sometimes happen). we were planning to have a baby since he is getting old. i cannot support her and my siblings and have a family. i cannot work 6 days a week to keep up with all the expenses and trying to have a family. i am starting to think not to petition her, if only i didn't love my siblings and want them to have a better future getting her wouldn't even cross my mind. but if i start sibling petition, i would wait 30 yrs..

she was in love with this girl ( she is lesbian) then they broke up...

my sister was petitioned by our USC father. she was now out of the country for 15 months with no re entry permit. can she come back without repercussions?

can i just put UNKNOWN? since i can't find it online and dad is not helping

We tried doing business as well but it all failed.. she thought im a money mill.. im pretty sure she is not going to work since she never work ger entire life.. she depend on my dad's monthly allowance.

I decided just to petition my siblings.. it will take a while but by the time they get here they're adult and probably will have their own family.. they would be independent unlike mom, she will be financially and emotionally burden to me and my own family

17 months.. i thought it just takes less than 1 yr

He aged out ???

That's what most of my relative suggested too.. at first, i want to petition her so that she will be the one to petition my half siblings which would take at least 10 yrs. If i petition them it would take 25 yrs..

lately, i have been having second thoughts on petitioning my mom. my mom had me when she was just 15 yrs old. we were never closed but i still respect and loved her. ever since i got here in the US, all she does is ask money every 2 wks or worse every 1 week. i also have 2 half siblings with her. i explained to her that life here is not easy. i have mortgage, car payment, utilities, house expenses etc.. but she obliged me to send money to help for my half sibling's school tuition fees.. I love my siblings since i took care of them since they were babies and i never hold grudges against them though my mom's treatment to them is way better than me.. she is also on anti depressants and is hypochondriac. every month or so suffers from any medical condition and goes to ER which of course i end up paying. me and my bf are living together and is planning for our future. i told him about my situation and doesn't agree on it. my mom never worked her entire life. if she lives here in the US i will support her as well as my siblings.. which i will be financially burdened with.. add to the fact that I'm starting to plan for my own family.

shall i just petition my siblings, i know wait time is 25 yrs..

TOTALLY WORTH IT...or you could do like we had to do when we had to leave the country for a year and a half due to a sick relative, and relinquish your residency. Then if you want to come back, you start ALL OVER AGAIN...THAT is expensive! Plus, although its rare, as a permanent resident, you can be deported if you commit certain crimes.

so once you become a USC and did felony, that means you can't get deported?

I'm sorry to hear that.. hopefully all gets well for both of you

I asked my dad already but he isnt helping. Him and mom had disagreements long time ago.

Why do I need the divorce decree with the petition?

i am petitioning my mother and currently filling up the I-130 form. it asked the divorce dates. i looked it up online at county clerks records but couldn't find it. can i just put UNKNOWN to the blank? just quick back ground, my step mom was the one who petitioned me. step mom and dad had been together since i was 12 yrs old and got married before my 18th b-day. i am now 30 yrs old. mom told me that dad sent her divorce papers (philippines) and she sent it back to them (US)

she will be automatic USC after wife if she is less than 18 yrs old

quite expensive... after that you will apply for a passport too.. but its worth it

thank you

if you did not annulled or divorced your previous marriage in the philippines but you haven't been in contact in a while?

thanks

im in the process of petitioning my mother (I'm USC), the form asked about any previous spouses and divorce dates.. i remember when i was in grade school my dad (in the US) sent some divorced papers to my mom. my dad is withholding info about their divorce dates which i needed so i can file for my mom's petition. my mom said she cannot remember it anymore since she sent all the documents back to my dad. do you know what agency i can get this info?

thanks in advance